• 24 May
    Sareeta Behera

    Childhood Depression and its Aftermath

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    “There is in every child at every stage a new miracle of vigorous unfolding, which constitutes a new hope and a new responsibility for all.”

    -Erik Erikson-

     

    The ripple of situations in which life manifests itself is multifarious. Sometimes, it brings in incessant happiness and at other times it comes as a cast of gloom and vicissitudes. In the constant striving of balancing different shades of life, man encounters both positive motivation as well as negativity. He is showered with ecstasy, elation, confidence and fulfilment on one hand and stress, frustration, depression and other such experiences on the other. Life is somewhat fruitful for the one who has an effective adaptability and coping skills. Counter wise, it becomes an unbearable journey if his/her pains and sufferings are not resolved.

    In the clamber of varied situations, often children become the worst sufferers. Their tender age, lack of ample life experiences, innocence and lack of empathetic understanding on the part of their family/care givers makes them more vulnerable towards the negativities of life. Among the innumerable stabs of pain that children suffer, one of the most common aspects is depression in childhood. When it is overlooked or left untreated it can lead to more fatal situations including self-harm and suicide during adulthood or any stage of life.

    Causes of Childhood Depression:

    A child can fall a prey to depression due to various reasons. The depression can range from everyday generalized depression to severe clinical depression. Some of the reasons of childhood depression are:

    • Inability to cope with life transitions,
    • Lack of understanding, quality time, empathy, positive nurturance on the part of hi/her immediate family/care givers,
    • Isolation or bereavement,
    • Child neglect and abuse,
    • Wrong peer influence, constant comparisons with others,
    • Ill treatment by the family members or significant others,
    • Not being valued or respected,
    • Divorce or separation of parent, adoption, disrupted or broken families,
    • Neuro-chemical imbalance in the brain and so on...

    Cascades of life-threatening experience creep in once a child starts suffering from depression. Starting from low grades in school, becoming withdrawn and silent to low self-confidence, self-harming and suicide…the aftermath of childhood depression can lead to devastating consequences. Therefore, it is imperative to help children cope and overcome their depression before it becomes too late.

    Overcoming Childhood Depression

    There are a lot of ways in which innocent children can be saved from the hellish experiences of childhood depression. Some of them are:

    Respecting the Right to Life with Dignity of the Child:

     Every child on this Earth has the right to appropriate survival, protection, development and participation. While, all this can be met with efforts, ensuring the right to life with dignity of the child is the most significant step towards helping a child with depression. From a psychological perspective, it means to love, respect and accept a child as he/she is. Once this is ensured and internalized…the child will see a new sunshine at the end of the tunnel.

    Unconditional Positive Regard:

    “I can understand you”, “It is not your fault”, “I am there with you”…such words impart relentless empowerment and strength to children who are suffering from depression. As parents, care givers or responsible adults, it is our responsibility to shower unconditional positive regard to the children who are dwelling in gloom and despair.

    Quality Time and Empathy:

    In today’s fast paced life we have everything but time. But, this is what the little children require – Our quality time. No matter whether it is just 15 minutes or an hour; the quality of time that you spend with a child matters a lot. The time can be used to understand each other, be empathetic and enhancing acceptance, sharing experiences, interests, positive memories and smiles. These little endeavours mean a lot to children and help them to keep sadness and depression at bay.

    Active Listening:

    No matter how small children are or how they communicate…each and every part of their word and behaviour is their unique way of communicating their needs, problems, challenges, experiences, thoughts and concerns. Try to actively and patiently listen to the children to understand their part of the world and be a strong support system for them.

    Professional Help:

    If everything fails and the child is sinking into chronic/acute depression and other symptoms like suicidal ideations/ self harm, other psychological problems; then it is high time to take professional help immediately.

    We, at ewellness experts are awaiting your consent to help you and your child to overcome depression and gift him/her a positive life for a lifetime. We offer quality and confidential online depression therapy via email, telephone, video chats and other modes to help children in need of counselling, medical help and therapies. We are just a click away. Please feel free to contact us and get your child enrolled with our online ewellness depression therapy at www.ewellnessexperts.com and enable us to enliven your child’s life…

    Responses 1

    • Manaswini Venkateswaran
      Manaswini Venkateswaran   Jun 26, 2017 12:19 PM

      I'm glad this article exists. Depression at such an early age can be quite damaging later on in life. When left undiagnosed and untreated, it can greatly hinder healthy development. 

      Having the cloud of depression casting a shadow over what is supposed to be the happiest period of one's life can make one feel deprived and left out. No child deserves to sit on the sidelines while his/her counterparts enjoy their childhood the way they are supposed to. 

      Also, when you've been depressed for a major part of your life, you are unable to distinguish the illness from who you are. It becomes a part of your identity, which is never good as you hold onto it and the chances of relapse are greater.

      Moreover, it's much more difficult to embark on journies on self-discovery as you get older. Childhood depression takes away your chances to find out more about yourself, your interests and abilities. Thus, the earlier you catch it, the better.

      It's remarkable how these tiny things that parents do or don't do can change so much about the way the child sees the world. This article is a must-read for every parent. Good job!

  • 22 May
    Sareeta Behera

    Win Over Getting ‘Laid Off’ with Professional and Personal Finesse

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    Streaks of pain, hopelessness and agonies strike the moment you get the news about getting laid off. This news and the entire process related to it are some potential threats that can shatter your personal and professional life. Low self-confidence, financial crunches, overwhelming burden of responsibilities, social stigmatization, peer group and professional prejudice, feelings of worthlessness and helplessness…..getting laid off can mar your life and productivity in manifold ways.

    However, there is still hope lingering at your doorstep. With some effective steps you can win over getting laid off, start your professional career afresh and add more credibility to it. eWellness Expert brings you the 3Ps method of dealing with getting laid off and bouncing back into a successful professional benchmark again. With the management of Personal, Professional and Psychological aspects of getting laid off, you can overcome its aftermath with ease. Just scroll down and start building your professional life afresh:

    Personal Management:

    Tip #1: It is quite natural to feel dejected and hopeless when you get laid off. That may seem like the end of the world too. And you will find very few people who can actually empathize with what you are going through. Under such circumstances, try not to harm yourself or others. That will only lead to more painful situations. Try to keep calm as much as possible and take some quality time out for yourself.

    Tip #2: Practice ‘Pranic Breathing’ to enhance your feel-good factor and cognitive potentialities. Pranic Breathing involves a 3-step breathing process. Just sit comfortably and close your eyes. Take a deep breath. While inhaling, think and feel that you are taking in positive energies and spark within yourself. Then hold your breath for a few seconds by meditating that the positive energies that your inhaled is getting absorbed by your body and mind. And finally while exhaling out; you need to feel that all the negative thoughts and energies within you are being expelled out in the form of black smoke. You can continue this for 5-6 rounds. You will feel even better if you can add your favourite music in the background.

    Tip #3: Don’t hesitate to ask for help in case you get laid off. We all need help at some or the other point of our lives and the whole human civilization is a team effort. So, ask for help if you need to and respect the fact that you are making yourself ready to overcome the phase of getting laid off by this simple yet strong gesture of seeking help.

    Tip #4: Believe in yourself. There would have been multiple occasions in which you would have fought the most difficult battles of your life. Getting laid off can be overwhelming indeed. But, having faith in yourself, believing in yourself will give you a lot of strength to walk with your chin high again.

    Professional Management:

    Tip #5: Things can lead to professional disasters if you don’t manage your professional platform after getting laid off. So, just try to stay strong and hold on to your professional integrity. Do not indulge into shooting negative remarks emails or negative communications as such. This may turn the tide against you. Getting laid off has its own reasons and dynamics. Therefore, try to maintain your professional dignity and professional behaviour in an appropriate manner. This will not sabotage your professional-social integrity and open promising and fulfilling doors in the future.

    Tip #6: Professional Relationship Management. Instead of breaking up all ties with your team mates and colleagues, you need to continue having a good professional relationship with them. This will enhance your social support system and may lead to more promising job profiles.

    Tip #7: Don’t sign off too fast and make term clear with your HR. Before you decide to hand over everything to your office and sign off a leaving document, make sure to read through every minute detail of it before you sign it. Talk with the HR about the possible situations and repercussions of the professional terms. Think a thousand times before you finally sign off.

    Tip #8: Update your professional portfolio. Nothing is lost before you yourself let go. With a strong belief in your potentialities, expertise and experiences, update your resume and professional portfolio again. No matter for how much time you would have worked in your last company, you would certainly have gained certain skills, got exposure to newer technologies and professional development. So, it’s high time to update your resume and apply in other professional set ups that you truly deserve and organisations that will respect your potentials. Uploading your resume and portfolio in online job portals, getting recommendations and referrals is also a good idea to bounce over getting laid off and landing in your dream job.

    Psychological Management:

    Tip #9: Vent it out. Psychologists warn that pent up thoughts, feelings and emotion can lead to serious physical and psychological ailments. Just go ahead and vent out all the stacked up thoughts and feelings with someone who can help you or whom you trust. If you don’t want to do that, you can open a free online journal writing profile where you can write anything you want. The online journal portals are free of cost and maintain every confidentiality with your writing as you would be having your own log in id and password.

    Tip #10: Add a closure to your negative thoughts. Getting laid off leads to innumerable negative thoughts; culminating in pulling you back and making you totally helpless. Try the thought stop and shift method to put an end to your negative thoughts. All you need to do is take a deep breath, close your eyes and mentally shout the word STOP in your mind. Following this, you need to shift your thoughts into some constructive things or aspects that make you feel better.

    Tip #11: Do a self SWOT Analysis. Take some time out for yourself and reflect on your SWOT i.e. Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threat. Once you know yourself better you can work on to maximize your strengths and opportunities while combating your weaknesses and threats. The more insight you have about yourself, the better sooner you will land in your next job.

    Tip #12: Managing your time. Avoid procrastinating and killing time when you get laid off. Putting things for later will delay your endeavours of getting accomplished yet again. A wise step would be not to stress yourself out and get restless, rather taking of well-pacified steps forward.

    Tip #13: Prioritize your action plan. Most of the people who fail to flip back after getting laid off are due to the flaws in their priority lists. They end up messing up everything. Make a priority list of the different companies you want to apply in, the skill set that it requires and a structured action plan to hit the bull’s eye.

    Tip #14: Practice Positive Affirmations and Positive Thinking. When you get laid off, it is next to impossible to think and act in a balanced way. You need to tap yourself time and again so that you can balance your emotions, thought processes and proceed accordingly. Give yourself positive suggestions to boost your self-esteem, confidence, positive spirit and the vigor to stand upright.

    If you are finding it way too difficult to handle getting laid off, eWellness Expert can help you overcome it through effective and confidential online counselling and therapies. We are just a click away from you. Please feel free to visit www.ewellnessexperts.com and give us the opportunity to accomplish yourself professionally again.

     

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    Responses 2

    • Sareeta Behera
      Sareeta Behera   Jun 17, 2017 03:49 PM

      Self-analysis works wonders in knowing our strengths, pitfalls, potentialities and groom ourselves for the better! Life's journey becomes a bit easier with it.

    • sobha vanshal
      sobha vanshal   May 25, 2017 02:54 PM

      Thank you great post. We should analyse ourselves, to know our weakness and strength.

  • 20 May
    eWellness Expert

    OCD - Thinking the unthinkable

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    “It's like you have two brains - a rational brain and an irrational one and they are constantly fighting between the right and wrong."

     

    What are anxiety disorders? 

     

    Anxiety is an unpleasant, vague feeling of discomfort or uneasiness. All of us feel scared and anxious at some point in our lives, however when this anxiety starts disrupting a person's day-to-day functioning, it can be classified as a disorder. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD as we commonly call it is one such anxiety disorder along with many others like PTSD, Panic disorder, Phobias etc.

     

    What is OCD?

     

    A lot of us suffer from intrusive thoughts on a daily basis. These are inappropriate, irrational and in most cases morally wrong. Some common intrusive thoughts are- 

     

    • While driving a car you might think of running over the other car
    • Causing harm to a very near or dear one.
    • Bad thoughts or images during prayer or meditation
    • Thoughts of being crazy

     

     

    These are fleeting, annoying and fearsome. According to Lee Baer, a famous psychologist, suppressing these thoughts only makes them stronger.

     

    However, similar to anxiety if these thoughts start hovering over your daily life and cause compulsive behavior, this can be coined as an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. OCD is an anxiety disorder, which causes immense discomfort. Sufferers are often riddled with persistent and recurrent impulses and unwanted thoughts. An OCD sufferer is also stuck with intrusive thoughts called obsessions followed by repeated behavior known as compulsions

     

     

    I remember growing up hearing about a uncle in my family who doesn't go anywhere, and doesn't want to drink/eat from anyone's place. I had never met him in person until 2 months back. I met him, we had a good time talking but me being an extremely observant person couldn't let go of the little details I was able to put my hands on. The only thing known about him was that he was extremely fearful of eating at someone else's place. Yes, he was suffering from OCD and the sad part is no one in my family is aware of this. This is why mental health awareness is extremely essential in India as sufferers of mental health disorders are called names or are tagged with labels for other people aren't aware of the same. Seeing a psychiatrist still means, 'being crazy.'

     

    How many types of OCD are there?

    Checking - the need to check is the compulsion, the obsessive fear might be to prevent damage, fire, leaks or harm. Common checking includes:

     

    • Gas or electric stove knobs (fear of causing explosion and therefore the house to burn down).
    • Water taps  (fear of flooding property and damaging irreplaceable treasured items).
    • Door locks  (fear of allowing a burglar to break in and steal or cause harm).
    • Windows  (fear of allowing a burglar to break in and steal or cause harm).

     

    The checking is often carried out multiple times, sometimes hundreds of times, and for hours on end, resulting in the person being late for work, dates and other appointments.  This can have a serious impact on a person’s ability to hold down jobs and relationships.  The checking can also cause damage to objects that are constantly being checked.

     

    Hoarding - Another obsession long considered to be part of  ‘OCD’ is the inability to discard useless or worn out possessions, commonly referred to as ‘hoarding’.

     

    Intrusive Thoughts - Intrusive thoughts, in the spectrum of OCD, are where a person generally suffers with obsessional thoughts that are repetitive, disturbing and often horrific and repugnant in nature.  For example, thoughts of causing violent or sexual harm to loved ones. The very idea that they are capable of having such thoughts in the first place can be horrifying.  

     

    Contamination – the need to clean and wash is the compulsion, the obsessive fear is that something is contaminated and/or may cause illness, and ultimately death, to a loved one or oneself. Other examples of this fear are

    • Using public toilets (fear of contracting germs from other people).
    • Coming into contact with chemicals (fear of contamination).

     

    Symmetry and Orderliness - the need to have everything lined up symmetrically just ‘right’ is the compulsion, the obsessive fear might be to ensure everything feels ‘just right’ to prevent discomfort or sometimes to prevent harm occurring.

     

    PURE O- Some individuals may suffer from “Pure Obsessional OCD” (sometimes called “Pure O”) in which they experience thoughts without compulsions.

     

    TREATMENT FOR OCD.

     

    OCD is like any other disease and can be controlled by many means. This means it is like having asthma or diabetes. You can get it under control and become recovered but, at the present time, there is no cure. It is a potential that will always be there in the background, even if it is no longer affecting your life.  The current thinking is that it is probably genetic in origin. 

    Although you can resist performing a compulsion, you cannot refuse to think an obsessive thought since they are biochemically generated mental events that seems to resemble ones own real thoughts, but aren’t. 

     

    • Cognitive/Behavioral Therapy is the best form of treatment for OCD.



    If you think you are suffering from OCD, please don't fear visiting a psychiatrist or Clinical Psychologist. They can help you since psychiatrists can prescribe you medicines and a psychologist can perform therapy. 

     

    You cannot and should not depend upon the help of others to manage your anxiety as it may get worse and may prove to be real dangerous.

     

    It is vital to remember that no one is perfect, nor can anyone recover perfectly.  Even in well-maintained recoveries, people can occasionally slip up and forget what they are supposed to be doing.  Luckily, there is always another chance to re-expose yourself and so, rather than a person beating themselves up and putting themselves down, they can soon regain their balance if they immediately get back on track by turning again and facing that which is feared, and then not doing compulsions.

     

    Finally, because health is the result of living in a state of balance, it is extremely important, post-therapy, to live a balanced life, with enough sleep, proper diet and exercise, social relationships, and productive work of some type.

    Take care of your mental health folks, it's equally important! 

  • 15 May
    Yakata Sharma

    Are you a Tech-Slave?

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    “Hey! See my new shirt. How do I look?”—extremely delighted Siddharth asked his friend, Rohan.

    Rohan didn’t acknowledge Siddharth’s question and continued playing game on his mobile phone.

     “Rohaaaaaaan! C’mon ya! Look here dude!” screamed Siddharth.

    “O yes! You look great” Rohan said half-heartedly and was back to his game.

    Rohan’s nonchalance towards other individuals grew with the passage of time. While dining with parents he remained engaged doing something or the other with his phone, clearly ignoring his parents’ talks.

    Family gatherings were no different. He preferred sitting at one corner of the room with neck drooped down and mobile in his hands than to play with other cousins of his age.

    He no longer had the same group of friends. He started mingling up with senior boys in college and through them got into gambling.

    He remained active on his mobile till wee hours as a result, his circadian rhythm got altered. During college lectures he “slept with open eyes” all the time which significantly affected his attention and concentration level.

    His mobile addiction started affecting his academic score. He wouldn’t complete his classroom assignments timely. Furthermore, he wouldn’t attend college particularly on assignment submission

    n day(s) instead would sit in the college cafeteria all day long with eyes engrossed in his mobile phone. He wouldn’t even pay attention to his hunger calls. His physical strength deteriorated eventually.

    Soon, Rohan started reporting episodes of severe headaches, had itchy eyes and his vision got blurred too. He frequently complained about issues like sore elbows, hands and neck due to repetitive mobile use.

    While studying he kept on checking his phone after every few minutes. At times he even overheard his phone ringing when actually it didn’t.

    He wanted to get rid of his mobile phone now but couldn’t do so. He felt helpless just like a drug addict.

    Yes! Rohan suffered from Smart-Phone Addiction Disorder also popularly known as Nomophobia!

    Nomophobia is characterized by anxiety caused mainly due to the fear of not having access to a mobile phone. The uncontrollable urge to check mobile every now and then to make sure no call, message or any notification is missed. Researches have shown young adults as the most affected population by nomophobia. 

    The major psychological effects of Nomophobia include:

    • Fear and Panic
    • Aggression and restlessness
    • Low self esteem
    • Low attention and concentration
    • Feeling of missing out (FOMO) or Loneliness
    • A sense of disorientation
    • If not treated timely, can lead to Depression

    Nomophobia, along with major psychological side effects also has physiological repercussions namely:

    • Body aches
    • Pain in fingers, hands and elbow
    • Itchy and watery eyes
    • Tremors
    • Perspiration
    • Agitation and Restlessness
    • Tachycardia
    • Sleep disturbance

    A Mother to her 6 years old daughter—“No baby! Don’t shout we will leave for home shortly.” The girl continued to scream not letting the mother talk to her friend and as an easy resort mother gave her mobile phone to her baby and said—“ Now play with it till I talk to aunty.”

    With an advancement of technology and financial upliftment of society not just the adolescents but small kids of age 4-5 years remain completely engrossed in mobile phones.

    The major responsibility in curbing Smart-phone addiction lies in the hands of Parents, especially the new-breed Parents who being financially sound fulfill every/any whim(s) of their kids without giving a thought about the future disguised repercussions.

    Some parents even appreciate their offsprings operating mobile phones at a very tender age. It has been observed that excess usage of mobile phones at tender age affects the overall mental development of kids.

    Excessive mobile usage among adolescents has risen to an alarming level. Amongst other after-effects of mobile addiction deteriorating rate of Face to Face communication within families and social groups is much talked about.

    As responsible adults immediate steps should be taken to curb excessive mobile usage of teenagers as well as the young school-goers.

    As parents of young kids, it’s better to keep mobile phones out of your kids’ reach and motivate them to engage in more outdoor activities. Never-Ever use Mobile phones as reinforcer/reward in response to a desired behavior.  

    It’s better to cut it at the roots rather than bearing its brunt all your life………

  • 10 Apr
    Yakata Sharma

    Mental illness and society

     

    Human Psychology always fascinated Reema. She was quite excited to opt Psychology as her optional subject in high school. She remembers---“One night prior to my stream selection day,  I discussed my choice of subject with my Parents. Neither of my parents took me seriously and even jokingly said, “Ab tum kya pagalo ka ilaaj krogi?” and that was the beginning of my fight against the society towards mental health and illness.” And against my parents wish I studied psychology! Reema is not alone in this fight…

    The lifestyle of Generation X has turned topsy turvy with an advancement in information and technology, which has challenged society in various ways. Live-in relationships, Delayed marriages/no marriages, homosexuality, house-husbands, and most importantly, mental illness and its treatment. 

    Indians till today prefer to delay treatment courses for psychological problems like schizophrenia, hysteria, depression and suicidal ideation, anxiety disorders, Learning disabilities, Autism spectrum disorders etc. and if somehow manage to undergo treatment, prefer to keep it under the wrap.

    “It becomes a task to inform Parents about their wards condition. ‘Sir, your daughter has dyslexia. She will excel in life, undoubtedly, but if not treated in time, will definitely affect her academic score.’ The Parents were not ready to accept the reality and did not come for the further treatment program.”----shared a well-known School Counselor.

    Another Psychologist shared “People don’t want to accept the prevalence of Hysteria among school students. It’s a major contributor in continuous absenteeism in students at schools. It would have been very easy for the parents to accept, had it been a neurological issue but in case of psychological disorders they prefer to remain in denial which is even worse. We feel helpless in such cases. And the situation becomes graver with the passage of time.” 

    Moreover, the Indian society judges people irrespective of their gender, age, occupation or family background. Seeking mental health assistance for any reason becomes the topic of discussion within the groups. They don’t understand that mental health assistance is not confined with mental health problems. People can approach mental health professionals for any situation/problem which challenges mental balance thereby affecting their day-to-day activities.

    Problems may vary from relationship break-up, failure in examination, over-expectation of parents, job dissatisfaction, marital discord, substance-use/abuse, not able to identify purpose of life, non-assertiveness, aggression, confusion about career choices, helicopter parenting at home, discordant family, procrastination, commitment issues and so on….which do affect ones’ work-life balance.

    Why mental illness is not considered as grave as other medical conditions like cancer and diabetes? Why do people still feel hesitant to talk freely about it? Why do the needy ones remain skeptic about consulting a mental health professional? Why do they have to hide about the treatment program? Why??

    Firstly, it is important to understand what actually is mental illness? Is it “madness” as quoted by Reema's parents? By far, Mental illness is a clinically significant condition/ pattern of a person's behavior or thinking. It is as grave as other medical conditions and requires immediate medical attention.

    Had it not been the increased suicide cases of students in Kota or other college campuses in India, government wouldn’t have initiated “de-stressing students program” at state and national levels. Keeping in mind the gravity of the situation at school level, CBSE made it mandatory to appoint Counselors/Psychologists in all CBSE affiliated schools to attend various plights of students. At college level, counseling cells work all round the year and act vigilantly especially during examinations (the most vulnerable time for suicides). 

    With advancement in technology there are numerous platforms which provide online mental health sessions and counseling to people who feel bothered about the “social tagging” and prefer not to consult a psychologist/counselor in-person.   

    It is crucial to stand together to fight against the social taboo attached with mental illness. Orientation about mental issues organized for different groups of the society especially the “so-called educated” group is a dire need of the hour. Various other initiatives taken by government as well as non-government organizations to throw light on different aspects of mental illness and treatment at college and community levels are applaudable.

    But WE as a society still need to grow and support the people who are suffering from mental illness rather than enhancing their plight further…..!     

     

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