• 12 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Secrets Of Striking A Work-Life Balance.

    housewife managing home and office


    I wake up every morning at 7 AM, make my husband a cup of tea and sit at my office work. I am a professional mostly working in ‘work from home’ structure, well our technological innovations have made things much feasible these days.

    I finish two sets of works in the first half of my timetable, which lasts until 10.00 AM. Then we have our breakfast. After about 25 minutes I resume working on my later projects, attending to the urgent issues first and the casual ones afterward.

    When I speak to some of my friends, they tell me that they are having a hard time dealing with home life and work life, especially those who have children. Most of them go to the office and either complain to some folks or cry to them that their children have called them ‘bad mom’.

    Well, I do not disagree that support from your home, family and society is an imperative factor for maintaining a good work-life balance, but if that is not there we have to deal with the difficulties ourselves.


    • I knew it from the first day that I have to be guilt free- there is no point being guilty if I cannot make a clear choice between family and profession. When I have to work, have to earn, what is the use of feeling myself responsible for any problem that comes to the family (of course that is not true), so no point punishing myself. Stop blaming yourself if your kids are not studying, or your electricity bill is not getting paid on right time.


    • Make a timetable, a routine for yourself, if you have a lot of responsibilities. I believe a day has 24 hours, out of which 16 hours are there for you to finish all small and big activities. Setting a proper routine will help you maintain a selective time for each work and activity, and you will hopefully finish everything without getting burdened. When you are not working with a correct format in mind, you tend to mix up things, and often linger on less important tasks.


    • Set your priorities right. Select the more important task first, and be ruthless about it. Clearly attend to your professional work and finish presentation documents if you have to submit a project the next morning, rather than playing with your kid, which can wait, or even someone else in the household can play for the evening. Do not be overridden with guilt because you are a working mom, and adhere to gaming with kids because they are demanding so, when you have some very important work.


    • Decide what you want to have. If you are satisfied with your job, and your home, you do not need to crave for more work, only for money. Take up just that much work which you can handle with passion, and that will help you maintain a healthy social and personal life, because latter is also important for good mental health.


    • Doing a lot and not loving any is foolish. Do as much as you want to do, both for your family, and profession.


    • Keep self-time. There has to be a time, when you attend only to your hobbies and entertainment or rest, do not compromise it with anything, or you will generally be stressed out.


    Follow your ideologies with an upright spirit and you will never fall short on your responsibilities. You will enjoy working as well as homing.

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    Responses 3

    • Oyindrila Basu
      Oyindrila Basu   Sep 04, 2016 09:27 PM

      Thanks a lot for your valuable opinion Anita.........I do agree that work is a significant part of life, and we love to work, if there is no work, we will be dull and bored. but the suggestion here is do as much as you want to do, and love to do. sometimes we want to work more and more, in order to get payed more...or may be adhere to something which we are not happy doing, just in order to be satisfied with the income. But when there is no job satisfaction, you cannot live happily. Secondly, when we say 'work-life' balance, by the term life, we mean 'personal life' or interpersonal relationships... Thanks again that you have given your precious time on the article.

    • Oyindrila Basu
      Oyindrila Basu   Sep 04, 2016 09:27 PM

      Multitasking has been a woman's job always.... one who is at home perhaps have heavier work to do, than an office goer. women have the capability of working with 10 imaginary hands, when she has only two in actual. now that is the significance of this post, where we are suggesting, that women should focus on whichever field of task they like. If she is satisfied being a 'home manager', she can choose to be so, if she feels that her education and her abilities as a professional needs a proper platform, in that case she has full rights to explore the avenues of corporate success and the like, but at the same time she is also expected to fulfill her responsibilities towards her family and home, and there arises the question of 'balance'. here the society needs to change its mentality, which expects more than enough from a woman. its the society which burdens a woman with the guilt that if you are a professional, you are possibly not doing what you are supposed to for your house, as long as this thought process does not change, the discussion on 'balancing' will continue. mentality can't be changed in a day, so the article tries atleast to relieve the powerful women for the time-being so that they can find a way out for their contemporary problem, be it home makers or professionals. women, do not feel guilty for working or not working, just enjoy life the way you want to...

  • 10 Mar
    Mandavi Pandey

    Be an Encyclopaedia to the world-Share your Knowledge




    How great it would be if we could have the answer to all questions, no matter whoever says what, we wish we could tactfully answer them without hesitation.


    We wish we could have the solution to every problem.


    If we can actually achieve this, we can succeed a lot.


    How to increase your knowledge and be a walking Encyclopaedia?


    • Make reading a general habit- Reading more and more books always fetches you, greater knowledge. Read as much as you can. Read 20 pages a day, and in a year you will possibly finish 7300 pages. Bill Gates is an example of such scholar, who loves to read. Reading should be on all topics, all kinds of issues.


    • Be inquisitive like a child- if you are in a group discussion, never hesitate to question if you are in doubt. You may appear dumb for the moment, but the clarification will give you the learning which you will never forget.


    • Think less about yourself, urge to know about others- self-obsessed people cannot come out of their small well, while people who are more interested to know about others, make friends easily. The reason is, they appreciate others’ diverse opinion as much as they do their own. Alternate perspectives can give you better knowledge and facts which can improve your argument in any future conversation.


    • Engage in collaborative learning- share your knowledge with others to get valuable feedbacks, they can help you progress in the right path, rectifying your errors.


    • Keep improving yourself- there is no end to learning, and there is nothing that is perfectly achieved by a human, so keep learning and keep developing yourself.


    • Be open to criticism- learn to take criticisms sportingly. If you are satisfied with yourself, you will never be able to achieve what is better.


    • Learn through games- often board games and video games teach us a unique strategy which can be implied to practical life as well, so keep your senses open to childish activities.


    • Watch every kind of movie, documentary and news channel to keep yourself updated on what is happening around.


    • Last but not the least, keep your confident self, strong- know that you are the best and not anyone else. Expect it from you, and believe that you are, then you will excel.


    Always remember, knowledge and learning are never wasted. More you learn, more you will know. It is not just for certificates or professional applications, knowledge is much required for your self-growth and your day to day activities. If you keep learning, one day your knowledge will enlighten the world around you.

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  • 07 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Strong Woman-I am what I am, and what I want to be

    women's day



    I am what I feel I am.

    My pressures cannot stop me;

    The pressure of being the victim in a devouring world,

    The pressure of being the Second Sex in society,

    The pressure of being called a witch if I use my science to help others,

    The pressure of being called a ‘bad mom’;

    The pressure of being the subject of objectification,

    The pressure of being judgmental,

    The pressure that you don’t know me,

    The pressure that no one wants to know me;

    But nothing can stop me.

    I am not answerable to anyone, but myself.

    I am the giver; I am the creator of the new life.

    I am the leader on the office chair; I am the cooker of fried eggs.

    I am the trainer of my kids; I am the inspiration for my girl.

    I am submissive when I choose; I am violent when I should.

    I can decide; I can do.

    I can earn; I can distribute.

    I can be Teresa; I can be the Kurdish fighters.

    I can wear both surnames or drop them all.

    I can be Madonna; I can be Mary.

    I can be Kom; I can be Kate.

    But I am a fighter, and your pressures cannot stop me.

    I am what I am, and what I want to be.


    Today, women can no longer be associated as ‘abla naari’. They are leading in almost all fields of life, in professional, educational and personal regions of survival. Women are leading, as better students, better entrepreneurs and better parents.

    Gone are the days, when we had to depend on the historical sources to acknowledge our achievements, and what we would notice was only a Gandhi or an Elizabeth. Women’s achievements are enormous and history persistently have betrayed us by relegating us to the footnotes.


    Year 2015 itself has 5-woman record breakers namely:


    • Malala Yousafzai - Youngest Nobel Peace Prize winner(17 years, 2 months and 23 days)
    • Juliana Buhring – fastest circumnavigation by bicycle.
    • Liu Yang - First female taikonaut (35 years old)
    • Johanna Quaas – Oldest gymnast (89 years old)
    • JK Rowling - Highest annual earnings for a children's author. (345,833 books per hour) 

    It is a proven fact that women can do any work better than any other man for the following qualities:


    1. They have great collaboration abilities; hence they can share knowledge as well as assemble knowledge from everyone in the team.


    2. Women look into the initial details of the problem, to gradually proceed towards a great result, unlike men who formulate the result and solution first and then begin attending problem questions downwards, so they face a lot of problems, while adhering to the set pattern of the solution.


    3. Women are composed even in tough situations, as long as work is concerned, hence they remember every single small task that needs to be completed.


    4. Women are more open and honest about what they are doing.


    5. They have an intuition which often hits right and helps greatly in the predictive analysis.


    6. Women are empathetic and can easily connect with people, as they understand other’s emotions much better than men.


    7. Due to these reasons, probably women are the best leaders and entrepreneurs in business and corporate houses.


    However, there are lots of things which only a woman can do:


    • Achieving pregnancy: For generations, women have been elevated just on this ground, that they are mothers. However, it is true, that birth requires equal contributions from a man and a woman, but not to forget, that women are bestowed with the unique privilege of conceiving the child, giving it form and shape, and finally bringing it on earth.


    • Women are capable of multi-tasking. They can cook, talk over the phone and watch TV at the same time. Thus, it is taken for granted, that a woman can be a professional, a mother and a homemaker together. She is loaded with responsibilities in this patriarchal society, but she never complains and does her duties perfectly, whereas men, can attend to one task at a time, hence more often if they are working in office, they are unable to respond to home needs.


    • Women live longer than men. Researchers have proven that women live approximately 5 to 6 years more than men, hence extra time to enjoy the world, and extra time to eat their favorite food, and extra benefits from the Government. Finally, we can conclude, that women are naturally healthier and fitter than men.


    • Women have the privilege of experimenting and enjoying with their looks. They can wear skirts, sarees as well as jackets and pants and carry both the dressing equally well, unlike men. Fashion marks variety for women. We can wear makeup to conceal their blemishes or try almost every colour on our eyes and nails and look beautiful. We can wear heels and get as tall as we want to.


    Woman’s inherent strength lies in her mind. The mind that gave us talents like Indra Nooyi (CEO, Pepsico), Angela Merkel (Chancellor of Germany), Hellen Keller (who was an author, and political activist, but blind and deaf at the same time) and Bula Choudhury (national women’s swimming champion and first woman to cross seven seas, winner of Arjuna Award, 1990).

    The determination, the diligence, the persistence of a woman is unbreakable, and that strength gives clear vision and logic to a woman, with which she can judge and decide things for herself, and make it big from zero.

    Many more names will keep motivating us, and I personally feel proud as a woman, when I read through their achievements, as a celebrity or as a common lady.

    On this Women’s Day, I really hope that the society understands the true abilities of a strong woman and respects her in the true right, and not just because “mere paas maa hai”. More power to women.

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  • 07 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    If Great Is Possible, Good Is Not Enough.

    Good to Great

    Children often twist their nose up, when their parents compare them to their classmate and say, “try getting the highest mark like him,” but children, you don’t realize that their intention is not to make you feel low, but to help attain your best. If you are not at par with another person of your age, it is not because you are less intelligent, but maybe because you are not putting your best efforts.


    Not only parents, this passion for perfection and doing the finest possible, is there in all of us. Many children themselves, are not satisfied with a second rank in anything, they want to be the first.


    What leads us to this belief, that good is not enough, great efforts are required?

    Psychologically, one who is moving towards a particular direction is doing so because he wants to move away from its opposite one. That is, if a person strives for perfection, it means that he has an inherent feeling, that he is not perfect, there are shortcomings in him/her, and that are not acceptable, so he constantly works harder towards achieving the best possible thing he/she can.


    This lack of self-contentment positively motivates a person to always do better.


    If you are easily satisfied with yourself or your work, you tend to become lazy, and laid back, which will no longer keep your future works even upto the mark. When you keep trying, you improve yourself day by day, if you stop trying, your quality gradually deters.


    How to do your best in everything?

    If there were some ways for you to download decades of my experience in the business world and sort through the individuals who have had great success bringing real products to market, you’d find something very interesting. You’d find a lot of competent, talented, smart, ingenious, driven people who work very hard at their jobs. And the one thing they care about most, is helping to deliver ground-breaking products and services that customers prefer over the competition…also, a specific area of functional expertise. …………Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg is a coder; so is Google CEO Larry Page, and was Bill Gates. Steve Jobs was more of a marketing genius. Likewise, Starbucks founder Howard Schultz has a head for marketing. Apple’s current CEO Tim Cook is an operations' guy," says Steve Tobak, Author and Managing Partner, Invisor Consulting.


    • Choose your field of work carefully: Assess yourself carefully to find out your passion, your talent, and your special abilities. Once you know what you love to do, and what you are best at doing, you can always do your best in it. Moreover, your love for the work, will motivate you to do the best.


    • Give yourself a new challenge each day: Set a fresh goal at the beginning of each day, for your work. The goal should be challenging, so that in the process of achieving it, you have to surpass what you have done last day. This will take more effort, but will give you new learning as well.


    • Keep practising your skills: Even if you are not busy professionally with your abilities, do not let them rust. Use your free time in developing your knowledge. Read more about your skills and keep practising for developing them further. Practice makes perfect, a very old saying.


    • Your competitor should be you, and if not, then the world: Always try to put your work to the world-class level. Compete with yourself not with others.


    • Develop integrity and honesty: Working with honesty is important, and to remain honest for lifetime work, is not an easy task. Keep to your principles, never compromise with your abilities, and this will help you grow as a person, and develop an integrity, with which you can achieve your goals. It will give you the hunger for more.


    • Integrity will help you keep promises to yourself and others: Commitment in work is a very important factor. If you set a deadline for delivery, try to abide by it always.


    • Give up your credit when you are craving for it: You will be identified for your work and abilities; you do not need to take credit for other’s work or at wrong places, when you do not deserve it. (but may be wanting it) Focus more on your work to do your best.


    • Get up, if you are fallen: A person cannot keep getting success at a stretch, “you always don’t get what you want in life," says Prakash Padukone, ex-badminton player. Face your failures, rise from the ashes and fight back to show the best of your skills. In other words, don’t let your failures break you, don’t brood over them, instead use them to motivate yourself for doing better.


    • Set your targets right: It is good to strive for the best, for perfection, but refrain yourself, from setting impractical, fictitious goals that you cannot achieve, for e.g. People go to the moon, I will go to the sun. (now this is impossible, because if you reach the sun, you will burn and melt :/) So use your wisdom to evaluate your qualities; accept that no one is perfect, so perfection is a myth. So set your goals properly, so that failure to achieve them, do not disappoint you, because this kind of disappointment can lead to shattering of self-confidence and professional depression.


    Once you are imbibing the above principles in your life, you can put your best efforts into anything, that you do. You can do great and not just good. Believe in yourself, and that you can do it, then sky is the limit.

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  • 07 Mar
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    Psychology behind how do we recognize and remember faces

    How do we remember faces


    Isn’t it amazing that we can remember hundreds of faces from our friends, family and daily acquaintance, name them accurately and even remember other information about them?

    Humans all have the same physical features, then how is it that we can distinguish one from the other?

    Special parts of the brain help to remember faces, and then recall them.

    In the first instance of seeing a face, encoding it and storing the face, it is the fusiform gyrus which activates specifically in response to faces.

    The functionality of the fusiform gyrus allows most people to recognize faces in more detail than they do similarly complex inanimate objects.

    More specifically, the fusiform face area, so named for it’s face recognition features, is responsible.


    The speciality of this area is that it can recognise faces in the upright direction and not up-side down.

    This is explained by the fact that when we were evolving from the stone age to the current times, quick recognition of upright faces is what helped us to negotiate, fight and survive. Upside-down faces were a rarity and so that is an ability we do not have.


    The fusiform face area also tends to get activated when we see features in objects that look face-like.

    For example, when we see a house and the windows look like two eyes! This is known as pareidolia, the condition of seeing faces in random objects.

    In a condition known as prosopagnosia, the person cannot remember faces, and it drastically affects their daily life. Damage to the fusiform face area and the fusiform gyrus brings this about. This condition is known to affect 2.5% of the world population!


    Another important area that helps us to recall faces is the visual short term memory or the VSTM.

    It was believed that the VSTM only helps with object recognition and remains static through life.

    But recent research has found that VSTM helps to remember and recall faces, and what’s more, it gets better as we age, and reaches its peak around 34-35 years of age.

    So, when we look at a face for the first time, the fusiform face area helps us to encode the face in our memory and other information about this person is stored in other areas of the brain.

    Then, when we see the person the next time, their face is momentarily checked in the VSTM and then collected from the fusiform area, where more information is stored.

    It is a very important part of our social life that we remember faces and use that knowledge in our interactions.

    This seemingly automatic and easy part of our daily life that we take for granted, is very difficult for people with prosopagnosia, which affects approximately 2.5% of the world population.

    This is also a condition that affects people with memory disorders and degenerative issues like Alzheimers and other types of dementia.

    Some tips to remember faces better would be to pay attention to special features of the face and try to join it with the name.

    However, for the most part, we do not have to try so hard, because although we may forget names, we hardly ever forget faces.