Remember the days of your childhood when you were happy and joyful for no reason. Little things could bring smile on your face. A small toffee was a source of joy to you. If anyone gives you a smile, you laughed with your heart filled with love. You were looking at things with great curiosity and enthusiasm.
The world was a place of wonder for you. You were enjoying the sounds of the birds in the morning. You were enjoying your hair flying in the air. You were playing in the nature, making sand house, using leaves as money, making paper boats in the rain, every item in the nature was an equipment of your play. The whole world was your playground and you were very happy and fulfilled.
You were waking up every morning with new excitement and enthusiasm, with whole lots of stuffs to do all the day. There were no past regrets or any fear about the future. We were living only in the present moment, living each moment joyfully.
But as we grew older, we lost our innocence which we had in our childhood. Everything other than our own nature begun to develop within us. We got impressions from our family, society, school, college, office… In this process of growing up we lost our true nature of being joyful and happy.
Life became more and more complicated with the wanting of more money, more power and more of every material things. Unlike our childhood, our adulthood had been filled with stress, anxiety, sadness, fear and depression. We lost our childlike innocence.
Who is responsible for our downfall from a happy human being to a miserable one?
As we already know that our original situation was not like that, then what made our childlike happiness to get melted away? Is it our family? Is it the society? Or is it our friends?
What is the reason behind this? Have you ever asked yourself this question?
Why the older we get, the more we miss the days when we were children?
Let’s come to “how we are as adults?” As adults we always try to teach our children what to do and what not to do, what is right and what is wrong, what to play and what not to play etc.
In this process of learning, the child gradually loses its original nature. We are imposing our own acquired impressions on the child. We are not letting the child grow in a natural way.
By imposing our own thinking on him we are restricting his growth. We need to provide the child an atmosphere where he can think independently and creatively, so that he will be able to grow his full potential. In a friendly environment, where the child feels loved and secured, he will grow as a happy and joyful adult.
Again, let me tell you, “Happiness is a choice.” We can be happy and joyful only if we choose to become happy “now”. We need to live in the present, to enjoy every moment of our life joyfully. As adults, most of us are always dwelling in our past or fearful and anxious about our future.
We always think we will be happy only after fulfillment of certain desire. For instance, “I will be happy after……….” Then the day your desire got fulfilled you became very happy. The feeling lasted until another desire popped up in your mind. Then there were endless desires with which we attach our happiness.
Unless we are happy in the present moment, we can’t be happy in the future. As we all know, “Tomorrow never comes” we need to live in the present and enjoy the today and our tomorrow will take care of itself. We tend to be happier when focused on the here and now, in contrast to times when our mind wanders somewhere else.
Being present is undoubtedly the only way to enjoy life to the fullest. So, how can we cultivate greater presence in the present moment? The answer is: “practice being mindful.” By being mindful, you enjoy your food more, you enjoy friends and family more, you enjoy anything you're doing more.
Even things you might think are boring, such as housework, can be amazing if you are truly present. Washing dishes or sweeping or cooking can be enjoyable, when you remain fully present.
Do one thing at a time, don’t multi task. Give your full attention to the work you are doing with all your efficiency, then it will give you wonderful result. Happiness and joy will follow you.