• 10 Sep
    Oyindrila Basu

    Why do we get anxious for email ?

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    Strange is the power of internet and the cyber world; it can get you friends and foes.

    Everyday, you meet new people on the web through the social networking sites; earlier, google chats served the same purpose somewhat, and this is the way we get to know the world closer; at the same time this web connection is giving us serious problems like addiction, headache, eye pain and stress.

    Today the mail through Google or Yahoo or Outlook is more of a serious business; most office conversations are completed through email, and hence it is important presently.

    But the more the number of unread mails in your inbox, the more your panic attack symptoms, have you ever realized that?

    I am sure, some of you did; even I do sometimes, feel worried and nervous when there are too many unread mails in my inbox, I go through the senders and subject line to ensure that nothing disastrous has happened to my career! laughing

    Ron Friedman, a psychologist and author of "The Best Place To Work,” declares with his observation that the count of new emails is known to be one of the highest anxiety causing factors in today’s life.

    The simple reason is, when you see that there are so many mails waiting for you to be viewed (despite the fact that you had cleared your inbox the last evening), you know each of them is a form of demand placed on you, which requires your attention, and then your effort. You have to go through them and then again have to spend time and energy in deciding on them, and that will equip you overly, the thought of which is stress provoking; you might have planned of completing your work quickly today and go home early for dinner, and now these many emails hurl a load of extra impending tasks on you, which you have to attend, but was not planned earlier.

    Some times more number of awaiting mails in your work id can stress you further, because you start anticipating their content.

    If I wake up in the morning and view a large number of mails from my office, I start wondering whether I have made some new mistake in my work due to which so many mails are there as a repurcation; perhaps I have not delivered something yesterday which I was supposed to, hence they have mailed me to remind me of my failure to reach the deadline; what if they again found out something faulty; what if they throw me out of my job… can you see the pattern of anxious thoughts after viewing your inbox?

    If you are worried of your job, you are definitely suffering from anxiety, and that is serious, isn’t it?

    "There's no question that constantly checking email is bad for both productivity and quality of life," Friedman adds.

    Of course if we have to go through our mails constantly, it wastes a lot of quality time, and that is true.


    So what do we do, to make our lives a bit, more healthy?

    1. First thing in the morning when you sit with your laptop for work, should NOT be checking your office mail account.

    2. Sip a warm cup of coffee and go through some online newspapers, or journals to read something of your interest. May be, you can watch some good videos too. Once you are settled in the mind, you can begin your work.

    3. Prepare yourself for more work each day. Before you check your list of mails, be prepared mentally that today they will be more than yesterday; you have to do more work. This can make you feel tired initially, but it has a positive side too, if you have more responsibilities to perform today, it means your efficiency is well-measured and hence you have more tasks from the office, so you will never lose your job Automatically, when you are prepared for something, you won’t be anxious; if you find there are less mails than your expectation, then fine, great, be happy, less work, less pressure.

    4. Do not palpitate before viewing the content of your mails, some just need to be ignored and rejected.

    5. Practice mindfulness every morning to get rid of your anxious thoughts.

    Read also: How does mindfulness reduce anxiety?

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  • 22 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    How Gossip In Society Can Be A Great Marketing Strategy?

    word of mouth


    Word Of Mouth’, not quite a new term in the field of business, however, it means just a spoken language which is informal; i.e. an unofficial discourse among people may be called ‘word of mouth’.

    However, when this policy is properly utilised by brands and markets, it can evolve great results for sale of products of growth of business.

    You may wonder how?

    Now suppose you have gone for a salon treatment; you have been immensely satisfied with the beautician or the stylist there and once you meet your friends, they appreciate your make-over, at once you start conversing on the experience you have received at the particular salon and how pleasurable and satisfactory it has been in that atmosphere. Sometimes you even go on to describe the interiors and the wall decors of the parlour; may be the behaviour of its owner if it has been polite etc. So indirectly, you are promoting the salon and contributing to the business growth. Your friends in future will prefer to visit the parlour at least once when they require a treatment after receiving the feedback from you.

    Research has proved that ‘word of mouth’ or such kind of interpersonal communication develops with stimulation of a part of the brain which generates a reaction to the body. This kind of stimulation may show symptoms like increased heart rate, blood pressure and sweating due to excitement caused by the mention of the information topic that you start giving to others.

    Psychologically, whenever, we are ‘wowed’, we like to share the experience with others as we all are social beings. And the very moment the relevant subject springs up co-incidentally, you want to share your information on it. The reasons being:

    1. You want to show yourself knowledgeable and intelligent that you have an answer to every question in a social discussion.
    2. You want to feel the joy of helping your friends with the relevant information.
    3. You want to pour out the thoughts which are actually creating indigestion in your stomach. :D

    Berger’s theory is believed to be the best in this field.

    However, this positive feedback attitude changes the moment the owner him/herself asks you to refer his/her name to your acquaintances; you no longer feel so positive about the received treatment, nor do you feel motivated to visit the place again.

    Marketing heads of a company or brand should know the right tricks to manipulate this word of mouth strategy in favour of their promotion.

    This requires no investment and is probably considered the most effective medium of growing business.

    • Controversy gets people talking- so reveal about some interesting policies, positive or negative. Use some offers to lure customers who will find it interesting to talk about. No wonder Chetan Bhagat books do so well in the market. Some people hate it, but critics mark it as bestsellers, so you as a customer will read his book at least once to find out the truth, so that is how it works.
    • Value what your customers care about- make your product keeping in mind the needs of the customer; they will automatically promote you. Satisfying the customer is the most important thing.

    Have you noticed I haven’t written one word about book reviews or magazine interviews or radio or any of that bullshit?

    Because for the most part, I’ve found that they don’t really matter.

    I can tell you from very extensive experience that my book has done so well ONLY because people who read it recommended it to other people, and they went out and bought it.

    Word of mouth. Nothing else…lasting, real word of mouth can only come from one source: creating value.” – Tucker Max.


    • The best way to promote your brand is to stop worrying much about its promotion- knocking at the door never helps. Do not ask for referrals. Let your customers refer you out of their own free will. If you tell them to do it, they will never do it; in fact, their feedback might turn negative.
    • Use the technology to increase your access to people- technology is developing faster with which you can reach out to your customers and buyers faster and more effectively, without having to plead or beg with someone. If you have to relegate an information about your product, you can do so with Craiglist, OLX and ebay.

    That way it works faster and reaches greater mass within a short span of time. if one customer watches your ad and gets benefited by it, he or she will soon refer it to his or her friends and this goes on like a chain.

    Hence gossip is not that bad at least for business men who can use this social necessity of people properly.

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  • 21 Apr
    Jayashree Mukherjee

    What is Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)?

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    Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is all about bringing about changes in perception, responsible communication and developing choices of responses  or communication in a given situation. The situation can be personal or professional, but it empowers you by giving you choices and also being responsible for the choice made by you.

    How it works?  

    NLP might appear like magic or hypnosis. During therapy the subject goes deep into their unconscious mind and sifts through layers and layers of beliefs and perceptions to become aware of an experience in early childhood that is responsible for a behaviour pattern. NLP works on the principle that everyone has all the resources they need to make positive changes in their own life. NLP techniques are used as a tool to facilitate these changes.

    NLP Therapy can be content free. That means the therapist can be effective without knowing about the problem in great detail. Hence the therapist need not be told about the event or even the issue, thereby ensuring privacy for the client. Besides this we also have a non- disclosure agreement in which the interaction between the client and the therapist is kept confidential.

    NLP believes in perfection of nature in human creation. Hence NLP encourages the client to recognize their sensory sensitivities and use them to respond to a particular problem. In fact, NLP also believes that the mind is capable of finding even cures to ailments and diseases.

    NLP techniques involve noninvasive, medicine free therapy that helps the client discover new ways of dealing with emotional problems such as low self-esteem, anxiety, lack of confidence, destructive relationship patterns (coping with breakup), and are successful in effective bereavement counselling.

    NLP has its roots in the field of behavioural science, developed by Pavlov, Skinner and Thorndike. It uses physiology and the unconscious mind to change thought processes and therefore behaviour.

    Gestalt Therapy

    Gestalt Therapy was co-founded by Fritz Perls, Laura Perls- They were basically traditional psychoanalysts, Ralph Hefferline a university psychology professor, and Paul Goodman, a political writer, in the late 1940s to early 1950s.

    Gestalt therapy works on one simple yet important tennet - "awareness". Here the client is encouraged to develop acute awareness of the experience,” here and now” This awareness assisted by the therapist can go a long way in recognizing and fixing the (internal) problems thereby leading to personal Growth.

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  • 18 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    How To Decide In A Difficult Situation?

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    Dilemma is the truth of life. We all fear to choose between the important and the convenient. We fear to shift from our self-created cozy cocoon which is apparently protecting us from outside dangers; in other words, we fear to take risks. Sometimes, we are confused on what we want. We are stuck in a dilemma in many situations; whether to choose chocolate or strawberry, whether to go on a trip or not to go to save money, whether to go for #The Jungle Book or for #Fan (yes, currently this is the biggest dilemma of the nation :/)

    However, what should we do when we have to take a decision in life for what is right and what we really want?

    1. Ask yourself what you actually want: many a times we go for the convenient job which is giving us a recurrent income to remain comfortable and hassle free. However, that job may not be the kind you actually want to do. Result, you work without enthusiasm; there is no career growth for and years later you realize you haven’t utilised your pro-skills at all. Give a straight answer to the question, “what do I want?” choose exactly what the answer is, that might help you reach on a decision.


    1. Clear your confusions by choosing the more favourable option: may be, you like both chocolate and strawberry; in that case, think which one is your momentary craving; which flavour you are biased for. (of course, please do not end up saying I will have both :)) if you are confused between Fan and Jungle Book, choose the one whose show time is sooner at the mall; by doing so you will at least reach one decision at a time.



    1. Ask yourself whether you will be able to face the mirror- whenever you are stuck up between serious choices, ask yourself this question. If you think of passing a tender by taking some extra money from an agency, there comes a dilemma between your ethics and comfortable life. If you take the money you can assure your family security and luxuries but you will have to compromise with morality in security in job structures. Do that with what you don’t have to be guilty and you can face yourself. You choose to give up job and start writing a novel because you want to. That will disrupt your happy family life for some time, because no one will like it. But ask yourself the question whether what you are doing is right, if the answer is ‘yes’, go ahead.


    1. Whenever you fear to risk, remember, making mistakes takes you to perfection- nobody is a born perfectionist. Even Amir Khan in his earlier days did films like #AtankHiAtank, #TumMereHo and #Mela to reach the position of ‘Mr. Perfectionist’ what he is today :) you learn better from your mistakes, so there is no harm if your attempt fails and you may have to suffer initial loss. Be calculative but do not brainstorm too much on a decision; that is bad for mental health.


    1. Discuss your dilemma with your friends- sometimes mass opinion can confuse you further, but take a chance. Friends can actually help you on a decision. When two sides of you are conflicting with each other on something, ask your friend what you should do, and follow that decision unbiased.


    1. Use your brain for smaller steps and your heart for a bigger one- if a decision is big and life changing, employ your heart into it. Again the same question of what you really want. Your brain can support you in small term gains and losses.


    1. Ask yourself whether you are working on purpose- whatever work you do should have a purpose for self or personal development or towards society as a whole.


    1. Writing down your concerns when you are in dilemma can sometimes help- to take a decision, write your worries on a paper. Also write down what you like. Write out the options in front of you and play a tick mark game. That will help you decide because the overall picture is clear in front of you.


    1. Being decisive is a practice- try practising the art of decisiveness. Be positive. Get clear with your ideas of right and wrong. It will be much easier.


    Check out this TED talk to find out how to take Big decisions:



  • 14 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    Why The Jungle Book Is So Interesting And Exciting For A 90s Born?

    Jungle jungle baat chali hai pata chala hai…..are chaddi pahen ke phool khila hai phool khila hai

    A week’s wait used to seem endless as a year for that Sunday morning pleasure in front of the Doordarshan. Our very own native little boy with a pony and yellow fur chaddi will appear with his friends in forest. We would love to see them too; from the cute little squirrel on his shoulders to his fearsome enemy Sher Khan, the tiger king.

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    This year ‘Iron Man’ director Jon Favreau brings us back the nostalgic histories which decades have left behind. Quite unknowingly he plunges into a devious maze of awesome experiences which every 80s and 90s kid has shared, and hence ‘The Jungle Book’ by #WaltDisney is getting so exciting and worth watching for us Indians who are grown up today.

    What can be the main reasons that we 90s kids are so much in awe of Jungle book?

    • The Jungle Book on television is considered to be the most authentic version of screen presentation at least in India and adjacent nations, because the language was Hindi, so we could connect more, in spite of the fact that the author was a foreign man by the name of Rudyard Kipling. Each of the characters spoke in Hindi or Urdu, such that their expressions touched our hearts.


    • The Jungle Book itself is inherently Indian. Rudyard Kipling wrote the book inspired with a forest environment, and the names of his characters are too native like ‘Bhaloo’ (bear in Hindi), ‘Sher Khan’ (‘sher’ means tiger in Hindi), ‘Mowgli’, ‘Ka’ etc. hence it appeals to a 90’s Indian kid far more.


    • In the early 90’s there was no concept of cable or dish TV or multi-channel entertainment. The only channels we had were DD1 and DD-Metro, hence options were limited. So if we liked a show, that would be from the bottom of our hearts. We would be completely engulfed by the show. No wonder Shaktimaan, Chandrakanta, Mahabharat, Ramayana etc. gained world class popularity. And for cartoon lovers there was nothing beyond ‘The Jungle Book’ and the cute adorable Mowgli.


    • Animation had just started gaining popularity in the early 90s. And we were amazed and awestruck to find that animals were speaking as humans. We had learnt in books that lion roars and cow moos. We just couldn’t believe that they could speak as well. This was one of the main reasons that Jungle Book gained so much popularity and continues to rule our hearts. A 2000 kid will never have the same experience with an animation series because later so many more came out following the example of Jungle Book.


    • Our grandmas often told us stories where babies were taken away by wolves and hyenas, so that we would learn to be afraid and cautious of the wild, but The Jungle Book for the first time, broke the stereotypes and showed us children, that animals can be friends, they have emotions, they can be a good family to a man.


    • Even now when we hear the song ‘chaddi pahen ke phool khila hai’ anywhere, may be from far off it comes to our ears, a flood of memories strikes our brain, the lazy Sunday afternoons are back when homework meant naming the colours or counting from 1-5. Childhood is gone but the memories are captured in The Jungle Book, hence we love to recall them again and again.

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    This is why the moment the first promos of the English Jungle Book came on air, we 90’s kids were more excited than anyone else to watch it because this was much more than just a movie for us.

    Hence the Hindi-dubbed version is going to be more popular bringing back the voice of Nana Patekar and Om Puri.

    The Hindi Jungle Book is the only truth for 90’s kids.

    Psychologically, we love to relive our good experiences over and over again if opportunity is there.

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