• 15 Jun
    Prasha saggu

    Art as Therapy

    art therapy

    We live in a world where stress shadows our daily life. Be it children at school or grandparents at home, we all are stressed and feel incapable of coping with the demands of the environment. Most often, we are unsure of our emotions, unable to identify what is wrong and the pressure seems enormous. We hear students commit suicide as they feel burdened by their studies and the pressure that they have to face from their parents, relatives and society seem intolerable to them. Parents have their own concerns that contribute to stress in their lives. Stress has become a part of our lifestyle now and we consider it to be normal. However, prolonged stress can have devastating consequences. There is a dire need to inculcate positive strategies that help people cope with these stressors.

    Art therapy allows us to see things about ourselves which we can never comprehend otherwise. 

    Traditional methods of therapy have been extremely efficient but the use of art has benefits that can leave us spellbound. We all are aware of the stigma attached to seeking a therapy or going for counseling but 'Art' as a mode of therapy can be really beneficial for those who are hesitant to express themselves through words. The use of art evokes a sense of introspection in a way, no other therapy can.

    What is art therapy?

    Art therapy is a form of psychotherapy that uses art as a mode of expression and communication. It is often referred to as expressive arts therapy as it utilizes self-expression in treatment or therapy. The use of art in the field of psychology is not a new concept and has its roots in history. The work of art may have been said to be initiated by Sigmund Freud- the father of psychoanalysis. Freud mentioned the use of art in the defense mechanism- Sublimation, where the individual uses art as a method to express his/her unconscious desires in a socially acceptable manner. For e.g.: A painter who fantasizes about naked women may express his fantasies in his paintings which are appreciated by his friends and society.

    Art in any form is conducive to well-being: social, emotional and physical. In fact, with every new form, there is a new insight and a new understanding. The various forms of art that are used for therapy include dance, drama, poetry, music, play, and art.

    A therapy full of wonders! 

    The benefits of art therapy are innumerable, from aiding in reducing stress to helping patients with severe mental illness, art therapy can do wonders. This therapy may be used as a part of the treatment strategy for a wide variety of behavioral, emotional, and mental health problems. These include: 

    • - ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder)
    • - Social challenges which may commonly include anger issues.
    • - Eating disorders.
    • - Depression
    • - Anxiety
    • - Post-traumatic stress disorder. 

     

    The most notable benefits of expressive arts therapy are:

    Promotes self-expression, feelings, and emotions- we all have an innate ability to express ourselves and our emotions. Some may do it verbally while for some art may play a major role and help overcome the barrier of language and words.

    Increases attention span - Researches reveal that most of our thoughts are about the same thing going in and out. Art helps to reduce this chaos which occurs in our mind and helps us focus and thus increasing the attention span.

    Increase awareness and consciousnessArt not only helps an individual express himself better but also helps the person to explore himself and be more self-aware.

    Enjoyable and fun filled than a regular therapy procedure - Expressive art undoubtedly is a therapy encompassing a package of learning and introspection through enjoyable activities. 

    Enhances motor and coordination skills - Intensive use of gross and fine motor skills is a marked entity in any form of art. It adheres to all age groups from all cultures.

    Increase problem-solving skills- It enhances the cognitive abilities and enables swiftness and quality in problem-solving abilities.

    Gives confidence and boosts self-esteem- Art gives the liberty to be yourself and express the true self. It gives a rush of confidence to showcase your best and let go of inhibitions.

    Instills curiosity and divergent thinking- The trigger of creativity induces unique ways of thinking. It gets the right brain working and enhances the explorative tendency in a person to find new perspective every task.

     

    Techniques in Art Therapy

    As discussed earlier, Art therapy does not constitute a single, sole or fixed method of treatment but a combination of various art forms which the facilitator combines according to his/her understanding and creativity. People usually live with the misperception that to get the benefits of art therapy, one needs to face in those forms but it is not so. Just a few strokes, some random moves, a mix of tunes is helpful given that you enjoy what you are doing. Moreover, the list of techniques to choose from is abundant and the client usually relates to one of them. These include:

    Poetry therapy and bibliotherapy are used to describe the intentional use of poetry and other forms of literature for healing and personal growth. Words make a huge impact and have the power to transform a person.

    Play therapy is the use of a therapy involving interpersonal trust and bonding wherein trained play therapists to use the therapeutic powers of play to help clients prevent or resolve psychosocial difficulties and help them grow.

    Sandplay therapy is a creative form of psychotherapy that involves the use of a sandbox and a large collection of miniatures to enable a client to explore the deeper layers of his or her psyche in a totally new way, by constructing a series of “sand pictures,” a client is helped to illustrate and integrate his or her psychological condition.

    Mask making, Clay-moulding and Pottery are some of many tasks that enhance creativity and fine motor skills. It gives a tactile stimulus to the person that calms the senses. it is highly effective for people with frequent anxiety complaints.

    Finger painting may be used as a form of projective play and in a typical session the therapist will describe the process, but will not suggest a specific topic or the color to be used. Instead, he/she may provide broad instructions such as “paint something you love the most” The therapist observes the content of the picture and behavior of the individual while making it. Once the picture is finished, the therapist will ask the affected individual to tell a story about the painting.

    Dance/ movement therapy (DMT)

    Our bodies hold impressions. This statement may seem vague but carries a whole lot of meaning. The experiences we go through may not always be retained in out memory but our bodies make sure to hold them through.

    In a case of a girl with extreme anger issues, months of therapy was going in vain until one day she was asked in an exercise to keep a balloon afloat just by using her nose and it was surprising that this exercise acted as an icebreaker and the girl began to open up about her issues as she would play a similar kind of game with her brother in her childhood. Her relationship with her brother was seen as a major concern to help the patient overcome her anger issues and then the treatment took no time to help the patient heal.

    This is a mere example of the miracle dance and movement therapy can perform. In other cases, several other partially paralytic patients from old age homes were made to recover from their depressive moods by just observing their fellow mates performing to music. Such is the power of dance movement therapy. This therapy is a way to help the client tell his/her story and perform catharsis using bodily movements. It is based on the simple assumption that mind and body are linked. Benefits of dance movement therapy include stress reduction and mood management. For patients with eating disorders, this can help improve self-esteem and body-image. It is different from any other form of exercise as it utilizes movement to communicate the unconscious and conscious desires and feelings through dance. 

    Not just as a form of therapy, most managers of a chain of stores use this strategy wherein before the store is made to open, all the staff members are supposed to dance for a few minutes and then start with their work. Thus is based on the fact that good mood leads to better performance. 

     

    Art therapy is the purposeful use of visual arts materials and media in intervention, counseling, psychotherapy, and rehabilitation; it is used with individuals of all ages, families and groups ( Edwards, 2004; Malchiodi, 2012).

     

    Research indicates that art therapy can help reduce feelings of isolation, can help improve communication and concentration. This is useful for people of all age groups but may have better results for children as they are more oriented towards choosing art as a means to express themselves. Various techniques are used in this therapy such as painting, finger-painting, doodling, scribbling, carving, making pottery etc. are also noted to help in catharsis and self-awareness. The amalgamation of expressive arts in the curriculum of the education system shall do wonders and may help alleviate the present condition of the education system.

    Responses 1

    • Radhika Goel
      Radhika Goel   Jul 22, 2017 08:31 PM

      Hey, this is such an interesting article. One amazing part of art therapy is that people practice it without realizing it as well. Taking out time to engage in any artistic activity like dance, artwork, singing, or exercise every day is similar to people discovering it's therapeutic effects during counseling. For example, I enjoy dancing and whenever I feel down I like to put on some music and just dance my heart out till I feel better. Today, people have found other methods as well. For example, playing video games for my computer helps him relieve stress which also helps him concentrate, not get distracted, improves his motor skills and problem-solving skills.

  • 14 Jun
    Manaswini Venkateswaran

    Maximum Success, Minimum Efforts - A Guide to Studying for the Lazy

    guide to lazy study

    You probably read the title and thought to yourself, “Who’s this old bore and what lecture on productivity and the importance of studying will I be put through today?”

    Well, what if I told you, you can continue to be your lazy, laid back self and still achieve academic success? That probably got your attention. Well, obviously, I’m not saying give up and do nothing but I’m saying you could do a lot less.

    All our lives, we’ve been told that good things come to the hard workers and that being lazy is probably the worst thing you could ever do. I’m probably one of the laziest people I’ve ever met, and years of trying out productivity-increasing study strategies with no result made me realize that the key to success for the lazy is not hard work but consistent work.

    Boy, was that a load off my shoulders! I spent years feeling bad that I couldn’t study for hours on end like my hardworking counterparts but once I realized I’m wired differently and the approach that seems to work for everyone will not work for me, everything got a lot easier. I am not a study-all-day kind of person, I never will be, and that’s okay. However, that doesn’t mean I can’t do just as well as the study-all-day people and this article will explain how that’s possible.

    The truth is, extremely hard work has been glorified in our culture to the point where it gets a little toxic. We’re taught that we’re not doing enough unless it’s taking a toll on our mental and physical resources. We associate productivity with stress, sleep deprivation, and bad health. We go so far as to classify people who aren’t stressed and enjoy life as uncaring and laid-back.

    Why we seem to think that struggling is the only way to success, I’ll never understand. We push ourselves to the breaking point to achieve something that could be achieved without the hassle, with some careful planning and consistency.

    Moreover, you could do a lot better if you just kept a cool head. You’ll be able to retain a lot more and overall, just feel better about yourself.

    Anyway, without further ado, here’s my tried-and-tested method to ace those exams without breaking a sweat.

    • Plan Your Studying Around Your Laziness, Not The Other Way Round:
      So once you’ve established that you’re insufferably lazy and will do just about anything but work, come up with a plan that leaves you more than enough time to do things you enjoy or just lounge around.The popular study strategy is to make a timetable which leaves no time to do any of that. If you’re lazy like me, that’s not going to work at all.Before you make any such schedule, be really honest with yourself. Consider how much work you’re REALLY going to put in. Making overly-ambitious timetables is not only futile but will also make you feel bad about yourself. Spare yourself the misery. So if you can only focus for 3 hours a day, forgive yourself and read the next step.
    • Minimize the Per-Day Workload:
      Once you’ve established the exact extent of your laziness, you can plan your studies accordingly. Start in advance. This seems like something you hear all the time, but I mean WAY in advance. For the study-all-day people, starting in advance may mean starting two or three weeks before the exams.
      If you’re not this type of person, you need more time. It’s advisable to start at least 1 ½ to 2 months in advance. The reason you need more time and they don’t is that they can get a lot more done in one day. Starting in advance means you have to do less work per day. The later you start, the more you have to do each day. I find it helpful to divide the total number of chapters I have to study by the number of days I have to complete them.For instance: 8 chapters per subject x 5 subjects = 40 chapters.40 chapters/30 days = roughly 1 ½ chapters each day. 40 chapters/15 days = roughly 3 chapters per day. Which seems more doable?
    • Prioritize:
      If there are subjects you are extremely good at or which you can complete the syllabus of in less time compared to the other subjects, do it. Don’t work more than necessary for a subject that doesn’t require it. For example, my strong subject is English. I have a good hold on the language and I can finish the syllabus in 4-5 days. Use your own discretion and decide how much time you need for each subject.
      Also, decide which subjects to prioritize as per your timetable. You don’t have to study every chapter of every subject before the exams start unless all your papers are one after the other. If you have a few days before each paper, leave some of the easier chapters for those days. It’ll take a lot of the pressure off in case you’re not able to complete all the chapters before the exams commence.
    • Systematic Revisions:
      Plan out what you want to read through right before the exam or a day before. Frantically flipping through the pages won’t do you any good. Carefully consider the things that need another reading and go through those first, before going to the things you know better.
      Revising the tough stuff usually takes up more time, so prioritize that instead of reading through things you already know. Even if you don’t manage to read through the stuff you know well, chances are you’ll be able to retain it in the exam. Our subconscious minds can surprise us like that.
      Also, while you’re revising, prioritize revising previously-learned material over the recently learned material. Recently-learned material stays fresh in your mind but things you’ve learned before start to fade away if you haven’t read it in a long time.

    These are the 4 basic strategies I use to get all my work done on or before time. Here are some additional tips to keep pre-exam anxiety at bay:

    • Don’t compare your study methods or the amount of work you do each day to your friends, especially if they’re the study-all-day type. If it feels like you’re not doing anything compared to them, let me just remind you that this whole strategy is designed to make you feel like you’re doing nothing while still achieving your goals. As long as you keep to your daily target, you will finish everything in time and you have nothing to worry about.
    • Avoid being around others right before the exam. This is solely for the purpose of keeping you calm. Listening to others recite answers, talk about how little sleep they got or fire random questions at each other can be very unsettling. Avoid them and believe in yourself and everything you’ve done. Exams are not as grave as we make them out to be.


    All of the above strategies should ensure that you get through the exam season stress-free.

    Happy studying lazy folks!

    Responses 1

    • nathan dwyer
      nathan dwyer   Jun 24, 2017 10:45 AM

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  • 14 Jun
    Swati Sharma

    10 Tips to Beat Exam 'Result' Stress

    exam result

    The results have been declared; both students and parents begin to grapple with the aftermath. While results might be less or more than expected, thousands of students suffer from mental health issues like Depression and Social Anxiety, yet never feel bold enough to seek help.

    Suicide rates among school going children are increasing every year, and parents and caregivers need to be extra careful when it comes to exam result declaration time. 

    In fact, parents are also under a lot of pressure during this time. So, how to cope during this crucial period? We give you ten tips on how to beat the Exams Results stress (These ways can help both the students and parents):

    • Taking long walks in early morning sunlight. Sunlight boosts the level of the hormone Serotonin. Low levels of Serotonin are associated with Depression. Get a mood boost; activities like walking are known to reduce Depression. So walk away from your stress! 

     

    • Reduce your stress by taking dietary supplements such as omega 3 fatty acids. A great deal of scientific data links low levels of Omega 3 fatty acids to a host of mental/emotional issues such as Depression, suicide, violent behavior etc. Fish oil is a rich source of the two essential omega 3 fatty acids - EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid) and DHA (docosahexaenoic acid).

     

    • Improving diet, such as including dry fruits, flax seeds, fresh fruits and vegetables improve mental health as well as physical health. Some foods which have been linked to relieving Depression are walnuts, dark leafy greens, avocado, berries, and mushrooms. 

     

    • Light exercises to boost your mood. Take out some time from your daily routine to do some light exercises to boost your mood. How does exercise help us feel good? It does so by releasing the feel-good brain chemicals that ease Depression (neurotransmitters, endorphins, and endocannabinoids) Reducing immune system chemicals that can worsen depression.

     

    • Talk to a loved one or friend. Often, the simple act of talking to someone face to face can be an enormous help to someone suffering from depression. Talk to a friend, family member or a relative (perhaps and understanding cousin) about what is bothering you. Talking reduces stress as you share your tensions with a friend.

     

    • Do not let the relatives bother you beyond a certain point. Remember relations are meant to make tough times easier, not harder. Try not to take other people's remarks personally. If things get too difficult, spend some time outdoors. There is substantial evidence that being outdoors in nature yields measurable mental benefits and may reduce the risk of depression. A recent study by Stanford researchers finds quantifiable evidence that walking in nature could lead to a lower risk of depression.

     

    • Relax and take time to chose the right course/college for your future. In order to relax and unwind, do one small thing which makes you happy.  Take a warm shower, read a book, have a cup of green tea, help someone, buy roses for your mother or friend; anything which makes you happy. Remember it is the small moments of life which add up to the bigger picture. 

     

    • Handle peer pressure well. Comparison with peers is one of the major reason why people end up in an engineering college without having the aptitude or interest for it. Write a daily activity journal, including your thoughts and feelings. It is a brilliant chance to stop and look what is going on in the head It gives us an objective angle to the anxieties we are facing. So take time out to write in a diary or journal.

     

    • Pet a dog or cat (if you have any). Pets are extremely therapeutic. Nothing beats the experience of putting a cuddly dog or cat, and it is good for you, especially if you have Depression or Anxiety. Dogs, in particular, can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, ease loneliness and encourage exercise and playfulness.

     

    • Understand that these marks do not define you, You are much more than the marks you score! There are tons of examples of successful people who did not do well in academics. So please do not take hasty decisions in anxiety. Try to look at the bigger picture!

     

    If you feel that you have tried everything to deal with your Depression on your own and nothing seems to work, then there are professional people with a great deal of experience within this area. Exam results declaration can be a challenging part of school life for students and their parents. There is no shame in consulting a therapist or a counselor.

    In contemporary times, Online counseling provides a solution for this issue. Modern life is fast-paced and complicated, but it is easy to consult a counselor from the comfort of one's own house, with less pressure to go out to seek help. eWellness Expert is a great medium for online counseling. After all, emotional difficulties are as common as getting a fever or cold. Counseling from experienced professionals really helps.

    In today's fast paced life, counseling from the comfort of our own house seems the perfect solution to beat exam result stress. Online Counseling is reliable, safe, easy to use, affordable and very effective, particularly for the tech-savvy younger generation. 

    So do not lose hope and always look at the bright side! Seek help if you have to and be optimistic about your future.

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    • Sanjna Verma
      Sanjna Verma   Sep 01, 2017 07:58 PM

      These tips are undoubtedly very good. Stress due to exam results is common because everyone has certain level of expectations from you and you develop their expectations like your own. So it is nothing but obvious that you become concerned about the results. 

      You are very right in saying that you are much more than your marks. Maybe due to less marks, you may lose one opportunity and in today's time there are plethora of options available. You just need to find the right one for yourself.

      Even the parents, relatives and friends of that particular person should encourage him/her if the rsult did not turn out as was expected. Instead of comparing their marks with some far off-relative or a classmate. Or making them feel guilty of the fact that they have got less marks by remarking on the performance. This can deteriorate the self-esteem of the person. Student should believe that all will be good some or the other way.

    • Sneha Chauhan
      Sneha Chauhan   Jun 24, 2017 12:09 AM

      Dealing with exam result stress can indeed be very intimidating. It is only human to think about how your hard work pays off, whether that mistake you did would cost you marks, was the matter enough, etc etc. keeps popping into your head till you see your result. But when does it get too much to handle? And how to focus your stress into positive aspects? This article focuses on the tips to manage such stress by giving 10 tips which a person should consider trying. 

      Parents can also comfort their children during the process while they are waiting for an exam result. They can do the following to avoid stressing their children during pre exam result period-

      • Do not put the pressure of unrealistic expectationson them.
      • Stop worrying about what society would think of them.
      • Don't get over excited before getting the result.
      • Do not compare them with their peers.

      All these points should be focused upon by the parents and they should remember to always encourage their child.

  • 13 Jun
    Manaswini Venkateswaran

    How to Identify and Control Social Media Addiction

    social media addiction

    You wake up. The first thing you do is check your phone for new messages.

    At breakfast, your first reaction to the food is not to eat, but to pull out your phone and click a picture.

    You get through your day, taking the occasional breather to like a picture or make a witty comment

    At the end of the day, retire to bed, only to lie awake, scrolling into the night.

    Next day you wake up... And repeat...

    Sounds like an average day in most of our lives. For the most part, it’s harmless and inevitable – we all use social media. It’s proven to be a useful tool for interpersonal, group and public communication. Tasks ranging right from connecting with relatives in other states or countries, to organizing public events can be carried out through social media.

    However, the way social media changes the mode and quality of our interaction can be a cause for worry. Research seems to point out a link between excessive use of social media and increasing levels of depression, anxiety, and social withdrawal.

    Since so many of our interactions happen through social media, we start treating them with the same importance as face-to-face interactions. This is why communication (or lack thereof) through texting seems to dominate our thoughts and a shortage of Facebook ‘likes’ or ‘reacts’ can cause us considerable dismay.

    Addiction refers to compulsive behaviors or harmful habits that interfere with other important areas of our lives, such as work or school. They start out as an initially harmless liking for a particular substance or activity but overuse can cause one to grow dependent. It gets to the point where separation from the object or activity of addiction can cause one to get restless, anxious or irritable (a state which is known as ‘withdrawal’).

    'Nomophobia' (NO-MObile-PHOBIA), is the fear of being away from one's mobile phone. Although social media addiction is not mentioned in the DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) or the ICD (International Classification of Diseases), nomophobia has been suggested under 'Specific Phobias' in DSM-IV (TR). People with nomophobia tend to not be more than 5 feet away from their phones at all times and even use it while they are in the shower. They experience withdrawal when separated from their phones or a sense of panic when the phone runs out of battery or balance. 

     

    What is it about a virtual interaction that seems to give us such a high? Some of the possible causes are:

    • Hormonal reaction Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that elevates the mood. It plays a big role in the process of attraction and infatuation. The excitement you feel every time you get a text or a notification is due to the brain releasing a small amount of dopamine, making us feel better chemically. This is what sets off the addiction.
    • Feeding your self-esteem - A research at Chicago University found that ‘self-disclosure communication’ (i.e. talking about oneself) stimulates the brain’s pleasure centers just like food, sex and intoxicating substances (like drugs and alcohol) do. It increases the addiction behavior leaving you wanting for more.
    • Increased sense of self-worth When you get likes or comments on a status or a picture, it gives you the validation you were looking for when you posted it. In other words, people acknowledging your existence online makes you feel better about yourself. After all, you didn’t post it for no one to see it or respond to it. This is why we tend to get uneasy when a post gets no likes or comments. It makes us feel like no one cares.

    However, the thin line between a fondness for social media and addiction is blurred because there’s no way to tell what’s a healthy amount of time to spend on social media and what isn’t. Some people have careers revolving around social media (such as Youtubers and internet comedians), which causes them to spend a lot of time on these platforms. Others may spend all their spare time on social media but not experience any withdrawal when placed in a situation where there is no access to social networking sites and apps.

    Whatever the case may be, too much of anything is never a good thing.

    Here are some ways to keep your social media usage in check and maintain a balance between virtual and non-virtual interactions:

    • Limit the Time You Spend On Social Media:
      Devote a particular amount of time to spend on social media, say, one hour every day. Set a timer every time you open social media sites and log out as soon as time’s up. There are several apps you can download which perform the function of blocking apps and limiting the time you spend on them.
    • Find Other Activities to Occupy You:
      The more you keep yourself occupied, the less inclined you’ll feel to spend endless hours on social media. Find other hobbies or go outdoors any chance you get, even if it’s to run errands. Do things you’d usually use an app for the old way – so if you like ordering food in, make a trip to the restaurant for once.
    • Spend More Time With Your Loved Ones:
      Ditch the text message for once and make plans to meet the people you’d usually stay in touch with through social media. Face-to-face interaction ensures that your bond with them stays the same. Put away your phone while you’re with them. Forget about documenting every single moment and be fully absorbed in the experience.
    • Delete Apps Which Are Useless and Time-Consuming:
      Some apps have turned into almost a necessity these days (such as Whatsapp and email apps) but deleting apps that have no productive value and do nothing for you except consuming your time can go a long way in reducing social media usage and increasing productivity.
    • Turn off Notifications:
      Turning off notifications for can reduce the urge to check social media while you’re trying to get work down. Notification sounds can tempt you away from work and into the social media trap. Eventually, once notifications have been turned off for long enough, one tends to forget about social media at least temporarily.
    • Digital Detox:
      Phones caused the problem and phones can solve it - apps such as 'Forest' and 'Quality Time' set an upper limit on cell phone usage and restrict it after that limit has been reached. These and other similar apps are available for Android and iOS alike.  

     

    Social media is a great communication and broadcasting tool but it’s important to appreciate authentic real-world experiences as well. The world-in-our-palm apps have made our lives easier and enabled instant connection to people across the world. However, Just like with everything else, balance is key.  

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    • Sanjna Verma
      Sanjna Verma   Sep 01, 2017 08:51 PM

      Thanks for giving this piece of information which is so very essential in today's date. I must say that you have captured the essence of having social media in our lives, accurately. Due to social media we have lost the essence of meeting up each other and talking face-to-face, as we believe that we can do it easily through applications like Facebook Messenger and WhatsApp. At some extent it's usage is good but later on, it hampers your daily routine.

      I use my broadband connection generally and I ensure that when I am studying or doing something important and turn it off on my phone. But you need to also check over the fact that the phone is not lying somewhere near you otherwise you will be grossed in it, yet again!

      Even I have noticed this in myself that whenever I hardly have anything to do, I log on to my social media accounts and unnecessarily scrolling my feed. Then I crinb about not having read the book I want. This has inspired me to do so. This needs to be read by everyone having their phone always.

    • Sayantani Dey
      Sayantani Dey   Jun 19, 2017 01:37 PM

       

       

                                                           

       

       

       

      "I am just keep in touch with my friends by social media because I always want to be updated. It doesn't mean that I am social media addict!"- a very common remark which we can get from our friends, family, colleagues etc. Actually the truth is, we become social media addicted without realizing it. Here are some symptoms to identify if you are socially active or not.

      Sign #1 : Checking mobile phones in every few minutes for any notification from facebook, whatsapp, instagram etc.

      Sign #2 : You are always searching for your phone. After waking up the first thing you search is your phone to check how many notifications have arrived.

      Sign #3 : You feel broken when internet connection is lost or server down.

      Sign #4 : You start to apply short terms like ASAP,BRB,LOL in your daily life and think that everybody knows what does it mean.

      Sign #5 : Daily uploading status about what is going on in your life.

      Sign #6 : Uploading pictures with loction to show where you are.

      Sign #7 : Tagging friends to be sure that they are seein what you are uploaing.

      Sign #8 : You can't spend a day without social media. You eat, sleep, drink, travel with it.

       Sign #9 : You think that those who  don't use social media may be mad or abnormal or out of the world.

      Sign #10 : you feel restless if you don't get likes as per your estimation.

      Sign #11 : You post your pet's picture, even open an account for your pet when you are social media addict.

      Sign #12 : You secretly spend time on social media when you are in office or working.

      Sign #13 : You spend atleast 4 hours on social media, theeby isolate yourself from social life.

      Sign #14 : At midnight, when you wake up from sleep and you are not able to sleep again, you choose to watch vidieos or scroll newsfeeds upon sleep.

      Sign #15 : You are ecsraric when your children add you as a friend.

      Sign #16 : You love to stalk your friends, relatives, even stranger to know what is going on their life without any reason.

      Sign 17 : you feel upset when you don't get any comments.

      Sign #18 : #You #use # the #phrase #Hashtag #in #your #normal #conversation.

      Sign #19 : If you hear or see a breaking news , the first thing you will do is posting an update.

      Sign #20 : If you come to know a new word or new terminology, which you never heard before. you prefer to google it. 

       

      These are the symptoms which indicates you are social media addict or not , but there also have techniques to control this addiction.

      Firstly, you have to admit it that it is a problem. You need to understand that being all day on social media is just a waste of time,  and stalking others is none of your business.

      Secondly, disable youe push notifications. If you will not be able to get notifications, you will not be attracted towards it.

      Thirdly, try to deal with your boredom. Usuallly people become social media addict because they have nothing to do. Pick a book to read,watch some movies, explore new hobbies, it will help to stay away from social media.

      Fourthly, stop following trend. Just because others are doing something you don't ned to follow them.

      Fifthly, be social and physically interact with people.

      Sixthly, plan for weekend trips where you have to off your social media.

       

      Reference :- https://www.aabacosmallbusiness.com/advisor/30-signs-social-media-addiction-133619535.html

      http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/0/12-signs-addicted-social-media/

      http://scoopempire.com/10-ways-cure-social-media-addiction/

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  • 13 Jun
    Parnika Jhunjhunwala

    How successful people get the most out of their day and be highly productive

    How many times has it happened that just before sleeping you tell yourself plenty of things to do the next day but end up messing things up? Or how many times you try to be as productive as possible but end up disappointed? Well, we all want our day to be successful and we each have 24 hours to do so. So this article focuses on how to plan your day for success.

    Firstly, define success for yourself. Success is very subjective. What is 'success' to you? Is success happiness? Is it fulfillment? Is it peace? Is it a good day at work? Is it good time spent with family or friends? Is it a day spent doing whatever you want to do? What does a successful day mean to you? 

    After you have decided what it means to you, you can then start devising ways to figure out how to plan your day.

     

    Here are 10 things you can do to get all started for a successful and energetic day!

    identify your goal

    1) Identify your goal. Find out what it is that you want to do. The goal could be short term or long term. For instance, your goal could be to gain weight before your birthday(short term) or to do study abroad for college while you're still in school (long term), so how do you go about it? The first step is to set a clear, precise and exact goal. The Goal Setting Theory as given by Edwin Locke describes the relationship between goal setting and motivation. The goal should be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time targeted.(S.M.A.R.T.). If the goals adhere to these qualities, the person is much more motivated to make it through.

    smaller goals

     

    2) Break down goals into smaller goals. The next step would be breaking down the goals into smaller components or sub-goals. This is the stage where we start figuring out ideas and pathways to reach that goal conveniently. Considering our earlier example, if a person wants to gain weight, then they have to set a target, maybe something like "I have to eat a banana with warm milk every morning" or something small along the similar lines and find out ways to reach that goal. Reward yourself with a treat when you complete a task to encourage yourself. This way your ultimate goal looks more achievable and you are encouraged to keep going.

     

    3) Make a schedule. After breaking down your goals, you need to figure out a schedule. Make yourself a schedule just to keep a tab on yourself. It can be more of a "To-do" list kind of thing. Write down a list on a piece of paper and strike off one thing at a time as you finish doing it. If done honestly, you will be able to measure yourself and how far you have come on your road to success. 

    4) Do something that you find happiness in. This is something very important. You need to do something during the entire day that you find pleasure in. It could be anything, watching a sunset, a solitary walk, chatting up with your favourite person, treating yourself with your favourite ice cream; absolutely anything. Indulge a little in your hobbies and interests. This way you'll have some element of enjoyment too. 

     

    5) Make someone happy. We as humans have the ability to make someone smile, with our words or our actions. We all need happiness in our extremely stressful and fast paced lives. Taking out a little time just to tell your spouse that he/she is looking different in a beautiful kind of way, or telling your mother that she cooked lovely breakfast, or perhaps complimenting a complete stranger can go a long way in making you feel better about yourself and also, you might have just made the other person's day! Just a few words spoken with love and warmth can bring about so much change. Spread happiness, we need it now more than ever. 

     

    6) Do something you don't like but is necessary. We can't choose to do only the things we like. Somethings are not very enjoyable, but necessary. For instance, this could be a person who is not happy with his/her job. Sometimes in life, you have to do the things you don't like so that you can enjoy other things peacefully. Also, doing this every day keeps you in touch with reality. Life is not always rainbows and butterflies but also compromises, sacrifices, struggles and strivings. 

     

    7) Help someone. In a world where everyone is complaining about the dearth of "good people", if we cannot find one, let's try to be one. We underestimate our abilities to help other people. If we give ourselves a chance to help others, only then we realize that that person can readily use some assistance, it's just that maybe he/she was hesitant to ask. lending a helping hand also leaves us with positive satisfaction that we did something beyond our own benefit. This feeling is hard to come by these days, but it leaves you with a genuine sense of happiness.

     

    8) Learn something new everyday. This is something extremely very essential. We all need to invest some time in learning something new, something that adds to our knowledge. It could be a language, could be a musical instrument, could be a dance form, could be anything at all. Just learn something new everyday. Each day brings with itself an eternity. Seize the days and make them count. There is no limit or age for learning. Give yourself the opportunity to learn something new, you'll feel more productive. 

    Source-https://jessicamariebaumgartner.com/2015/12/22/oh-the-books-i-read-this-year/

    9) Read. Saying that reading is really really really essential would be an understatement. Read a nything, a book, a novel, newsletter, magazines, a novella, an article, a poem, a short story; but read. Read before bedtime if you are not free at other times, but make it a habit to read. No knowledge ever goes wasted.

     

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    10) Exercise/Meditate. Exercising releases Endorphins, the happy hormones, into our body. It keeps the person healthy and happy. Some amount of physical activity can be an excellent choice to start your day. Yoga and meditation can be great options to control your stress levels and bring you inner peace. Starting your day off with exercise will definitely keep you energised and in high spirits to meet all your day's targets.

    These 10 steps can give you a happy day, each day and eventually a happy life. 

    So, what are you waiting for? The place is here, the time is now. Go make yourself a success! smile

    Responses 1

    • Sneha Chauhan
      Sneha Chauhan   Jun 26, 2017 03:17 PM

      Hey Parnika! I find this article  to-the-point and absolutely inspiring. These are the primary activities a person should engage in to make himself successful and productive. The most important point towards success is self-motivation. The psychology of self-motivation is important to understand. There is a link attached below discussing the same. https://youtu.be/7sxpKhIbr0E

      Goal setting is also an important aspect of achieving success. The person has to set realistic and smart goals which are achievable for him/her and it also boosts his/her performance and strengthens the skill he is aiming towards.

      Selectively lowering self confidence can also help. People say high self confidence is the key towards success, but instead, low self confidence will leave room for critical feedback. It will also make you work harder and make you less narcissistic, which will make your co-workers comfortable around you.

      Identify your skills and improve them. Focus on small achievements to reach the ultimate goal. It will open your perspective towards what might seem unatainable.

      I hope many people benefit from your article. Regards.

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