• 06 Jun
    Oyindrila Basu

    Psychological tricks to help you progress in life.

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    Psychology is a vast and devious thing. Mind control is an art; applied on yourself or on others.

    It would be so much fun if we could have people following the same things as we do, or agreeing to whatever we propose; it would be so good if people would actually do what we want them to do sometimes, with or without knowing.

    If that can happen, it will be solving so much problems and arguments in our politics; also the Government will be spared of all those dog fights in the Houses while passing a Bill.

    Let’s just imagine that our parents gladly agree to our college trips without us having to convince them much, or may be shopping becomes a dream come true every weekend, wouldn’t that be wonderful!

    It is not so difficult to get things done; a few tricks can actually help; you just need to know the right thing to be input at the right time.

    Let’s look at a few tips:

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    • Nodding your head while asking a question will make the other person more inclined to agree with you.

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    • If you want to get rid of an object that you are carrying while going with someone, you can keep talking with the other person, while handing over the object to him/her. He or she will most often take it without a question. (The other person’s brain will be engrossed in the subject of the conversation, and the object won’t generally distract him or her; remember, brain can receive only a few information at a time.)

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    • If you feel irritated that someone is looking at you, pretend to look at your watch; if the other person is actually looking at you, he/she will definitely look at his/her watch to find out what you are paying attention to.

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    • If someone wants to get to have others attending him/her, or sympathizing with him/her all the time, he/she mostly presents self as a ‘poor fellow’. Such people are often found saying “why this always happens to me,” “I am a doomed person,” etc. so that you feel that their misfortune is graver than yours and you try to attend them even if with a negative attitude.

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    • Reasoning persuades reasonable people. If you want to get your Xerox done first, rather than saying, “I have only 2 copies”, say that “I want to use the machine first because I am in tremendous hurry”. An experiment found that 90% of the people will let you proceed in first, in a queue if you use ‘because’, i.e. you are giving a proper reason for your cause. (Though I have no idea whether it works in our Indian culture. :))

    If you are aware of these transactional patterns, you can actually use them in your favour. Once you have an idea of how the other person will react in a situation, you can actually prevent many quarrels and arguments for the good; make others agree with you and bear a coherent relationship with everyone around you, which can actually help you progress in life. 

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  • 02 Jun
    Oyindrila Basu

    We remember uncompleted tasks better than completed tasks.


     “11.00 pm sharp. Reema finishes packing her bags, and rushes in front of the television to switch to Star Plus. Her mother is very angry because it is quite late, and she should go to bed, because she has early morning school hours. But who cares! Reema ‘will sleep no more’ unless she has found out what has happened of Ishita in her favourite show."

    These days, popular cinema is constructed based on this psychology, so that we as audience do not forget the film. When episode in a TV show or serial ends on a query; for e.g. a dialogue or a conversation which never finishes and we are proceeded to preview the next episode, which means it ends unfinished, and the human brain naturally feels an urge to know what happens next.

    An unfinished work or episode or anything, often distracts the mind much more than what we are doing at present. Probably, it is in basic human nature to finish what we start; in fact, we are genetically modified to do so. Hence, if something ends at an inconclusive point, it attracts our attention; it pokes us at intervals and we are not at ease unless and until we are able to know the conclusion or solution.

    Often we have dreams at night, where we view a scattered story, which may be adventurous; for e.g. a dinosaurus is following you in the middle of nowhere. You are awakened from your dream with the shock and fear of getting trampled to death, but you feel an urge to go back to sleep again, because you want to know what happens at the end; do you win or the dinosaur, isn't it?

    When we do not finish what we start, we tend to remember it more; our memory preserves it, and that is often agitating to our present work which may be requires more effort.

    Baumeister & Bushman, 2008 defines the Zeigarnik Effect as the tendency to experience intrusive thoughts about an objective that was once pursued and left incomplete.

    The Zeigarnik effect suggests that students who suspend their study, during which they do unrelated activities (such as studying unrelated subjects or playing games), will remember material better than students who complete study sessions without a break (McKinney 1935; Zeigarnik, 1927).

    The automatic system signals the conscious mind, which may be focused on new goals, that a previous activity was left incomplete. We feel a kind of dissonance if we do not have the to-do list completed checked.


    There is a negative side to this.

    If a person is poked with the thoughts of his previous work, which was unfinished, he will find difficult to concentrate on the present task.

    Even if we complete our present work somehow, the unfinished chapters of the book, never give us a moment of peace or relaxation and that can be stressful.

    Relationships can be negatively affected if people do not forget their ex girl friends or boy-friends.


    How can you manage this dilemma?


    • Do not keep thinking and thinking.


    • Set your goals for the day, by making notes.


    • If you have a plan of finishing the previous work, time management is the best policy.


    • Set up a time table regularly, so that you know which time is scheduled for which task, hence you can go by it accordingly.


    • Use the drawback as an inspiration.


    • Zeigarnik Effect will remind you of your unfinished tasks; do not get stressed. It is good that you are still into it, hence go ahead and finish it, instead of slothing around. This will make you a man of firm personality and a conclusive nature.


    • In case of personal life, do not turn over the pages of a closed chapter. Futile attempts only lead to failure. So if something is useless, do not pursue that task, go ahead with the better works.


    • Mind exercise is the best way of self-control. Practise meditations to stop procrastinating.       

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  • 28 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    When Sitting down makes you unhappy, better to take the Stand!

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    The Teacher: Sit down kids; do not make a noise in the class.

    Children: Yes, mam.

    They all obey and sit down. The whole day these school children sit at their respective places in the classrooms from 8.a.m to 2.00 p.m. Six hours of formal education given by making them sit for so long. Is this discipline good? Let’s find out.

    A study of more than 3,300 government workers in Australia found that those who spent more than six hours of a typical workday seated were more likely to score in the moderate to high range on a test of psychological distress than those who sat fewer than three hours.

    This clearly proves that sitting down at a stretch for a long time can interfere with the performance of your body and brain, irrespective of the leisure time you are getting in some other time of the day.

    Today, our sedentary life style urges us to stick to our chairs and stare at our computer or laptop screen, effortlessly for hours to get the multitude of tasks done, because there is a deadline, a goal to meet; and the office hours for an individual are gradually increasing.

    In short, the tasks don’t finish and you do not quit your beloved friend, the chair. However, the chair can prove to be your deadliest enemy.

    Sitting at a place adds to your waistline, makes you obese, and can be the cause of Type 2 diabetes and heart diseases ranging from major to minor.

    But few of us know, that inactive lifestyle can also hinder the proper flow of blood into the brain and increases the risk for glitches in brain functioning.

    more than 75% cases of women’s depression result from constant sitting. Anxiety can arise from fixed position work-life.

    What can you do?

    • Try fetching your own coffee instead of ordering the peon.
    • Take a 2min walk at an interval of one hour during your work schedule, even if it is going to the next desk.
    • Raise yourself up from the chair as many times as possible.
    • Deep breathe, whenever you get some relaxation time during your work.
    • Try finding a half an hour break, during office hours every day, for exercise, meditation or evening walk.
    • Regular exercising at an hour of the day is mandatory.
  • 27 May

    Correlation between Mental Health and Weight Loss

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    Obesity is very common problem in today’s time due to hectic lifestyle and unhealthy eating habits. Obesity causes physical health problems such as diabetics, high blood pressures etc. It is also directly co-related with mental health problems. An obese person experiences up down in his mental state. There is a strong correlation between mental health and weight loss. Obesity causes depression and also impact the behaviour due to lack of confidence. It is not an easy task to lose weight. It requires lots of determination and hard work. Some of obese person are not able to cope up with rigid routine for weight loss. It leads to stress and other negative mental impact. Although, it became main cause of satisfaction, once you have lost weight.

    Mental Health Problems among Obese People

    Depression is always associated with obese person. They are not satisfied with their body image. They suffer from poor self esteem. They find themselves uncomfortable among slim people. According to psychological studies, there is strong correlation between depression and poor body image. They always think about their poor body image and correlate everything with their body. Women are especially concerned with weight. They are more prone to depression. They always feel stressed out due to their body weight. In such state, sometimes women use wrong methods to lose weight such as starving. Such condition causes bad impact on both mental and physical health. Obesity may impact overall behaviour of a person.

    According to some studies, it has been shown that obese people experienced satisfaction after losing weight. They have shown improvement in personal relationship. Obesity was causing the rude behaviour which improved after losing weight.


    Mental Health during Weight Loss-

    Are you going through diet induced weight loss? If yes then there are lots of chances that you can suffer from depression. You can suffer from negative impact of dieting. While you do dieting, you have to control your mind all the time. According to studies, obese people are foodie. In such case, it became difficult to prevent yourself from eating your favourite food.  Such condition leads to depression.

    During dieting, sometimes you have starved yourself. In that condition, it became difficult to control your emotions. It became complicated mental condition, if a person is not able to lose weight even after starving. Weight loss is not associated with eating habits. There are many reason which leads to obesity. So you have to work on all these things while deciding for weight loss. In today’s time hormonal imbalance became a major reason of obesity. Healthy diet is very essential for everyone. Dieting may cause poor physical and mental health. So, those who want lose weight, should emphasis on physical activity to lose weight. Instead of dieting, go for healthy food. If you are foodie, then you can learn healthy and tasty recipes from internet. It will help in preventing mental health problems during weight loss.

    With the dieting, there are other causes of depression during weight loss. Some people take less time to lose weight. While some have to devote months to get rid of body fat. Such condition can also lead to mental health problems. Obese person always think about losing weight. If he or she doesn’t get desired result, became prone to depression. In that case, a person should consult with doctor to find out the reasons of not losing weight.

    There is many social factors which causes stress among obese people. They always find themselves packed with their daily weight loss routine. Heavy exercises, dieting impacts the energy stored in your body. It also causes weakness. If it continues, you may even feel difficulty in doing daily household chores. To avoid such condition, it is essential to maintain balance between diet and exercises. A person, who is doing exercise, should eat very healthy diet. Always avoid fasting if you are doing exercises daily. Take small meals instead of eating at once. Eat lots of fruit, vegetables, dry fruits, milk, eggs, lentil etc. Such foods are great source of energy and also don’t cause weakness.


    Mental Health after Weight loss- You may feel yourself as the happiest person on the earth if you want to lost weight. According to some studies, improvement has seen in interpersonal relationship of obese people after losing weight. They feel themselves confident and find comfortable in social gathering. Although, they remain concerned with not putting weight again.

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  • 26 May
    Oyindrila Basu

    An Open Letter to the Normal-

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    “Dear Normal man,

    I really salute your obedience and gratitude towards the Society, as you completely abide by the guidelines and instructions given by it.

    You never miss a chance to make us feel really ‘special’ when you see us on the road. The way you laugh at our appearance, and call us with different names, we can understand that we are extremely gifted to have all that attention from you.

    Sometimes, you are truly concerned about us, hence you speak whisper amongst yourselves seeing us fall due to imbalance or wrong footstep, but you do not lend a helping hand forward so that we can stand up.

    We do not bite, but you make us feel that we are as powerful as a tiger, when you throw your anxious looks on us.

    You are afraid? Afraid of us? Can a normal man be afraid of anything? Can a normal man be anxious?

    We may be shy, not as smart as you are and that is a drawback for you.

    May be we are suffering, we are in pain, but you tag them with some stigmatized disease of your own.

    We cry, you mock. Is it quite normal to laugh at the pain of others? is it humane?

    Nobody ever taught me so since childhood.

    Nowadays, you use hundreds of scientific names so that you can tag our problems with flourishing colours; sometimes you can just apply these terms anywhere without a thought about how we or anyone hearing it would be feeling.

    Great is the progress of education.

    We do not want to be named. We want to live and breathe as everyone does. We deserve it, but you never let us do so with your speculative nature.

    You are so eager to know, if a neighbour of yours is suffering, or crying or shouting; you are really inquisitive to find a subject of gossip, first by tagging that person ‘abnormal’.

    I salute to your normality that overlooks the shortcomings within yourselves because you are overwhelmed to find faults with everyone around you.

    I know I am not potent enough to compete with you, but I am really trying to improve myself, so that I can do good work; I am happy that I am not as ‘normal’ as you, neither do I want to become like you.

    I do not want your attention or concern or sympathy. I just want to be a better me.

    Thank you,

    Your mentally-bent


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