• 25 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    10 Interesting facts on anxiety

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    Anxiety is one of the significant mental health issues that commonly affect human beings. Different people have different reasons for anxiety. Sometimes too much rush; not being on time can be the reason for anxiety, sometimes a subject of study like maths can be the cause of anxiety, or sometimes just the question ‘what if’. We have discussed about the cause and cure of anxiety earlier. Now we present to you some interesting facts on anxiety which you should know-

    • Anxiety means physical sickness beyond mental stress- anxiety causes physical ailments beyond stressful thoughts and brain storming. We know that amygdala is responsible for out flight response mechanism, but when the brain senses terror, real or imaginary, it generates stress hormones in the body- adrenaline and noradrenaline, which can cause chest pain, headache, nausea and fatigue.


    • Anxiety can be genetical- anxiety can be inherited by a child from his parents with inheritence of α-endomannosidase gene which is responsible for stress and anxiety disorders.


    • Exercise reduces anxiety- a regular pattern of healthy exercise can keep you stress free. Physical activity keeps you more focused on bodily sensations, hence the provoking thoughts come and disappear easily.


    • Anxiety confuses the sense of smell- People with anxiety show a greater tendency to label neutral smells as bad smells. Typically, when processing smells it’s only the olfactory (smelling) system that gets activated. When a person becomes anxious the emotional system becomes intertwined with the olfactory processing system.


    • Exposure to anti-depressants during pregnancy can affect adult anxiety- if a mother is treated with anti-depressants during pregnancy, the child, after growing up can be automatically more resilient to anxiety.


    • Anxiety becomes the most common form of mental health problem in the United States. It’s estimated that approximately 10 percent of teenagers and 40 percent of adults suffer from an anxiety disorder of some kind. The number crosses depression rates.


    • Statistically, women are more commonly afflicted by anxiety disorders than men.


    • If you are with social anxiety, people will actually think you are fabulous- often people with social anxiety feel they are less confident but research has found that because of over thinking and over sensitivity, when they speak, the words are well constructed and meaningful, which leave a deeper impression on others.


    • Anxiety is closely related to OCD- Obsessive compulsive disorder is a kind of anxiety, where we behave like maniacs with the worry to ensure that a particular thing has been done. For e.g. to check that lights in the house have been switched off, we constantly go back to the same rooms and look on the switch board, sometimes, even on it and off it again to ensure. This kind of reaction is also panic mechanism.


    • A healthy diet can reduce anxiety- American Journal of Psychiatry found that people having a diet of fruits, vegetable, fish and meat tend to be less anxious that those influenced by western diet of fried food, burgers, pizza.

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  • 25 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    If You Are Feeling Rushed With Anxiety, Speak Out Your Thoughts Loud To Alleviate Them.


    Often we are in a hurry if we have to accomplish a task within a prescribed deadline. We start rushing with things that there is not much time. We start perspiring, sometimes shivering with tension. Some of us has the habit of biting nails when they are nervous about completing a task. This is not normal, this is anxiety. The sense of being ‘rushed’ in a situation is due to anxious thoughts.

    So what can we do to immediately avert this thought of anxiety which is not good for health?

    We need to talk it out loud. If you are feeling rushed, shout and admit it to yourself that ‘I am feeling rushed’.

    It is scientifically proven that if you speak out your feelings and emotions the thought actually keeps reducing in intensity.

    “Matthew Lieberman at UCLA, in a research shows that when we name an emotion we actually diminish activity the amygdala and other parts of the limbic system, which is the part of the brain thought to be largely responsible for feelings of anxiety and other stress-related emotions.”

    Better to speak with yourself on the anxious feeling rather than be in the thinking. If we are lost in the thinking process about ‘what can happen’, ‘what I have to complete’ and ‘what all task is pending’, it aggravates the anxiety within us, with no solution.

    The more we try to consciously avoid anxiety, more we are driven towards it. Consoling yourself with the thought that ‘almost everything is complete, but there is not much time’, only makes you more nervous about the timeline. But when you speak to yourself with your inner voice ‘yes I am nervous’, being in thought is no longer there, so anxiety and tension is much diminished.

    Make your steps towards the goal purposely faster. If you are running short of time, try to focus on the game of moving and doing things fast. Walk faster, move faster, do faster not because you have to reach the goal, but because you want to do it, you want to move faster to test yourself. This can alleviate the nervousness in your brain.

    Also feel the sensations while doing the work. If you are walking, feel the motion of your footsteps, feel the breeze on your face, if you are typing, notice how your fingers are falling on the keys, this kind of intentional brain activity, can take your mind off the thought, ‘I have to rush, I have no time’. This is kind of a stress reliever.

    Bring all the efforts together, when you want to stop being anxious for being in a hurry.

    Talking the emotion is helpful, it reduces the thought by bringing the feeling into action. When we talk it out, we automatically find a solution to the situation by making our activities faster for the sake of doing fast. When we concentrate on the sensations while we work, our focus shifts from the anxious thought to a more conformed, fruitful procedure, which is, actually hurrying up, not thinking.

  • 05 Sep
    Oyindrila Basu

    Marital responsibility and Sex life.

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    Gender roles are definitive in deciding behaviour in a marital state. Recent studies have depicted that men who are more engaged in household chores like cooking, cleaning, washing etc. feel less affinity towards sex than men who are not engaged in such types of work.

    Families which follow the traditional gender roles in marriage, and the women in the house do the cooking, washing, sweeping and such chores, while men pay the bills, take the car for servicing etc. have men who are more interested and inclined towards sex.

    Gender role is generally defined as a set of attitudes, behaviours, and self-presentation methods ascribed to members of a certain biological sex. This includes norms for behaviour, which some researchers have started to call “the rules of masculinity” or “masculine ideology.”

    Men who indulge in cooking, cleaning etc. feel psychologically feminine too, hence they are less inclined to progress towards sex, however, researchers and author add here, that it is not that those men do not have sex.

    Co-author Julie Brines, professor of sociology at the University of Washington, said:

    "The results show that gender still organizes quite a bit of everyday life in marriage. In particular, it seems that the gender identities husbands and wives express through the chores they do also help structure sexual behaviour."

    Lead author, Sabino Kornrich studied husbands and wives spent 34 hours each week on traditional female household chores, the couples spent an extra 17 hours each week on "men's work".

    These couples were found to have sex 4 times a week approximately, while couples in which female does the household work have sex 1.6 times as oftener than the former.

    The prevalent reason can be the traditional ideas associated with the males’ progressive role towards sex, which is determined by his income, while the female’s income doesn’t influence her sexual inclination or satisfaction level.

    A woman, though working, generally does all the household chores also, and hence she feels moderate towards sex, hence when a male indulges in cooking, washing etc. he also tends to feel a moderate inclination towards sexual drive, as the energy level in neutralised, or reduced.

    However, these days, the marriage and roles in it, have changed, it is not the same.

    Today, not all responsibilities of the house are burdened on the women. Couples need to free themselves from all kinds of workloads of the day, and find a free time for themselves to regain their energy for personal relationships.

    There should be a balance in lifestyle where couples share their responsibilities, at the same time accommodate some personal space and time for each other so that they can enjoy a healthy romantic life.

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  • 24 Aug
    Oyindrila Basu

    How can we make our happiness, a long term truth?

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    All of us want to be happy, but we hardly can do so consistently, however, currently data science has proved that if we can manage our mood inconsistencies in the proper way, we can remain happy.

    New findings from large-scale data clarify how hedonic considerations shape human behaviour.

    In fact, the study tells us, how we can overcome the pleasure of short-term gains to gain a long term peaceful settlement in the mind.

    It depends on a few basic things; we can ensure our happiness by choosing our daily life activities wisely; what to do when is the key concept behind managing your mood.

    A team of researchers, led by Maxime Taquet, a research fellow at the Boston Children's Hospital, developed a smartphone application to monitor in real-time the activities and moods of over 28,000 people.

    The team found that, rather than following the pleasure or hedonic principle, people's choices of activities instead consistently followed a hedonic flexibility principle. 

    Results showed that people who are happy choose to engage in exercise, meditation, work outs etc. when they are sad, and opt to do monotonous tasks like household chores, office work etc. when they feel better in mood.

    These considerations can shape your behaviour and ensure long term welfare; this is also the possible method for overcoming your short-term gain attraction, which will give you long time peace and happiness.

    For e.g. you lose the flat race competition on the sports day in school; instead of crying on the situation and mourning over your loss, you can use the situation as a motivating factor to develop yourself; if you really like the sport, and you have talents of a runner, you choose to practice harder; more practice will build your self-confidence, it will make you fit, and give you the finesse required to be a champion in the national games or state level competitions.

    On the other hand, if you keep complaining about your present loss in a school sports event, it will waste a lot of time, it will hamper your studies, will put you into depression, and this mourn will be of no help, you won’t become first if you cry.

    Hence it is an individual’s choice of activities, which gives him/her happiness or success.


    Choosing what to do with your time, is the crucial choice a person should make, to direct his/her emotions. Mood enhancing activities should be engaged in when you are feeling low, and alternately, do the heavy duty tasks when you are already charged up.

    For e.g. if you wake up in the morning with a cross mood, or low energy, do not open your laptop immediately for office emails, better sip on a cup of warm green tea, and start your exercise schedule for about an hour, to sweat and lose some calories; it will alter your mood as your heart rate increases; and when your mood is good, you are feeling lively and joyous, you can do works like kitchen cleaning, sweeping, wiping floors, vacuuming etc.

    Hence, directing your activities can actually make your happiness consistent; you will feel happy even when you are not happy, and also feel happy when you are happy.

  • 24 Aug
    Oyindrila Basu

    Don't let depression affect your sex life.

    depression and sex

    Depression is a common illness these days, due to over stressed lifestyle, cultural imbalance and relationship issues.

    We all want to be achievers, however, time doesn’t move uniformly all the time, and hence we get pressurized with expectations from self and society, which is of no good, but puts people into depression.

    Depression affects us physically and it is followed with different symptoms, one of which is drastic impact on sexual drive and overall sex life. In simple words, when you are depressed, you are less likely to get aroused or enjoy your sex life with your partner.


    The reasons are numerous.

    Our brain is associated with every sensation that we feel; every movement or touch triggers a signal which is received by the brain for arousal of further feelings and sensations.

    Depression weakens our sensory and motor responses; most of the time, a person is depression, feels gloomy, lazy and tired, and hence their brain is not able to process the triggers of sexual touch properly, which means disinterest in sex.

    Sometimes, certain medicines of depression can also reduce your sexual urge.


    Depression and relationship:

    This can negatively impact relationships, because when you do not respond positively to the advances of your partner, it often hurts the self-respect of the other and lowers confidence in your partner; he/she feels you are dissatisfied with their way of love making, or you just don’t like him/her anymore. Partners usually take such signals of denial very personally.

    According to the NIMH, a higher rate of depression in women is connected to hormonal changes. This is why a woman’s risk of depression may increase:

    • before and during menstruation
    • after childbirth
    • when juggling work, home, and family life
    • during perimenopause and menopause.

    Well it is not that men are not in depression; in fact, depressed men suffer from low self-esteem which can be the cause of erectile dysfunction which affects their sexuality.


    So how can you draw a balance between the mind and your body, so that depression cannot affect your personal relationships?

    Treating depression is very important so that you can nip the problem in the bud.

    Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)- For those who are suffering from milder depression symptoms, can be cured from it, with this therapy. This is a process of counselling which fights with your negative thoughts and aims at transforming them into positive.


    Change your medicine: If your depression medicine is affecting your sexuality, do not stop your treatment; that is wrong; you need to speak to your doctor, so that he/she can alter the medicine for you.

    SSRIs come with many sexual side effects, and often are known for discouraging you into sexual desire, however, medicines like Bupropion (Wellbutrin) have lesser such side effects. In fact, as per the intensity of your problem, you can also resort to natural remedies for depression with an expert’s help, that way the chances of side effects will be removed.


    Communicate with your partner: sex is also a form of communication between partners, if depression is silencing that voice, you need to speak more with your tongue; share your thoughts with your partner, often sharing, will reduce the negativity within you, and will make you feel much better in depression.

    Your partner will also get a chance to understand you better and he/she will still feel that he/she is important to you.


    Do not stop your amorous actions: We often feel better in sadness, when someone holds our hands, hugs us and makes us feel comfortable. Indulge into lovey-dovey actions, like holding hands of your partner, hugging kissing etc. which will take your relationship a long way, even if your sex life is on a break due to depression.

    This way, none of you partners will feel deprived or detached from the other.


    Responses 1

    • victor de
      victor de   Sep 05, 2016 03:23 PM

      Yes, that's true, that depression harms our relationship also, and sadest crypart is no body can understand the feeling of depressed person, and how to react. 

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