“I fear I will not be able to achieve a significant grade this time as well in my entrance, and this will be my last chance as my father has warned”, Anonymous student.
With increasing competition in academic and professional fields, pressure on young students is also increasing.
Everyone is striving for the best place and if you have to survive in the race and reach a commonplace sustainability, you have to be better than the great.
Your scores in your entrance exams will decide your rank and eventually where you will get placed. Gradually organizations are shrinking from doing any form of career counselling in the colleges and it is yet another form of pressure.
Everybody is an engineer today; a software worker so you have to score really exceptional even for a moderate professional position. There is a lot of expectation on these tender minds; of their parents; of their teachers and of society. Choices and options are getting limited day by day and huge masses are thronging in one or two particular kinds of career scopes. Often this is leading to disillusionment and despair. Students are following a channel blindly not knowing what they want to do.
When these young people fail to reach the expected results, or even if they are afraid that they will score lesser than what they have pre-assessed, they lose hope and this is the cause of suicide attempt among fresh students especially in medical and engineering sectors.
Recently, another disheartening incident of alleged suicide was found in Kota where a 17-year old IIT aspirant jumped from the fifth floor of building because she couldn’t meet her expectations with IIT-JEE Mains results. The case has been reported in Jawharnagar police station. This is the fifth consecutive case of suicide in Kota this year and this is not only shocking but really fearsome that neither colleges, government nor the law of the country is being able to take a protective action. The trend is gradually spreading like an epidemic.
Suicidal thoughts can be terrifying, isolating, all-consuming, confusing or exhausting due to loss, grief, depression, anxiety, tension and other regular impressionable factors.
They can be identified with weight loss, change in appetite, fatigue, disillusionment, disconnect with physical body, lack of motivation and denial of health.
You can keep yourself away from such thoughts by focussing on the following:
- Stay away from drugs and alcohol.
- View something which you like; a good picture or family album; or maybe you can have something which you enjoy like chocolate or smell a goof perfume or just look outside to see the blessed Nature.
- Keep yourself motivated with healthy diet and lifestyle, good books and productive work (beyond profession or academics)
- Write down your thoughts
- Talk to people.
Apart from the general ideas, healthy counselling can really help in removing suicidal thoughts.
Suicidal thoughts are most commonly addressed using a relatively new form of counselling known as DBT - dialectical behaviour therapy. DBT is a specially adapted form of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). It applies two different techniques:
- acceptance techniques
- change techniques.
Acceptance techniques focus on making sense of who you are and what you do. It aims to show you that no matter how destructive your behaviour is, it still makes sense - it is still a valid coping mechanism.
Change techniques focus on ways you can change your behaviour and learn more effective, less destructive ways of coping with your distress. You will learn to replace destructive behaviours with behaviours that allow you to move on to a better place in life.
These sessions may last a couple of hours per week depending on the criticality of your situation.
Counselling can help a person regain self-confidence and generally here a patient learns how to deal with crisis periods rather than succumbing to distress and fate.
You can free yourself from the panic and tension without using medicines or any lingering drug. Counselling helps you settle with your situation and identify your true potentials which helps you accept yourself and gradually you learn to be better from what you are.
For this purpose, eWellness Expert goes beyond their online portal to help young students in schools and colleges with their weekly and bi-weekly personal visits.
These kind of counselling provisions at educational institutions and academic organizations can actually foster better mental health of youngsters and consequentially develop better results in group.
Youth is the future of a nation and they are really precious and valuable so instead of forcing them into unrealistic expectations, we should try and recover their productive minds.
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