Total 228 Blog Posts

  • 22 Aug
    Trisha Ray

    Backup plans affect your chances of Success:

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    Success is the key mantra of today’s living society. The first step that we take while thinking about achieving success is planning. Planning, deliberating, analysis and action are ascertained to be the four common steps we go through while searching for success.

    Planning for success can be stressful and energizing at the same time. Depending on the situation, environment and locus of control, someone might start planning for success.

    In the initial one or two days, there is a lot of energy around the planning. But slowly when stress starts creeping in, people generally start looking at a Backup Plan, just for the safety’s sake, as we call it.

    The question that arises here is Is making the Backup plan safe for your actual plan which is eventually going to lead you to success?”

    The answer might be “No, Not at all”. The so-called back up plan might actually overpower your actual plan and might make you complacent regarding your actual plan.

     There has been some research on this as well.

    A paper previously published in Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes found that a backup plan can reduce the effort you put forth to achieve a goal, thus hurting your chances of achieving it.

    Most of us think a backup plan is always a good idea. However, a latest study highlights an unintended cost of making backup plans: a lower chance of successfully achieving your primary goal.


    Investigation started with a simple survey at a large east-coast train station. Researchers approached people who were waiting for trains, asking them to write about a goal they were pursuing and how much effort they were putting forth towards achieving their goal.

    Then, participants were asked if they had made a backup plan for their goal. Analyzing the data collected from the survey, researchers found that the people who had made a backup plan were putting forth less effort towards achieving their goals.

    Although this finding was consistent with previous hunches about the risks of making backup plans, correlation does not always equal causation.

    The possibility for this kind of a result can be variant.

    It might be that people who were working less hard towards their goal were more likely to make a backup plan because they knew they were more likely to need one. Or maybe, people who didn’t really care much about goal achievement to begin with were putting in less effort and were more likely to make a backup plan.

    Coming back to our current discussion, a backup plan, however, can have various dimensions. Let’s elaborate with an example:


    Carol is dissatisfied with her current job. The reasons are manifold starting from dissatisfaction with the job description to a general distaste of the corporate culture after having worked in it for over 7 years now.

    The most obvious primary plan would be to discuss the matter with her current boss asking for a role change and to initiate any sort of discussions that would improve her dissatisfactions. Again, the obvious backup plan with regards to dissatisfaction with the Job description would be to change her current company.

    However, the distaste for corporate culture would require her to change her line of work. In this scenario, Carol is thinking of 2 kinds of backup plan.

    If she is only thinking of changing her current company, then her backup plan would entail having a one directional route. However if she chooses to change her line of work altogether, she would have to adopt a parallel route for a backup plan.

    In the first kind, Carol with the one directional backup plan seems to be in a safe place. The only interesting factor to be noted would be that the primary plan which is to stay back and talk about a role change will already have taken a backseat.

    Carol’s focus is most likely to shift to the backup plan rather than the primary plan because she would be already tired with the current company, she would focus on looking out for another job than go through the lengthy process of resolving the issue within the current company and her manager.

    This would hence make her complacent regarding her primary plan.

    In the second kind, Carol will have to parallely look for another complete different line of work while dealing with her current scenario.

    This would require her to deal with multiple scenarios at the same time, hence creating more confusion while searching for a job and preparing for the interviews.

    With all these setbacks in mind, the temptation to completely shift to an even newer plan increases or to drop both plans altogether.

     


    Hence, it is important to remember that while having a backup plan might seem somehow safe, the consequences of formulating it might not, in reality, be that way. It is advisable that the focus should be on the PRIMARY PLAN and not the BACKUP plan to gain success.

    With reference to the example and research mentioned above, it can be stated that a backup plan might not be the healthiest route to success.

    A healthier process can be adopted in the primary planning itself by doing the below:

    • Choose your goal practically, i.e., something that is achievable
    • Measure your resources before making the plan
    • Analyzing the consequences
    • Focus very deeply on your plan and believe that you have the strength to execute it.
    • Be prepared for the tough challenges that might come your way.
    • Be in a very mental calm state of mind while deciding on the planning.
    • Be patient

     

    Having these weapons with you makes you ready to take up the challenge of your primary plan and prevents you from making a backup plan, out of that stress of not being able to achieve.

    We have to constantly remind ourselves that life throws us challenges at every turn, especially when we want to achieve something and succeed in that.

    But we have to keep ourselves strong and be prepared for whatever challenge come our way and take a more focused approach rather than trying to play safe with keeping backup options and getting more boggled.

    Backup options can be kept in consideration, but only after you have tried full fledgedly to achieve your success as planned primarily.,

    References:

    “How backup plans can harm goal pursuit: The unexpected downside of being prepared for failure (Jihae Shina; Katherine L. Milkman)

     Paper: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0749597816302096

     Google.com

  • 19 Aug
    Oyindrila Basu

    A win is a Win in the Game, only when you play it Happily.

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    A survey claims that,  when players are free from the pressure of the competition, they will play just for enjoyment, which is definitely not miles away from success. Being in the game in good spirit is a big achievement; you learn new techniques, physical skills and have fun while acting into the situation.

    A competition free environment will provide a stress free environment and a zeal for new learning. Losing a game can actually demotivate a person to move forward if they care much for it.

    There are more professional athletes like Rafael Nadal – whose enjoyment of different sports was such that he had to choose between tennis and football at the age of 12 – than Andre Agassi, who, pressured by his father throughout his childhood, prospered as a tennis player despite coming to hate the game.

    Even the compulsion of winning a game online, has reduced. Customized shooting games online are played just for maintaining a good kill/death ratio.

    Gradually, people are losing the passion for winning the match. One of the reasons in this case, could be, that they are obsessed with the idea of ranking-up system, especially in games like the #Doom.

     

    Well, in this case too, we will provide a positive side; if you are not engaged with the concept of winning or even trying to do so, you can easily get over your addiction of these computer and internet games, which will eventually save you a lot of precious time.

    It will keep you in good mental health, if you just play for fun, and not bang your fists on the keyboard or touchscreen, once you take a wrong path while playing #Asphalt.

    However, this indifferent attitude towards being a winner cannot go without criticism.

    Well it is good to be easy going, but casualty? Is it a good characteristic trait?

    A video game will not determine your life, however, if you are a professional sportsman, your attitude will determine your fate, your career.

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    Especially, in sports like wrestling, boxing, martial arts or mere street fight, if you feel it is ok to lose, you might get trampled under the prowess of your opponent. Also in life situations, where you need to fight out a bunch of goons, you won’t be guided by any ring, or any set pattern of rules; there if you feel it is ok to lose, you might get killed.

    Sports is a competitive game, and it gets included in school curriculum, to teach children the importance of maintaining a healthy competition throughout their life. If you remove this quotient, sports will be nothing but a child’s play.

    For e.g. if a child knows that earning a good grade is not important, why will he/she then study at all; he/she will rather choose to play for most of the working hours in order to enjoy. If failing is alright, then why should someone work hard to pass with above average rank?

    We do acknowledge Rudyard Kipling’s promise of the earth, where we bear and ‘triumph and disaster’ with equal grace, however, that is an Utopian existence, which doesn’t come real; and we cannot forget the Darwinin rule of survival of the fittest; well I do not literally mean that you should do everything you can (like beg, borrow, steal or kill) to be successful, but maintaining a healthy competitive spirit within self is not that bad.

    It acts as a kind of motivation towards hard work.

    Again. The balance is very important; while in a game, a person should keep up with team spirit and follow the regulations in order to gain a fair win. He/she should not be tied down with the burden of winning; it should not be a compulsion, but a wish and a need.

    Winning a game should be a reward not something that needs to snatched at any cost. Vengeance and wicked strategies can affect negatively on the mind, and also consequentially affect the sportsman spirit within an individual.

    Excessive pressure can be the cause of anxiety, tension and stress which can make you physically unfit for a game.

    Hence it is important to remember, that win and lose are part of a game; you work hard towards a fair win, you give your best, but maintain a balance, keep to a healthy lifestyle, be happy with your work or sport, whatever you do, enjoy doing it, in order to achieve success.

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  • 15 Aug
    Oyindrila Basu

    They are lucky only because of their hard work and never-say-die spirit

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    Sakshi on 17th Aug became the first woman wrestler from India to win an Olympic medal.

    It's a result of 12 years of hard work, says Sakshi Malik .

    Pusarla Venkata Sindhu on 18th Aug became the first Indian woman to enter a Olympic Badminton final, after defeating 6th-ranked Nozomi Okuhara 2-0 (21-19, 21-10). Thus, assuring India of another medal.

    I was just thinking about the game. If you play really well you will automatically win the game, and a medal. I'm just focused on my match and the next match, the semis (against Okuhara). I hope I can give my best, says Sindhu .

    We often wonder why destiny is in favour of some people always, while for others, nothing can just go right. We call the formers, lucky… Really? Is there seriously something called readymade Luck!

    Well, don’t know, but if it was to be so, it should have been equally distributed to everybody; which means all of us would be having perfect timings at some point of time or the other, but it doesn’t happen, and we still continue to blame the Fate for being partial.

    A ten-year long scientific study, on the nature of luck concluded, that most often people are responsible themselves, for their good or bad fortunes. The results also show that is possible for increasing the chances of positive responses in your life.

    Those people who religiously believe in the matter of luck and destiny, are so much obsessed in changing the luck in their favour, that they often do not concentrate on their actions and the positive work opportunities around them, when ideally luck will come when you do the right thing at the right time yourself, and not wait for the Goddess to shower wealth on you.

    Let me narrate a story here-


    Raman was a big businessman; the year 2012 brought about a downfall in his company shares and profits went on declining slowly.

    he believed that his Luck has always been in favour and hence he could prosper so far, but now that it was turning down he wished to visit an astrologer and foreteller.

    This man seemed to be learned, wise and having far-sight into the future. But some shocking revelations were made by him, which astounded Raman. He never knew, he would be exposed to such deeper truths.

    The man with the crimson wrapper told him that he would die within the next 4 days in his city. Raman was in cold sweat, he didn’t want to die; death was far; he never suffered from any serious disease then why should he die so young! He started worrying, panicked and anxious he would wake up in the middle of the night, thinking of different ways to escape death.

    He would call for his personal advisors to ask for a remedy, however, nobody could provide a solution which would save him. One night he suddenly pondered, what if he escapes from his city!

    The prophesy said he would die in his city, what if he just leaves his house and city and goes to some other place!

    He quickly took a backpack with a few things, rode his car and asked the driver to rush.. “Hurry! Hurry! He shouted”, it was night time, and the highways were dusky due to mist rain that afternoon, but driver tried really hard to vision himself through the difficulties, and that too fast.

    Raman was not at peace, he kept shivering and every alternate second, he would ask his driver to speed up, the car raced at 80-90-140 km/hr, now the driver was sweating too, but he couldn’t slow down- “faster”, went the shout…..and suddenly everything calmed down with a shriek of the car.

    It had been hit by a truck at the turn of the road, and there was not a single nose from Raman anymore..


    Now whom can we blame for this instant bad luck befalling on Raman? The bad luck? Or Raman’s blind belief in the concept of Fate, which made him so nervous and mentally unstable, that he tried to escape the safe premises of his own house in the middle of the night?

    The scientific research has studied the importance of superstition in our live; hence the amulets, chains, lucky charms and talismans continue to glorify our homes and bodies; we all are looking for luck, and in the process we just start behaving insane; we turn away from our duties and responsibilities and do everything illogical to gain good luck.

    Whereas, just a wish of “goodluck” from someone, actually imbibes the positivity required for a good action which will bring good results; the term affects the brain making us more sensitive and responsible towards the work we are going to do.

    Lord Chumley Frampton, Dean of Statistical Analysis at Basingstoke University stunned the world with his findings, that if people are in poor mental health, they tend to get unlucky, hence it is important to ensure good mental health first.

    Besides, those of us, like Raman, are too much bothered about their Fate and bad luck, often get stressed out easily which lead them to nervous breakdown, or anxiety attack or panic attack.

    When we are mentally troubled, we cannot do any work properly, so how will we have anything positive?

    Luck is something we can bring to ourselves, by being positive in every situation, and we need to be in the best mental health for that.

    • Counselling therapies can guide us through the process,
    • self-affirmation and confidence is also important.
    • We need to set our goals right, so that we can succeed. Practical goals will direct you towards positive action plans.
    • Believe in yourself to be the best.
  • 19 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    7 tips to stop overthinking

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    “Preeti, I really like this floral dress, but do you think it is too loud in color? Oh will it suit me? I hope Priyanka and group will not criticize me on this dress! Will they? Will I look beautiful or nerd in this?........... Oh! It’s so confusing”_ a common girl in a shopping mall of Mumbai.

    Most of us are often confused regarding various things- about what we wear, what we eat, how we eat, and how we look. We are extra-cautious when we go out into a public place. It’s a common thing, that we want the opinion of some of our friends when we buy some clothes or accessories.

    why is it so?

    I am spending my money, so the items I buy, should be of my choice, not of others! However, we end up enquiring on every small detail before we take a step. This is because most of us bother too much about what people will think of us. The reason is that we resent the shame or embarrassment that we may have to go through if we do not conform to the expectations of the society.

    Most of the times, this embarrassment can come, if we do something, which is apart from normal or what should be. For e.g. If we trip over a banana skin and fall, people will laugh at us, and we don’t like it that they are considering us stupid. However, people laugh because the incidence is a deviation from normal, I was supposed to walk straight, but I fell down.

    Another reason why we bother about others’ opinion is because as a social being, we want to be appreciated by everyone and be in their good books. However, too much worry or anticipation on what others think of you, can cause panic attacks in you, and affect your mental health and well-being adversely. You gradually tend to be skeptical and avoid public gatherings, or become hyper tensed about situations.

     

    How can you dissuade yourself from these kinds of thoughts?

     

    1. Do what you love to do.

    Engage yourself in something which you love to most, e.g. reading, encyclopaedia hunting, or something unique like telescope search for space elements, something which you are passionate about, and something which others can’t think of. When you deviate from normal with excellence and achieve best results, others will automatically look at you with awe and respect, and your sense of achievement will make you bother much less about others.

     

    2. Try to be kind and generous

    This is a quality which everybody appreciates. We cannot stop bothering whether people are bitching about us behind our back or critiquing our follies, then what is the best way? Be the best of yourself. Develop kindness and generosity for others, and they will be automatically attracted towards you.

     

    3. You are not faulty always

    Even if your kind behavior is not helping, and you are the constant subject of criticism, understand that whoever is doing so is weaker than you. He or she who is criticizing you is aware of self-follies and to cover it all. They are blaming it on you. This thought will give you a comfort zone, that the storming man is more helpless, and it is not that you are faulty always.

     

    4. Shame is not always harmful.

    If you realize that what people are talking about you is true, and you do have some shortcomings, you can use your social humiliation to motivate yourself for higher achievable goals, rather than panicking.

    Basically, a bit of criticism and embarrassment from others can help you develop self-awareness, and you can pay attention on the particular points in your personality, which need to be mended.

     

    5. Don’t bother too much about others

    Too much of botheration about society will make you a deceptive person, over a period of time, you will tend to be a human with dishonest disposition. Gradually, your opinions and your right and wrongs will be influenced by the speculations of what others think of them. As a result, you will tend to develop a more feasible and socially compliant mode of behavior, which may not be your real self. However, if this becomes a practice, that will strongly affect your mental health, and the moment you deviate from a percent from the set protocol, you will be in anxiety of getting disliked.

     

    6. Be original

    Always remember, no one appreciates a fake personality. Love yourself, be what you actually are. Honesty counts a lot. Be open about your ideas and opinions. General public may not appreciate it initially, but they will definitely acknowledge your straightforwardness.

    Ultimately, the truth is, what you are as a person will determine what you achieve in life. Nobody else will come to your aid.

     

    7. Do what you like

    Negative criticisms and speculations are just a part of this long process, better not to consider them much. You can do what you like, what you feel is right, others do not feed you or clothe you, so care less about their negative opinions, to be in a free, healthy mind.  

  • 19 Mar
    lucy santi

    Try to off the triggers of headache with these simple techniques

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    Headache is kind of pain in the upper part of the face.

    This means it hurts the head directly.

    The headache affects the head, neck, and scalp. Depending on the reason of the headache the symptoms can affect the person.

    Zero down on the exact reason for the pain. This certainly will help you to get the exact reason for it.

    Here in the health care provider will diagnose the type of headache with various reasons and related parameters.

     

    Let us take a look on the triggers which give our headaches to the person.

    The trigger should be stopped then and there to avoid a chance of headache.

     

    #Sleep deviation

    The top reason for a headache is sleep deviation. Headache is the sign which tells you that you cut down the sleep hours to half.

    This in turn will pile on the stress which will leave the brain confused and hence there is no sign of sleep in the night.

    Sleep anxiety is the condition wherein the person is unable to take a rest during the night. Sleep on the weekdays is regular.

    However, many times on weekends the sleep hours are tailored according to the availability of time.

    You are relaxed as there is no rush to start up the day, hence the sleep hours are altered, however, this gives an untoward effect on the brain and body.

    In case of alteration of the sleep on the weekends, the level of the stress hormones will drop hence causing rapid releases of neuron transmitters.

    This in turn will send impulses to blood vessels constricting and then dilating causing a headache.

    You can avoid this trigger by following the sleep schedule religiously.

     

    #Anger:

    Anger can be triggered which can cause headache in the person.

    When anger is incorporated in the person, the scalp and neck get tensed and creating a band like sensation.

    This in turn will cause headache. This is a sign of tension headache.

    You can fix this by avoiding the trigger of anger.

    Breathe deeply and slowly and following technique of meditation, which will help you to control the mind.

    Breathe from the nose and exhale from the mouth so that the angry emotions can get out of you at the moment.

     

    #Bright lights

    Bright lights can also be the cause of headache.

    The shining light and sharp sun rays will be flickering causing a headache in the individual.

    This actually induces the migraines in the person.

    Actually, the bright light flickering will induce the chemical generation in the brain, which in turn ignites the migraine centers.

    Fix this issue you can take help if the sunglasses. The sunglasses will reduce the intensity of light.

    Herein to be sure on reducing the intensity of light opts for polarized lens. This is the best option to avoid a cause of the headache.

    Apart from this take measure to tone down the flickering lights of your computer`s screen.

    For this attach glare screen, which will help you to adjust the bright light.

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