“When people kill themselves, they think they’re ending the pain, but all they’re doing is passing it on to those they leave behind.” – Jeannette Walls
We cannot deny, that even the most rational and sensible of us, sometimes undergo thoughts which are depressing, wayward and dangerous to ourselves and to others. The mind is a complex maze and we surely don’t have the best of logics to support its decisions, all the time. There are days in our life, when we are not motivated, feel lonely and upset, do not have friends around and thoughts are so doomed that we may even think of giving up our lives.
This may not be too frequent, but there are times we think that life is not worth living. What if this hopelessness looms your life and traps your irrational thoughts. In such major depressive phases, we find people taking rash decisions on their thoughts, and risking their lives.
There are a few precautionary measures that can be taken to avoid these unfortunate accidents; if we can counsel ourselves and hold from falling apart for a short while, we can save from hurting self, or wasting our life.
Promise not to act upon your thoughts immediately- We cannot control our thoughts. Suicidal thoughts can attack any moment when your mind is not at rest or peace. Make a general and hard promise that you will give yourself some time before acting on it, and stick to the promise when such thoughts appear. If you do this ritually, the time gap will distract your mind from the harmful thoughts.
Avoid alcohol and drugs- If you are having depressive thoughts or feeling useless, intoxicating yourself is not the solution. In fact, any form of addiction or drugging will make the thing worse, your depression will increase. In the case of severe abuse, drugs or alcohol may cause induces hallucination leading to severe thought distortions. Better try to stay away from substances and be in your senses to prevent any further damaging thoughts.
Indulge in some good health practices- If you are feeling lonely, anxious or depressed, divert your mind from these negative energies. Join a gym, Zumba, or swimming club to feel healthy and motivated. When you meet new people, do some exercise, and lose some calories, you tend to feel better in mind and body, as the level of serotonin increases.
Keep your house as safe as possible- When you know you can get cranky at times, it is good to take precautions. Keep away, blades, scissors, knives or any sharp object out of your reach, if you tend to have disturbing thoughts of suicide occasionally.
Reach out a friend- Remeber, you are not alone. Your pain can ease when you open up to a trusting friend. Call up your best friend or family, whom you trust, and let them know what you are going through. This is like a mental health first aid. Talking to them will make you feel better, and in itself, might change your mind. Moreover, he or she can be of great support when you lose track of yourself.
Have a safety plan- If you are starting to have depressive or suicidal thoughts, it is better, you take preventive measures before things get worse. Consult a psychologist and attend counseling sessions to improve yourself. Self-coping efforts are encouraged but don't wait until its too late.
Talk about your thoughts- When you are feeling normal, share your thoughts with friends are family, who are concerned about you. Talking out often helps a lot in depression and anxiety. Do not keep it to yourself.
Do not stay alone- "An idle mind is a devils workshop". If staying alone gives you creepy thoughts, try to be in a social setting most of the time. Try to keep someone with you if you are prone to mood fluctuations.
Take every opportunity- Do not shut yourself up within closed doors. Go to office, meet people, watch movies, take fun tours across the city to keep yourself moving. Every oppurtunity on the way will cheer you up. It will give a positive vibe and meaning to your living.
Stay away from provoking things- You know best what is good and bad for you. You actually know, which objects, sounds, images or places remind you of your depressed state or make you think of suicide, stay away from such triggers. Engage yourself in more positive surroundings, be with people who are no way connected to your bad fate.
Life is very precious and we all get just one chance to live. Make the fullest use of it, enjoy, breathe free and do everything that you have dreamt of. Do not let a single moment or phase destroy your chance to live a beautiful life on this earth. There is always a key to the lock; you will always find a solution to your problems.
“But in the end, one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.”
– Albert Camus