All over the world and especially in India, it is believed that the parents want the best for their child. While that may be true for a large number of parents, there are some who this may not be true for.
There are two main reasons for this:
One is that there is a huge difference between what parents think might be best for the child and what is actually good.
The second reason that the parent is unable to control their emotional issues and despite knowing what is good for the child are not able to provide it.
Although there are many emotional problems that an adult can have, many do get noticed and hopefully this means that parents get help and treatment before it escalates to the level that it may harm the child. However, anger and depression go unnoticed for a very long time. People think that the child’s naughtiness or problems are causing the parent to be angry. However, the likelihood of not only having an emotional problem but also giving it to your child due to social interactions is quite high.
So are you wondering if you fall in this category?
Then look at some of the questions below:
- Is your child scared to speak his mind with you?
- Do you beat your child very often?
- When you are angry at the child, is it in proportion to the error or mistake they made?
- Do you take any efforts to reconcile with a child after yelling at them?
- Is your child also starting to show signs or angry or sad mood for long periods of time?
- Does your child have his meals on time?
- Does your child have his books, toys and other materials as and when he needs them?
If you answered yes to any of the first five questions and no to the last two, there may be a cause for concern. It is likely that you did know till today that you had any issues, and you probably got it from your own parents’ faulty style of parenting too. Anger and depression can interfere with relationships making them strained and brittle.
It’s still not too late. If you identify yourself as a parent who may be angry, depressed or otherwise emotionally affected, now is the time to make it better. Remember, it’s not just a question of your health, but your relationship with your child as well as significant others. Relationships at both work and home with get better if you work on this.
The best way to deal with emotional concerns is to see a counselor or psychologist who works in these areas. It is better to go to someone who specialize in parent-child relationships. Just self-help books or articles over the internet will not solve the problem completely. It is imperative that you work on yourself and on the relationship you have with the child – with an expert and actively undo the damage that’s been done.
Please feel free to ask questions and post comments.