• 14 Dec
    eWellness Expert

    12 keys to an extraordinary life of fulfillment

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    Unlock your true potential through the power of parallel. While exclusive focus on outward achievement or fulfillment will bring results- combine these forces through the six primary categories of your life to create the truly extraordinary.


     Your Keys to an Extraordinary Life of Fulfillment from Tony Robbins



    Key 1 Balance Your Body

    Power up the right way of eating more leafy green vegetables and cutting down on sugar to alkalize your body-

    75% of your diet should be composed of alkaline foods


    Key 2 Help Others

    Giving activates regions of the brain associated with pleasure, social connection and trust – and also releases endorphins resulting in a positive feeling known as the helper’s high.



    Key 3 Master your time

    Feed your mind and put you N.E.T. time (No extra time) to use.

    While you commute, run errands, exercise or clean the house, listen to podcasts or other short burst resources that will help you achieve your dreams.


    Key 4 Always know your purpose

    Challenges will always arise, even with the best time management system in place. Since 20% of what you do in life usually makes 80% of the difference, the ”why” is the most important thing to know. If you have a great enough “why”, you will ignite the emotional fuel achieve the “how”



    Key 5 Build a money machine

    The power of compounding can build your nest egg – but associated fees can rob you of what you’ve earned! A simple 1% in fees can cost you over 10 years of comfortable retirement funds.


    Key 6 Discover true wealth

    Money doesn’t buy happiness

    Become financially free by saving more and building you money machine, but allow  yourself to spend wisely. Create “magic moments” and incredible memories you can share for a lifetime with loved ones.



    Key 7 Optimize and maximize

    Sometimes, the greatest growth opportunities don’t come from new initiatives, but executing existing processes more effectively. Small, incremental improvements in a few key areas, multiplied over time= geometric growth to the whole business


    Key 8 Align with your true nature

    Discover and cultivate your core leadership gifts to learn how to live to the fullest with what you do best. By not only cultivating your own abilities, but having compassion and appreciation of others’ gifts, you can create a synergy that allows you to work effectively toward a common vision.


    Mind & spirit

    Key 9 Adopt empowering beliefs

    Free yourself from the beliefs that limit positive action and prevent you from reaching your potential.

    Our beliefs come from 5 places: our environment or circumstances, powerful life events, our knowledge, past results and future vision.

    Do your beliefs limit you or empower you?


    Key 10 Live in the present and create a beautiful state

    By exploring and identifying which emotions uniquely infuse your mind and spirit with the most joy, you can learn to cultivate their power to create a more fulfilling state of being.



    Key 11 Keep the passion alive

    Create, experience and – most vitally – maintain the lasting passion you desire.

    By identifying and understanding what worked best in the beginning of your relationship, you can continue to meet the needs of your lover and enrich your mutual experience.


    Key 12 Put your partner first

    The ultimate key to creating and experiencing an extraordinary, fulfilling relationship is to first work on yourself.

    When you raise your standards for your own behavior and actions, you will naturally empower and engage with the best in your partner.



  • 12 Dec
    eWellness Expert

    How would it be if there were no stigma attached to psychological problems

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    Openeness about psychological problem

      no stigma to mental health

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    Depressed person would share their feelings openly

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    PTSD people would be treated routinely 

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    drug addiction counselling


    Addicted People would be treated with love

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    Pregnant women would not suffer silently  

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    Emotional support for Children with learning disabilities

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    Jeffrey Lieberman has explained more about this in his Ted Talk


  • 07 Dec
    eWellness Expert

    How to lead extrovert?

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    Extroverts can be the most valuable companions. Their urge to talk with several people, and their ability to deal with complete strangers in the friendliest manner can be beneficial to you too.

    Being with extroverts, or having a friend of the kind can ensure that you will be spared from the painful task of talking to people, or approaching someone. An extrovert friend with you, can do the job of enquiring the road directions which you might be hesitant on.

    They can even talk and make friends with the coldest of sales persons and senior designated managers.

    But they do not come to your doors with only gifts, they appear with their own backlogs or shortcomings.

    More often, their energy is not properly channelized, they are too much enthusiastic about several things. And they do not focus, they tend to be thinking and doing several things at a time, which can lead to confusion and mismanagement.


    How will you guide an extrovert person as a leader?

    It is important to know how to speak to them- Speak to an extrovert in their native language, that will help them engage with you better and faster.

    They will bring up multiple ideas in their conversation with you, if you are talking in their tongue. However, if you are using an official language or business colloquialism, and they are not comfortable, they will be easily disgusted with your conduct.

    If you are an introvert, and you have to talk to an extrovert, try to be listener with interesting expressions J which means they will know you are listening very carefully.

    They love movies with large casts and to make their love turn into your benefit, try memorizing a few speech phrases or movie names or subjects which are tacky and will attract them immediately. You start up the topic and they will continue it endlessly.


    Encourage their enthusiasm- A leader should know, how to manage an extrovert. Naturally, they are power houses, and if you feel they are talking unnecessarily on an issue, which requires no discussion, don’t vent it on them.

    Encourage the enthusiasm of your extrovert employee. Let his share his idea. Appreciate it if it is good, even though it may not be relevant to the situation.

    You do not have to share your expert advice all the time,” kind of conduct can automatically demoralize them, and that will hamper their future performance when the spirit is required.


    To get a thing done, white lie to them, that it is for a person- we may perceive the world in terms of relationship of ideas, knowledge, art, commitment etc. but extroverts identify the same in terms of relationships between people.

    It is hard for them to believe that a person can choose to stay alone or work alone, or may have something called privacy, but they will easily believe and understand that there is another person whose happiness depends on you.

    So to make them adhere to a deadline or commitment, tell them that ‘the job needs to be done for an important person’. You need not let him know that the important person is you; you are indeed important.


    Let them multitask- Extroverts get easily bored if they are left with one particular kind of work for a long time. Give them three to four jobs or tasks together. Have the trust that they will utilize their time in their own way for each one of them and will be productive enough.


    Extroverts need to speak to think- even if you are bored or tired of their never ending discussions, you have to let them speak and engage with them to discern the idea that they are trying to bring out.

    May be they are trying to talk about a single idea which is important, but they can speak a lot of other things for proving the point. You need to bear it.


    Let them work independently- let them just dive into a concept on their own, if you want them to work on something properly. Tell them the topic, and instead of going into further explanations or your guidelines, let them think and decide for themselves.

    Extroverts love to work independently, and flaunt their variegated ideas. When they hear of something new, they want to jump into it immediately. Do not withhold their free spirit.

  • 06 Dec
    Aakanksha Bhatia

    Suicide: Not an intent to die but a cry for help!

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    What are suicidal thoughts?

    Suicidal ideation, also known as suicidal thoughts or suicidal intention, is commonly understood as a preoccupation with deliberately ending one’s own life. It is a repeated thought to kill oneself in order to get respite from the intensely painful feelings or situations.

    It is also essential to distinguish suicide from ‘self-mutilation’. Self-mutilation is a deliberate attempt to cause harm without an intent to kill oneself. However, self-mutilation is associated with a high risk of suicide.

    Though most of us, at some point in our lives, experience suicidal thoughts it is not necessary that the occurrence of such thoughts will lead us to act upon it. However, falling into a habit of repeated, thinking about suicide could be potentially dangerous. Also, thinking about suicide repeatedly creates a false sense of comforting familiarity which leads to desensitization from danger. So instead of considering suicide as a threat to one’s existence, it becomes a relieving resort for escaping from the extreme pain and distress in life.

    Suicides are more common than we imagine. Suicide rates in India seem to increase at an alarming rate. According to WHO data, a suicide is committed every 40 seconds. Suicide is one of the top three causes of deaths and to particularly point out Indian scenario, deaths in India due to suicide is much higher than global deaths happening due to natural disaster and war. During 2004-2014, India witnessed an average of more than one lakh suicides every year.[1]

    Even after numerous efforts by various governmental, NGOs and mental health organizations, it is unfortunate that the consequences of stigma, misbeliefs and misinformation attached with suicides continue to rule. Suicide continues to be a taboo subject which causes lots of discomfort and hence discussions pertaining to it are often avoided. Such intense kind of stigma prevents people from telling others about their suicidal thoughts and seeking help.

    Who are at a high risk of suicide?

    Generally speaking, people who have suffered major losses like the death of a loved one, divorce, loss of job, are forced to migrate to another place and/or those who have faced sexual abuse, physical abuse and bullying are at a high risk of attempting suicide. Feelings of grief, alienation, hopelessness and helplessness may also increase the suicidal thoughts. Also, people with mental illness like depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia are prone to suicidal ideation.

    Apart from the above, suicides in India are caused by a variety of issues related to marriage, dowry, bankruptcy, poor academic performance, family problems, poverty, unemployment, failed love affairs etc.


    How should I fight with my suicidal thoughts?

    Contradictory to the popular belief, suicide should not be considered as a personal choice. It occurs when the distress and pain exceeds one’s coping mechanism and resources to fight with the pain. It occurs when the suffering becomes unbearable or the support systems and coping mechanisms are no more functional enough to combat the intense pain.

    Following are some ways to deal with suicidal thoughts -


    • Speak your heart out to someone – This is the first step of breaking the barrier by discussing about your suffering. Talking about how you are feeling to someone whom you can trust and depend on will keep you going in this tough phase. It is advisable to not expect a very ‘professional’ response as people may often react to such situations with their own knowledge and beliefs. But remember that if they react to it with anxiety, fear or shock, it is a reflection of their perception and it says nothing about you in particular.


    • Avoid all sort of potential risk – Prevent yourself from any event, memory, situation, person etc. that can potentially trigger a suicidal response in you. Also, make sure that you keep ‘things’ that can harm you far away from your reach. This avoids you to act impulsively during weaker moments. Don’t intake alcohol or drugs as they may weaken your capability to reason and judge, and you may act out impulsively under the effect of alcohol or drugs.


    • Ensure complete self-care – Try to indulge in a holistic self-care practice. While going for a body spa and head massage could be relaxing for your physical self, following some self relaxation exercises and yoga at home could help you relax your mind and spirit.


    • Listen/Read inspiring stories – Knowing that there were people in your position who were thinking about ending their lives but did not do so, is motivational enough to keep up the fight. You will derive a sense of hope from their stories of strong will power to live and determination to build a positive future.


    • Minimize isolation – Being in good company will help you alleviate loneliness and depression. While you are trying to socialize, remember that you have to let yourself get completely involved in the talks and discussions. Let your mind think about other things apart from suicidal thoughts.


    • Understand your suicidal ideation – It is a good idea to engage with your thoughts and try to decipher what makes you think about ending your life. When you try to indulge with your thoughts, make sure you do it as a third person so your personal biases and prejudices towards your situation doesn’t interfere too much. As a decision like suicide is irreversible, it is quite essential to rationally understand and argue whether suicide is the only and absolute necessity in your situation. Often a debate with your thoughts will lead you to come up with various alternatives to suicide.


    • Battling with suicidal thoughts – Though a person doesn’t have much control over the thoughts entering their mind, they certainly can exert a control over the damage done by those thoughts. Try not to use those thoughts as a measuring tool for how bad your situation is or how bad you feel etc. Try to break the pattern of those thoughts by distracting your mind or thinking about other positive things. You can also use techniques like positive imagery to distract yourself or do certain self soothing exercises.


    • Keep yourself busy – Try to keep yourself preoccupied and busy with other constructive work. You may not feel like going to work but try to push yourself to do some constructive work which will serve as a distractor as well as give you some happiness. It could be something recreational, professional or even volunteering. Getting involved in some work will offer you food for thought as well which will help reduce the occurrence of suicidal thoughts.


    • Plan to visit a therapist – Prepare yourself to visit a mental health expert. They are professionally trained to help and guide you to overcome the intense pain and suffering you are experiencing. They can systematically guide and initiate you on the road to recovery.


    • Make an emergency POA- Create your personalized plan of action for surviving suicidal thoughts. You can discuss it with your loved ones, friends, family or therapist (if you already visit one) and do the following:


    • Prepare a list of emergency contact numbers to call in acute distress – Please refer to the bottom of this article for some helpline numbers.


    • Concrete plan for getting professional help – It is essential to decide beforehand about whom you will contact and how to make emergency appointments with the concerned person. You can also request someone to do it on your behalf.


    • Resource reservoir – Create or collect some personal materials like pictures of loved ones, letters, notes to self, inspiring quotations etc. which can urge you to survive in the most distressing times. You could also think of writing or requesting others to write notes about how strong willed and determined you are, which may encourage you to hold on to life for some more time.


    • Distractors – While the help is on the way, you should also keep doing something to distract yourself from acting out on your thoughts. You could watch a movie, listen to soft music, read a book etc.


    • Make a promise of survival to yourself – Commit to yourself that you will not give up till the end. Promise yourself the best facilities, care, love and positivity to overcome the suicidal thoughts. Remind yourself of all the hardships that you have survived and came out strong. For the moment, consider this as just another one. Promise yourself that you will remain resilient to the best of your abilities and if you come across any weak moments you will immediately fall upon your POA.

    ESSENTIAL NOTE: It is crucial to understand that you may feel constrained to carry out these ways to combat with suicidal thoughts. However, you have to stay strong and determined. Challenge yourself to know what stops you from helping yourself and getting help from other sources. Stay motivated to seek out for alternatives.


    Surviving Suicidal Thoughts – Some Immediate Strategies

    • Enter into a Time Out mode – Give yourself at least a 24 hour to preferably a week’s time out period. Remember that just because you feel like killing yourself right now doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to act upon it instantly. Create some time distance between your suicidal thoughts and suicidal action. Realize that you can hold on to this feeling for some more time without actually acting upon it.


    • Follow the POA immediately – Resort to your plan of action immediately. Call to those people who were in your list to immediately seek help. In the meanwhile, distract yourself from those thoughts and just hold on while the help arrives. Remind yourself that ‘this too shall pass’.


    • Reach Out for help at the earliest – Even though you may feel that nobody can really help you but the fact is that there is always ‘effective’ help out there. All you have to do is give yourself a chance to seek that help. Reach out to a mental health expert (preferably the one you finalized in your POA) and discuss your thoughts and concerns. Remember that it is just a ‘feeling’ and it is transitory in nature. With change in time and situation you will feel like staying alive again.


    Process of Recovery

    To say the least, battling with suicidal ideation is mentally draining and traumatic. The process of recovery takes time. Seeking help from a therapist where your thoughts and concerns are addressed in a constructive way will enhance your psychological health and wellbeing.

    How can I help prevent a potential suicide attempt?

    If you spot the following signs in someone you care, please don't ignore. Suicide prevention starts by recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously.

    • Withdrawal from friends and family
    • Loss of interest in pleasurable activities
    • Poor eating and sleeping patterns
    • Substance Abuse
    • Getting affairs in order
    • Saying goodbyes
    • Self loathing
    • Seeking out lethal means
    • Preoccupation with death
    • Hopelessness about future

    Suicide is a desperate attempt to escape suffering that has become unbearable. Blinded by feelings of self-loathing, hopelessness, and isolation, a suicidal person can't see any way of finding relief except through death. But despite their desire for the pain to stop, most suicidal people are deeply confused about whether to end their own lives.

    They wish there was an alternative to committing suicide, but they just can't see one. In such times, a nonjudgmental and empathic listening ear, an assurance of a brighter future and a little hope towards life can save a beautiful life from coming to a tragic end.

    Remember they may not ask for help but that doesn't mean that help is not wanted. Most people who commit suicide don't want to die, they just want to get rid of the pain.




    Help is available: Family, friends and even at a professional level. If you're looking for a sign to not end your life, THIS IS IT!

    Please contact us if you are feeling low, sad, disappointed, frustated, we are here to help you out.


    eWellness Expert is not a medical service or suicide prevention helpline. If you are feeling suicidal, please call up a suicide prevention helpline in your area. We have mentioned a few below: 
    Vandrevala Foundation Helpline - 1 860 266 2345 (24x7),   Aasra - +91 22 2754 6669 (24x7)

    USA- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or 911

    UK - Samaritans UK at +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90

    Australia - Suicide callback service at 1300 659 467

    Canada - Distress Centre Niagara Ontario +1 (905) 688 3711

    Singapore - Samaritans of Singapore 1800-221 4444

    We are not associated with any of the Suicide Prevention helpline mentioned above. The contact details mentioned can be outdated sometime, so please make sure to get their latest contact details from internet. This could be a good reference to find a helpline.

    [1]  http://ncrb.nic.in/StatPublications/ADSI/ADSI2014/chapter-2%20suicides.pdf

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