• 02 Dec
    Oyindrila Basu

    10 ways to avoid Suicidal thoughts

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    “When people kill themselves, they think they’re ending the pain, but all they’re doing is passing it on to those they leave behind.” – Jeannette Walls

    We cannot deny, that even the most rational and sensible of us, sometimes undergo thoughts which are depressing, wayward and dangerous to ourselves and to others. The mind is a complex maze and we surely don’t have the best of logics to support its decisions, all the time. There are days in our life, when we are not motivated, feel lonely and upset, do not have friends around and thoughts are so doomed that we may even think of giving up our lives.

    This may not be too frequent, but there are times we think that life is not worth living. What if this hopelessness looms your life and traps your irrational thoughts. In such major depressive phases, we find people taking rash decisions on their thoughts, and risking their lives.

    There are a few precautionary measures that can be taken to avoid these unfortunate accidents; if we can counsel ourselves and hold from falling apart for a short while, we can save from hurting self, or wasting our life.


    Promise not to act upon your thoughts immediately- We cannot control our thoughts. Suicidal thoughts can attack any moment when your mind is not at rest or peace. Make a general and hard promise that you will give yourself some time before acting on it, and stick to the promise when such thoughts appear. If you do this ritually, the time gap will distract your mind from the harmful thoughts.

    Avoid alcohol and drugs- If you are having depressive thoughts or feeling useless, intoxicating yourself is not the solution. In fact, any form of addiction or drugging will make the thing worse, your depression will increase. In the case of severe abuse, drugs or alcohol may cause induces hallucination leading to severe thought distortions. Better try to stay away from substances and be in your senses to prevent any further damaging thoughts.

    Indulge in some good health practices- If you are feeling lonely, anxious or depressed, divert your mind from these negative energies. Join a gym, Zumba, or swimming club to feel healthy and motivated. When you meet new people, do some exercise, and lose some calories, you tend to feel better in mind and body, as the level of serotonin increases.

    Keep your house as safe as possible- When you know you can get cranky at times, it is good to take precautions. Keep away, blades, scissors, knives or any sharp object out of your reach, if you tend to have disturbing thoughts of suicide occasionally.

    Reach out a friend- Remeber, you are not alone. Your pain can ease when you open up to a trusting friend. Call up your best friend or family, whom you trust, and let them know what you are going through. This is like a mental health first aid. Talking to them will make you feel better, and in itself, might change your mind. Moreover, he or she can be of great support when you lose track of yourself.

    Have a safety plan- If you are starting to have depressive or suicidal thoughts, it is better, you take preventive measures before things get worse. Consult a psychologist and attend counseling sessions to improve yourself. Self-coping efforts are encouraged but don't wait until its too late.

    Talk about your thoughts- When you are feeling normal, share your thoughts with friends are family, who are concerned about you. Talking out often helps a lot in depression and anxiety. Do not keep it to yourself.

    Do not stay alone- "An idle mind is a devils workshop". If staying alone gives you creepy thoughts, try to be in a social setting most of the time. Try to keep someone with you if you are prone to mood fluctuations.

    Take every opportunity- Do not shut yourself up within closed doors. Go to office, meet people, watch movies, take fun tours across the city to keep yourself moving. Every oppurtunity on the way will cheer you up. It will give a positive vibe and meaning to your living.

    Stay away from provoking things- You know best what is good and bad for you. You actually know, which objects, sounds, images or places remind you of your depressed state or make you think of suicide, stay away from such triggers. Engage yourself in more positive surroundings, be with people who are no way connected to your bad fate.


    Life is very precious and we all get just one chance to live. Make the fullest use of it, enjoy, breathe free and do everything that you have dreamt of. Do not let a single moment or phase destroy your chance to live a beautiful life on this earth. There is always a key to the lock; you will always find a solution to your problems.

    “But in the end, one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.”

    – Albert Camus

  • 01 Dec
    Oyindrila Basu

    Meditative breathing can cure major depression, which are not affected by medicines.

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    India has always been the land of new avenues. When it comes to health and fitness, the biggest form of fitness training, the yoga came from our ancient ascetics and saints who meditated for years acquired the ability to control their breathing patterns which proved helpful for their physical and mental health, hence not only strengthened their concentration, but also longevity.

    The same breathing patterns were taught and practised by common people to promote better physical and mental health among mankind in the form of yoga.

    Today it has been found, that meditation and yoga gives better benefit to mental health than any other treatment.

    A breathing based meditation called Sudarshan Kriya helps control depressive disorders.

    The meditation technique, which is practiced in both a group setting and at home, includes a series of sequential, rhythm-specific breathing exercises that bring people into a deep, restful, and meditative state: slow and calm breaths alternated with fast and stimulating breaths.

    Earlier, the method was applied on people with milder depression, who were into drugs or alcohol addiction, and they responded positively to the breathing exercise, than they did to rehabilitating medicines.

    A randomized controlled pilot study in the department of Psychiatry at Pennsylvania, found out that the particular technique of meditation proved beneficial to many suffering from anxiety and depression. After two months of application of this yoga, the group cut its mean Hamilton Depression Rating Scale (HDRS) score by several points, while the control group showed no improvements.

    The reports were published in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry.

    It has been observed, that intake of antidepressants on a regular basis, makes you accommodative to it, and many, including 41 million Americans, stop responding to these pills after sometime, and even though they are suggested other treatment methods, they do not have much benefit.

    This yogic exercise of breathing was recommended to such people suffering from major depressive disorders, and most of them responded positively to it.

    According to Anup Sharma, who had performed the research at Pennsylvania, this breathing based meditation is a low-cost therapy, which is free from medication, and can better help people with depressive disorders.

    As per the pilot study, patients in the Sudarshan Kriya yoga group showed a significantly greater improvement in HDRS scores compared to patients in the waitlist group. With a mean baseline HDRS score of 22.0 (indicating severe depression at the beginning of the study), the group that completed the breathing technique for the full two months improved scores by 10.27 points on average, compared to the waitlist group, which showed no improvements. Patients in the yoga group also showed significant mean reductions in total scores of the self-reported Beck Depression (15.48 point improvement) and Beck Anxiety Inventories (5.19 point improvement), versus the waitlist control group.

    Yoga is always an effective way to keep yourself healthy in body and mind. Exercise helps you lose calories, makes you fit, which automatically reduces depression and anxiety, by increasing level of serotonin in the brain.

    Hence this can prove to be better than many medicines which come handy with a prescription

  • 30 Nov
    Oyindrila Basu

    Alpha men and Playboys are not smart; they tend to have Poor Mental Health.

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    The concept of ‘alpha men’ creeped up during the early 2000s, though the tradition of being a sexist, chauvinist and misogynist, forever existed in patriarchal society.

    The term ‘alpha men’ precisely defined those, who believe they can control the mind of women and easily lure them, play with their hearts and destroy them entirely.

    They claim themselves to be playboys; extra smart and devoid of human emotions; they think they are manipulative enough to fool anybody.

    However, such men who feel they have more power over women, are prone to different kinds of mental illnesses.

    Men having sexist attitude are actually suffering from some insufficiency or lack of self-worth; sometimes, it has been seen, that they have a tormenting past or a suffered childhood, which turns them emotionally cold, and they want to stay away from natural humanistic behaviour.

    In the year 2008, an inside questionnaire test was performed on a group of 50 individuals, in the psychology department of Bethune College, Kolkata.

    It was a Personality Assessment Test featuring 50 questions per set. The results clearly determined, that men or women who, in general, believe in manipulating others, or think are over smart and can easily play with emotions, were detected as slightly neurotic or having medium neurosis.

    Those who are not so much traditionally patriarchal in attitude, are much more normal and mentally stable according to the test scores.

    YJoel Wong from Indiana University, conducted a mental analysis of 78 research samples, out of which people conforming to general masculine trends or norms were found to have negative mental health, than those who differed from the clichéd male theories.

    "The masculine norms of playboy and power over women are the norms most closely associated with sexist attitudes," said Wong.

    Hence, those who think they are smart because they jump in and out of relationships with women, beware! You never know, you are actually suffering from mental health dysfunction;

    you are actually lacking self-worth and confidence in your abilities and hence you are trying to prove yourself through nasty tricks over women, which never deserve any respect.

    A proper counselling at the right time, can cure many and bring them back to normal health, same applies for alpha men, they need to identify their weaknesses and deal with them at the right time to secure a better future.

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    • Ayushi Jolly
      Ayushi Jolly   Jul 11, 2017 12:18 PM

      Very well written and precisely picked up on the class of 'kewl' boys who think that being a Starboy gives them superiority. Little do they realize that it drops them off further in the scales of humanity.

  • 26 Nov
    Oyindrila Basu

    How your obsession or depression can help you in your focused thinking.

    a beautiful mind

    We have a notion, that mentally unstable people are not able to perform tasks properly, in fact, their cognitive abilities are weakened.

    However, on the contrary, a depressed person is more focused, or concentrate better on any work as deduced by Jonah Lehrar who writes in the New York Times about her research in this field.

    A depressed person can make a better mathematician, and the analogy between the two states of mind are almost the same.

    A depressed person is focused on believing his/her melancholy as the truth, and the mathematician need to be focused on formulas and techniques to solve problems.

    Let us see how this analogy is drawn.

    A person who is a good mathematician need to have an obsession for numbers, formulas and derivations; and a person in depression holds the same kind of obsession for a selective person or situation; the broken hearted person is concentrated on each and every detail of his/her pain and humiliation, such that he/she cannot get out of that depressed phase.

    Depression is a state where a person is very focused on the pain and hence cannot recover from it easily; the same kind of dedication or obsession is required for mathematical theories to solve problems. In certain cases, you also need to be imaginative about your steps while problem solving, like a depressed person imagines his/her grief to a different level, unique to the world.

    Professor John Nash was a genius, a gem of a mathematician and we all know he was suffering from paranoid schizophrenia and acute depression. #ABeautifulMind gives clear example of how an obsessed person, who visualizes his passion, becomes excellent in the field.

    This great mathematician was disillusioned, yet he solved algebraic equations and in-equations like a magician. He was depressed because of his lack of self-knowledge and struggle with illness, yet he was exceptional in his academic skill.

    He solved arithmetic on the window panes, he could visualize his numbers with the power of his mind, the focused quality of his mind, made him imagine a friend, and the same gave him the ability to invent the ‘game theory’.

    Cognitive functioning follows the same mechanism for a person who is focused and for a person who is depressed.

    For e.g. if a person is depressed, because he has had a break-up; in this situation, depression draws from the fact, that he is concentrating all his energy on one person who has left him, and he desires to get her back; he doesn’t give up; he focuses on every detail of his painful feelings, how he feels rejected, humiliated, insulted, ditched, betrayed and the like; every minute expression of the heart come alive for a depressed person.

    The brain of such a person is not weak at all, in fact, it is very productive which gives him this amount of dedication and concentration on a particular individual, the same quality of brain is required for a mathematician to exceed normal limits, and hence we can conclude that depressed persons, if they try to work out on problem solving, can do great.

    They just need to be provided with the path, so that they shift their focus from their pain and grief towards a calculative outcome oriented task.

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  • 24 Nov
    eWellness Expert

    Sleep, Mental Illness, and Addiction: Preventing Tragedy

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    Suicidal thoughts can happen to anyone for a number of reasons. However, people with mental illnesses, including addiction, are at a greater risk for suicidal thoughts and actions. Just one or the other can trigger suicidal thoughts, but for many people, the two conditions come hand in hand. Problems sleeping can play a significant role in all of it.

    Addiction and mental illness tend to be co-occurring problems with each potentially triggering the other.

    If you or a loved one has a mental illness or addiction, here are some of the things you should know in order to prevent suicidal thoughts and actions.

    Being unable to sleep can be a sign of substance abuse and/or mental health issues (especially depression), though sleeping too much can be too.

    It is not uncommon for those with an addiction to experience the symptoms of depression as well as other mental illnesses. Depression is one of the most common causes of suicidal thoughts, meaning that addiction is dangerous in more than just the most obvious ways.

    The best way to prevent addiction-fueled depression is to get treatment as soon as possible.

    Sleep disorders often occur alongside depression as well as other mental illnesses such as PTSD. Poor sleeping habits can exacerbate other mental illnesses.

    Symptoms can include irregular sleep patterns, an inability to sleep, or sleeping for too long. Treatments often involve sleep medications and supplements along with the recommendation of a nightly routine. While the latter is a good idea, medications can lead to addiction, even if unintentionally abused.

    It’s a good idea to establish a sleep routine. It could look something like this: eat dinner, go for a walk, watch a little television, catch up on some reading, and go to bed. Just remember, it’s only a routine if you do it each night. Engage in activities at the end of the day that are relaxing so you can help ease yourself into a restful state. Do not turn to drugs or alcohol for comfort because this can lead to addiction, and even create more sleeping problems, even if they seem to help on the surface.

    While depression is often the cause of suicidal thoughts, other mental disorders can very easily become the root of these thoughts. Anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder, and more can either trigger symptoms of depression or cause suicidal thoughts.

    The most important part of facing this threat is seeking help. Too many people go without treatment and watch their symptoms get worse as time passes. This is when suicidal thoughts have the opportunity to strike.

    Self-medication describes when a person abuses a substance in order to control the symptoms of an illness. It’s very common among people with mental illnesses who are not receiving proper treatment. Not only will the untreated mental illness contribute to suicidal thoughts, but the developing addiction that occurs as a result of self-medication will also have a detrimental impact.

    Substance abuse can seem to help ease the symptoms of mental illness, but in reality, long-term abuse will make things worse. This scenario can pose a deadly risk and should not be taken lightly.

    If you recognize that a loved one is struggling with addiction, mental illness, or a combination of the two, do not take your observations lightly. The longer your loved one struggles, the more at-risk for suicide they become. Treatment is not a luxury; it is an absolute necessity.

    Getting help for your loved one can be difficult if they are resistant but do not give up. Your love and support can make all the difference in whether or not they get the treatment they need.

    Knowing that you or someone you care about is at risk for suicide can be a frightening revelation. However, it is important to remember that knowing the risk factors is half the battle. If you are able to recognize the signs, you have an opportunity to get the help you need. Once proper treatment is secured and recovery is under way, a happy and healthy life is on the horizon.

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