4. Salty snack
5. Breakfast on time
4. Salty snack
5. Breakfast on time
Openeness about psychological problem
Depressed person would share their feelings openly
PTSD people would be treated routinely
Addicted People would be treated with love
Pregnant women would not suffer silently
Emotional support for Children with learning disabilities
Jeffrey Lieberman has explained more about this in his Ted Talk
Extroverts can be the most valuable companions. Their urge to talk with several people, and their ability to deal with complete strangers in the friendliest manner can be beneficial to you too.
Being with extroverts, or having a friend of the kind can ensure that you will be spared from the painful task of talking to people, or approaching someone. An extrovert friend with you, can do the job of enquiring the road directions which you might be hesitant on.
They can even talk and make friends with the coldest of sales persons and senior designated managers.
But they do not come to your doors with only gifts, they appear with their own backlogs or shortcomings.
More often, their energy is not properly channelized, they are too much enthusiastic about several things. And they do not focus, they tend to be thinking and doing several things at a time, which can lead to confusion and mismanagement.
How will you guide an extrovert person as a leader?
It is important to know how to speak to them- Speak to an extrovert in their native language, that will help them engage with you better and faster.
They will bring up multiple ideas in their conversation with you, if you are talking in their tongue. However, if you are using an official language or business colloquialism, and they are not comfortable, they will be easily disgusted with your conduct.
If you are an introvert, and you have to talk to an extrovert, try to be listener with interesting expressions J which means they will know you are listening very carefully.
They love movies with large casts and to make their love turn into your benefit, try memorizing a few speech phrases or movie names or subjects which are tacky and will attract them immediately. You start up the topic and they will continue it endlessly.
Encourage their enthusiasm- A leader should know, how to manage an extrovert. Naturally, they are power houses, and if you feel they are talking unnecessarily on an issue, which requires no discussion, don’t vent it on them.
Encourage the enthusiasm of your extrovert employee. Let his share his idea. Appreciate it if it is good, even though it may not be relevant to the situation.
“You do not have to share your expert advice all the time,” kind of conduct can automatically demoralize them, and that will hamper their future performance when the spirit is required.
To get a thing done, white lie to them, that it is for a person- we may perceive the world in terms of relationship of ideas, knowledge, art, commitment etc. but extroverts identify the same in terms of relationships between people.
It is hard for them to believe that a person can choose to stay alone or work alone, or may have something called privacy, but they will easily believe and understand that there is another person whose happiness depends on you.
So to make them adhere to a deadline or commitment, tell them that ‘the job needs to be done for an important person’. You need not let him know that the important person is you; you are indeed important.
Let them multitask- Extroverts get easily bored if they are left with one particular kind of work for a long time. Give them three to four jobs or tasks together. Have the trust that they will utilize their time in their own way for each one of them and will be productive enough.
Extroverts need to speak to think- even if you are bored or tired of their never ending discussions, you have to let them speak and engage with them to discern the idea that they are trying to bring out.
May be they are trying to talk about a single idea which is important, but they can speak a lot of other things for proving the point. You need to bear it.
Let them work independently- let them just dive into a concept on their own, if you want them to work on something properly. Tell them the topic, and instead of going into further explanations or your guidelines, let them think and decide for themselves.
Extroverts love to work independently, and flaunt their variegated ideas. When they hear of something new, they want to jump into it immediately. Do not withhold their free spirit.
What are suicidal thoughts?
Suicidal ideation, also known as suicidal thoughts or suicidal intention, is commonly understood as a preoccupation with deliberately ending one’s own life. It is a repeated thought to kill oneself in order to get respite from the intensely painful feelings or situations.
It is also essential to distinguish suicide from ‘self-mutilation’. Self-mutilation is a deliberate attempt to cause harm without an intent to kill oneself. However, self-mutilation is associated with a high risk of suicide.
Though most of us, at some point in our lives, experience suicidal thoughts it is not necessary that the occurrence of such thoughts will lead us to act upon it. However, falling into a habit of repeated, thinking about suicide could be potentially dangerous. Also, thinking about suicide repeatedly creates a false sense of comforting familiarity which leads to desensitization from danger. So instead of considering suicide as a threat to one’s existence, it becomes a relieving resort for escaping from the extreme pain and distress in life.
Suicides are more common than we imagine. Suicide rates in India seem to increase at an alarming rate. According to WHO data, a suicide is committed every 40 seconds. Suicide is one of the top three causes of deaths and to particularly point out Indian scenario, deaths in India due to suicide is much higher than global deaths happening due to natural disaster and war. During 2004-2014, India witnessed an average of more than one lakh suicides every year.
Even after numerous efforts by various governmental, NGOs and mental health organizations, it is unfortunate that the consequences of stigma, misbeliefs and misinformation attached with suicides continue to rule. Suicide continues to be a taboo subject which causes lots of discomfort and hence discussions pertaining to it are often avoided. Such intense kind of stigma prevents people from telling others about their suicidal thoughts and seeking help.
Who are at a high risk of suicide?
Generally speaking, people who have suffered major losses like the death of a loved one, divorce, loss of job, are forced to migrate to another place and/or those who have faced sexual abuse, physical abuse and bullying are at a high risk of attempting suicide. Feelings of grief, alienation, hopelessness and helplessness may also increase the suicidal thoughts. Also, people with mental illness like depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia are prone to suicidal ideation.
Apart from the above, suicides in India are caused by a variety of issues related to marriage, dowry, bankruptcy, poor academic performance, family problems, poverty, unemployment, failed love affairs etc.
How should I fight with my suicidal thoughts?
Contradictory to the popular belief, suicide should not be considered as a personal choice. It occurs when the distress and pain exceeds one’s coping mechanism and resources to fight with the pain. It occurs when the suffering becomes unbearable or the support systems and coping mechanisms are no more functional enough to combat the intense pain.
Following are some ways to deal with suicidal thoughts -
ESSENTIAL NOTE: It is crucial to understand that you may feel constrained to carry out these ways to combat with suicidal thoughts. However, you have to stay strong and determined. Challenge yourself to know what stops you from helping yourself and getting help from other sources. Stay motivated to seek out for alternatives.
Surviving Suicidal Thoughts – Some Immediate Strategies
Process of Recovery
To say the least, battling with suicidal ideation is mentally draining and traumatic. The process of recovery takes time. Seeking help from a therapist where your thoughts and concerns are addressed in a constructive way will enhance your psychological health and wellbeing.
How can I help prevent a potential suicide attempt?
If you spot the following signs in someone you care, please don't ignore. Suicide prevention starts by recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously.
Suicide is a desperate attempt to escape suffering that has become unbearable. Blinded by feelings of self-loathing, hopelessness, and isolation, a suicidal person can't see any way of finding relief except through death. But despite their desire for the pain to stop, most suicidal people are deeply confused about whether to end their own lives.
They wish there was an alternative to committing suicide, but they just can't see one. In such times, a nonjudgmental and empathic listening ear, an assurance of a brighter future and a little hope towards life can save a beautiful life from coming to a tragic end.
Remember they may not ask for help but that doesn't mean that help is not wanted. Most people who commit suicide don't want to die, they just want to get rid of the pain.
DON'T IGNORE SUICIDAL TALKS OR BEHAVIOR, IT IS A CRY FOR HELP.
Help is available: Family, friends and even at a professional level. If you're looking for a sign to not end your life, THIS IS IT!
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USA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or 911
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Australia - Suicide callback service at 1300 659 467
Canada - Distress Centre Niagara Ontario +1 (905) 688 3711
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“When people kill themselves, they think they’re ending the pain, but all they’re doing is passing it on to those they leave behind.” – Jeannette Walls
We cannot deny, that even the most rational and sensible of us, sometimes undergo thoughts which are depressing, wayward and dangerous to ourselves and to others. The mind is a complex maze and we surely don’t have the best of logics to support its decisions, all the time. There are days in our life, when we are not motivated, feel lonely and upset, do not have friends around and thoughts are so doomed that we may even think of giving up our lives.
This may not be too frequent, but there are times we think that life is not worth living. What if this hopelessness looms your life and traps your irrational thoughts. In such major depressive phases, we find people taking rash decisions on their thoughts, and risking their lives.
There are a few precautionary measures that can be taken to avoid these unfortunate accidents; if we can counsel ourselves and hold from falling apart for a short while, we can save from hurting self, or wasting our life.
Promise not to act upon your thoughts immediately- We cannot control our thoughts. Suicidal thoughts can attack any moment when your mind is not at rest or peace. Make a general and hard promise that you will give yourself some time before acting on it, and stick to the promise when such thoughts appear. If you do this ritually, the time gap will distract your mind from the harmful thoughts.
Avoid alcohol and drugs- If you are having depressive thoughts or feeling useless, intoxicating yourself is not the solution. In fact, any form of addiction or drugging will make the thing worse, your depression will increase. In the case of severe abuse, drugs or alcohol may cause induces hallucination leading to severe thought distortions. Better try to stay away from substances and be in your senses to prevent any further damaging thoughts.
Indulge in some good health practices- If you are feeling lonely, anxious or depressed, divert your mind from these negative energies. Join a gym, Zumba, or swimming club to feel healthy and motivated. When you meet new people, do some exercise, and lose some calories, you tend to feel better in mind and body, as the level of serotonin increases.
Keep your house as safe as possible- When you know you can get cranky at times, it is good to take precautions. Keep away, blades, scissors, knives or any sharp object out of your reach, if you tend to have disturbing thoughts of suicide occasionally.
Reach out a friend- Remeber, you are not alone. Your pain can ease when you open up to a trusting friend. Call up your best friend or family, whom you trust, and let them know what you are going through. This is like a mental health first aid. Talking to them will make you feel better, and in itself, might change your mind. Moreover, he or she can be of great support when you lose track of yourself.
Have a safety plan- If you are starting to have depressive or suicidal thoughts, it is better, you take preventive measures before things get worse. Consult a psychologist and attend counseling sessions to improve yourself. Self-coping efforts are encouraged but don't wait until its too late.
Talk about your thoughts- When you are feeling normal, share your thoughts with friends are family, who are concerned about you. Talking out often helps a lot in depression and anxiety. Do not keep it to yourself.
Do not stay alone- "An idle mind is a devils workshop". If staying alone gives you creepy thoughts, try to be in a social setting most of the time. Try to keep someone with you if you are prone to mood fluctuations.
Take every opportunity- Do not shut yourself up within closed doors. Go to office, meet people, watch movies, take fun tours across the city to keep yourself moving. Every oppurtunity on the way will cheer you up. It will give a positive vibe and meaning to your living.
Stay away from provoking things- You know best what is good and bad for you. You actually know, which objects, sounds, images or places remind you of your depressed state or make you think of suicide, stay away from such triggers. Engage yourself in more positive surroundings, be with people who are no way connected to your bad fate.
Life is very precious and we all get just one chance to live. Make the fullest use of it, enjoy, breathe free and do everything that you have dreamt of. Do not let a single moment or phase destroy your chance to live a beautiful life on this earth. There is always a key to the lock; you will always find a solution to your problems.
“But in the end, one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.”
– Albert Camus
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