• 06 Jun
    Swayamprava Pati

    Joyful Living

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    Remember the days of your childhood when you were happy and joyful for no reason. Little things could bring smile on your face. A small toffee was a source of joy to you. If anyone gives you a smile, you laughed with your heart filled with love. You were looking at things with great curiosity and enthusiasm.

    The world was a place of wonder for you. You were enjoying the sounds of the birds in the morning. You were enjoying your hair flying in the air. You were playing in the nature, making sand house, using leaves as money, making paper boats in the rain, every item in the nature was an equipment of your play. The whole world was your playground and you were very happy and fulfilled.

    You were waking up every morning with new excitement and enthusiasm, with whole lots of stuffs to do all the day. There were no past regrets or any fear about the future. We were living only in the present moment, living each moment joyfully.

     

    But as we grew older, we lost our innocence which we had in our childhood. Everything other than our own nature begun to develop within us. We got impressions from our family, society, school, college, office… In this process of growing up we lost our true nature of being joyful and happy.

    Life became more and more complicated with the wanting of more money, more power and more of every material things. Unlike our childhood, our adulthood had been filled with stress, anxiety, sadness, fear and depression. We lost our childlike innocence.

     

    Who is responsible for our downfall from a happy human being to a miserable one?

    As we already know that our original situation was not like that, then what made our childlike happiness to get melted away? Is it our family? Is it the society? Or is it our friends?

    What is the reason behind this? Have you ever asked yourself this question?

    Why the older we get, the more we miss the days when we were children?

     

    Let’s come to “how we are as adults?” As adults we always try to teach our children what to do and what not to do, what is right and what is wrong, what to play and what not to play etc.

    In this process of learning, the child gradually loses its original nature. We are imposing our own acquired impressions on the child. We are not letting the child grow in a natural way.

    By imposing our own thinking on him we are restricting his growth. We need to provide the child an atmosphere where he can think independently and creatively, so that he will be able to grow his full potential. In a friendly environment, where the child feels loved and secured, he will grow as a happy and joyful adult.

     

     Again, let me tell you, “Happiness is a choice.” We can be happy and joyful only if we choose to become happy “now”. We need to live in the present, to enjoy every moment of our life joyfully. As adults, most of us are always dwelling in our past or fearful and anxious about our future.

    We always think we will be happy only after fulfillment of certain desire. For instance, “I will be happy after……….” Then the day your desire got fulfilled you became very happy. The feeling lasted until another desire popped up in your mind. Then there were endless desires with which we attach our happiness.

    Unless we are happy in the present moment, we can’t be happy in the future. As we all know, “Tomorrow never comes” we need to live in the present and enjoy the today and our tomorrow will take care of itself. We tend to be happier when focused on the here and now, in contrast to times when our mind wanders somewhere else.

     

    Being present is undoubtedly the only way to enjoy life to the fullest. So, how can we cultivate greater presence in the present moment? The answer is: “practice being mindful.” By being mindful, you enjoy your food more, you enjoy friends and family more, you enjoy anything you're doing more.

    Even things you might think are boring, such as housework, can be amazing if you are truly present. Washing dishes or sweeping or cooking can be enjoyable, when you remain fully present.

    Do one thing at a time, don’t multi task. Give your full attention to the work you are doing with all your efficiency, then it will give you wonderful result. Happiness and joy will follow you.

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  • 03 Jun
    Aparna Rana

    Time heals every wound

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    Since childhood we were told that if you waste time, time will destroy you. It was understood then and we started doing stuff with giving respect to time. However today I am drawing another aspect of time. It is true, time heals every wound, it was always said that everything happens on a predetermined time or on the suitable time, but did we ever wonder that devoting our time to a loved one can heal them comparatively faster.

     

    Let me make it clear. It happens to most of us, rather all of us, we are so much busy in our daily routines we never bother about the people we are surrounded with; we never realize that they deserve our time. When you give your time to someone you give the most precious thing because time never comes back, and it works as fuel in a relationship. Nowadays money has become everything as we can't survive without it, but what about our relations, we start taking them for granted, this may cause many mental health issues. Humans are puppets with breath and life and emotions. Emotions need to be cherished & live, but in the blind race for money and career establishment we somehow ignore this. Like an abandoned plant, which dries up of ignorance, relations also start dying.

     

    Here I am not talking about ignorance; there is a slight difference in ignoring someone and not giving proper time. Work pressure of an unspoken competition with colleagues or a self competition diverts a person towards self concentration for achievements. In this practice sometimes one forgets about their most precious aspect, i.e. relations. It is very difficult to recognize when we started taking our loved ones for granted.

     

    It is not necessary to sit 24hrs a day with a person to talk or make them realize your existence and their importance; only a few minutes can do the miracle. In fact sometimes a tight and affectionate hug does a better job. The all a person need is a little attention to refuel his or her life battery. Doesn't matter in which relationship you are, your every relationship needs you equally. It may be your family or your colleagues, family gives you the motivation and the co-workers provide you the healthy competitive environment. A good relationship with colleagues prevent you from work pressure which is more precisely said 'job pressure'. A team of good teammates create healthy competition; undoubtedly it increases productivity as well as sound mental and physical health. So does a family. Family is the biggest support system in a person's life; we get positive energy and enthusiasm to achieve our desired goal. A sound environment has the power to save from mental fatigue.

     

    I suggest one should grab sometime from their busy schedule to nourish their tree of relations. It is the best remedy to cope with your whole day long struggle to prove yourself the best. It may charge both: the relationship and the desire to achieve career goal. It is said and well understood that family is the most important part of life, it is the support system to rise and achieve all we want. 
    At the end of the day all a person needs is mental peace and rest for the body, spending time with your loved ones makes this practice so easy and reliving. In today's era our body has become a machine, and machines do need to be cared properly, as we charge our electrical batteries our body also requires charging - both mental and physical; and our loved ones do remarkable job.

    Responses 1

    • Sanjna Verma
      Sanjna Verma   Sep 27, 2017 09:06 PM

      A very nice topic which is so importnt to realise in today's time. Nowadays we all are so grossed in our lives, striving for excellence that we are forgetting the essence of relationships which should not be the case. You are very right in saying that even a few minutes of interaction or a hug can do wonders. I have experienced this myself. After a long tiring lecture in college when I get to meet my buddies, it seems as if there is some feel good hormone released inside me. Having conversations over very silly topics and laughing over it is very refreshing. Also, whenever we face any issuein our lives, an availabiltiy of social suppport can do wonders in terms of emotionally and handling the problem at hand.

      I really liked the name of the topic that Time heals all wounds. Giving time heals every stressful wound which has been caused due to this fast-paced and competitve journey called Life.

  • 28 May
    Swayamprava Pati

    Yoga: A helping hand in depression

     

    "Yoga is not an ancient myth buried in oblivion. It is the most valuable inheritance of the present. It is the essential need of today and the culture of tomorrow."

                                                                                                                                                                                    Swami Satyananda Saraswati

    Depression (major depressive disorder or clinical depression) is a common but serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working. Depressed mood, low self-esteem and loss of interest in normally enjoyable activities if persists for a longer duration, is referred to as Major Depressive Disorder in clinical terms.

    There are some key steps you can take to lift your mood and help your recovery from depression.

    1. Take your medication: It is important to take your medication as prescribed, even if you start feeling better. If you stop medication too soon, you could have a relapse of your depression.
    2. Exercise daily: It has long been known that regular exercise is good for our physical health. It can reduce the risk of cancer, heart disease and strokes. Studies have shown that physical activity also has benefits for our mental health. Exercise can help people with depression and prevent them becoming depressed in first place. Take up some form of exercise. If you have not exercised for a while, start gently by walking for 20 mins every day.
    3. Healthy Diet: Diet plays a huge role in depression. If we eat better foods like lean proteins, whole grains, fresh fruits and vegetables, we can have higher energy levels and sharper mental focus. Drink lots of water. Eat healthy.
    4. Be more socially active: Don’t withdraw from life. Socialising can improve your mood. Keep in touch with friends and family and share your feelings by talking to them when feeling low.
    5. Face your fear: Don’t avoid the things you find difficult. Running away from the situation is not going to help, rather face them with courage and self-believe and you will see things will get better gradually.
    6. Have a routine: When people feel down, they can get in to poor sleep patterns, staying up late and sleeping during the day. Try to get up at your normal time and stick to your routine as much as possible. Not having a routine can affect your eating, which will have adverse effect on your health.

     YOGIC MANAGEMENT

    Yoga is a physical exercise that involves different body poses, breathing techniques, and meditation. The therapy may help with depression and your symptoms, such as difficulty concentrating or loss of energy. The yogic practices focus on to activate the person, develop positive thoughts and to infuse energy into the person.

    Yogic Practices for depression:

    1--Kriyas:

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    Jalneti:  Jalneti is a nasal cleansing technique used to clean out the nasal cavity. Yogis have practiced it for centuries for its innumerable and powerful benefits. It is an important part of the Shathkarmas, that is, the practices to purify the human body. Jalneti health benefits are manifold. It also reduces depression and anxiety and helps in increasing the concentration power. It considerably lessens migraines and headaches.

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    Sutraneti:  Sutraneti is the more advanced form of neti, which needs to be performed only under the supervision of a qualified and trained yoga guru. Neti has a cooling, soothing effect on the brain and can help with headaches, migraine, temper tantrums, hysteria, depression and general mental tension.

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    Kapalbhati: Kapalbhati is a type of breathing exercise that helps in dealing with various types of ailments over a period of time. "Kapal" means forehead and "bhati" means shining. Eventually, Kapabhati should bring about a glow on the face of the practitioner. Blood pressure, heart rate, respiratory rate and blood circulation are found to be within the normal physiological limit during long time practice of Kapalbhati. The practitioners feel light, calm and peaceful state in their mind.

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    2--Suryanamaskar: Surya Namaskar is a set of 12 postures, preferably to be done at the time of sunrise. The regular practice of Surya Namaskar improves circulation of blood throughout the body, maintains health, and helps one remain disease-free. Surya Namaskar calms the mind and helps improves concentration. It boosts endurance power and reduces the feeling of anxiety and restlessness.

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    3--Yogasanas: Pavananuktasana, Savangasana, Matsyasana, Gomukhasana, Bakrasana, Bhujangasana, Dhanurasana, Makarasana, Ushtrasana, Shashankasana, Tadasana, Urdhwahstottanasana and Shabasana are some of the yogasanas which will help in the treatment of depression.  Yogasanas has been proven to help decrease stress, anxiety, insomnia, depression, and many other mental health issues. These yoga asanas works by decreasing activity in the sympathetic nervous system.

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    4--Pranayama: Pranayama, or expansion of the prana or vital energy, occurs through the control of the prana. Nadishodhana pranayama, Ujjayi, Bhramari and Bhastrika are some of the pranayama techniques which are very useful in the treatment of stress, anxiety and depression. Through pranayama one learns to consciously alter his breathing and thus his emotional state. One can attain a calm and alert state with regular practice.

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    5--Meditation: Breath awareness and OM chanting meditation are believed to help in developing a calm state of mind. Meditation brings the brainwave patterns into a relaxed alpha state that relaxes the body as well as the mind. Meditation relaxes the entire brain, including the amygdala, which is the emotional centre of the brain, that brings emotional stability.

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    6--Yoga Nidra: Nidra means a relaxed state of mind but when we add awareness to it, it becomes yoga nidra. Yoga nidra will be quite useful as this practice is believed to act on the subconscious level to bring about a state of homeostasis in the body and mind. Yoga nidra promotes deep rest and relaxation, which helps in dealing with anxiety and depression.

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    • Bella Thomas
      Bella Thomas   Feb 21, 2018 05:52 PM

      All kinds of yoga poses described in this article are really helpful in keeping all kinds of mental problems like anxiety and depression at bay. Read this article thoroughly if you are looking forward to getting rid of mental stress by all kinds of natural means.

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    • Riya sharma
      Riya sharma   Feb 20, 2018 06:05 PM

      I never knew that Yoga can heal the mind during the tough phase of anxiety and depression and can relax a person so much. Thank you for writing this article and describing everything well.

      Good news! You can also make a career in the concept of Yoga and can train yourself completely to become a good yoga instructor. For more information, visit https://arohanyoga.com/

  • 24 May
    Sareeta Behera

    Childhood Depression and its Aftermath

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    “There is in every child at every stage a new miracle of vigorous unfolding, which constitutes a new hope and a new responsibility for all.”

    -Erik Erikson-

     

    The ripple of situations in which life manifests itself is multifarious. Sometimes, it brings in incessant happiness and at other times it comes as a cast of gloom and vicissitudes. In the constant striving of balancing different shades of life, man encounters both positive motivation as well as negativity. He is showered with ecstasy, elation, confidence and fulfilment on one hand and stress, frustration, depression and other such experiences on the other. Life is somewhat fruitful for the one who has an effective adaptability and coping skills. Counter wise, it becomes an unbearable journey if his/her pains and sufferings are not resolved.

    In the clamber of varied situations, often children become the worst sufferers. Their tender age, lack of ample life experiences, innocence and lack of empathetic understanding on the part of their family/care givers makes them more vulnerable towards the negativities of life. Among the innumerable stabs of pain that children suffer, one of the most common aspects is depression in childhood. When it is overlooked or left untreated it can lead to more fatal situations including self-harm and suicide during adulthood or any stage of life.

    Causes of Childhood Depression:

    A child can fall a prey to depression due to various reasons. The depression can range from everyday generalized depression to severe clinical depression. Some of the reasons of childhood depression are:

    • Inability to cope with life transitions,
    • Lack of understanding, quality time, empathy, positive nurturance on the part of hi/her immediate family/care givers,
    • Isolation or bereavement,
    • Child neglect and abuse,
    • Wrong peer influence, constant comparisons with others,
    • Ill treatment by the family members or significant others,
    • Not being valued or respected,
    • Divorce or separation of parent, adoption, disrupted or broken families,
    • Neuro-chemical imbalance in the brain and so on...

    Cascades of life-threatening experience creep in once a child starts suffering from depression. Starting from low grades in school, becoming withdrawn and silent to low self-confidence, self-harming and suicide…the aftermath of childhood depression can lead to devastating consequences. Therefore, it is imperative to help children cope and overcome their depression before it becomes too late.

    Overcoming Childhood Depression

    There are a lot of ways in which innocent children can be saved from the hellish experiences of childhood depression. Some of them are:

    Respecting the Right to Life with Dignity of the Child:

     Every child on this Earth has the right to appropriate survival, protection, development and participation. While, all this can be met with efforts, ensuring the right to life with dignity of the child is the most significant step towards helping a child with depression. From a psychological perspective, it means to love, respect and accept a child as he/she is. Once this is ensured and internalized…the child will see a new sunshine at the end of the tunnel.

    Unconditional Positive Regard:

    “I can understand you”, “It is not your fault”, “I am there with you”…such words impart relentless empowerment and strength to children who are suffering from depression. As parents, care givers or responsible adults, it is our responsibility to shower unconditional positive regard to the children who are dwelling in gloom and despair.

    Quality Time and Empathy:

    In today’s fast paced life we have everything but time. But, this is what the little children require – Our quality time. No matter whether it is just 15 minutes or an hour; the quality of time that you spend with a child matters a lot. The time can be used to understand each other, be empathetic and enhancing acceptance, sharing experiences, interests, positive memories and smiles. These little endeavours mean a lot to children and help them to keep sadness and depression at bay.

    Active Listening:

    No matter how small children are or how they communicate…each and every part of their word and behaviour is their unique way of communicating their needs, problems, challenges, experiences, thoughts and concerns. Try to actively and patiently listen to the children to understand their part of the world and be a strong support system for them.

    Professional Help:

    If everything fails and the child is sinking into chronic/acute depression and other symptoms like suicidal ideations/ self harm, other psychological problems; then it is high time to take professional help immediately.

    We, at ewellness experts are awaiting your consent to help you and your child to overcome depression and gift him/her a positive life for a lifetime. We offer quality and confidential online depression therapy via email, telephone, video chats and other modes to help children in need of counselling, medical help and therapies. We are just a click away. Please feel free to contact us and get your child enrolled with our online ewellness depression therapy at www.ewellnessexperts.com and enable us to enliven your child’s life…

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    • Maria Thomas
      Maria Thomas   Feb 23, 2018 03:50 PM

      The various yoga poses listed in this article make sure that you get rid of depression and anxiety if you start performing these poses of yoga on a regular basis. Yoga helps to keep your overall being fit and fine.

       

      You can also think of making career in the field of Yoga by training yourself in the various yoga teacher training programs. To know more, visit http://costa-rica.shadesofyoga.com/

    • Manaswini Venkateswaran
      Manaswini Venkateswaran   Jun 26, 2017 12:19 PM

      I'm glad this article exists. Depression at such an early age can be quite damaging later on in life. When left undiagnosed and untreated, it can greatly hinder healthy development. 

      Having the cloud of depression casting a shadow over what is supposed to be the happiest period of one's life can make one feel deprived and left out. No child deserves to sit on the sidelines while his/her counterparts enjoy their childhood the way they are supposed to. 

      Also, when you've been depressed for a major part of your life, you are unable to distinguish the illness from who you are. It becomes a part of your identity, which is never good as you hold onto it and the chances of relapse are greater.

      Moreover, it's much more difficult to embark on journies on self-discovery as you get older. Childhood depression takes away your chances to find out more about yourself, your interests and abilities. Thus, the earlier you catch it, the better.

      It's remarkable how these tiny things that parents do or don't do can change so much about the way the child sees the world. This article is a must-read for every parent. Good job!

  • 22 May
    Sareeta Behera

    Win Over Getting ‘Laid Off’ with Professional and Personal Finesse

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    Streaks of pain, hopelessness and agonies strike the moment you get the news about getting laid off. This news and the entire process related to it are some potential threats that can shatter your personal and professional life. Low self-confidence, financial crunches, overwhelming burden of responsibilities, social stigmatization, peer group and professional prejudice, feelings of worthlessness and helplessness…..getting laid off can mar your life and productivity in manifold ways.

    However, there is still hope lingering at your doorstep. With some effective steps you can win over getting laid off, start your professional career afresh and add more credibility to it. eWellness Expert brings you the 3Ps method of dealing with getting laid off and bouncing back into a successful professional benchmark again. With the management of Personal, Professional and Psychological aspects of getting laid off, you can overcome its aftermath with ease. Just scroll down and start building your professional life afresh:

    Personal Management:

    Tip #1: It is quite natural to feel dejected and hopeless when you get laid off. That may seem like the end of the world too. And you will find very few people who can actually empathize with what you are going through. Under such circumstances, try not to harm yourself or others. That will only lead to more painful situations. Try to keep calm as much as possible and take some quality time out for yourself.

    Tip #2: Practice ‘Pranic Breathing’ to enhance your feel-good factor and cognitive potentialities. Pranic Breathing involves a 3-step breathing process. Just sit comfortably and close your eyes. Take a deep breath. While inhaling, think and feel that you are taking in positive energies and spark within yourself. Then hold your breath for a few seconds by meditating that the positive energies that your inhaled is getting absorbed by your body and mind. And finally while exhaling out; you need to feel that all the negative thoughts and energies within you are being expelled out in the form of black smoke. You can continue this for 5-6 rounds. You will feel even better if you can add your favourite music in the background.

    Tip #3: Don’t hesitate to ask for help in case you get laid off. We all need help at some or the other point of our lives and the whole human civilization is a team effort. So, ask for help if you need to and respect the fact that you are making yourself ready to overcome the phase of getting laid off by this simple yet strong gesture of seeking help.

    Tip #4: Believe in yourself. There would have been multiple occasions in which you would have fought the most difficult battles of your life. Getting laid off can be overwhelming indeed. But, having faith in yourself, believing in yourself will give you a lot of strength to walk with your chin high again.

    Professional Management:

    Tip #5: Things can lead to professional disasters if you don’t manage your professional platform after getting laid off. So, just try to stay strong and hold on to your professional integrity. Do not indulge into shooting negative remarks emails or negative communications as such. This may turn the tide against you. Getting laid off has its own reasons and dynamics. Therefore, try to maintain your professional dignity and professional behaviour in an appropriate manner. This will not sabotage your professional-social integrity and open promising and fulfilling doors in the future.

    Tip #6: Professional Relationship Management. Instead of breaking up all ties with your team mates and colleagues, you need to continue having a good professional relationship with them. This will enhance your social support system and may lead to more promising job profiles.

    Tip #7: Don’t sign off too fast and make term clear with your HR. Before you decide to hand over everything to your office and sign off a leaving document, make sure to read through every minute detail of it before you sign it. Talk with the HR about the possible situations and repercussions of the professional terms. Think a thousand times before you finally sign off.

    Tip #8: Update your professional portfolio. Nothing is lost before you yourself let go. With a strong belief in your potentialities, expertise and experiences, update your resume and professional portfolio again. No matter for how much time you would have worked in your last company, you would certainly have gained certain skills, got exposure to newer technologies and professional development. So, it’s high time to update your resume and apply in other professional set ups that you truly deserve and organisations that will respect your potentials. Uploading your resume and portfolio in online job portals, getting recommendations and referrals is also a good idea to bounce over getting laid off and landing in your dream job.

    Psychological Management:

    Tip #9: Vent it out. Psychologists warn that pent up thoughts, feelings and emotion can lead to serious physical and psychological ailments. Just go ahead and vent out all the stacked up thoughts and feelings with someone who can help you or whom you trust. If you don’t want to do that, you can open a free online journal writing profile where you can write anything you want. The online journal portals are free of cost and maintain every confidentiality with your writing as you would be having your own log in id and password.

    Tip #10: Add a closure to your negative thoughts. Getting laid off leads to innumerable negative thoughts; culminating in pulling you back and making you totally helpless. Try the thought stop and shift method to put an end to your negative thoughts. All you need to do is take a deep breath, close your eyes and mentally shout the word STOP in your mind. Following this, you need to shift your thoughts into some constructive things or aspects that make you feel better.

    Tip #11: Do a self SWOT Analysis. Take some time out for yourself and reflect on your SWOT i.e. Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threat. Once you know yourself better you can work on to maximize your strengths and opportunities while combating your weaknesses and threats. The more insight you have about yourself, the better sooner you will land in your next job.

    Tip #12: Managing your time. Avoid procrastinating and killing time when you get laid off. Putting things for later will delay your endeavours of getting accomplished yet again. A wise step would be not to stress yourself out and get restless, rather taking of well-pacified steps forward.

    Tip #13: Prioritize your action plan. Most of the people who fail to flip back after getting laid off are due to the flaws in their priority lists. They end up messing up everything. Make a priority list of the different companies you want to apply in, the skill set that it requires and a structured action plan to hit the bull’s eye.

    Tip #14: Practice Positive Affirmations and Positive Thinking. When you get laid off, it is next to impossible to think and act in a balanced way. You need to tap yourself time and again so that you can balance your emotions, thought processes and proceed accordingly. Give yourself positive suggestions to boost your self-esteem, confidence, positive spirit and the vigor to stand upright.

    If you are finding it way too difficult to handle getting laid off, eWellness Expert can help you overcome it through effective and confidential online counselling and therapies. We are just a click away from you. Please feel free to visit www.ewellnessexperts.com and give us the opportunity to accomplish yourself professionally again.

     

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    • Sareeta Behera
      Sareeta Behera   Jun 17, 2017 03:49 PM

      Self-analysis works wonders in knowing our strengths, pitfalls, potentialities and groom ourselves for the better! Life's journey becomes a bit easier with it.

    • sobha vanshal
      sobha vanshal   May 25, 2017 02:54 PM

      Thank you great post. We should analyse ourselves, to know our weakness and strength.

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