Total 228 Blog Posts

  • 06 Oct
    eWellness Expert

    Work of an Effective Career counsellor.

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    When I was in school, and I had to choose my high school subjects in grade 11, I was confused, my interests were humanities, but not all of them; only English was I fond of, and I did not know what to do, where all my friends were going for joint entrance examinations, hence joining the science group. Then it was my physics teacher who helped me in the first step, in subject selection for the 11th and 12th standards at least.

    However, we all complete extensive courses in schools and colleges to achieve something grand in our future, hence it becomes very important to choose our stream wisely, so that we can have the best career, and our dream job.

    We are often confused in what we should pursue; should we follow what we like to do, or something that has better prospects! Can we make our art, an objective and career goal? Which will be useful as well as satisfying, are the basic questions, but most of us don’t have the answers from an expert, different people confuse us with their opinions; even today, very few people actually realize the utility of an effective career counsellor.

    • A career counsellor helps reflect on yourself; a proper professional will know you in detail, starting from the kind of schooling you have done to the kind of interpersonal relationships you share with your family and friends; in the process of answering the questions you will realize many things about yourself, you probably didn’t know, like what you are afraid of, what you most like to do, what can be your second choice in your daily life and things like that.

     

    • A career counsellor understands your interests, at the same time, identifies your talents and potentials, and then guides you towards selection of your career.

     

    • The counsellor gives you clearly, the direct benefits and banes of a particular kind of job parallely, so that it becomes easier for you to decide while choosing a career option.

     

    • The person is interactive with you, and it is his/her duty to understand if you are into any kind of mental health issues and whether that can affect your professional life, before suggesting a career.

    The role of a counsellor is to

    1. Boost confidence within an individual that he/she is capable of a good career.
    2. Make you identify your true talent and pursue something in that field.
    3. Increase your mental strength by being a guide.
    4. Make you understand what will be best for your future.
    5. Guide you through your job choices keeping in mind your satisfaction level and return expectation as a candidate.
    6. To make you understand the importance of career insurance.
    7. To guide you through in attaining your ambitions.

    A career counsellor, not only helps a candidate, but also sessions with his/her family to make them understand the basic equations of growth and achievement along with satisfaction for their child, so that the candidate can utilise his/her full potentials through the job that they choose to do, and hence eventually, it becomes their dream job in terms of prospective income and future security too.

    A career counsellor also ensures, that a person is able to maintain the best work life balance with whatever he/she is doing, considering his/her social scenario and responsibilities, so that he/she can have a peaceful and happy life.

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  • 01 Oct
    Oyindrila Basu

    Sports Counselling

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    Sports is among the best career options, available these days; if you are not interested in academics, you can always go for your interests, and one of it can be sports.

    A person involved in any form of game need to be skilled, talented, well-informed, sharp and calculative, but at the same time, development of a personal attitude is very much important for a sports person.

    Counselling is required and hence provided to students, professionals, employees; so also, it is very much required in the sports field. A sports-person should be trained, at the same time counselled, to make him reach his ultimate goal of success. Counselling develops in a person, a positive attitude towards the game, a sportsmanship spirit, gives a psychological strength and tightens his abilities.

    Playing the game seriously and positively is the most imperative thing for any person involved in sports; however, all sportsmen are motivated by their fans, peer-groups, national interests and commemorations, channelizing his energies towards the game is required and a counsellor does the job.

    What is the job of a sports Psychologist?

    In general, a sports counsellor is responsible for preparing a player for his toughest games, controlling emotional outbursts, self-motivation, imbibing in him team spirit, the desire towards win and infuse patriotism for the country he/she is playing. In particular, a psychologist also does the following:

    • A sports psychologist prepares a player for the worst- In a game anything can happen to you; you may get injured, hit, cheated or thrashed; your bruises should not matter to you, but the game and your team’s prestige. A player needs to be fearless, and overcome his shakiness towards adverse situations.
    • Helps manage emotions and maintain composure- Playing is not that easy on the field when everyone is watching you. Gaining a small success in the course of a game is delighting, but controlling your temperament is important at all situations, during a game, a player should not be overjoyed or remorse; playing on till the end is most important. Keeping calm during cheats and wrong decisions is also very important and a counsellor helps a player realise these things.

     

    • A counsellor ensures proactive growth of mind and body for players. Physical and mental wellness contributes to overall fitness regime.

     

    When is counselling required?

    Counselling in sports, can be required at different stages-

    • When a player is demotivated by his/her successive failures in past games- If there is a game in near future, a player requires confidence to practice and play on the field; if he is hung down by past failures and mistakes.
    • If a player credits himself alone for the win of a game-he needs to be reminded of sportsmanship and team spirit.
    • If a player feels he is insignificant in the team- a self-motivation needs to be developed in him/her.
    • If a player is playing for the first time- if a player is going for his first match; at state level or national level, or any platform, he requires some special counselling to receive encouragement, confidence, overcome nervousness and perfect his strategies.
    • Counselling is required if a player is too much bothered about his self-image- it is important to take care, that a player doesn’t commit anything unethical or against sportsman spirit on the field.
    • It is also needed when a player is playing under pressure.

    Apart from the specific above roles, a sports counsellor definitely helps a player choose the right career, based on his/her skills and develop a love and dedication towards his/her game. In fact, the counsellor helps a player in preparing him/her for win and loss equally.

  • 01 Oct
    Oyindrila Basu

    Follow your ambitions, along with little career insurance

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    A professional dilemma is something we all experience once we graduate or pass out of high school.

    What should we do; which field do we choose as our career.

    Most parents want their children to study medical or engineering, as they believe these paths will lead their child to financial security and early settlement in their career roles; however, these days, teachers and counsellors often promote otherwise; they encourage students to be more creative and pursue what they desire, based on the philosophy that if you do not love what you do, you will soon get bored and that will badly affect your self-improvement and development as an individual.

     

    Ambition is good, however, human desires are changeable; what I mean is, today as a teenager, you may have a deep attraction towards music, rock bands, and the various instruments because you are growing within that culture in colleges, concerts, fests etc. but after 6 years, your interests may change, as a matured individual. It is just like our dress sense changes as we grow. We wear cut vests and bermudas when we are in college, but prefer to move to formals when we are an office-goer, with respect to our personality.

     

    Hence a decision that we take about our career in teenage, based only on our interests may not always be the right one; if we choose to pursue our ambition, alone, that may not ensure life-long satisfaction always. I know my statement will raise many brows, but it is essentially true.

    • When we choose a career, several prospects need to be kept in mind-
    • Whether the academic field will provide financial stability in future.
    • Whether the course is suitable to my learning abilities.
    • Whether the field has shown gradual statistical progress in the past few years.
    • Whether I will be satisfied with my engagement in it, in future.

     

    Sounds calculative! But that is a fact; a school teaches us various subjects, including co-curriculum, but when get out of high school, we choose a particular field for specialization as undergraduate course, based on our liking for it and our expertise and comfort in the field.

     

    When our guardians insist upon taking up a particular profession, most of us are unhappy. We want to do what we enjoy doing; some of us love fine arts, some of us want to pursue music, yet another group wants to be actors and it is great that these days we are having a diversity of career options to choose from, however, while being selective, we should also keep in the mind the career insurance factor, along with our personal choice.

     

    I do not imply, that all the people are confused about their choices, some are really focused and clear about what they want to do, and such people achieve success in whatever they do, which is appreciable, however, we need to ensure that our professional goal provides a certainty for future, and hence follow it in the right procedure.

    For e.g. if someone wants to be a cricketer, merely having the skills won’t help you reach the level of finesse; you need to be sure that you can give anything for the game, and you can risk anything to represent your country through the game, in the universal state.

    Also it requires a huge about of dedication and investment that you need to do, before becoming #SachinTendulkar you and your family should be prepared for it.

    Ask yourself whether you can bear it all, before taking the final decision; pursuing it because it is your hobby, won’t do much for you or for your future, your passion for it will help you progress.

     

    Every profession requires some investment and consequentially gives you returns. Now if you pursue an ambition which is not giving you back any returns, you will soon get demotivated, and that is very natural.

    Practically stated, you need to have the bread and butter of survival in order to carry on with your love. When you do not have food to eat, you won’t have the strength to sing or play flute.

    This kind of demotivation can be very harmful for your mental health; if will soon lead you to depression and anxiety, and you will lose all the love you have for the work that you are doing, and that is not good.

    If your career in unpredictable with an ambition; today you have returns and tomorrow it is nil, then just being with your ambition won’t give you happiness.

     

    The most important thing is to be happy in life, to be in mental peace. Hence considering the security and certainty factors are also equally important along with like, before choosing a career. You have to see that your career is insured with the professional field you choose.

    Being a doctor, engineer or professor is not that bad, if they are providing you with an early career, financial independence and individuality.

    Again, you can always continue your struggle as a singer, guitarist or a film-maker with equivalent passion and dedication to earn bigger goals in life, but whatever you do, you need to ensure that it secures you, because if there is no certainty in your career, you can never be at peace; you will be chasing money all the time, and that can be the cause of anxiety and other health hazards, which will not be anyone’s preference.

    I do not say that people should do what they most dislike, but you should merge your liking with some career insurance while choosing a profession, to ensure life-long happiness and good mental health.

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  • 08 Aug
    Pooja Sarkar

    Are you in depression?? How do you handle it?

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    Its quite difficult every time to find out whether you are in depression or not. Every time it becomes harder to identify the difference between sadness and depression but for every reader it is a high time to be alerted by knowing that sadness is not depression, its completely different from depression.

    As one says "I am sad, I am not feeling happy, my mood is off today", its natural for a human being to get mood off and becomes sad when any desirable things are not met.

    Depression is an illness, but sadness not. Sadness is like I lost my favorite things, close one’s demise has happened, divorce etc. Its quite normal human process.

    We experience sadness when we come across any unpleasant event in our life. When a normal event occurs in a hurtful way, we become sad. Sadness happens in our life within a short gap even.

    Most importantly sadness is not severe, but depression is. One cannot be sad all the time. A productive person cannot live his/her life fully with sadness.

    Depression is moreover an illness, it needs medication. When one stops living his/her so called normal life, it can be said that the person is suffering from depression.

    Depression is profound sadness, its beyond sadness. People with depression have a pain beyond sadness and it cannot be resolved without medical intervention.

    People with depression lose his/her control over the pain and sadness. One who is in depression cannot live life in a normal way. It gradually becomes slower and withdrawn from every productive work.

    Sadness involve no withdrawn tendency, it always craves for a fun and happy event. But in depression, one tries to withdraw himself/herself from every social program.

    Depression is becoming so important to focus illness, as the researchers say every one person in 5 women, including in India and everyone person in every 10 men suffers from major depressive disorder.

    Suppose every time your neighbor shouts at you on a small matter, a rebellious student smokes in front of teachers, etc. everything is a common cause of depression.

     

    There can be many symptoms to identify depression:

     Feels exhausted and fatigued easily when working.

     Conduct miscommunication many times.

     Loss of memory, inferior feeling and feeling of worthlessness.

     Pessimism and having hopelessness.

     Lose interest of his/her previous hobbies.

     Lose interest to learn any new thing.

     Difficulty in sleeping or oversleeping.

     Cannot remember easily, getting trouble to concentrate on one thing.

     Appetite habits change, either less eating or over eating.

     Consistent digestive problems, headaches etc.

     Thoughts of death or suicide.

     

    For the severity, one who is suffering from depression has a risk to commit suicide, because hopelessness, worthlessness makes people cease life fully.

    Then every door is closed one by one to that person. One who has any 5 of above symptoms for two weeks or more needs to go for counselling.

    It can happen also in an episodic way i.e. one can be depressed for 5days or more, it again comes after 1 month or later within 3 months.

     

    Depression needs medication as well as it involves some neurological changes. Research says that prefrontal lobe and limbic system in the brain are responsible areas in regulation of depression.

    Major depressive disorder involves significant neurological changes. Hippocampus area in brain is also responsible area for regulating depression.

    Nowadays, also depression is like a disorder which has social stigma, many corporate job employees don't want to reveal that they are suffering from depression just because of this social stigma. With handling his/her own crisis, people have to deal with other people's thinking. When one is sad, he/she doesn't need to look upon all these factors.

     

    Case of Major depressive disorder: 

    One teenage girl (unknown), aged 17yrs, she used to bring up in a nuclear family with her parents. Her father had OC (obsessive compulsive) symptoms and he was under treatment. Her father seemed to dominant always towards the girl and her mother. That’s why her mother felt sad all the time.

    The girl has some problems in adjustment with her peers, she couldn’t even tolerate any middle aged man. Gradually, her parents started facing some troubles with their daughter. She used to hit others anywhere, she even asked for leave to unknown person.

    She had to stop her formal education for maladjustment. The girl always felt fatigue in every work, she always used to lose her interest even in funny things. She had poor concentration capacity along with poor memory.

    She had a craving for food, she used to have large amount food every day. Her mother worried and took her to the psychiatrist, after assessing it was diagnosed as a Major depressive disorder.

    Though depression is a mood disorder, if one feels these symptoms over a certain time, then he/she should be alert, and go to the expert for consulting. Depression is treatable and curable; you just have to diagnose it at proper time in proper way.

     

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  • 08 Aug
    Pooja Sarkar

    Separation anxiety among kids makes parents worried


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    For a kid, his/her most familiar shelter is with parents. Home is the secure and comfort zone for all kids. They can fulfil all their primary needs of their home place. Socialization is one of the important activities for every kid, and it begins from the second home i.e. the school.

    The school is one institution where one can, not only get an education, but can also learn values, it’s a place to socialize with unknown people. It’s also a place to get to know cultural values.

    Nowadays, people drop their child at an early age, in today’s scenario most of mothers are working and staying in a nuclear family. So kid drops in school at an early age. Due to upbringing into a nuclear family, the child cannot get much exposure to mix up with many. So the child only knows his/her parents, mostly few relatives.

    When the time comes for going alone to school, he/she must feel afraid or less confident amongst unfamiliar places or people. Sometimes, it occurs excessively among children in recent days. They are even afraid of becoming separated from his/her family. A child expresses his/her fear of separation by a cry. Separation anxiety can begin before the child’s first birthday, and it may occur suddenly at the age of 4yrs.

    The intensity and timing of this separation anxiety vary from child to child. It’s quite normal to get afraid when parents say goodbye to a kid, but it’s becoming difficult for one who cannot stop being anxious after parents’ best firm and consistent effort.

    Though it is quite difficult for parents to handle sportingly with a child’s tears, still separation anxiety has some positive aspects. It indicates a healthy attachment bond with the caregiver. It can be handled by parents delicately as parents can make the child understand that they will return on time.

     

    When you should worry about separation anxiety?

    When you see your child’s anxiety becoming extreme, beyond control, the child is gradually facing different physical problems for the anxiety, then it’s the time to think over it.

    An excessive degree of separation anxiety is not normal for healthy development. It’s an emotional problem characterized by extreme distress for the fear of being separated from caregivers.

    The child gets afraid to go to school or mix up with peers. When a child refuses to go to sleep for the nightmare of separating and when the child has an unrealistic fear of separating from the close ones, then the parents should be alert.

    Sometimes these kids are thinking of being kidnapped from parents. Anxiety builds up from unknown things. For the child the school will be the first day experience, he/she doesn’t know anything about the school, what will happen there, who will be there, why mamma, papa will not be there etc.

     

    What should parents do in this situation?

    • Every time, for everything, practice makes things perfect. When your child goes to school and it’s new to him/her, it’s better to do previous practice like to keep your child alone with his/her grandparents for some time, and gradually make it for a whole day.

     

    • Try to make your child understand what he/she will face after going to school what will be the best or the worst part of school.

     

    • Role modelling is very much useful for every kid, parent should be pretended as a child and the child will be a mother and play each other’s role thinking of the first day in school.

     

    • Make a star chart, the day he/she will give up crying, he/she will get a star mark for that as a positive point, for every 5 consecutive star marks, the child will get a reward.

     

    • Teach your child ‘good bye’ ritual, it will be helpful for the child to understand the concept of going and coming back.

     

    • Make new environment familiar, the parent must keep the surroundings familiar when possible and make the child accustomed to the new one.

     

    • Tell your child interesting and fantastic story about school, don’t tell the child negative scary things about school, reassure the child that it is going to be beautiful on the very first day.

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