Total 228 Blog Posts

  • 15 Aug
    Oyindrila Basu

    They are lucky only because of their hard work and never-say-die spirit

    sakshi malik and pv sindhu

    Sakshi on 17th Aug became the first woman wrestler from India to win an Olympic medal.

    It's a result of 12 years of hard work, says Sakshi Malik .

    Pusarla Venkata Sindhu on 18th Aug became the first Indian woman to enter a Olympic Badminton final, after defeating 6th-ranked Nozomi Okuhara 2-0 (21-19, 21-10). Thus, assuring India of another medal.

    I was just thinking about the game. If you play really well you will automatically win the game, and a medal. I'm just focused on my match and the next match, the semis (against Okuhara). I hope I can give my best, says Sindhu .

    We often wonder why destiny is in favour of some people always, while for others, nothing can just go right. We call the formers, lucky… Really? Is there seriously something called readymade Luck!

    Well, don’t know, but if it was to be so, it should have been equally distributed to everybody; which means all of us would be having perfect timings at some point of time or the other, but it doesn’t happen, and we still continue to blame the Fate for being partial.

    A ten-year long scientific study, on the nature of luck concluded, that most often people are responsible themselves, for their good or bad fortunes. The results also show that is possible for increasing the chances of positive responses in your life.

    Those people who religiously believe in the matter of luck and destiny, are so much obsessed in changing the luck in their favour, that they often do not concentrate on their actions and the positive work opportunities around them, when ideally luck will come when you do the right thing at the right time yourself, and not wait for the Goddess to shower wealth on you.

    Let me narrate a story here-


    Raman was a big businessman; the year 2012 brought about a downfall in his company shares and profits went on declining slowly.

    he believed that his Luck has always been in favour and hence he could prosper so far, but now that it was turning down he wished to visit an astrologer and foreteller.

    This man seemed to be learned, wise and having far-sight into the future. But some shocking revelations were made by him, which astounded Raman. He never knew, he would be exposed to such deeper truths.

    The man with the crimson wrapper told him that he would die within the next 4 days in his city. Raman was in cold sweat, he didn’t want to die; death was far; he never suffered from any serious disease then why should he die so young! He started worrying, panicked and anxious he would wake up in the middle of the night, thinking of different ways to escape death.

    He would call for his personal advisors to ask for a remedy, however, nobody could provide a solution which would save him. One night he suddenly pondered, what if he escapes from his city!

    The prophesy said he would die in his city, what if he just leaves his house and city and goes to some other place!

    He quickly took a backpack with a few things, rode his car and asked the driver to rush.. “Hurry! Hurry! He shouted”, it was night time, and the highways were dusky due to mist rain that afternoon, but driver tried really hard to vision himself through the difficulties, and that too fast.

    Raman was not at peace, he kept shivering and every alternate second, he would ask his driver to speed up, the car raced at 80-90-140 km/hr, now the driver was sweating too, but he couldn’t slow down- “faster”, went the shout…..and suddenly everything calmed down with a shriek of the car.

    It had been hit by a truck at the turn of the road, and there was not a single nose from Raman anymore..


    Now whom can we blame for this instant bad luck befalling on Raman? The bad luck? Or Raman’s blind belief in the concept of Fate, which made him so nervous and mentally unstable, that he tried to escape the safe premises of his own house in the middle of the night?

    The scientific research has studied the importance of superstition in our live; hence the amulets, chains, lucky charms and talismans continue to glorify our homes and bodies; we all are looking for luck, and in the process we just start behaving insane; we turn away from our duties and responsibilities and do everything illogical to gain good luck.

    Whereas, just a wish of “goodluck” from someone, actually imbibes the positivity required for a good action which will bring good results; the term affects the brain making us more sensitive and responsible towards the work we are going to do.

    Lord Chumley Frampton, Dean of Statistical Analysis at Basingstoke University stunned the world with his findings, that if people are in poor mental health, they tend to get unlucky, hence it is important to ensure good mental health first.

    Besides, those of us, like Raman, are too much bothered about their Fate and bad luck, often get stressed out easily which lead them to nervous breakdown, or anxiety attack or panic attack.

    When we are mentally troubled, we cannot do any work properly, so how will we have anything positive?

    Luck is something we can bring to ourselves, by being positive in every situation, and we need to be in the best mental health for that.

    • Counselling therapies can guide us through the process,
    • self-affirmation and confidence is also important.
    • We need to set our goals right, so that we can succeed. Practical goals will direct you towards positive action plans.
    • Believe in yourself to be the best.
  • 19 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    7 tips to stop overthinking

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    “Preeti, I really like this floral dress, but do you think it is too loud in color? Oh will it suit me? I hope Priyanka and group will not criticize me on this dress! Will they? Will I look beautiful or nerd in this?........... Oh! It’s so confusing”_ a common girl in a shopping mall of Mumbai.

    Most of us are often confused regarding various things- about what we wear, what we eat, how we eat, and how we look. We are extra-cautious when we go out into a public place. It’s a common thing, that we want the opinion of some of our friends when we buy some clothes or accessories.

    why is it so?

    I am spending my money, so the items I buy, should be of my choice, not of others! However, we end up enquiring on every small detail before we take a step. This is because most of us bother too much about what people will think of us. The reason is that we resent the shame or embarrassment that we may have to go through if we do not conform to the expectations of the society.

    Most of the times, this embarrassment can come, if we do something, which is apart from normal or what should be. For e.g. If we trip over a banana skin and fall, people will laugh at us, and we don’t like it that they are considering us stupid. However, people laugh because the incidence is a deviation from normal, I was supposed to walk straight, but I fell down.

    Another reason why we bother about others’ opinion is because as a social being, we want to be appreciated by everyone and be in their good books. However, too much worry or anticipation on what others think of you, can cause panic attacks in you, and affect your mental health and well-being adversely. You gradually tend to be skeptical and avoid public gatherings, or become hyper tensed about situations.

     

    How can you dissuade yourself from these kinds of thoughts?

     

    1. Do what you love to do.

    Engage yourself in something which you love to most, e.g. reading, encyclopaedia hunting, or something unique like telescope search for space elements, something which you are passionate about, and something which others can’t think of. When you deviate from normal with excellence and achieve best results, others will automatically look at you with awe and respect, and your sense of achievement will make you bother much less about others.

     

    2. Try to be kind and generous

    This is a quality which everybody appreciates. We cannot stop bothering whether people are bitching about us behind our back or critiquing our follies, then what is the best way? Be the best of yourself. Develop kindness and generosity for others, and they will be automatically attracted towards you.

     

    3. You are not faulty always

    Even if your kind behavior is not helping, and you are the constant subject of criticism, understand that whoever is doing so is weaker than you. He or she who is criticizing you is aware of self-follies and to cover it all. They are blaming it on you. This thought will give you a comfort zone, that the storming man is more helpless, and it is not that you are faulty always.

     

    4. Shame is not always harmful.

    If you realize that what people are talking about you is true, and you do have some shortcomings, you can use your social humiliation to motivate yourself for higher achievable goals, rather than panicking.

    Basically, a bit of criticism and embarrassment from others can help you develop self-awareness, and you can pay attention on the particular points in your personality, which need to be mended.

     

    5. Don’t bother too much about others

    Too much of botheration about society will make you a deceptive person, over a period of time, you will tend to be a human with dishonest disposition. Gradually, your opinions and your right and wrongs will be influenced by the speculations of what others think of them. As a result, you will tend to develop a more feasible and socially compliant mode of behavior, which may not be your real self. However, if this becomes a practice, that will strongly affect your mental health, and the moment you deviate from a percent from the set protocol, you will be in anxiety of getting disliked.

     

    6. Be original

    Always remember, no one appreciates a fake personality. Love yourself, be what you actually are. Honesty counts a lot. Be open about your ideas and opinions. General public may not appreciate it initially, but they will definitely acknowledge your straightforwardness.

    Ultimately, the truth is, what you are as a person will determine what you achieve in life. Nobody else will come to your aid.

     

    7. Do what you like

    Negative criticisms and speculations are just a part of this long process, better not to consider them much. You can do what you like, what you feel is right, others do not feed you or clothe you, so care less about their negative opinions, to be in a free, healthy mind.  

  • 19 Mar
    lucy santi

    Try to off the triggers of headache with these simple techniques

    headache

    Headache is kind of pain in the upper part of the face.

    This means it hurts the head directly.

    The headache affects the head, neck, and scalp. Depending on the reason of the headache the symptoms can affect the person.

    Zero down on the exact reason for the pain. This certainly will help you to get the exact reason for it.

    Here in the health care provider will diagnose the type of headache with various reasons and related parameters.

     

    Let us take a look on the triggers which give our headaches to the person.

    The trigger should be stopped then and there to avoid a chance of headache.

     

    #Sleep deviation

    The top reason for a headache is sleep deviation. Headache is the sign which tells you that you cut down the sleep hours to half.

    This in turn will pile on the stress which will leave the brain confused and hence there is no sign of sleep in the night.

    Sleep anxiety is the condition wherein the person is unable to take a rest during the night. Sleep on the weekdays is regular.

    However, many times on weekends the sleep hours are tailored according to the availability of time.

    You are relaxed as there is no rush to start up the day, hence the sleep hours are altered, however, this gives an untoward effect on the brain and body.

    In case of alteration of the sleep on the weekends, the level of the stress hormones will drop hence causing rapid releases of neuron transmitters.

    This in turn will send impulses to blood vessels constricting and then dilating causing a headache.

    You can avoid this trigger by following the sleep schedule religiously.

     

    #Anger:

    Anger can be triggered which can cause headache in the person.

    When anger is incorporated in the person, the scalp and neck get tensed and creating a band like sensation.

    This in turn will cause headache. This is a sign of tension headache.

    You can fix this by avoiding the trigger of anger.

    Breathe deeply and slowly and following technique of meditation, which will help you to control the mind.

    Breathe from the nose and exhale from the mouth so that the angry emotions can get out of you at the moment.

     

    #Bright lights

    Bright lights can also be the cause of headache.

    The shining light and sharp sun rays will be flickering causing a headache in the individual.

    This actually induces the migraines in the person.

    Actually, the bright light flickering will induce the chemical generation in the brain, which in turn ignites the migraine centers.

    Fix this issue you can take help if the sunglasses. The sunglasses will reduce the intensity of light.

    Herein to be sure on reducing the intensity of light opts for polarized lens. This is the best option to avoid a cause of the headache.

    Apart from this take measure to tone down the flickering lights of your computer`s screen.

    For this attach glare screen, which will help you to adjust the bright light.

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  • 16 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    The Power to Defeat Anxiety Lies In The Pose

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     “I am happy now; I am a worker; I love my job; I am getting paid well; I do not fall short on anything. Nowadays, I am not even stressed with the ugly situations going on in my in-laws’ house, because I am with Prateek in Bangalore, and we plan to stay here at present. However, what, if I again have to go back! What if the quarrels start over and this time even worse! Oh! My God, I can see sasuma taunting me because I am working on my kheer in my own style. I can see; she is bringing in my education and upbringing in the argument, and I am shouting, badly shouting. Oh no! not again. I do not want to go back, but what if the project in Bangalore ends! Oh! I can’t think anymore; I am stressed out,” Rashmi pondered- Story of a common housewife, Anonymous.

    The question ‘what if’ is the cause of all evil in the mind.

    The predictive analysis about future consequences leads to anxiety, which burdens our mind.

    Even if we are good now, what if this good doesn’t last long! This is anxiety, where we keep asking some vague questions to ourselves about a problematic situation, and when there is no answer, our mind starts visualizing some horrific life images, which may be related to some past experiences.

    We start panicking, sweating and worrying, which affects our mental health. Anxiety brings with it a negative vibration which is not good for physical health as well. It can raise our blood pressure and cause hypertension for some people.

    Sometimes, serious problems cause anxiety. If we are scared and fear to face our fears, any complex situation can make us worried, leading to stress. Worry about new job, new married life, unstable work-life, children’s education, relocation can make you anxious.

    If we can remove anxiety, we can stay a lot healthier.

    Stop predicting your future. What will have to happen, will happen. You can try for a better future with your hard work and honest efforts, but ‘what if something goes wrong’; you cannot solve a messy situation beforehand, if it has to happen. Rather, if you keep pondering about what can happen bad, you will ruin your present state of comfort as well.

    Well, the above suggestion is not so easy to follow. Fear of the terrible, haunts each one of us. Even though we are wise, and we know, future will bring its own elements along, we cannot stop worrying, because we feel, maybe by worrying, we can finally hit on a solution.

    To feel healthier, the nervousness should be removed.

    Power Pose helps a person regain his confidence.

    If you stand straight with your head high, and both arms folded on your waist, for 2 minutes, this posture can infuse in you, positive vibes with which you feel powerful, and on top of the world. Actions tend to affect our emotions gravely. What we do, matters the way we feel.

    Hence if we stand like a boss in our ‘Power Pose’, we feel like one, this helps brush-off the nervousness which makes us anxious.

    Social psychologist Ammy Cuddy discusses in her TED video how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect 20% increase in testosterone and 25% decrease in cortisol levels in the brain, and might have a significant impact on our chances for success.

    She has conducted her experiments in The Harvard School of Business and concluded The so-called “power pose” is characterized by “open, expansive postures”—Slate’s Katy Waldman described it as akin to “a cobra rearing and spreading its hood to the sun, or Wonder Woman with her legs apart and her hands on her hips.”

     

    In a paper published in 2010, Ammy and her collaborators, Dana Carney and Andy Yap confirmed that posing in a ‘high-power nonverbal display’ can change our lives and hormones resulting neuro-endocrinal and behavioural changes in both male and females- in short, high posing individuals have their head tall and hence there is an increase of testosterone levels in their brain, in contrast to low-postured stooping individuals who automatically feel powerless and nervous because of their actions.

    Apart from this, high postured yoga and meditation can also help fight your anxiety.

    Anxiety makes every situation an emergency, so to get instantaneous relief you can practice this posing, or you may go for a 5-minutes nap, which can dissuade the thoughts and relax your mind.

    Just practice it, and you will regain your confidence. You will proudly move with a high head; anxiety will evacuate your brain, and well-being will come in.

     

     

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    Responses 1

    • Oyindrila Basu
      Oyindrila Basu   Sep 04, 2016 09:26 PM

      Thanks for your valuable comment on the article Aweke Shishigu. It is really important what you said, and in future we can definitely find out a significant strategy for reducing math anxiety too :) But existence of anxiety is important is a disagreeable idea for me, as I believe that stress and anxiety are derogatory for your mental soundness. the more relaxed you are, the better you can perform. what I mean is, the need to succeed should be there, but the confused hasty will only make a person take incorrect decisions. In simple words, the more we panic, the more we hurry in our mind, the more our practical actions are delayed.

  • 14 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    A‘Live’ Is Awesome-Why Live Concerts Are So Much Fun?


    Live concerts

    Why not relax on your couch with a bowl of popcorn and watch the same concert on television, whether live on air, or recorded version?

    If you are a music lover, or appreciate art, that should be more enjoyable for you, to sit at home, and replay your favourite portions, repeatedly until your soul is satisfied.

    Then what fun is there in standing in long queues for getting the tickets for a live show, or even sweating in the crowd on the day of the event?

     

    There are several psychological reasons as to why we love being at live shows.

     

    • Money stands for happiness: often we have seen shopaholics who love to shop when they are depressed or bored. In fact, my neighbour next door is one of the kinds, who goes out with her purse, anytime, anywhere, once she is worried, or upset with something. Spending some good amount of money on some purchases can cheer you up, because shopping makes you feel that you have the power to choose your stuff, and spend on it without much thinking, less thinking means less stress. And the more money you spend, better is the object of purchase (at least you love to believe so).

     

    Similarly, when you are spending money for an experience, you feel you are buying art and culture for yourself. You are choosing yourself, what you want to watch, and pay it off without thinking, so definitely you believe the live concert is a grand event. You cannot get the same pleasure at home, because you do not pay for it, especially. So, if there is no money involved, the experience cannot be that good.

     

    After a psychological research by Van Boven & Gilovich, results were- 57% said experiences made them happier while 34% said things gave them pleasure. However, ultimately, it was something they got in exchange of money.

     

    • Once you are spending on some experience, or in other words, you are ‘choosing’ to spend on an experience, a cultural event of art, rather than any material, you feel proud of yourself that you are finally of the intellectual class in society.

     

    • Live concerts give a person his own time, 2 to 3 hrs time, where he stays at one place, doesn’t talk much but listen, which is a rare scene in today’s busy life. Every day is a hectic movement for each one of us, and so we want a moment of recluse when we can be with ourselves, and enjoy the entertainment without interruption for some time.

     

    • Live concerts are more enjoyable because there is a common crowd. Mob tendency, remember! Man is a social being, so he enjoys more with others than alone. So if one person is overexcited and shouts out in joy to cheer the performer, the positive emotion and excitement are soon transferred to another person from him, and yet another, and finally we find the whole auditorium cheering. Emotions are contagious! Here the fun is not because the program is superb, but because people of common interest are watching it together and sharing their uplifted spirit and laughter contagiously. Because, #AliveIsAwesome. 

     

    • Live shows are more popular, because they allow fans to get a glimpse of their favourite stars in real. Sometimes, if they want they can just feel them for a moment, and that gives a sense of achievement to many people.

      

    So go ahead, spend some money to buy a quality time for yourself, rejoice in a likeable company, and keep enjoying live shows.

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