• 12 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    How to cope with suicidal tendencies?

    Suicide tendencies

    Are you planning to commit suicide?

    Please go through the following instruction manual before proceeding. 

    Are you tired of your life, bored with your work, depressed that your ex-lover has ditched you, and want to commit suicide? Wait a minute, what’s the rush! Let’s know about some people and their stories.

    John Michael Ozzy Osbourne is an English singer and musician, also a lyricist, and also a television personality. He came into prominence with his vocalist band, Black Sabbath. Osbourne himself acknowledges, that he has been into severe depression, and has tried to kill himself several times, when he was 14 years old. But he recovered from his mental state with a positive spirit, and developed his popularity over the years. The total sale of his albums with Black Sabbath, along with his solo works number to about 100 million, and that is too huge a count for any singer.

    But perhaps his love for suicide has led to the composition of the song, “Suicide Solution”, but nevertheless, Osbourne is a focused person today, and cannot remember why he had this absurd tendency in his teenage years.

    “I was sitting in my car, and I knew the gas was coming when I had an image of my mother finding me," Oscar winner actress, Halle Berry, tells the magazine. She refers to her gruesome experience in marriage, which led to her attempt to suicide, in her interview to Parade Magazine. However, her will power, her love for her family, helped her redeem self-love and love for life.

    So now you know, that celebrities, whose lives appear sparkling as the starry night, perhaps is not so glorious. They have common tendencies like we do. They suffer from same victimizing mental illness that affects us commons.


    Why people commit suicide?

    Suicidal tendency is a habit.

    • It can come from depression.
    • Attempt to suicide comes in you, when you cannot find a solution to a problem, and ending yourself seems the only option.
    • Sometimes, people use attempt to suicide, as a weapon to blackmail someone. 

    How to deal with this?

    • Develop love for yourself and for others. Suicidal tendencies can attack you in a moment, but if you are strongly bonded to your family and loved ones, and have a high self-esteem, you will never commit it.
    • Keep objects that are harmful like scissors, knives, rat kills etc. away from your reach, if you feel you are having such tendencies.
    • Suicidal tendencies come, when you think there is no solution to a problem. Think again, suicide cannot be the solution. Infact, if your attempt fails, you are left with utter embarrassment.
    • Whenever you think of suicide, think of its consequences, like pain, dirt, dinge, then your focus will shift.
    • You probably can’t see for a solution, but solution will come. Till then motivate yourself to live. Grab some new passion like painting, music, or handicraft, and start the new work on it. Set a goal, that you will finish the work, before you die. By the time you finish your work, your will for suicide will die down, in your new passion and love for your acquired hobby.
    • Learn to appreciate life. Turn to photography, take clicks of people and nature, or anything that has life. Your vision towards it will change. Through the lens of your camera, you will see many who are more fortunate, many who are much lesser than you, then you will feel lucky that you have atleast some good things with you still. The beauty of nature around you will inspire you to live longer, breathe longer.
    • Worship your body everyday. Engage yourself in yoga or some form of exercise. Keep yourself neat and clean, make it a habit, a ritual. Then you will never think of harming your body.

    Keeping humour and positivity within you is the best self-help. But even if that doesn’t work much for you, try consulting a good Doctor who can also be your friend. Most of the causes for suicidal tendency, have cure, you have to will for the treatment.


  • 13 Sep
    Jennifer Scott

    Beneficial Habits for Those with Bipolar Disorder



    Living with bipolar is often like living a lifelong roller coaster ride. And though bipolar disorder cannot be cured, it can be very efficiently managed with medications and positive practices.


    While seeking treatment from a doctor is critical, you can begin to stabilize yourself with a few good habits that can help limit the symptoms of bipolar. I recently helped a friend diagnosed with bipolar disorder — I, myself, have struggled with depression for many years — experiment with a few of these positive habits, and we made some exciting progress. Here are a few changes we tried and that you may want to consider if you’re struggling with bipolar symptoms.


    Set a Consistent Daily Routine


    Even people without mental illness benefit from routine. The human brain naturally seeks consistency in our daily schedule and is far happier when it can find it. For people who are living with a mental illness such as bipolar disorder, it becomes even more important to create and stick to a set routine. When bipolar people experience a shift or disturbance of their routine, they become more at risk for an episode.


    Some key aspects of a good daily routine include a sleep schedule, a work schedule, set mealtimes, scheduled exercise time, and regularly scheduled social time. We found that although the first few days or weeks of such a schedule can be quite the adjustment, once your body and mind have become accustomed, you will see stabilization in your moods. Though my friend still sees the occasional episode, she said that the consistency of knowing exactly what to expect each day — and when to expect it — has kept her on top of her schedule and eliminated a lot of unnecessary anxiety.


    Engage in Stress-Reducing Activities


    Excess stress can trigger episodes, meaning reducing your stress is key to coping with your illness. While avoidance of stress altogether is best, it isn’t exactly feasible. Instead, schedule some time for stress-reducing activities like coloring, meditation, and exercise. Yoga is a great way to fit both meditation and exercise into one session. We combined steps one and two here, adding a weekly yoga class into our set schedules so we never have to worry about “having time” for it. Swimming is also a great form of exercise and has a meditative quality.


    And if you have a four-legged friend, spend a little extra time with them. Doing so can help boost your mood and reduce anxiety and stress. Or if you want to make a little money while you’re eliminating some stress from your life, you might try your hand at dog walking or pet sitting. Both options will allow you to take advantage of the mental health benefits that being around dogs can provide and will also boost your income in the process.


    Track your Mood Swings


    With the help of a loved one, it can be extremely helpful to your doctor if you take the time to track your moods every day. Identifying a pattern or potential triggers can aid your doctor’s attempts to stabilize your disorder and make daily life easier.


    Of course, it can be very difficult to track your own moods as you may not recognize when you are having an episode. Have a trusted loved one help take notes on your moods and behaviors throughout the day. Enlisting the help of a trusted friend or family member can improve your ability to recognize symptoms as well as manic or depressive episodes in time as you learn triggers and other signs that point to an exacerbation of your symptoms. There are even mood tracking apps if you prefer a technological approach as we do. We like having access on our phones so we never have to worry about forgetting a notebook at home, plus it adds a little discretion, especially at work — coworkers might notice you have a special notebook you always write in after a bad meeting, but they probably won’t think much of it if they see you on your phone.


    Living with bipolar disorder is no easy task for you or those around you. The best way to guarantee a normal, well-rounded life is to seek advice and treatment from a doctor. A counselor can also be very beneficial in mitigating the effects of the disease.


    In the meantime, you can be doing a number of things to ease your way into normalcy such as exercising, limiting stress, and keeping close track of your moods and episodes. If you engage in these positive behaviors, you also reduce your risk of addiction while simultaneously smoothing any hardships in your personal relationships. Experiment with a few different methods to discover what works best for you.


    Jennifer Scott experiences anxiety and depression on a regular basis. She started SpiritFinder.org in order to tell her story and empower others to share theirs. In her free time, she loves to write, study fashion, and spend time with animals.

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  • 10 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    Agoraphobia-How to deal with your anxiety?


    Phobia means ‘fear’. They are lots and lots in number, and new kinds are being discovered each day, because human mind is so complex, and each one of us is filled with one or the other phobia. Generally, we do not even acknowledge them as fear at all, because they are so common behaviours. Like fear of cockroaches, or lizards, it is so common, and often tagged as womanly fears, or getting scared when light goes off, these are very common, and we do not acknowledge them as problem, but each one is a kind of phobia, and has its causatives, and if treated properly, can ensure better mental health.


    Agoraphobia’ is an anxiety disorder, where a person feels anxious in situations, which he feels is dangerous, or unsafe.

    A place which has huge crowd like airports, market places, malls and theatres can make an agoraphobic, feel that he is unsafe there. Some danger can suddenly attack them.

    This phobia is termed as a sub category of panic disorder, but evidences suggest, that implying a casual relationship between panic attack and Agoraphobia, is not so correct.

    The term "agoraphobia" was coined by the German psychiatrist Carl Friedrich Otto Westphal, from Greek ἀγορά, meaning "large public square/marketplace" and -φοβία, -phobia, meaning "fear".

    Symptoms of panic attack in applied situations, may include palpitation, rapid increase in heart rate, sweating or uncontrolled emotional behaviour. Severity may lead to vomiting, trembling, nausea and dizziness. Generally, such attacks last for 10 to 15 minutes, with maximum extent of 30 minutes.

    Agoraphobia can be caused due to excessive stress, or as a side effect of some other disorder. A patient of agoraphobia, has low vestibular functioning rate, and depends mostly on visual cues. It can be caused due to high usage of sleeping pills as well.



    • People try taking safety measures, for protecting themselves from danger. ‘Safety measures’ refer to the instinctive actions and behaviour that people generally do, thinking that can protect them from their illusionary danger. The unsafe part is in your mind, and panic cannot make you safer. ‘Safety’ itself is an illusion in this case, and a part of the problem itself. To overcome the problem or fear, first get rid of your safety measures.


    • Do not avoid large open spaces. Try visiting more of malls, markets and airports, watch the flights soar. Avoiding these places will only deepen the fear within you.


    • Acknowledging that the problem is in you, and not in the situation is important. Once you know, that airplanes, and airports are not actually dangerous, but the feeling of danger is a fear within you, you can take measures towards cure of this.


    • Face your fear. Practice your phobic situation more often. Medical help can push you towards this goal, but it cannot instantly remove your fear. Be determined that you want to overcome your fear.


    • Firstly, you should learn how to calm down when you have these panic attacks, control your senses, relax your nerves. Try it with your courage. (Each one of us, have some in us, don’t worry.)


    • Do not use your car for saving a 2 min walk, because you have to cross the road. Walk down the crossing regularly, being alert and attentive to the traffic lights, so that you can follow the right signal for pedestrians. There is nothing to fear. Remember, no human being is going to intentionally hit you, for being jailed.

    Once you recover yourself,  you feel triumphant and that adds to your new mental health which is panic free, and outrageous to all environments.

    Please feel free to ask questions and post comments.

    -eWellness Expert

    Further reading: A new PHOBIA in Bollywood- Celebrities with different Phobias.

     References: 1 2 3

  • 07 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    A new PHOBIA in Bollywood- Celebrities with different Phobias.

    radhika apte phobia movie

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    The latest Bollywood buzz after Hrithik-Kangana #ColdWar is around the upcoming 2016 movie Phobia.

    It is a psychological thriller featuring Radhika Apte in the prime role. The film has been directed by Pawan Kirpalani and the plot evolves with a girl who is a serious patient of Agoraphobia, and she fears to get out as she imagines that even if she leaves the house for once, she will have to face the same heinous, brutal incident which had happened with her, one night. She locks herself up in her house, always anxious and panicked that someone might trespass and gradually she starts feeling unsafe in the house itself. What was the incident? What was her fear? The film will answer these questions on the 27th of May this year.

    We have spoken about Agoraphobia, its symptoms and curing remedies in one of our previous articles. It is a generic fear where a person avoids crowded places, roads, traffic etc. he or she is in perpetual anxiety for safety reasons.

    The film will be more informative and probably will increase our awareness on the particular mental blockage.

    Eros International is presenting the movie and hence recently they are coming up with some interesting information on real life celebrities who are phobic too, as a part of their promotion.

    You must be wondering, ‘what! Celebs and phobia! Impossible’.

    Generally, we view our Bollywood celebrities as ideal, perfect and undaunted. They can have no flaws; they just have the perfect behaviour; the perfect look and the perfect talk that anyone could desire. However, film stars are normal human beings like us; they have their own fears and panics; they have their own sorrows and difficulties and all the glamour and limelight in the world cannot overpower their personal emotions and sentiments. They are beings of flesh and blood and they feel the same as we do. Yes, they are afraid. Let’s find out with eWellness Expert, something more about these celebrity phobias.

    vidya balan fear of cat phobia

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    • The bold and brave Vidya Balan who has astounded all of us with her bold and impactful performances in #TheDirtyPicture and #Kahaani is actually afraid of cats. Its funny but true. The apparently fearless actress (who seems unmoved by the biggest hurdles and controversies) actually screams away when a cat is nearby. This is called Ailurophobia or Gatophobia, where ‘gato’ means cat in Spanish.

    katrnia kaif fear of tomato

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    • Katrina Kaif is having a panic with tomatoes. Imagine! The harmless, almost seedless, round luscious juicy tomatoes can scare somebody, surprising. Lycopersicoaphobia has been identified by Psychologist Peter Hayward, who has had 25 years of experience in treating phobias. It is rare, but some cases have been discovered recently. Lauren Dodd, a 21-year-old student at Newcastle University, is so terrified of the red stuff she feels sick whenever she sees it - and when a friend accidentally squirted her with some ketchup, she almost fainted.

       So now you can understand what pain the Indo-British actress had to go through while performing the Tomatina festival scene in #ZindagiNaMilegiDobara.

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    • Johnny Depp, our captain Jack Sparrow is afraid of clowns, the funny creatures which entertain kids in beautiful birthday parties. However, he overcomes his phobia to play his best as #TheMadHatter in the upcoming popular fairy story drama, Alice Through The Looking Glass

    sonam kapoor fear of elevators



    • Glamourous #Fashionista of Bollywood, Sonam Kapoor is afraid of elevators. It can be associated with Agoraphobia or claustrophobia. Any past incident of getting stuck in a lift can be the cause of this fear where one dissuades from getting into the lift.
    • Jennifer Aniston is phobic towards flying in an aeroplane which is called aerophobia.

    It is funny that celebs who mostly have to take flights day and night, are phobic towards it.

    shah rukh khan fear of horses

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    • Shah Rukh Khan is afraid of horses. So now that we know it, the next time we see him in a horse riding scene, we will barely call him a #Baazigar.

    We also have Nicole Kidman and Celina Jaitley who are scared of butterflies which is Lepidopterophobia, Arjun Kapoor is phobic of a ceiling fan which is very essential in this tormenting heat, and #JuniorBachchan is scared of fruits.

    Hence, if you are abnormally scared of something, don’t worry, you are sailing in the same boat as your beloved Bollywood stars :) In fact, take the examples where they fight their fear and give brilliant performances on screen to motivate yourself in driving off your phobia.

    We are all looking forward to the movie Phobia because its trailors are already spine chilling and scary; we want to know more about fear because fear gives us adventure and thrill.

    Remember, fear is healthy, but panic is nasty.

  • 03 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    Psychology Behind Dangerous Stunt Craze- Need For Channelizing The Courage In Youth

     dangerous stunt craze

    The craze of posting selfies is breaking all limit chains these days and a major factor behind this is web popularity proposed by social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter.

    The youth generally gets attracted to do crazy stuffs to gain overnight popularity and self-publicity.

    For e.g. YouTube is flooded with videos showing people engaging in hyper-active sports like #WellOfDeath.

    Sometimes guys are seen crossing railway tracks just before the train passes through that spot.

    Often these stunts are influenced from their favourite Hollywood and Bollywood films where they admire their heroes doing the stunts and just want to imitate them. Young people believe that their heroes are their role models and they should learn from them, hence ‘if they can do something, we should also do it’, that is what the thought process is like.

    That is the reason these days, movies come with disclaimer that ‘please do not imitate the dangerous stunts at home; they have been performed under expert supervision’, but so much of effort is also not being able to solve the situation.

    David Nuno became the latest teenager to die in a freak accident trying to duplicate a stunt he saw on YouTube called the "good kids' high,” in 2012.

    Just like in the video, Nuno was standing before he lost consciousness. When he fell forward, he crashed onto an empty drinking glass and broke it with his collarbone, allowing the shard to slice through his interior and exterior jugular arteries,” reports Sydney Lupkin from California.

    Today it is 2016 and the picture has not changed.

    Last Friday, a 14-year old Punjabi boy shot himself accidentally from his father’s pistol while posing for a selfie.

    The hunger for proving something extraordinary is eating away the youth day by day. Aggressive behaviour is overpowering the rational self.

    Learning and achieving is a gradual process, however, these days, youth want to achieve success overnight, hence these selfie posting tricks come forth along with other cheap publicity stunts. However, stunts can be as dangerous as life-taking.

    So how can the youth be inspired to channelize their energy and creativity in something productive?

    • Awareness should be increased where consequential results of such dangerous stunts should be discussed.
    • Youth counselling campaigns should be regulated in every school and college to understand their mental health issues and guide them in a proper direction.
    • Children should be engaged in more productive activities which will employ brain work like puzzle solving, mathematics, simulation gaming etc., so that they can utilise more of intelligence in learning useful things.
    • Parents should guide their children to read more books rather than watching cartoons; reading helps in wisdom development.

    However, Government is also responsible for controlling the youth. Anybody found performing such dangerous stunts should be fined and penalized with law. You can stop notorious activities with money seize control.

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