Parents are often over-protective about their children and that is a natural trait, and they claim it to be love.
Parents think that they are responsible for everything about their children, what they will do, or say; what they will think, good or bad; and of course for the best that they should get.
Parents strive a lot to provide the children their best childhood with all the luxuries and comforts that they could think of, even if that means, going beyond their abilities, and this is how children become materialistic fools, who think the world is all glossy and nothing beyond drones and racing cars.
As a matter of fact, children in such protected place, become nagging and demanding; they are far from realities; whenever they are into some adverse situation, they just want to run.
In the growing years, proper training is required for children from their parents. They should be more exposed and open, and they should be given the freedom to think and analyse situations in order to act.
Few months back, at a station in India, I found a child having her own small suitcase, she was about 8 or 9 years old; she was pulling her trolley and it had not been a while, that her grandparents rushed to her, snatched her suitcase and handed it over to the coolie; she was shocked for a moment, then continued to walk. Especially in India, parent-induced wastefulness is a problem for young people; they won’t let the child learn anything for him/herself. Labour is cheap, hence they will hire someone to do it, even if it means carrying a suitcase as light as feather.
When these children will grow up and have to go to different cities for education or work, they will face huge difficulties, in terms of household chores, shopping, cooking, washing, and many other practical tasks like paying the bills etc. as they have not been used to doing these things.
The immunity system to the real world gets destroyed with parent-induced wastefulness.
Even at the age of 30 years, an Indian boy is called and treated as a child in the household, and parents do believe that he is not capable of handling serious tasks, and that it is their duty to arrange and do it for him. Even any lifetime decision making is the duty of the parents, the latter believes.
This can really be shattering for the self-confidence of the individual. Growing kids in such possessive environment do not learn to trust themselves, they are always in dilemma, when it comes to doing something important in life.
They are just used to material pleasures and they think that is the reality which is important for reputation.
They are adjusted to a larger than life lifestyle which can be boring but they cannot step out of it.
Such children always fear challenges and losing; they are not used to refusal or loss and hence they think the world will do as they say, because their parents have done so, and they have done according to parents’ wishes. Stepping out of the home, gives them shocks are set backs.
Let your child grow in his natural environment; he will extract the best from what naturally is available to him, be it knowledge or resources; do not try to be too particular about providing; let him seek and find.
A growing child is more inquisitive than you can think, hence answer his queries and let him learn on his own; stop spoon feeding, let him do his work and small family responsibilities too; that will give him confidence and self-esteem.
He will have a knowledge of the real world. Let him get the essence of survival and grow as a complete individual.