Total 226 Blog Posts

  • 12 Oct
    Roshan Lal Prasad

    The primary source of depression: Negative Thoughts

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    The first source that cause depression, is a manifestation of negative thoughts. It is proven that near about 70,000 thoughts an individual encounters in a day, can be positive or negative...

    All negative thinking is fear based and the negative thinking that goes day by day, starts with few situations continues to employ many other situations resulting in chronic depression.

    The continuous negative thinking trains the brain, resultant of which is, brain learns to avoid positive thinking, being in the situation, thus hampering self-esteem and individual motivation. 

    In many cases we actually blame, depression for the cause of negative thinking, but this is the other way around - It is negative thinking that causes depression.

    By correcting the negative thinking patterns, one can boost up and can get rid of depression.

    But this cannot happen in a day or two, but may take up few weeks to month depends upon the cases. This means that you can turn off depression by turning off negative thinking.

     

    Creating reality

    Most of us don’t realize that we are in the state of depression and are reacting to our social events negatively, because it seems that we are just reacting to the events in our lives, but in fact, our negative thinking is creating those events first and foremost.

    People generally have the stigma, that, to change the negative thinking, first the life should change, and thus you will be doing negative thinking forever.

     

    The role of Conscious and Subconscious Mind.

    The conscious and subconscious mind work for each other by communicating and judging the reality with each other.

    The conscious reaction of an event will be recorded by the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind does not question or argue with the validity of the thought. It literally takes the word for it. So, if you say, “I have no future and I am finished because I failed in the exam,” it just says, “Yes, you don’t have any future, and thus you develop negative feelings against such an event.

    Your subconscious mind communicates directly with the conscious mind which manifests the reality. Just like the subconscious mind, the conscious mind says yes, after getting approval of the subconscious mind.

    The only way to stop such thoughts is the conscious mind which has the opportunity to interact with the reality by finding the positive verticals of the reality/situation.

    Negative thinking is not just a bad habit, it is a terrible addiction. Most people are unconsciously addicted to negative thinking. It includes the words that we say, see and think, and it also includes negative visualizations, negative self-talk and metaphors, and mentally memorizing unhappy memories.

     

    Inner Guidance System - Negative Feelings, Incorporate self-help.

    Any thought that makes an individual feel bad is a negative thought. Negative thinking causes negative feelings like Unhappy, sad, irritated, and anxious, etc.…

    Negative feelings are the inner guidance systems that tell that you are thinking negatively. Your feelings are telling that your thoughts are out of control, and you’re deviating from what you desire.

     

    Retrain Your Mind: The only way to overcome Negative thoughts.

    The primary goal must be to master your mind, to overcome depression and create your dream life. Yes, it takes strong determination and conscious effort to change your thinking pattern, but if you want to feel better, it is the only way.

     

    Daily life practice to retrain your Thoughts:-

    Take responsibility: Stay determined and take responsibility of your negative thoughts/feelings.  Practice to treat thought as separate individuals. If you are able to do so, then, you will be able to control and monitor your thoughts.

    Focus on solutions: Do not focus on the problem instead focus on the solutions.

    Stay Aware of Negative Thought/Feelings: Pause yourself once you feel bad, frustrated and thus stay aware of negative feelings. Practice to have a control over your thought. Practice Mindfulness.

    No excuses: Don’t give yourself excuses, such as, “Everyone thinks negatively” - that will keep you fixed within negative thinking. Never replace positive with negative.

    Ask Positive: Ask yourself positive questions, such as, “What is the best that can happen to you?” You will be able to sort all the good that can happen and thus you will be able to replace negative with positive thoughts.

    Be kind:  Be kind, patient and loving with yourself. Judging yourself for negative thinking will just lead to aid one more negative thinking.

    Others: Instead of feeling sorry for others, imagine those who have challenges, learns and adapt by overcoming those challenges - see them happy, successful and strong.

    Roshan Lal Prasad. MPhil in Rehab Psychology

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  • 06 Oct
    Oyindrila Basu

    Movement and Aggression are correlated.

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    Surprised? Stranger facts are being determined each day, regarding human behaviour and personality.

    The way a person walks determines whether he/she is aggressive or not.

    University of Portsmouth in United Kingdom carried out an extensive study on 29 participants, analysing their movement and their behaviour respectively by mapping them through motion capture technology.

    Males and females were made to walk on a treadmill and their movements along with basic personality traits were recorded.

    Through the study it was observed that biological factors affected the gait of a person; men had exaggerated movements of their upper and lower body parts as compared to women, and they were more towards aggressive nature, that the rest of the group.

    While there was a moderate correlation between walking speed and aggression for males, no correlation was observed in females, or the sample as a whole.

    Participants who reported high physical aggression had greater relative movement between the upper and lower body. Heightened shoulder movement or pelvis movement alone were not predictive of aggression, but the relative motion of the upper and lower body were aggression indicators.

    The research was published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior where 5 personality traits that include extraversion, agreeableness, openness, conscientiousness and neuroticism and gait, have been referred to, for analysing behaviour of a person.

    Hence we can determine the mood and behaviour of a person, whether he/she is aggressive from the way he/she moves or walks.

    The gait of a person is evidence of his/her personality.

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  • 06 Oct
    eWellness Expert

    Work of an Effective Career counsellor.

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    When I was in school, and I had to choose my high school subjects in grade 11, I was confused, my interests were humanities, but not all of them; only English was I fond of, and I did not know what to do, where all my friends were going for joint entrance examinations, hence joining the science group. Then it was my physics teacher who helped me in the first step, in subject selection for the 11th and 12th standards at least.

    However, we all complete extensive courses in schools and colleges to achieve something grand in our future, hence it becomes very important to choose our stream wisely, so that we can have the best career, and our dream job.

    We are often confused in what we should pursue; should we follow what we like to do, or something that has better prospects! Can we make our art, an objective and career goal? Which will be useful as well as satisfying, are the basic questions, but most of us don’t have the answers from an expert, different people confuse us with their opinions; even today, very few people actually realize the utility of an effective career counsellor.

    • A career counsellor helps reflect on yourself; a proper professional will know you in detail, starting from the kind of schooling you have done to the kind of interpersonal relationships you share with your family and friends; in the process of answering the questions you will realize many things about yourself, you probably didn’t know, like what you are afraid of, what you most like to do, what can be your second choice in your daily life and things like that.

     

    • A career counsellor understands your interests, at the same time, identifies your talents and potentials, and then guides you towards selection of your career.

     

    • The counsellor gives you clearly, the direct benefits and banes of a particular kind of job parallely, so that it becomes easier for you to decide while choosing a career option.

     

    • The person is interactive with you, and it is his/her duty to understand if you are into any kind of mental health issues and whether that can affect your professional life, before suggesting a career.

    The role of a counsellor is to

    1. Boost confidence within an individual that he/she is capable of a good career.
    2. Make you identify your true talent and pursue something in that field.
    3. Increase your mental strength by being a guide.
    4. Make you understand what will be best for your future.
    5. Guide you through your job choices keeping in mind your satisfaction level and return expectation as a candidate.
    6. To make you understand the importance of career insurance.
    7. To guide you through in attaining your ambitions.

    A career counsellor, not only helps a candidate, but also sessions with his/her family to make them understand the basic equations of growth and achievement along with satisfaction for their child, so that the candidate can utilise his/her full potentials through the job that they choose to do, and hence eventually, it becomes their dream job in terms of prospective income and future security too.

    A career counsellor also ensures, that a person is able to maintain the best work life balance with whatever he/she is doing, considering his/her social scenario and responsibilities, so that he/she can have a peaceful and happy life.

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  • 01 Oct
    Oyindrila Basu

    Sports Counselling

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    Sports is among the best career options, available these days; if you are not interested in academics, you can always go for your interests, and one of it can be sports.

    A person involved in any form of game need to be skilled, talented, well-informed, sharp and calculative, but at the same time, development of a personal attitude is very much important for a sports person.

    Counselling is required and hence provided to students, professionals, employees; so also, it is very much required in the sports field. A sports-person should be trained, at the same time counselled, to make him reach his ultimate goal of success. Counselling develops in a person, a positive attitude towards the game, a sportsmanship spirit, gives a psychological strength and tightens his abilities.

    Playing the game seriously and positively is the most imperative thing for any person involved in sports; however, all sportsmen are motivated by their fans, peer-groups, national interests and commemorations, channelizing his energies towards the game is required and a counsellor does the job.

    What is the job of a sports Psychologist?

    In general, a sports counsellor is responsible for preparing a player for his toughest games, controlling emotional outbursts, self-motivation, imbibing in him team spirit, the desire towards win and infuse patriotism for the country he/she is playing. In particular, a psychologist also does the following:

    • A sports psychologist prepares a player for the worst- In a game anything can happen to you; you may get injured, hit, cheated or thrashed; your bruises should not matter to you, but the game and your team’s prestige. A player needs to be fearless, and overcome his shakiness towards adverse situations.
    • Helps manage emotions and maintain composure- Playing is not that easy on the field when everyone is watching you. Gaining a small success in the course of a game is delighting, but controlling your temperament is important at all situations, during a game, a player should not be overjoyed or remorse; playing on till the end is most important. Keeping calm during cheats and wrong decisions is also very important and a counsellor helps a player realise these things.

     

    • A counsellor ensures proactive growth of mind and body for players. Physical and mental wellness contributes to overall fitness regime.

     

    When is counselling required?

    Counselling in sports, can be required at different stages-

    • When a player is demotivated by his/her successive failures in past games- If there is a game in near future, a player requires confidence to practice and play on the field; if he is hung down by past failures and mistakes.
    • If a player credits himself alone for the win of a game-he needs to be reminded of sportsmanship and team spirit.
    • If a player feels he is insignificant in the team- a self-motivation needs to be developed in him/her.
    • If a player is playing for the first time- if a player is going for his first match; at state level or national level, or any platform, he requires some special counselling to receive encouragement, confidence, overcome nervousness and perfect his strategies.
    • Counselling is required if a player is too much bothered about his self-image- it is important to take care, that a player doesn’t commit anything unethical or against sportsman spirit on the field.
    • It is also needed when a player is playing under pressure.

    Apart from the specific above roles, a sports counsellor definitely helps a player choose the right career, based on his/her skills and develop a love and dedication towards his/her game. In fact, the counsellor helps a player in preparing him/her for win and loss equally.

  • 01 Oct
    Oyindrila Basu

    Follow your ambitions, along with little career insurance

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    A professional dilemma is something we all experience once we graduate or pass out of high school.

    What should we do; which field do we choose as our career.

    Most parents want their children to study medical or engineering, as they believe these paths will lead their child to financial security and early settlement in their career roles; however, these days, teachers and counsellors often promote otherwise; they encourage students to be more creative and pursue what they desire, based on the philosophy that if you do not love what you do, you will soon get bored and that will badly affect your self-improvement and development as an individual.

     

    Ambition is good, however, human desires are changeable; what I mean is, today as a teenager, you may have a deep attraction towards music, rock bands, and the various instruments because you are growing within that culture in colleges, concerts, fests etc. but after 6 years, your interests may change, as a matured individual. It is just like our dress sense changes as we grow. We wear cut vests and bermudas when we are in college, but prefer to move to formals when we are an office-goer, with respect to our personality.

     

    Hence a decision that we take about our career in teenage, based only on our interests may not always be the right one; if we choose to pursue our ambition, alone, that may not ensure life-long satisfaction always. I know my statement will raise many brows, but it is essentially true.

    • When we choose a career, several prospects need to be kept in mind-
    • Whether the academic field will provide financial stability in future.
    • Whether the course is suitable to my learning abilities.
    • Whether the field has shown gradual statistical progress in the past few years.
    • Whether I will be satisfied with my engagement in it, in future.

     

    Sounds calculative! But that is a fact; a school teaches us various subjects, including co-curriculum, but when get out of high school, we choose a particular field for specialization as undergraduate course, based on our liking for it and our expertise and comfort in the field.

     

    When our guardians insist upon taking up a particular profession, most of us are unhappy. We want to do what we enjoy doing; some of us love fine arts, some of us want to pursue music, yet another group wants to be actors and it is great that these days we are having a diversity of career options to choose from, however, while being selective, we should also keep in the mind the career insurance factor, along with our personal choice.

     

    I do not imply, that all the people are confused about their choices, some are really focused and clear about what they want to do, and such people achieve success in whatever they do, which is appreciable, however, we need to ensure that our professional goal provides a certainty for future, and hence follow it in the right procedure.

    For e.g. if someone wants to be a cricketer, merely having the skills won’t help you reach the level of finesse; you need to be sure that you can give anything for the game, and you can risk anything to represent your country through the game, in the universal state.

    Also it requires a huge about of dedication and investment that you need to do, before becoming #SachinTendulkar you and your family should be prepared for it.

    Ask yourself whether you can bear it all, before taking the final decision; pursuing it because it is your hobby, won’t do much for you or for your future, your passion for it will help you progress.

     

    Every profession requires some investment and consequentially gives you returns. Now if you pursue an ambition which is not giving you back any returns, you will soon get demotivated, and that is very natural.

    Practically stated, you need to have the bread and butter of survival in order to carry on with your love. When you do not have food to eat, you won’t have the strength to sing or play flute.

    This kind of demotivation can be very harmful for your mental health; if will soon lead you to depression and anxiety, and you will lose all the love you have for the work that you are doing, and that is not good.

    If your career in unpredictable with an ambition; today you have returns and tomorrow it is nil, then just being with your ambition won’t give you happiness.

     

    The most important thing is to be happy in life, to be in mental peace. Hence considering the security and certainty factors are also equally important along with like, before choosing a career. You have to see that your career is insured with the professional field you choose.

    Being a doctor, engineer or professor is not that bad, if they are providing you with an early career, financial independence and individuality.

    Again, you can always continue your struggle as a singer, guitarist or a film-maker with equivalent passion and dedication to earn bigger goals in life, but whatever you do, you need to ensure that it secures you, because if there is no certainty in your career, you can never be at peace; you will be chasing money all the time, and that can be the cause of anxiety and other health hazards, which will not be anyone’s preference.

    I do not say that people should do what they most dislike, but you should merge your liking with some career insurance while choosing a profession, to ensure life-long happiness and good mental health.

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