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  • 07 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    A new PHOBIA in Bollywood- Celebrities with different Phobias.

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    The latest Bollywood buzz after Hrithik-Kangana #ColdWar is around the upcoming 2016 movie Phobia.

    It is a psychological thriller featuring Radhika Apte in the prime role. The film has been directed by Pawan Kirpalani and the plot evolves with a girl who is a serious patient of Agoraphobia, and she fears to get out as she imagines that even if she leaves the house for once, she will have to face the same heinous, brutal incident which had happened with her, one night. She locks herself up in her house, always anxious and panicked that someone might trespass and gradually she starts feeling unsafe in the house itself. What was the incident? What was her fear? The film will answer these questions on the 27th of May this year.

    We have spoken about Agoraphobia, its symptoms and curing remedies in one of our previous articles. It is a generic fear where a person avoids crowded places, roads, traffic etc. he or she is in perpetual anxiety for safety reasons.

    The film will be more informative and probably will increase our awareness on the particular mental blockage.

    Eros International is presenting the movie and hence recently they are coming up with some interesting information on real life celebrities who are phobic too, as a part of their promotion.

    You must be wondering, ‘what! Celebs and phobia! Impossible’.

    Generally, we view our Bollywood celebrities as ideal, perfect and undaunted. They can have no flaws; they just have the perfect behaviour; the perfect look and the perfect talk that anyone could desire. However, film stars are normal human beings like us; they have their own fears and panics; they have their own sorrows and difficulties and all the glamour and limelight in the world cannot overpower their personal emotions and sentiments. They are beings of flesh and blood and they feel the same as we do. Yes, they are afraid. Let’s find out with eWellness Expert, something more about these celebrity phobias.

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    • The bold and brave Vidya Balan who has astounded all of us with her bold and impactful performances in #TheDirtyPicture and #Kahaani is actually afraid of cats. Its funny but true. The apparently fearless actress (who seems unmoved by the biggest hurdles and controversies) actually screams away when a cat is nearby. This is called Ailurophobia or Gatophobia, where ‘gato’ means cat in Spanish.

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    • Katrina Kaif is having a panic with tomatoes. Imagine! The harmless, almost seedless, round luscious juicy tomatoes can scare somebody, surprising. Lycopersicoaphobia has been identified by Psychologist Peter Hayward, who has had 25 years of experience in treating phobias. It is rare, but some cases have been discovered recently. Lauren Dodd, a 21-year-old student at Newcastle University, is so terrified of the red stuff she feels sick whenever she sees it - and when a friend accidentally squirted her with some ketchup, she almost fainted.

       So now you can understand what pain the Indo-British actress had to go through while performing the Tomatina festival scene in #ZindagiNaMilegiDobara.

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    • Johnny Depp, our captain Jack Sparrow is afraid of clowns, the funny creatures which entertain kids in beautiful birthday parties. However, he overcomes his phobia to play his best as #TheMadHatter in the upcoming popular fairy story drama, Alice Through The Looking Glass

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    • Glamourous #Fashionista of Bollywood, Sonam Kapoor is afraid of elevators. It can be associated with Agoraphobia or claustrophobia. Any past incident of getting stuck in a lift can be the cause of this fear where one dissuades from getting into the lift.
    • Jennifer Aniston is phobic towards flying in an aeroplane which is called aerophobia.

    It is funny that celebs who mostly have to take flights day and night, are phobic towards it.

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    • Shah Rukh Khan is afraid of horses. So now that we know it, the next time we see him in a horse riding scene, we will barely call him a #Baazigar.

    We also have Nicole Kidman and Celina Jaitley who are scared of butterflies which is Lepidopterophobia, Arjun Kapoor is phobic of a ceiling fan which is very essential in this tormenting heat, and #JuniorBachchan is scared of fruits.

    Hence, if you are abnormally scared of something, don’t worry, you are sailing in the same boat as your beloved Bollywood stars :) In fact, take the examples where they fight their fear and give brilliant performances on screen to motivate yourself in driving off your phobia.

    We are all looking forward to the movie Phobia because its trailors are already spine chilling and scary; we want to know more about fear because fear gives us adventure and thrill.

    Remember, fear is healthy, but panic is nasty.

  • 03 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    Psychology Behind Dangerous Stunt Craze- Need For Channelizing The Courage In Youth

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    The craze of posting selfies is breaking all limit chains these days and a major factor behind this is web popularity proposed by social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter.

    The youth generally gets attracted to do crazy stuffs to gain overnight popularity and self-publicity.

    For e.g. YouTube is flooded with videos showing people engaging in hyper-active sports like #WellOfDeath.

    Sometimes guys are seen crossing railway tracks just before the train passes through that spot.

    Often these stunts are influenced from their favourite Hollywood and Bollywood films where they admire their heroes doing the stunts and just want to imitate them. Young people believe that their heroes are their role models and they should learn from them, hence ‘if they can do something, we should also do it’, that is what the thought process is like.

    That is the reason these days, movies come with disclaimer that ‘please do not imitate the dangerous stunts at home; they have been performed under expert supervision’, but so much of effort is also not being able to solve the situation.

    David Nuno became the latest teenager to die in a freak accident trying to duplicate a stunt he saw on YouTube called the "good kids' high,” in 2012.

    Just like in the video, Nuno was standing before he lost consciousness. When he fell forward, he crashed onto an empty drinking glass and broke it with his collarbone, allowing the shard to slice through his interior and exterior jugular arteries,” reports Sydney Lupkin from California.

    Today it is 2016 and the picture has not changed.

    Last Friday, a 14-year old Punjabi boy shot himself accidentally from his father’s pistol while posing for a selfie.

    The hunger for proving something extraordinary is eating away the youth day by day. Aggressive behaviour is overpowering the rational self.

    Learning and achieving is a gradual process, however, these days, youth want to achieve success overnight, hence these selfie posting tricks come forth along with other cheap publicity stunts. However, stunts can be as dangerous as life-taking.

    So how can the youth be inspired to channelize their energy and creativity in something productive?

    • Awareness should be increased where consequential results of such dangerous stunts should be discussed.
    • Youth counselling campaigns should be regulated in every school and college to understand their mental health issues and guide them in a proper direction.
    • Children should be engaged in more productive activities which will employ brain work like puzzle solving, mathematics, simulation gaming etc., so that they can utilise more of intelligence in learning useful things.
    • Parents should guide their children to read more books rather than watching cartoons; reading helps in wisdom development.

    However, Government is also responsible for controlling the youth. Anybody found performing such dangerous stunts should be fined and penalized with law. You can stop notorious activities with money seize control.

  • 03 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    How can we save the students?- A case reflection on Kota Suicide Incidents

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    “I fear I will not be able to achieve a significant grade this time as well in my entrance, and this will be my last chance as my father has warned”, Anonymous student.

    With increasing competition in academic and professional fields, pressure on young students is also increasing.

    Everyone is striving for the best place and if you have to survive in the race and reach a commonplace sustainability, you have to be better than the great.

    Your scores in your entrance exams will decide your rank and eventually where you will get placed. Gradually organizations are shrinking from doing any form of career counselling in the colleges and it is yet another form of pressure.

    Everybody is an engineer today; a software worker so you have to score really exceptional even for a moderate professional position. There is a lot of expectation on these tender minds; of their parents; of their teachers and of society. Choices and options are getting limited day by day and huge masses are thronging in one or two particular kinds of career scopes. Often this is leading to disillusionment and despair. Students are following a channel blindly not knowing what they want to do.

    When these young people fail to reach the expected results, or even if they are afraid that they will score lesser than what they have pre-assessed, they lose hope and this is the cause of suicide attempt among fresh students especially in medical and engineering sectors.

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    Recently, another disheartening incident of alleged suicide was found in Kota where a 17-year old IIT aspirant jumped from the fifth floor of building because she couldn’t meet her expectations with IIT-JEE Mains results. The case has been reported in Jawharnagar police station. This is the fifth consecutive case of suicide in Kota this year and this is not only shocking but really fearsome that neither colleges, government nor the law of the country is being able to take a protective action. The trend is gradually spreading like an epidemic.

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    Suicidal thoughts can be terrifying, isolating, all-consuming, confusing or exhausting due to loss, grief, depression, anxiety, tension and other regular impressionable factors.

    They can be identified with weight loss, change in appetite, fatigue, disillusionment, disconnect with physical body, lack of motivation and denial of health.

    You can keep yourself away from such thoughts by focussing on the following:

    • Stay away from drugs and alcohol.
    • View something which you like; a good picture or family album; or maybe you can have something which you enjoy like chocolate or smell a goof perfume or just look outside to see the blessed Nature.
    • Keep yourself motivated with healthy diet and lifestyle, good books and productive work (beyond profession or academics)
    • Write down your thoughts
    • Talk to people.

    Apart from the general ideas, healthy counselling can really help in removing suicidal thoughts.

    Suicidal thoughts are most commonly addressed using a relatively new form of counselling known as DBT -  dialectical behaviour therapy. DBT is a specially adapted form of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). It applies two different techniques:

    • acceptance techniques
    • change techniques.

    Acceptance techniques focus on making sense of who you are and what you do. It aims to show you that no matter how destructive your behaviour is, it still makes sense - it is still a valid coping mechanism.

    Change techniques focus on ways you can change your behaviour and learn more effective, less destructive ways of coping with your distress. You will learn to replace destructive behaviours with behaviours that allow you to move on to a better place in life.

    These sessions may last a couple of hours per week depending on the criticality of your situation.

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    Counselling can help a person regain self-confidence and generally here a patient learns how to deal with crisis periods rather than succumbing to distress and fate.

    You can free yourself from the panic and tension without using medicines or any lingering drug. Counselling helps you settle with your situation and identify your true potentials which helps you accept yourself and gradually you learn to be better from what you are.

    For this purpose, eWellness Expert goes beyond their online portal to help young students in schools and colleges with their weekly and bi-weekly personal visits.

    These kind of counselling provisions at educational institutions and academic organizations can actually foster better mental health of youngsters and consequentially develop better results in group.

    Youth is the future of a nation and they are really precious and valuable so instead of forcing them into unrealistic expectations, we should try and recover their productive minds.

    We at eWellness Expert want to offer all kind of help and support. If you are a student feeling low or  parents of such an student or coaching owner and want to help your students, please feel free to reach us on support@ewellnessexpert.com or +9180-49545127

     

  • 01 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    Morning Shows The Day- May Be It shows You Life

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    ‘Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise’

    It is a very old proverb we learnt in schools; our parents often kept advising us. However, we never really understood the connection between waking up and getting wealthy.

    Morning is powerful. The way you embrace the early morning, will determine how you feel the rest of the day. If you begin the day early you will be able to assess various things that you have done in your past days; realize your mistakes in rumination and progress with a corrective approach.

    Waking up early stretches the day for you and you have a lot of time for planned works. You can also invest some time on yourself, and that is very important. There should be enough passing seconds for worshipping your body and find so that you stay fit and can endure with the pressures of the day.

    Morning hours help you set the time table for the day. You can also get some extra time to practice your skills when you wake up early; may be brush up your wisdom tooth a little extra time.

    The author of ‘The Miracle Morning’, Hal Elrod believes that waking up early had actually changes his life 360 degrees.

    “I was just desperate,’ says Hal on the phone from his home on the West Coast of America. ‘I’d lost my house and half my income, and was really struggling financially, emotionally and physically.  One day I started thinking about what the world’s most successful people were doing every day that I wasn’t.

    'I’d read that the thing that they all have in common is that they swear by their morning ritual: they all wake up before they have to be up and work on themselves”, Elrod agrees.

    The very effective SAVERS contributes to a healthy body and mind which eventually leads to a successful career and work structure.

    According to Elrod:

    S is for silence- this means a kind of a meditation which will be purposeful. A kind of mindfulness which will awaken your senses and relieve you from anxiety and depressive thoughts.

    A is for affirmation- having a fixed goal is important. You should clear about what you actually want in life and how you want to do it. May be a self-conversation can help you set your objective.

    V is for visualization- After you have set your goal for the day and have clearly decided on what you want to do, you should sit upright and set a mind’s eye on your idyllic existence, where you accomplish every task in the day within a prescribed time. This automatically boosts you to get to work.

    E is for exercise- It has often been discussed that exercise is a very important part of your daily life activity if you want to be fit especially in the mind. Mental wellness largely depends on exercise. When you release yourself from the physical fatigue and heaviness of the night, you feel free mentally. Exercise works as a stress buster and you can overcome the lagging headaches from the previous day.

    R is for reading- Creating a reading habit in the beginning of the day is a very good practise. Anything new can be easily imbibed when the mind is fresh. Reading can come in any form to you. you have books and articles on everything nowadays. If you want to achieve success in business you have articles giving you tips on that; if you want to be good in relationship, you have books on that. Precisely if you want to be entertained you can just go through page 3 articles, however, reading is important to learn.

    S is for scribing that is journaling- Reading is connected with writing. You can jot down anything that you find important for the day. May be your daily plan or something new that you have learnt about or just your goal for the life and the steps with which you want to achieve it (may be one step a day)

    10 minutes on each of these per day can help you build a successful movement towards your dream or goal in life.

     

    But making a good habit a part of your life is not so easy. You require a deep sense of commitment to make a practise a habit. We have earlier discussed in one of our previous articles on ’21-days theory’ which in recent times has turned to be a myth for habit formation. There are a few things that can help if we really want to succeed. None of us likes waking up early. So what can we do?

    1. We can set a time previously and commit to ourselves that we will wake up at that time.
    2. We should set the alarm and put it somewhere far from us, so that we have to literally move across the room to dismiss it and we will naturally be motivated to wake up.
    3. Immediate morning activities can help gaining more movement and energy.
    4. Getting ready for workout is also a challenge. So without a thought we should plunge into our jogging suits so that there is no delay in the activity.
    5. If too sleepy, we should have water to revive us from our tiredness.
    6. Then we should make ourself lemon tea or a cup of coffee to start reading.

    “So, I started doing it every day. Two months after my first “Miracle Morning” I had more than doubled my income; gone from being in terrible shape to deciding to run a 52-mile ultra-marathon; and from being deeply depressed to the happiest I have ever been.” Says Elrod.

    He continues his practise and his book is among one of the bestsellers on Amazon.

    So start the ‘miracle morning’ from tomorrow itself and gradually forward towards a bigger achievement.

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  • 29 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    Can Arranged Marriages Be Marked As Successful Relationships?

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    In our Indian culture, a big fat wedding takes place with the grandeur of gold and diamonds; with the sweetness of 55 varieties of high calorie sugar treats and 200 expensive orchid branches, however, the key components- bride and the groom are often lost in all this hoch poch and hence they are made to shine with the best designer sherwani and the best saree or lehenga for THE DAY. Also they should be remembered by everyone and themselves for centuries, so they are shot in multiple poses by the best photographers in town.

    Now after so much expenditure and cost settlement, which fool will ever dare to forget or ‘care’ less for ‘the day’ or partner even though they do not know each other!

    In other words, marriage in India is a thought embedded by the society through its rituals and customs and once you are through the fire circles, you are bound to be committed not only to your partner but to his/her entire family.

    Hence arranged marriages in India have their own history and perhaps for our previous generations, they marked 90% success rate.

    However, this percentage is slowly falling. Modern day relationships including marriage, is failing in keeping up the stronghold on future, be it in India or abroad.

    Places like America is less likely to be successful in setting a trend with arranged marriages because of certain reasons like:

    • Independent thought process in case of personal choice.
    • Dominance of romantic love as a cause for marriage.
    • A lack of history and cultural background for arranged marriages.
    • A lack of community support in pursuing such a thing as getting married first and love later.

    However, in this context, India is leading as arranged marriages have been the only truth 100 years from now, and even today, society gets you hitched to someone approximately suitable, at a particular age if you are unable to find a match for yourself by then. Yes, today you are given the scope to look out for your choice at least, and that is the only difference.

    The concept of arranged marriages are so popular in India due to the following reasons:

    • Cultural belief in the purity and sanctity of marriage- marriage is considered to be the gate pass for any other form of physical or emotional contact between two persons, hence marriage should take place first and then love should develop. In fact, love between unmarried people were considered to be a crime till one point of time.

     

    • Rationally, two unknown persons starting off a new life together seems thrilling- when two unknown people get married and start a new life together, they tend to discover the experiences together. They share the joy and sorrow of each new moment which is unexpected and unexperienced by both. You discover about each other; you discover about the relationship. There is a mystery; there is a newness; an adventure; it is like a thrilling joy ride when you get something unwarranted every moment hence you enjoy the marital life.

     

    • Lot of gifts and present exchanges- arranged marriages give the families scope for exchanging gifts and presents so they are happy too.

     

    • Fore selection by parents- in the Indian culture, man and woman do not choose partners, their parents do it for them; that is the right thing; respect is inevitably maintained.

    The practice continues even today, however, no form of marriage love, or arranged, cannot guarantee the success rate of the relationship.

    We have discussed the cultural benefits of arranged marriage in our country as compared to that of America, however, there are several standard reasons why an arranged marriage is sure to fall apart in today’s date even in India, where societal boycott for breaking commitment no longer remains a concern for couples to maintain a love-lost relationship:

    • Arranged marriage calls for commitment; for care and responsibility. But we wonder whom to care for? The other person whom we are married to is kind of a stranger. We do not share any strong emotional ties initially, so why to care! The person we have to care for, we realise we do not know him/her. That causes a kind of duality in thought.

     

    • We do not want to make the compromises or try hard for the person whom we just don’t know. Any relationship calls for a certain amount of compromises. You have to try really hard to make a relationship work amidst misunderstandings and differences in opinions. We want to try when we love the person, but why should someone try at all if he or she doesn’t care?

     

    • The closeness created by an arranged marriage is not something that you can rely on. It can thrill you instantly, however, the tie is less likely to survive a fatal disaster in the face of relationship.

     

    • When there are hard times, an arranged marriage couple feels each other, as burden.

     

    • Friendship takes time to develop. Knowing each other becomes a slow process in case of arranged marriages and people do not have that amount of time today.

     

    • Also marrying for the sake of marrying and not marrying the specific person is a kind of insult to the partner, and when this fact comes up time and again, neither of the partner, complies to it and arguments and misunderstanding start off.

    Success of a relationship, especially marriage lies on commitment and understanding. It is upto you whether you develop that understanding with love or with marriage first. It also depends on your holistic approach towards relationships.

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