Dilemma is the truth of life. We all fear to choose between the important and the convenient. We fear to shift from our self-created cozy cocoon which is apparently protecting us from outside dangers; in other words, we fear to take risks. Sometimes, we are confused on what we want. We are stuck in a dilemma in many situations; whether to choose chocolate or strawberry, whether to go on a trip or not to go to save money, whether to go for #The Jungle Book or for #Fan (yes, currently this is the biggest dilemma of the nation :/)
However, what should we do when we have to take a decision in life for what is right and what we really want?
- Ask yourself what you actually want: many a times we go for the convenient job which is giving us a recurrent income to remain comfortable and hassle free. However, that job may not be the kind you actually want to do. Result, you work without enthusiasm; there is no career growth for and years later you realize you haven’t utilised your pro-skills at all. Give a straight answer to the question, “what do I want?” choose exactly what the answer is, that might help you reach on a decision.
- Clear your confusions by choosing the more favourable option: may be, you like both chocolate and strawberry; in that case, think which one is your momentary craving; which flavour you are biased for. (of course, please do not end up saying I will have both :)) if you are confused between Fan and Jungle Book, choose the one whose show time is sooner at the mall; by doing so you will at least reach one decision at a time.
- Ask yourself whether you will be able to face the mirror- whenever you are stuck up between serious choices, ask yourself this question. If you think of passing a tender by taking some extra money from an agency, there comes a dilemma between your ethics and comfortable life. If you take the money you can assure your family security and luxuries but you will have to compromise with morality in security in job structures. Do that with what you don’t have to be guilty and you can face yourself. You choose to give up job and start writing a novel because you want to. That will disrupt your happy family life for some time, because no one will like it. But ask yourself the question whether what you are doing is right, if the answer is ‘yes’, go ahead.
- Whenever you fear to risk, remember, making mistakes takes you to perfection- nobody is a born perfectionist. Even Amir Khan in his earlier days did films like #AtankHiAtank, #TumMereHo and #Mela to reach the position of ‘Mr. Perfectionist’ what he is today :) you learn better from your mistakes, so there is no harm if your attempt fails and you may have to suffer initial loss. Be calculative but do not brainstorm too much on a decision; that is bad for mental health.
- Discuss your dilemma with your friends- sometimes mass opinion can confuse you further, but take a chance. Friends can actually help you on a decision. When two sides of you are conflicting with each other on something, ask your friend what you should do, and follow that decision unbiased.
- Use your brain for smaller steps and your heart for a bigger one- if a decision is big and life changing, employ your heart into it. Again the same question of what you really want. Your brain can support you in small term gains and losses.
- Ask yourself whether you are working on purpose- whatever work you do should have a purpose for self or personal development or towards society as a whole.
- Writing down your concerns when you are in dilemma can sometimes help- to take a decision, write your worries on a paper. Also write down what you like. Write out the options in front of you and play a tick mark game. That will help you decide because the overall picture is clear in front of you.
- Being decisive is a practice- try practising the art of decisiveness. Be positive. Get clear with your ideas of right and wrong. It will be much easier.
Check out this TED talk to find out how to take Big decisions: