• 18 Jun
    Parnika Jhunjhunwala

    Things introverts wish others understood!

    When we talk about personality traits like introversion and extroversion, we are actually talking about the person’s energy orientation, i.e. where the individual draws energy from. Not physical energy, but rather their soul energy if I may say. For example, introverts, if put in a social environment for too long will feel drained and would need solitude to regain energy. This regain is not physical, but more so, recharges the soul.
    Extroverts- are stimulated by the environment and people around them.
    Introverts- are stimulated by themselves. They need time for personal reflection, peaceful meditation or just solitude


    9 Things Introverts Wish Other People Knew!

    1. They are not shy. Being shy and being an introvert are two different things. Shyness has more to do with discomfort and anxiety in situations involving social interaction. Many introverts are not shy, they may feel at ease around other people but need more alone time to sort things out.

    2. They are not rude or arrogant, they are just more reserved. The stone-faced demeanor does not imply rudeness and does not mean they dislike everything.They just suck at expressing themselves. They prefer not to react and respond to everything that comes their way.

    3. They are not emotionless. It’s just that, expressing emotions is a task for them. They find it very difficult to articulate their thoughts, feelings, emotions. That doesn’t mean they are not interested in what you are saying. Please don’t interpret their silence as disinterest! They just don’t freely express everything. Trust me, they feel equally happy or sad but you just don't know.

    4. They do like talking. Of course, they do! They just prefer to listen more and always avoid small talk. They are more than willing to indulge in deep conversations, about the things that matter and they’re passionate about. Most often they prefer some specific people who don't drain them too soon.

    5. They are not loners/anti-social. It’s true as mentioned, that they need their space to “recharge”, by reading or reflecting; but they also like human interaction and enjoy the company of other people; but mostly with people who agree to their terms. They do however dislike shallow socializing.

    6. They like to go out too! Being an introvert doesn’t mean that they always want to stay inside the four cozy walls of their homes, they love to go out, explore new places, experience new things; they are just not very comfortable in a large group of people. With few really close ones or even by ourselves, they definitely love to go out.

    7. They don’t have depressive personalities! Just because they like being alone, they are generally stereotyped to have depressive or negative-slanting personalities. This usually happens when extroverts have to spend considerable time with introverts (being quiet and spending time alone). They end up feeling understimulated with introverts and report feeling sad and depressed. Trust me, We know the difference between solitude and loneliness.

    8. They sometimes prefer listening to conversations. Why is this so difficult for people to understand?  They don’t wish to speak sometimes, but just to listen. Just because an introvert is standing alone doesn’t mean that they need someone to talk to. Even if I don't have opinons to contribute I would still like to be around.

    9. Sometimes, they don’t want to have people around them. Yes, there are times they feel like locking themselves up in the house and not seeing anybody for days. They just need some quiet and will be fine shortly. People don’t have to fake concern over “why are they in the zone?” 

    introvert chart

    Let’s take a closer look at introverts and their preferences.

    • Social preferences 
      They tend to have a smaller social group. They prefer quality over quantity.
      Introverts may or may not suffer from social anxiety. Social anxiety is characterized by a fear of rejection or criticism so much so that it gets in the way of living life. Such people develop negative cognitions about themselves in social situations. It goes beyond feeling shy or being an introvert. One can be an anxious or non-anxious introvert.
      In general, introverts are very specific about how they like to spend their time, and more importantly, with whom.

    • Cognitive preferences 
      Introverts think before they speak. They need to consider their thoughts before articulating them. That’s why they take a while to respond to questions.
      They prefer depth. While extroverts prefer variety in their activities, conversations and social group, introverts prefer depth. They’ll have few friends, they like to talk about things in detail, they lay emphasis on details and meaning. Meaning and depth are so important to them that, research has shown they prefer music which is more meaningful rather than hip-hop or rock music.
      Also, research has shown that introverts are more sensitive to incoming information and they put in greater mental effort to analyze the information more deeply than their extrovert counterparts. So their process of processing the information is more detailed and deep. So generally, introverts function at a higher level of stimulation.


    • Emotional preferences 
      Introverts bottle up their emotions. They find it difficult to express themselves. They are sometimes also perceived as emotionally dead but it’s just that things are a little more difficult for them on the emotional front. Since introverts already function at a higher level of stimulation, they avoid environments and situations which are also highly stimulating, since then it becomes too overwhelming for them and they either avoid expressing themselves or avoid the situation. 


    • Personal space
      They live in a bubble. Their space is sacred for them and is highly necessary for them to function properly. If someone invades their space, they immediately feel uncomfortable. It is hard for them to function without this sense of privacy.


    • Interpersonal preferences
      They need a lot of alone time, they like quiet.  They can spend a lot of time alone and be just fine. They love their company and don’t get bored with themselves. However, they do love their close circles more than anything and choose to open up to them without hesitation.
    Introverts are a misunderstood bunch of people. I personally wish people are not so hasty in judging their personalities. They do like people and socializing, it’s just that they like it in a different way than extroverts. (:

    Responses 4

    • Sanjna Verma
      Sanjna Verma   Aug 31, 2017 08:16 PM

      This is a good piece and every introvert would like to share this with every other individual who thinks introversion is equal to being in depression. I never knew that people are so stereotypical in their views of this personality trait. It should not be the case though.

      I liked your point wherein you stated about being alone. That does not mean they do not want to mingle with others but just like an extrovert feels like his/her day has not gone good as he/she had a minimal interaction with people around them. It is the same case of introverts wherein they require a lot of me-time and being with others after some extent, pisses them off.

      Though I am not an introvert but I can guarantee that every introvert will thank you for this wonderful, written piece!



    • Sayantani Dey
      Sayantani Dey   Jun 24, 2017 04:10 PM

      Being introvert is actually not a weird think. Infact, those who don't understand them, are weird for sure. Hi dear, this article is really informative. I know some people who are introvert and they always feel difficulty in life situations because people always misinterpret them and as you said they think that they are rude, have ego problem, or showing attitude and BLAH! BLAH! BLAH!

      I always try my best to share my little knowledge with others because I know that it is also not their fault that they have lack knowledge about introverts.

      Yes it is true that the introverts have small friends circle, they also love to enjoy but not with everybody, they also share feelings and talk to limited number of persons. They are not alliens, they are also humans. They just have some issues, which should be understood, and they should be respected.

      Thank you for this article. Many people will feel the benifits after reading this.

  • 10 Jun
    Manaswini Venkateswaran

    Virginity and The Hymen

    virginity and hymen

    If you’ve ever bothered to look at the classifieds in the newspaper, you’ll notice that there is a whole bunch of people looking for eligible bachelors and spinsters to marry off their sons and daughters to, respectively.

    Maybe your eyes glazed right over them because the requirements to get married nowadays look so much like the qualifications you’d need to get into a multi-national company (in fact, I’m beginning to wonder whether getting into an MNC might be easier than getting married).

    Anyway, if you looked carefully at some advertisements asking for brides, you’d find that most families have one particular requirement – which the bride should be “of good character and morally sound”.
    You’re mistaken if you think they’re looking for a kind heart and a good sense of what’s ethical.

    What is a hymen?

    Google defines it as “a membrane which surrounds and partially closes the opening of a vagina and whose presence is traditionally taken to be a mark of virginity”.

    Doesn’t seem like a big deal right? Well, this membrane may be small but it has had a big impact on the way that we view sex, virginity, and women.
    Not just in Indian culture, but in several cultures and communities around the world, a woman’s virginity (i.e. the presence of an intact hymen) is considered to be a sign of purity. In fact, the phrase “losing one’s virginity” itself seems to imply a reduction in value.

    From all this, we can clearly see that there is a gender bias when it comes to virginity. Historically, male virginity was not paid much attention.  In fact, the very promiscuity that was (and is) discouraged in women was (and is) glorified and celebrated in men as a mark of masculinity (or “being a man”).

    People seem to be willing to go to any lengths to ensure that their new bride is a virgin, right from the classic white bed sheet on the first night of marriage to barbaric practices such as agnipariksha (where the girl is made to walk on hot coals, like Sita did to prove her loyalty to Rama in the Ramayana).
    Terrified of the consequences that these tests of purity could have on their image and reputation, many women even opt for hymenoplasty, a temporary surgical restoration of the hymen.
    Sadly, the general reaction to the knowledge that a girl is not a virgin is not limited to a few raised eyebrows and rejected marriage proposals. Many girls who are found to have broken or ‘missing’ hymens before marriage have been the victims of brutalities by their own families, the families they marry into as well as the communities they inhabit.  

    Many of them suffer punishments that are unwarranted, due to the fact that there are several misconceptions surrounding the hymen.

    Here are some myths about the hymen, debunked:

    • The Hymen Covers The Vaginal Opening:We’ve always been told that the hymen is a membrane that completely covers the vaginal opening, like a seal and that this seal is “broken” once a woman has vaginal intercourse for the first time. This makes no sense logically because if it really covered the opening, there would be no room for menstrual blood and vaginal discharge.In reality, the hymen is a membrane that surrounds the vaginal opening.


    • All Virgins Bleed During First-Time Intercourse:
      Tearing of the hymen and bleeding may be the case for about half of the female population. Even then, if there is any damage to it during intercourse, it simply repairs itself. It may end up looking a little different, which is what leads people to come to the conclusion that it has been “lost” or “broken”.

      About 50% of the time, however, no damage is done and it is simply stretched out. It’s a very elastic membrane and not as fragile as we’ve been led to believe.Some women can continue to engage in sexual relations for a long time and still have an intact hymen.
      This is why some virgin women do not bleed during first-time intercourse and fail ‘virginity checks’ due to the fact that they have highly elastic hymens.


    • The Hymen Is Torn Only During Sex:
      The hymen can tear or stretch for several reasons other than sex, such as rigorous athletic activities, for e.g. horse riding and gymnastics, or from tampon usage. This may or may not be a painful occurrence. Some people experience light spotting, while others may not even notice.


    These facts about hymens have been known to medical professionals for over 100 years, but still, we continue to believe the myths. This only proves that the stories we have been fed about hymens and virginity are a ploy to control women’s sexuality.

    We teach our girls that their worth is attached to this so-called indicator of purity and instill fear in them that anything they choose to do with their bodies cannot be kept a secret. These insecurities are what drives them to go to ridiculous lengths such as getting hymenoplasties, fake hymen inserts to use on their wedding night, animal blood and even harming their genitals in order to cause a certain amount of bleeding which will serve as proof of their virginities to their husbands and in-laws.

    In recent years, however, due to the rise of the feminist movement and the emphasis on bodily autonomy, more and more women are beginning to be open about their sexuality and sexual experiences. Women now refuse to let their self-worth be tied to something as trivial as virginity.

    Sex before marriage is no longer a taboo, at least in urban areas with a cosmopolitan atmosphere. Sexual compatibility is actually beginning to be a prerequisite before marriage for most new-age couples and many prefer to be in romantic and sexual relationships before they decide to tie the knot. In fact, many prefer to never marry and opt for live-in relationships.  The pressure to get married and settle down is a lot less than it used to be in our parents’ and grandparents’ time. Casual sexual relations without any promise of commitment are also on the up rise.

    What a woman does with her body is her choice and whether we like it or not, we should respect that choice.  

    Responses 4

    • Sanjna Verma
      Sanjna Verma   Sep 29, 2017 10:37 PM

      This is a topic which everyone should read about. It is very informative not just in terms of debunking the myths related to hymen and intercourse but also to make women realise that their sexuality is determined by themselves, not by their family members nor their friends or anyone else. It is saddening to note that how women's respect in the society is determined by the fact that she has had intercourse before her marriage or with someone whom the family does not approve of. I believe it is a biological need and it can be with anyone whom both the partners approve of.

      Honestly, before reading this piece I only heard about what hymen is, but this gave me an insight in terms of what it actually is and I am fortunate enough to be knowing about it from the right source! Anyhow, thanks for sharing this information.

    • Sareeta Behera
      Sareeta Behera   Jul 05, 2017 12:51 PM

      I  wonder why is virginity still attached to the private parts !!!! What about the psyche behind it. Sadly, rarely people get this point. Unless and until sexuality is understood in a scientific and biological perspective, such taboos and denigrating situations will tend to linger. The society needs a very strong psycho-education on such facets. And each and every individual or professional has a role to play.

  • 10 Jun
    Manaswini Venkateswaran

    When Does Regular Anxiety Turn Into Anxiety Disorders?

    anxiety and its disorders 

    Ever been nervous about a big test? Felt butterflies in your stomach before an interview with a potential employer? Experienced dry-mouth before speaking on stage?

    All of us, at some point, have experienced Anxiety, a feeling of worry or uneasiness about something with an uncertain outcome. We all experience it differently; for some of us, it’s limited to a slight feeling of unease while others may experience physical symptoms such as sweating, trembling, racing heartbeat, muscle tension and dry mouth. The physical symptoms are caused by the sympathetic nervous system, which controls our fight-or-flight response (a defense mechanism that sets off whenever we sense danger). Other symptoms include cognitive (i.e. anxious thoughts) and behavioral symptoms (such as avoidant behavior, restlessness, inattention and so on).
    Anxiety is a fairly normal phenomenon and also necessary because it enables us to cope with threatening situations. As long as the effects are short-lived, of low intensity and do not affect our day-to-day functioning, there is no cause for worry.

    It becomes a "disorder" only when the cognitive, behavioral and physical symptoms are persistent, severe and causes intense distress to the person to the point that it interferes with functioning in their everyday life. Some of the common symptoms you can identify in a person with an anxiety disorder are:

    • Cognitive:
      Anxious thoughts (eg: “I’m losing control”)  

      Anxious beliefs (eg: “only weak people get anxious”)
      Anxious predictions (eg: “I’m going to humiliate myself” or “something terrible will happen”)
    • Behavioural:
      Avoidance of feared situations
      Avoidance of activities that cause feelings similar to that of anxious (eg: avoiding exercise to avoid breathlessness and sweating – both effects of anxiety)
      Subtle avoidances (distracting behaviors, such as excessive talking, moving or fidgeting)
      Safety behaviors (to make one feel safe, such as always being close to doors and exits to facilitate easy escapes from a dangerous situation)
    • Physical:
      Physical symptoms that are excessive and disproportionate to the situation, such as dizziness, palpitations, and breathlessness (which may be mistaken for a heart attack)

      Anxiety disorders may be persistent or may wreak havoc, in short, intense episodes. They may occur for no apparent reason or reasons that may seem trivial or silly to the rest of us. Surprisingly, most people with anxiety are aware of the irrational nature of their fears but are still unable to control them.

    Types Of Anxiety Disorders:
    Anxiety disorders can be of many types on the basis of the nature and duration of anxiety. Some of the most notable types are – Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Specific Phobias and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.


    • Generalized Anxiety Disorder(GAD)

      generalized anxiety disorder

      Think about your mother. Does she worry when you're late coming home? Does she send you a few frantic text messages and call you repeatedly?
      This kind of worrying is normal and disappears once you come home.
      However, if she's uneasy the whole time you're gone, is unable to distract herself and imagines terrible scenarios about why you're late, it may be a sign of GAD.

      GAD is a disorder characterized by excessive, uncontrollable worry about seemingly minor things. The symptoms have to be present for a period of 6 months for a diagnosis. 
      People with this disorder worry about a variety of things. Sometimes the worry may not be caused by anything specific but manifests as an overall feeling of dread and unease which they can't shake off or explain.
      There is a high level of irrationality among people with GAD. Rather than taking measures to solve their problems, they engage in an avoidant behavior.
      For example: if high blood pressure or sugar levels are a concern, a normal person would constantly check these levels and take steps to prevent them from rising. A person with GAD, on the other hand, would avoid checking these levels altogether and do nothing about it.
      They may also experience physical symptoms like muscle tension, sleep disturbances, restlessness, inattentiveness, and irritability.


    • Panic Disorder(with or without Agoraphobia):

      panic disorder

      Think about the last time you were extremely scared. Did you feel yourself shaking? Your heart pounding? Were you sweating? Did you feel like you were rooted to the spot and couldn't move?
      This must have been in response to something you were scared of and you probably felt more at ease once the fear-producing object or situation was out of the picture.
      Now imagine experiencing all these physical symptoms randomly, without any cause or perceivable threat in the environment. Imagine feeling all this along with feeling extreme fear, like you're dying or losing control. This is what a panic attack feels like.
      Panic attacks refer to a sudden onset of physiological fear responses without any immediate threat from the environment. 1 or more panic attack is enough for the diagnosis of panic disorder. It can be seen as a "false alarm" of sorts, as it occurs without a perceivable cause.
      The physical aspect of anxiety dominates in this disorder. People experiencing panic attacks feel intense fear, nausea, dizziness, acute discomfort, heart palpitations, chest pains, breathlessness and a feeling of losing control or imminent death.
      The sudden onset of these symptoms can be quite disarming and people who have experienced these attacks often live in fear of the next one, developing a condition called Agoraphobia, where they avoid situations and activities that could trigger an attack. These people fear to have a panic attack and not having help, so they do not visit places alone. Some of them fear activities that produce effects similar to that of a panic attack (such as exercising, which causes sweating and breathlessness).


    • Specific Phobias:

      specific phonia

      Imagine that you have a fear of dogs. You are uneasy in the presence of a dog and jump a bit if one approached or barked at you, but if the dog was tied up and safely on the other side of a compound wall, you wouldn't perceive the dog as that much of a threat.
      Now imagine another person with the same fear extremely distressed at the sight (or mere knowledge) of the dog on the other side of the wall. They refuse to go anywhere near the wall and feel breathless, tense and upset. This person has a phobia of dogs.

      A specific phobia refers to an extreme, irrational fear of a particular object or situation. There has to be persistent fear for a period of 6 months or more for diagnosis. The level of fear is excessive and disproportionate to the object or situation, which is what makes it different from normal fears.  
      Some phobias have their onset in childhood and disappear by adolescence or adulthood, such as natural environment phobias (such as the fear of water or natural phenomena) and animal phobias. Fears of heights (acrophobia) and snakes are the most commonly recorded phobias.
      Some phobias are situational, such as agoraphobia (which I mentioned before) and claustrophobia(a fear of closed spaces).
    • Social Phobia/Social Anxiety:

      social phobia

      We've all been nervous before speaking to an audience, going to a gathering full of strangers or starting over at a new school, college or workplace. We all want to be liked and accepted by others and we all doubt if we will be. However, this feeling is mild and it doesn't stop us from entering these situations because the new beginning is too good an opportunity to pass up.
      If the fear of being judged and rejected by others is so intense that you avoid these situations altogether, it may be an indicator of Social Anxiety. 
      People with social anxiety have an intense fear of being publicly humiliated, ridiculed and judged negatively by others. Social anxiety includes a variety of social situations and is not to be confused with Performance Anxiety ("Stage Fright"), which is limited to activities involving performing in front of others (singing, dancing, speaking, etc).
    • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder(OCD):


      Try to recall some of the things you do every day, without fail. These may include self-care activities like brushing twice a day, bathing, washing your hands before you eat, etc. or checking behaviors like making sure the stove is turned off and the doors are locked before you leave the house or go to sleep. Self-care activities are normal and checking on things in the house once or twice is nothing out of the ordinary. If we forgot to brush our teeth before bed or ate without washing our hands, it wouldn't be that big a deal. 
      Now, imagine being unable to sleep because you keep thinking the door is unlocked and someone might enter the house, despite having gotten up to check 8 times and finding it locked each time. Or turning your car around and driving home when you're halfway to college or work because you think you left the steam iron on and it might cause a fire, despite having made sure 3 times that it was off before you left.

      Obsessions refer to intrusive thoughts and urges that are beyond one’s control. They are often irrational and persistent. They may include fears such as those I mentioned above - fears of intruders in the house, destruction, contamination, etc.
      Compulsions are repetitive, ritualistic behaviors that are in line with the obsessions. These behaviors are performed to relieve the anxiety caused by obsessions, but this relief is short-lived and soon, the behavior has to be repeated.
      OCD can greatly hamper daily functioning and the perfectionism that characterizes those with OCD can greatly affect task completion. For instance, a person with an obsession with cleanliness may spend all day cleaning the house and not do anything else.
      Some of the other common obsessions seen among those with OCD are those with symmetry (needing things to be equal and aligned, resulting in compulsive stacking and arranging) and hoarding (collecting objects that have no real value, convinced that they will be needed some day – the obsession is a fear of throwing something away and needing it later).


    • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD):


      If you've experienced a natural disaster (such as an earthquake), a road accident or the loss of a loved one, you know how devastating it can be. Normally, you would try to get your life back on track and the thoughts of what happened would not bother you after the event is over.
      Some people are not able to move on so easily. Memories of the event are still fresh in their minds and they continue to relive each terrifying moment and the feelings that came with it long after the tragedy has passed.

      PTSD is a stress reaction that occurs after one has gone through a traumatic event. Even after the event has passed, the person is still not ‘out of it’. They relive the trauma through ‘flashbacks’ (which evoke the emotions experienced during the original event) and have trouble sleeping due to nightmares about the traumatic event.

      PTSD comes under the category of anxiety disorders because just like people with panic disorder, PTSD patients avoid situations that will remind them of the trauma and trigger the flashbacks.
      The diagnosis is given after a month of symptoms and those experiencing symptoms for less than a month are given the diagnosis of Acute Stress Disorder.


    Anxiety disorders or even just excessive anxiety is a fairly common problem in this day and age. We tend to ignore the signs because our culture tends to take mental health lightly and dismiss these things as temporary or milder than they actually are. Up to 1 in 4 adults suffer from an anxiety disorder and the victims are predominantly women. Working, studying and performing other regular activities can become a task for people with these disorders.
    However, they are treatable, and the earlier they’re caught, the better. Educating yourself about these disorders and learning to recognize the symptoms is beneficial for you and those around you.


  • 09 Jun
    Manaswini Venkateswaran

    Why Online Therapy is as effective as in-person therapy

    Want to shop for clothes but are clueless about the latest trends?
     Flipkart and Amazon to the rescue!
    Low on groceries?
    No problem, Big Basket can deliver them to your doorstep.
    With so many food-ordering apps showing you dishes from nearby restaurants, not anymore!

    These days, everything seems to be making a shift to the online world. You name it, there’s an app or a website for it. It’s remarkable how things that would have required considerable effort on our part just a decade ago are now provided to us at the touch of a button. So it’s not surprising that the internet has crept its way into the less materialistic aspects of our lives, such as enabling us to give and receive support when times get hard.

    The earliest form of online therapy was the 1960s computer program, ELIZA, who was designed to imitate and parody a therapist. Today, we can talk to real therapists through the internet using emails and in real time with instant messaging and video calling.  

    In fact, a recent study in Zurich revealed that online therapy can prove to be as effective as in-person therapy for those with moderate depression. The study was conducted on 62 patients who were divided into 2 groups of 31 people each. One group was administered traditional cognitive therapy, both orally and in writing, while the other was administered therapy online, with one ‘predetermined writing task’. By the end of the study, 53% of the online therapy group were no longer diagnosed with depression, compared to the 50% of the traditional therapy group. Three months after remission, depression could not be detected at all in 57% of the online therapy group as compared to 42% of the traditional therapy group. The conclusion of the study was that online therapy can prove to be a good supplement to traditional therapy.

    Despite the study proving that online therapy is more effective than traditional therapy, the difference is quite small (signifying that other factors may have come into play) and there is still some debate as to the qualifications of people administering online therapy (as there is a risk of fraud) and whether online therapy can really be the same as in-person therapy, due to the fact that the therapists might miss out on important body language cues if the clients are not physically present. However, video calling is helping to counteract this issue. Many online therapists conduct face-to-face sessions through Skype and other video-calling services.

    Granted, severe mental illnesses are not treatable via the internet and require an in-person consultation, but here are some advantages of seeking help for some of our milder, everyday problems –


    It provides a safe space, free of judgement:

    There’s something comforting about anonymity. We tend to be less inhibited about the things we say if our true identities are kept confidential. Online therapy encourages the very core of all therapy – free sharing. Safely behind a screen, people are no longer afraid to speak about their problems. In fact, the entire consultation can remain confidential. This is one of its unique selling points as there are a lot of stigmas attached to the whole issue of mental illness and needing help from mental health professionals.


    Written expression can be therapeutic in itself:

    Often, during traditional therapy, clients may be overwhelmed by emotions and may not always accurately explain their issues during the first few sessions. This is because creating a trusting relationship with a therapist takes time. Many patients do not open up easily. Writing to a therapist about the issue can make sure all points about the issue and the kind of help required are covered accurately and can be therapeutic in itself. Along with being cathartic, writing about the issue can give a person clarity and may even provide them insights about how to deal with their problems.


     It’s cost-effective:

    As of now, online therapy services are still an upcoming trend, so these facilities are very affordable as of now. Some apps provides help for free and there is no additional cost of joining online forums and support groups.  ewellness Expert has its own discussion forum where users can ask all kinds of questions and get answers from experts, interns and other users alike.


    It’s convenient:

    Online therapy services are accessible to anyone with a working electronic gadget and an internet connection. They can be accessed anytime, anywhere, at one’s own convenience. Gone are the days where you’d have to shift around 10 items on your schedule to squeeze in your weekly therapist appointment. No commuting required, you can access these services from the comfort of your home.


    It can indirectly provide psychoeducation:

    When we seek help and support for our problems online, it provides scope for learning. Discussion forums and online support groups provide an incredible amount of insight into the lives of others facing the same or similar problems and give us access to the various kinds of coping strategies that they use to manage their problems. We not only get the support we are looking for but also learn to be more empathetic towards others in our lives going through difficult times and pick up on signs that may be silent cries for help.


    Like many other ventures, online therapy is work-in-progress but is already proving to be beneficial for many. Often, we may feel alone in our struggles, especially in a society where we tend to sweep any talk of mental illness and other issues under the rug. The internet connects us to various people and communities who we can relate to and share our problems with, making us feel like we’re not alone.

    Although it may have its shortcomings and risks right now, with a bit of innovation and a few tweaks here and there, I think online therapy can evolve enough to enable the carrying out of full-fledged therapy right here on the world wide web.

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    Responses 1

    • Sayantani Dey
      Sayantani Dey   Jun 30, 2017 12:03 AM

      This article is very important. Specially for those people who hesitate to go for an online therapy, or believe that it is just a waste of time.

      Actually the truth is, people doubt on these online theraputic sites, because fraud companies are always there in internet, to fool them, and take their money. So, it is not surprsing that they will trust the facial interaction more than online counselling.

      But there have some advantages of online therapy. Like,

      • these are less expensive.
      • one can share his/her feelings and thoughts without hesitation, because there is no physical interaction.
      • You have a broad choice of psychologists around the world from where you can choose as per your choice.
      • They all are well trained, and some of them even give in-person therapy also.

      Thanks for this article. 

  • 09 Jun
    Parnika Jhunjhunwala

    Didn't score well in exams? Life is NOT over!

     3 idiots

    I always wonder why we humans pay so much attention to numbers. Be like height or weight, money or even the number of friends on social media. And not to forget, Marks! We are so obsessed with numbers, in this battle of trying to quantify everything we are losing out on the other things that life has to offer. This race of scoring "good grades" doesn't stop. Moreover, now the definition of good has become so vague. Earlier, even 80% was considered to be good, now anything below 95% is considered to be "mediocre". 

    But we have been judging characters and intelligence with numbers for far too long and it's time we change. And we need to start with the thing that matters most- Academics.


    This article is addressed to those low scorers who have been labelled so by the society. 


    1. You are not your marks! Yes, marks are important. They make life hell of a lot easier. But you know what, the so called toppers, whom the best colleges welcome with insanely high cutoffs, who end up being hired by huge companies who come into these colleges with a brand name, get a stable job, marry and have kids and the cycle goes on with their kids too. Can you see a pattern? Of predictability? Of nonchalance? Of repitition and boredom? Agreed, a lot of us want to live in a bubble of security that is offered by the job. But you know what we miss out? We miss out the aimless roaming and finding ourselves. Having adventures and learning from the experiences along the way. Toppers find it easier to settle, but the non toppers take a bit longer. Because they are busy exploring the world, figuring out stuff, diving into adventurous stuff rather than becoming victims of a monotonous life. You are what you experience, what you learn from life, from people; not what you learn from books only. A delay in settling does not mean you never will. So what if you didn't get that covetous placement, maybe you end up starting your dream business and make more money than that 10CGPA colleague ever will! You are your ideas, your creativity, your interpersonal skills, your personality and your astuteness; none of which is measured by marks, not in the Indian education system atleast.

    2. Life is not equal to marks! Sure you study a lot of math and science at school, but it is not necessary that you like them too. And if you don't like something it is likely that you will not be very good at doing that. But that does not mean that you won't ever excel at anything! Maybe you don't understand Flemmings right hand rule or why we practice integration, but you might like photography or have a passion for cooking and if given a chance to try out what interests you, you do wonders! There is a lot more to life than math or the convoluted laws of physics and the marks you score in something which tests how well you can do rote learning. You don't need to know what a modal verb or the fluid inside a cell is called to get where you want to go in life. You need ideas+passion. So go on adventures, dream BIG and don't worry about the marks you score. 

    3. Strive for excellence. Will anybody ask you what your weight was if they see you all toned and healthy? No. The same is for marks. Once you successful in life and doing well for yourself, nobody cares. Nobody cares what you scored. Your marks then become a laminated sheet of paper, stored away in the dusty attic. Then what matters is what you think of yourself, what poeple think of you, what goodwill you have earned as a person, your actions that earn you your unique "brand name". Once you are doing something which gives you success, nobody enquires after marks. So what if you scored 75 in class X? Life will give you plenty of opportunities to prove yourself to whomsoever it is that you want to. Don't let your marks define/discourage you. 


    Tomorrow is my exam but I

    don't care because a single

    sheet of paper can't decide 

    my future

    -Thomas A. Edison

    Albert Einstein, as a child didn’t start speaking until he was four, reading until he was seven, and was thought to be mentally handicapped by his teachers. But now, he doesn't need an introduction. 

    Steve Jobs, he was a college dropout, but once again, this man doeesn't need an introduction anymore.

    After failing every subject except English, Al Pacino dropped out of his New York High School to pursue acting. 

    David Karp, the CEO of Tumblr dropped out at the age of 15 and did homeschooling. 

    The list is long enough. The idea is not to motivate you to dropout, but to make you understand that there is something that matters more than marks and the conventional schooling. It is your interest. Find out what you are passionate about and just go do it. Experience the liberation of following your dreams instead of being held back in the shackles of marks. 

    And even if you are so much affected by the marls you score, then let them affect you- but, positively. Scored low? Badly screwed up your 10th grade? It's okay. Breathe. Collect yourself and promise yourself to stand upto your expectations the next time. Life gives plenty of chances, you can give yourself a second chance, can't you?

    Afterall, you are more than a two digit number. 

    Responses 1

    • Sanjna Verma
      Sanjna Verma   Sep 29, 2017 10:49 PM

      This is such a good piece and an excellent topic, considering how expectations have increased due to increase in marks which should not be the case. As you said that passion is important and the trait of hardwork as well. Nothing is possibel without hardwork. Not even good marks. If you have a good intellect, that would not do you any good, unless and until you work hard to achieve what you want to. Even the examples of Steve Jobs or Bill Gates prove that it is important to work hard in order to be succesful, they hardly had interest in academics but they had this interest and they worked towards and made it big.

      This should not be just aimed at students but also parents, in my opinion because even they should understand their child's interest and encourage them to excel rather than degrade their morale on the basis of a sheet of paper. It is important for the child where his mistake is, collect himself and move on. All in all, this is a well-written piece.

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