• 10 Jan
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    10 skills needed to get what you want

    10 skill needed to get what you want

    We may all want different thing but it comes down to certain key goals, there are some common skills that need to be in place for us to achieve them.

    A list of ten important skills is illustrated below.

    1.Patience: All goals take time to accomplish. Even the simplest of things, getting an errand done, can take a while if you are facing lots of obstacles. Therefore, patience is the first virtue you need to grow and cherish. When you feel short on patience, remind yourself of the goals you set and also how you would feel when you achieve them.

    2.Perseverance: Slightly related to patience, but more so with hard work, this means that just waiting around is not enough. Therefore, you also need to keep trying harder and better at whatever it is that you wanted to achieve. Patiently persisting is the key to reaching to your goal.

    3.Planning: There needs to be some direction in your efforts to achieve your goal. You need to plan what is to be done first and what can be done later. What aspect of your planning would require more resources and what can be done with the present pool of resources, and so on.

    4.Time management: Time is not limitless and we need to spend it carefully. For example, if outsourcing a task would cost a little money but save you a lot of time to do more important tasks, then consider that. Therefore, you need to evaluate how much time you have and how to best spend it to reach your goals the fastest.

    5.Stress management: Burnout is likely if you tax yourself too much over small issues. Managing your stress is important in order to keep healthy and to make sure that you stay on the path you decided for yourself. Relaxation breathing techniques, hobbies and exercise can help to manage stress.

    6.Handling crisis: Things can always go wrong. Do you have a crisis plan for that? A crisis plan made in advance helps you to handle the panic you face and to make sure that the derailment of the crisis does not take you entirely off your goal. Make sure to anticipate where your plan may fail and make crisis plans for such instances.

    7.Emotional Quotient: Emotional quotient means the ability to understand one’s own and other’s emotions and to use this knowledge to communicate and work harmoniously. Almost all goals will require the help of other people. Up your EQ to know yourself and others’ well enough to maintain good relations with them.

    8.Motivation enhancement: Motivation is pretty high when you have just started out, but can dwindle in the face of failure or stress. Find out what aspects of your goal you really like, and remind yourself of those to push you. Taking breaks and rewarding your strengths and achievements can also help to motivate.

    9.Openness: Your goal may look very different by the time you are able to achieve it. Definitions of success and failure can change. In the face of this, you need to have the flexibility required to be open about one’s goals and to adjust with the times.

    10.Keenness to learn: Lastly, you may need to learn a lot more than you know to achieve your goals, in terms of knowledge, skills and attitudes. Are you prepared to learn? Thinking that you already know enough can make you egoistic and hinder you from achieving your goal.

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  • 10 Jan
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    7 tips to handle tyrant Boss

    How to handle suffocating boss

    A lot of people report having bad, unreasonable and jerk bosses. A lot of employees also spend a lot of time thinking about the bad boss and stressing over the bad treatment they got at the boss’s hand.

    So, is there anything you can do to handle such a boss? Yes you can!


    First things first – realistically assess the situation. How bad is your boss really? Are you just holding a grudge from an earlier time or has he actually done anything in the last week or last month to make you feel stressed? Take one week to observe and note down how many instances of such behaviour happen, and what are the patterns of it.

    Type of boss:

    Even bad bosses come in types.

    The bully type will want to make you feel small and meaningless.

    The bad communicator will have a hard time explaining what to do.

    The micromanager will want to oversee each and every detail.

    The saboteur would want to take credit if things are good and blame you if they are bad.

    The fickle boss just has unpredictable mood swings.


     There are a few tips that can work across the boss-type, as explained below.



    Communicating each step of the way and making sure you have documented on each step of the way, so that you have both the trust of the micromanager as well as the proof of a paper trail against a saboteur.


    2.Stand up for yourself:

    Along with the bully, the others can also be managed if you know how to be assertive. Don’t get loud or angry, but just explain your position calmly. If you don’t do this, the bullying behaviour can increase to toxic levels.


    3.Keeping it professional:

    The mood swings and tantrums of bosses are not to be taken personally. Make sure that even if the boss does not say so, you do tell yourself that the criticism was about a job or task, and not about your personality.



    Knowing what you do about your boss, use it well by anticipating problems and planning for them. Are they likely to crib more about some aspect? Can you talk to them in advance about it?



    Laughter and other forms of recreation help you take the much needed break from work and it’s stresses so that you can handle such situations better.


    6.Time Out:

    If you can’t quickly figure out what to do in a situation, get out of it by saying there’s a task you need to attend to or are unwell. Then figure out how to get back with the best strategy.



    Sometimes, we tend to have tunnel vision and fail to see things other than those which are annoying. Remind yourself of what you like about your job, your co-workers and even your boss when he or she is not being a tyrant or a jerk.



    If none of the above works and you start to have a toll on your physical and mental health, it is best to quit before more harm can be done.

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