• 10 Mar
    Mandavi Pandey

    Be an Encyclopaedia to the world-Share your Knowledge




    How great it would be if we could have the answer to all questions, no matter whoever says what, we wish we could tactfully answer them without hesitation.


    We wish we could have the solution to every problem.


    If we can actually achieve this, we can succeed a lot.


    How to increase your knowledge and be a walking Encyclopaedia?


    • Make reading a general habit- Reading more and more books always fetches you, greater knowledge. Read as much as you can. Read 20 pages a day, and in a year you will possibly finish 7300 pages. Bill Gates is an example of such scholar, who loves to read. Reading should be on all topics, all kinds of issues.


    • Be inquisitive like a child- if you are in a group discussion, never hesitate to question if you are in doubt. You may appear dumb for the moment, but the clarification will give you the learning which you will never forget.


    • Think less about yourself, urge to know about others- self-obsessed people cannot come out of their small well, while people who are more interested to know about others, make friends easily. The reason is, they appreciate others’ diverse opinion as much as they do their own. Alternate perspectives can give you better knowledge and facts which can improve your argument in any future conversation.


    • Engage in collaborative learning- share your knowledge with others to get valuable feedbacks, they can help you progress in the right path, rectifying your errors.


    • Keep improving yourself- there is no end to learning, and there is nothing that is perfectly achieved by a human, so keep learning and keep developing yourself.


    • Be open to criticism- learn to take criticisms sportingly. If you are satisfied with yourself, you will never be able to achieve what is better.


    • Learn through games- often board games and video games teach us a unique strategy which can be implied to practical life as well, so keep your senses open to childish activities.


    • Watch every kind of movie, documentary and news channel to keep yourself updated on what is happening around.


    • Last but not the least, keep your confident self, strong- know that you are the best and not anyone else. Expect it from you, and believe that you are, then you will excel.


    Always remember, knowledge and learning are never wasted. More you learn, more you will know. It is not just for certificates or professional applications, knowledge is much required for your self-growth and your day to day activities. If you keep learning, one day your knowledge will enlighten the world around you.

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  • 07 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Strong Woman-I am what I am, and what I want to be

    women's day



    I am what I feel I am.

    My pressures cannot stop me;

    The pressure of being the victim in a devouring world,

    The pressure of being the Second Sex in society,

    The pressure of being called a witch if I use my science to help others,

    The pressure of being called a ‘bad mom’;

    The pressure of being the subject of objectification,

    The pressure of being judgmental,

    The pressure that you don’t know me,

    The pressure that no one wants to know me;

    But nothing can stop me.

    I am not answerable to anyone, but myself.

    I am the giver; I am the creator of the new life.

    I am the leader on the office chair; I am the cooker of fried eggs.

    I am the trainer of my kids; I am the inspiration for my girl.

    I am submissive when I choose; I am violent when I should.

    I can decide; I can do.

    I can earn; I can distribute.

    I can be Teresa; I can be the Kurdish fighters.

    I can wear both surnames or drop them all.

    I can be Madonna; I can be Mary.

    I can be Kom; I can be Kate.

    But I am a fighter, and your pressures cannot stop me.

    I am what I am, and what I want to be.


    Today, women can no longer be associated as ‘abla naari’. They are leading in almost all fields of life, in professional, educational and personal regions of survival. Women are leading, as better students, better entrepreneurs and better parents.

    Gone are the days, when we had to depend on the historical sources to acknowledge our achievements, and what we would notice was only a Gandhi or an Elizabeth. Women’s achievements are enormous and history persistently have betrayed us by relegating us to the footnotes.


    Year 2015 itself has 5-woman record breakers namely:


    • Malala Yousafzai - Youngest Nobel Peace Prize winner(17 years, 2 months and 23 days)
    • Juliana Buhring – fastest circumnavigation by bicycle.
    • Liu Yang - First female taikonaut (35 years old)
    • Johanna Quaas – Oldest gymnast (89 years old)
    • JK Rowling - Highest annual earnings for a children's author. (345,833 books per hour) 

    It is a proven fact that women can do any work better than any other man for the following qualities:


    1. They have great collaboration abilities; hence they can share knowledge as well as assemble knowledge from everyone in the team.


    2. Women look into the initial details of the problem, to gradually proceed towards a great result, unlike men who formulate the result and solution first and then begin attending problem questions downwards, so they face a lot of problems, while adhering to the set pattern of the solution.


    3. Women are composed even in tough situations, as long as work is concerned, hence they remember every single small task that needs to be completed.


    4. Women are more open and honest about what they are doing.


    5. They have an intuition which often hits right and helps greatly in the predictive analysis.


    6. Women are empathetic and can easily connect with people, as they understand other’s emotions much better than men.


    7. Due to these reasons, probably women are the best leaders and entrepreneurs in business and corporate houses.


    However, there are lots of things which only a woman can do:


    • Achieving pregnancy: For generations, women have been elevated just on this ground, that they are mothers. However, it is true, that birth requires equal contributions from a man and a woman, but not to forget, that women are bestowed with the unique privilege of conceiving the child, giving it form and shape, and finally bringing it on earth.


    • Women are capable of multi-tasking. They can cook, talk over the phone and watch TV at the same time. Thus, it is taken for granted, that a woman can be a professional, a mother and a homemaker together. She is loaded with responsibilities in this patriarchal society, but she never complains and does her duties perfectly, whereas men, can attend to one task at a time, hence more often if they are working in office, they are unable to respond to home needs.


    • Women live longer than men. Researchers have proven that women live approximately 5 to 6 years more than men, hence extra time to enjoy the world, and extra time to eat their favorite food, and extra benefits from the Government. Finally, we can conclude, that women are naturally healthier and fitter than men.


    • Women have the privilege of experimenting and enjoying with their looks. They can wear skirts, sarees as well as jackets and pants and carry both the dressing equally well, unlike men. Fashion marks variety for women. We can wear makeup to conceal their blemishes or try almost every colour on our eyes and nails and look beautiful. We can wear heels and get as tall as we want to.


    Woman’s inherent strength lies in her mind. The mind that gave us talents like Indra Nooyi (CEO, Pepsico), Angela Merkel (Chancellor of Germany), Hellen Keller (who was an author, and political activist, but blind and deaf at the same time) and Bula Choudhury (national women’s swimming champion and first woman to cross seven seas, winner of Arjuna Award, 1990).

    The determination, the diligence, the persistence of a woman is unbreakable, and that strength gives clear vision and logic to a woman, with which she can judge and decide things for herself, and make it big from zero.

    Many more names will keep motivating us, and I personally feel proud as a woman, when I read through their achievements, as a celebrity or as a common lady.

    On this Women’s Day, I really hope that the society understands the true abilities of a strong woman and respects her in the true right, and not just because “mere paas maa hai”. More power to women.

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  • 07 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    If Great Is Possible, Good Is Not Enough.

    Good to Great

    Children often twist their nose up, when their parents compare them to their classmate and say, “try getting the highest mark like him,” but children, you don’t realize that their intention is not to make you feel low, but to help attain your best. If you are not at par with another person of your age, it is not because you are less intelligent, but maybe because you are not putting your best efforts.


    Not only parents, this passion for perfection and doing the finest possible, is there in all of us. Many children themselves, are not satisfied with a second rank in anything, they want to be the first.


    What leads us to this belief, that good is not enough, great efforts are required?

    Psychologically, one who is moving towards a particular direction is doing so because he wants to move away from its opposite one. That is, if a person strives for perfection, it means that he has an inherent feeling, that he is not perfect, there are shortcomings in him/her, and that are not acceptable, so he constantly works harder towards achieving the best possible thing he/she can.


    This lack of self-contentment positively motivates a person to always do better.


    If you are easily satisfied with yourself or your work, you tend to become lazy, and laid back, which will no longer keep your future works even upto the mark. When you keep trying, you improve yourself day by day, if you stop trying, your quality gradually deters.


    How to do your best in everything?

    If there were some ways for you to download decades of my experience in the business world and sort through the individuals who have had great success bringing real products to market, you’d find something very interesting. You’d find a lot of competent, talented, smart, ingenious, driven people who work very hard at their jobs. And the one thing they care about most, is helping to deliver ground-breaking products and services that customers prefer over the competition…also, a specific area of functional expertise. …………Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg is a coder; so is Google CEO Larry Page, and was Bill Gates. Steve Jobs was more of a marketing genius. Likewise, Starbucks founder Howard Schultz has a head for marketing. Apple’s current CEO Tim Cook is an operations' guy," says Steve Tobak, Author and Managing Partner, Invisor Consulting.


    • Choose your field of work carefully: Assess yourself carefully to find out your passion, your talent, and your special abilities. Once you know what you love to do, and what you are best at doing, you can always do your best in it. Moreover, your love for the work, will motivate you to do the best.


    • Give yourself a new challenge each day: Set a fresh goal at the beginning of each day, for your work. The goal should be challenging, so that in the process of achieving it, you have to surpass what you have done last day. This will take more effort, but will give you new learning as well.


    • Keep practising your skills: Even if you are not busy professionally with your abilities, do not let them rust. Use your free time in developing your knowledge. Read more about your skills and keep practising for developing them further. Practice makes perfect, a very old saying.


    • Your competitor should be you, and if not, then the world: Always try to put your work to the world-class level. Compete with yourself not with others.


    • Develop integrity and honesty: Working with honesty is important, and to remain honest for lifetime work, is not an easy task. Keep to your principles, never compromise with your abilities, and this will help you grow as a person, and develop an integrity, with which you can achieve your goals. It will give you the hunger for more.


    • Integrity will help you keep promises to yourself and others: Commitment in work is a very important factor. If you set a deadline for delivery, try to abide by it always.


    • Give up your credit when you are craving for it: You will be identified for your work and abilities; you do not need to take credit for other’s work or at wrong places, when you do not deserve it. (but may be wanting it) Focus more on your work to do your best.


    • Get up, if you are fallen: A person cannot keep getting success at a stretch, “you always don’t get what you want in life," says Prakash Padukone, ex-badminton player. Face your failures, rise from the ashes and fight back to show the best of your skills. In other words, don’t let your failures break you, don’t brood over them, instead use them to motivate yourself for doing better.


    • Set your targets right: It is good to strive for the best, for perfection, but refrain yourself, from setting impractical, fictitious goals that you cannot achieve, for e.g. People go to the moon, I will go to the sun. (now this is impossible, because if you reach the sun, you will burn and melt :/) So use your wisdom to evaluate your qualities; accept that no one is perfect, so perfection is a myth. So set your goals properly, so that failure to achieve them, do not disappoint you, because this kind of disappointment can lead to shattering of self-confidence and professional depression.


    Once you are imbibing the above principles in your life, you can put your best efforts into anything, that you do. You can do great and not just good. Believe in yourself, and that you can do it, then sky is the limit.

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    References:1 2 3




  • 07 Mar
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    Psychology behind how do we recognize and remember faces

    How do we remember faces


    Isn’t it amazing that we can remember hundreds of faces from our friends, family and daily acquaintance, name them accurately and even remember other information about them?

    Humans all have the same physical features, then how is it that we can distinguish one from the other?

    Special parts of the brain help to remember faces, and then recall them.

    In the first instance of seeing a face, encoding it and storing the face, it is the fusiform gyrus which activates specifically in response to faces.

    The functionality of the fusiform gyrus allows most people to recognize faces in more detail than they do similarly complex inanimate objects.

    More specifically, the fusiform face area, so named for it’s face recognition features, is responsible.


    The speciality of this area is that it can recognise faces in the upright direction and not up-side down.

    This is explained by the fact that when we were evolving from the stone age to the current times, quick recognition of upright faces is what helped us to negotiate, fight and survive. Upside-down faces were a rarity and so that is an ability we do not have.


    The fusiform face area also tends to get activated when we see features in objects that look face-like.

    For example, when we see a house and the windows look like two eyes! This is known as pareidolia, the condition of seeing faces in random objects.

    In a condition known as prosopagnosia, the person cannot remember faces, and it drastically affects their daily life. Damage to the fusiform face area and the fusiform gyrus brings this about. This condition is known to affect 2.5% of the world population!


    Another important area that helps us to recall faces is the visual short term memory or the VSTM.

    It was believed that the VSTM only helps with object recognition and remains static through life.

    But recent research has found that VSTM helps to remember and recall faces, and what’s more, it gets better as we age, and reaches its peak around 34-35 years of age.

    So, when we look at a face for the first time, the fusiform face area helps us to encode the face in our memory and other information about this person is stored in other areas of the brain.

    Then, when we see the person the next time, their face is momentarily checked in the VSTM and then collected from the fusiform area, where more information is stored.

    It is a very important part of our social life that we remember faces and use that knowledge in our interactions.

    This seemingly automatic and easy part of our daily life that we take for granted, is very difficult for people with prosopagnosia, which affects approximately 2.5% of the world population.

    This is also a condition that affects people with memory disorders and degenerative issues like Alzheimers and other types of dementia.

    Some tips to remember faces better would be to pay attention to special features of the face and try to join it with the name.

    However, for the most part, we do not have to try so hard, because although we may forget names, we hardly ever forget faces.

  • 06 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Save your Marriage Today, Because It Is Important

    Save your Marriage


    Sarita: Huh! It’s so much better, that here at least I can view one serial completely, in a day, otherwise in your house; it was all about news channels, and we would not get a chance.

    Ravikant: Ahmmm….. ya right, you have just got a chance to complain again. You have been there for only 3 months, and in such a short span, you had so many problems hmm! Wow!


    The phrase “just 3 months” and “such a short span," suddenly angered Sarita, she was reminded of all the unpleasant incidents that have been happening post her marriage, until the time she came to US with her husband on a different posting. A small humorous dialogue between the two, unexpectedly changed into a damaging scene where Sarita began hurling all the harsh words.


    Sarita: what do you think, a person who is complaining after 5 years of marriage is a pious lady, and only because I am expressing myself instantly, so I did not adjust? I did not bear with your rustic family? Oh so you think your mother, and father were perfect?

    Ravikant: I never said anything, it’s useless talking to you.

    Sarita: No, there is no reason why you should quit now, should I make you count on all the incidents when your mother smothered the environment with her uncouth tongue, but I kept quiet?


    And this went on, till the time, Sarita sat at a corner, hot tears rolling down her cheeks in rage, and Ravikant was so much in anguish because of Sarita’s reaction, that he was numb and didn’t want to talk.


    This was not the first time, usually their common conversations broke into fights if one of the two hits upon any point that occurred in the initial 3 months of their marriage.

    Ravikant and Sarita belonged to two different cultures, and as it happens these days, love marriages are accepted by families but never endeared.

    Once the bride comes to a new house, she as it is, has some adjustment issues; on top of that Ravi’s mother turned insecure with her son and her own position in the household, consequently disliking Sarita, and taunting her, whenever she could, or trying to manipulate her, as per her choice, none of which were acceptable to Sarita and as a straightforward girl, she preferred sharing everything about her discomforts and dislikes with Ravikant, who in general was understanding and calm, but when these discussions were recurrent, he did not feel so good, because it was criticism about his own family.

    He has grown up within it; with all its odds and ends, he knew where the problem was, but did not want to acknowledge it, and that upset Sarita all the time in discussions.

    That night, the two of them sat in different rooms.

    Sarita had decided; this is it. “Ravi never loved me; he is only the son of his family. He will never be my husband. He is always defending his family. They are a group and I am an outsider. I should not stay here; I should not stay with him. This marriage is on inequality, we should separate.”


    In what circumstances, a couple generally think of divorce and what are the factors we should follow to avoid it?


    Anger or contempt for each other: It is very normal, that when two people are staying together, they will have differences of opinion; they will fight and have disgust and contempt for each other, because each wants to stick to his/her point and not understand the other’s view.


    Nevertheless, don’t let your anger get the better of you. Ask yourself, if the moment of conflict is staying in your mind for a long time, or maybe forever, subversively. If you find, your momentary anger and dissatisfaction with your partner are turning into a long term syndrome, wash your mind. Don’t let the love for your partner die under pressure of your headless annoyance, which might have occurred occasionally.


    Arguments are important: If you are filled with disgust, and dissatisfaction with your partner, and you go off to sleep without retaliating or arguing, get the hint; that end is near. Keeping your frustrations within you is bad for your mental health as well as your marriage. Bring it out, discuss it, shout, but do not just let it go. When you start living like roommates, without a discussion, it is not healthy or sophisticated, it is damaging your relationship internally. You don’t talk, so you don’t know what the other is thinking or feeling, you make up your assumptions and live to believe them.

    Live for your love, not your stubbornness.


    Try to be a listener: Sarita was not wrong, if she complained about her problems with her mother-in-law. After all, it was not her house, she has grown up elsewhere, and if she doesn’t receive proper cooperation or support at the new place, or senses suppressed rivalry in the household, she can always react to it. It is important that Ravikant listens what Sarita wants to say, and try to console her, calm her, be compassionate with her, rather than try to be defensive for his family. When the wife is in anguish, she will want the husband’s support, if you are being protective towards her agitation, it will aggravate her further and will make her think that she is not significant to you. So learn to listen, and later you can put your perspective forward if you have one.


    Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes: This is applicable for both Ravikant and Sarita. Disagreements are natural, but in an argument, try putting yourself in your partner’s place. Sarita should have tried to understand, how Ravikant might be feeling, hearing recurrent complains about his family. Though he knew the problems, it was difficult for him to handle all this, because he was in a new situation too, and how much ever wise and rational, you are, you feel hard to hear about your loved ones. The same he would be feeling, if his mother spoke ill of Sarita. So knowing the other’s perspective can easily dissuade you from an argument and blow off your anger.


    Don’t expect the ideal from your partner: Remember, your partner and you, are not the same persons. You both are different, so your habits and opinions are unique. Don’t expect your partner will always be like you want him/her to be. Respect each other’s views to avoid clashes.


    Be a companion, not a guardian: A wife usually thinks she can change her husband and force him to quit all bad habits in one day, somewhat like a gangster is often converted to a sage in our Hindi movies, because he is in love with our heroine. But real life is not so dramatic. The more you try to stop him, further he will be drawn towards it. Don’t just control because you have to control. Checking sms, scrolling through your partner’s mobile, enquiring each time he/she leaves house, interfering with his/her professional life, these are naïve activities, but can be frustrating for your partner. Moreover, a husband should remember that his wife is a grown-up person, she can take her decisions, or make her movements. So in both cases, try to be a companion not a guardian to your partner.


    Taking joint decisions together can be the remedy of many things: For in such cases, no one is dissatisfied with the other, each one in the relationship gets equal importance, and can take pride for it.


    Drop your ego: Finally, if you find the relation is sufficiently damaged, and strings can break down any moment, stop pretending as a victim, be the one to take the first step in mending, rather than thinking “why should I talk first, why not she." Remember, your relationship is important to you.

    Love will keep you healthy. Your partner is your only place of solace after the long day’s work.

    Don’t give up on your relation easily, even if you feel “she doesn’t care," you care, stop deceiving yourself; you do care, so go forward and save your marriage.

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    References: 1 2 


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