Total 228 Blog Posts

  • 10 Nov
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    What Happens In Counseling?

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    Counseling and psychotherapy for everyday concerns as well as mental health concerns has gotten a lot of attention from the media, especially from movies.

    The few that show it in good light also tend to show incorrect processes of therapy.

    Some psychiatrists and other doctors have a negative view of counseling and tend to present it in a bad light.

    Further, some therapists who are unprofessional, may conduct therapy badly and all of it gives counseling a bad name.

     

    So, what happens in therapy? And what should happen?

    It depends upon three things

    a) the issue you present,

    2)  the therapy format and

    3) the theoretical orientation.

    For example, counseling for academic issues is very different from counseling for impulse control issues.

    Further, the format can greatly differ as well. Individual therapy looks very different from couples therapy, group therapy and family therapy.

    When the people are more in number and/or share a relationship, the dynamics affect the healing process and a lot can be learned from the interactions itself.

     

    Theoretical orientation means the framework through which the therapist understands the problem, and more importantly, finds solutions from.

    For example, the same problem of relationship issues may be seen as an unconscious desire to rebel under Freud’s psychodynamic framework, and maybe seen as faulty learning in Behaviourist frameworks.

    Thus, the solution from the first framework would be to explore unconscious desires, but from the second would mean unlearning faulty patterns and learning new ones.

    Given these three aspects differ, there is also a sort of general structure to therapy.

    Usually the first session or two are where the client tells what’s bothering them.

    It may feel like nothing much happened as the counselor didn’t speak a lot, but if they did, you would feel interrupted.

    They will reflect and summarize and focus on your feelings and struggles, and that’s how you know that they heard you right.

    You can also correct them if they are wrong and add to their understanding.

     

    From the third session onwards, work begins as the counselor and you together work on suggestions and solutions.

    There can be a lot of back and forth discussion, in-therapy practice and roleplay as well as homework.

    Depending on the severity of the issue, therapy may be terminated in 6 sessions or may even go on for months.

    It is a collaborative process and the more participative and truthful you are, the sooner it gets over.

     

    A good therapist makes you feel heard and understood.

    They don’t impose and try to tell your fate.

    The whole relationship should have a feeling of positivity and hope, if the therapist is indeed good at what they do.

    Soon, your motivation to change old patterns will increase and you would be on your way to a better, more fulfilling life.

    If you do not see this happening, please inform your therapist.

    It is important that you as a client know what you are getting into and what you would get out of the process.

     

     

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  • 10 Nov
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    Psychotherapy for insomnia

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    Insomnia or sleeplessness is a major problem these days. As we have more and more electronic devices to stimulate us, our quality of sleep seems to be getting lower and lower.

    There’s so much to do and that can be done, that people simply don’t stop thinking about their next day, as they lie in bed, languishing for hours.

     

    So how do you know if you have insomnia?

    If you’ve had three or more nights in a week for more than a month, where you slept less than 4 to 6 hours, and you had a hard time falling asleep or remaining asleep, then you should get checked for insomnia.

     

    But what if you have it? Are treatments available?

    Yes, they are.

    Majority of people with sleep issues can be helped quite easily if they asked for it.

    Sadly, people use that time of the night when they can’t sleep, in order to work even more – which makes it almost impossible to go back to sleep again because the brain is fully stimulated again.

     

    Treatments for insomnia include medications and behaviour therapy.

     

     

    Side effects of medications

    Possible side effects of these medications include:

    daytime sleepiness,

    dizziness,

    unsteadiness,

    and rebound insomnia.

    Sleep-walking, sleep-driving, sleep-eating, memory lapses, and hallucinations have also been reported.

    Added to this, there is always the risk of dependency and abuse of the drug.

     

    Psychotherapy for insomnia is better option rather than taking pills

    Keeping all this in mind, psychotherapy for insomnia seems like a better option.

    Therapy involves many approaches, but most of the research is showing that CBT or cognitive behaviour therapy for insomnia works well.

    The behavioural part of insomnia is treated by using sleep hygiene methods and correcting faulty sleep habits.

    This means that catering to the distractions available around bedtime, level of eating and activity, as well as not sleeping in the day.

    Sometimes, not sleeping in the day and also not sleeping till midnight can be very tiring, but after that one week of struggle, the sleep cycle usually fixes itself.

     

    The cognitive part involves working on thoughts about sleep as well as working on thoughts that may occur when one is in bed, and both these thoughts interrupt sleep.

    Further, the cognitive part of therapy also addresses concern about work, work-life balance, relationships and other concerns of life that may be leading to distress and sleeplessness.

     

     

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  • 10 Nov
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    What is a personality disorder?

    What is a personality disorder?

    Personality disorders are used as light terms in order to chide, tease or label people. However, having a personality disorder can be a huge problem as it can interfere in all areas of life.

    Personality disorder means having an enduring pattern of inner experiences and behavior that deviate markedly from the expectations of the individual’s culture. Pattern manifested in at least two areas:  

    • Cognition – ways of perceiving and interpreting self, other people, and events
    • Affectivity – range, intensity, lability, and appropriateness of emotional response
    • Interpersonal functioning  (relations with others)
    • Impulse control

     

    The following conditions have to be met in order for a certain pattern of communication, behaviour and internal state to be called a personality disorder. The conditions are:

     

    1. Enduring pattern is inflexible and pervasive across a broad range of personal and social situations
    2. Leads to distress or impairment in functioning  
    3. Pattern is stable and of long duration.
    4. Onset tracked to adolescence or early adulthood  
    5. Not due to any Axis I issues (other psychiatric disorders)
    6. Not due to substance use/General medical condition

     

    A few things are therefore clear:

    Firstly, it is an aspect, a pattern developed over the years and tends to show in all areas of life. Therefore, just a one-off incident of strange behaviour will not qualify as a personality disorder.

    Secondly, this means that this way of being is crystallized over the years, making it extremely difficult to change.

    Perhaps the most important point to note here is that when someone has a personality disorder, they have adjusted their lives around it. Therefore, they have already chosen jobs and life situations which either suit the dysfunction or is not actively harmed by it. Therefore, they are highly unlikely to come for therapy for it themselves. There is little or no medication available for this.

     

    If at all someone does show up at the therapist’s office, it is because their personality was becoming a problem at home or in the workplace. Therefore the client is very rigid when they come to the therapist and simply do not want to change.

    Many are also made to seek treatment because they engage in rash and needless criminal behaviour. Such individuals are all the more set against treatment and therapy. Therefore, success rate in the treatment of personality disorders is very low.

    One of the personality disorders which has a lot of research and a very successful rate of treatment (as compared to other personality disorders) is borderline personality disorder.

    Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, or DBT is very helpful with BPD. It can help the person control their mood as well as their all-or-none thinking, which is the main issue in BPD. Research is showing that DBT also looks promising for other personality disorders.

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    • sania khan
      sania khan   Dec 24, 2015 03:15 PM

      I am more than sure I suffer from

      personality disorder

       but my psyc won't listen to me and I can't handle my emotions anymore. Any words of advice?

  • 02 Nov
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    Holistic Healing for Depression

    Holistic Healing for Depression

    Depression is a mental health disorder that is characterized by negative thoughts, low or depressed mood, significant sleep and appetite changes, and a general disinterest in life and no pleasure in activities that were previously both important and engaging to the person. While face-to-face psychotherapy can go a long way in helping with depression, it may be difficult for the person or their caregiver to seek this help, because of a variety of reasons like stigma, cost of therapy and insurance issues and so on.

    In such a case, alternative forms of healing can be a good first step, or even complement mainstream therapy. The best part is that the focus for these healing forms does not have to be on therapy, depression or getting better. There forms of healing help to get better without arousing the defenses of the person, as healing happens as a process, as and when one participates in these activities. The caregiver can also take part in all these forms of healing.

     

    Laughter Therapy: It is very easy to start a laughter therapy club, all you need to do is write to them and they help you establish one. Laughter exercises help by releasing helpful hormones, expanding the lungs and are a good way to take in more oxygen. For a person who is completely inactive due to depression, this can be a good fun start.

     

    Art Therapy: Humans have always expressed themselves using art. Right from cave paintings to modern art, our struggles and thinking have shaped our art forms. Art therapy is evidence-based and research suggests that engaging in art helps us to both process and express negative feelings in a way that face-to-face therapy might take longer to achieve. When engaging in art our resistance is low and that is why we feel healed after a couple of months of creative expression.

    Holistic Healing for Depression

    Music Therapy and Dance and Movement Therapy: For people from cultures that have bright, vivid religious rituals of dance and music, it might not fit well to sit in a room and discuss their concerns. Even regardless of culture, music is known to stimulate multiple areas of the brain that expand our thinking, make us better at problem solving and even more resilient. Dance movement therapy helps to use our body to reduce cortisol secretion, reduce stress and elevate healing.

    Holistic Healing for Depression

    Pet Therapy: Having a loving pet to spend time with can make a huge difference. Depression includes the internalized feelings of unworthiness, and an attachment with a simple being like a pet, can be a refreshing change. Pets love us unconditionally unlike people. Therefore, with pets, we can learn to love again and believe in ourselves.

    Holistic Healing for Depression

     

    All the above practices have shown evidence of being useful to heal not only depression, but other mental and physical health issues. Therefore, if you feel hesitant to try traditional therapy or if you want to combine it with something more, do feel free to try the above holistic healing steps and techniques.

     

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  • 02 Nov
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    What Are Your Children Observing About You?

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    A lot of us think of children as busy and absorbed in their own world, to care about the adults around them. 

    True that these day's children have a lot more stimulation as compared to before, in terms of games, toys and interactive media as well as highly structured days with hobby classes and other engagements. 

    However, children are curious by nature and observe their parents more than the parents would like to think. 

     

    This means that behaviour by adults and other parents who goes against the teachings we give, tends to confuse children by giving them mixed messages. 

    In fact, research suggests that the best way to teach a good behaviour to a child is to model it yourself, as children copy powerful adults in their lives, mainly teachers and parents. 

    So, if you tell a child that it is wrong to lie, but you ask him or her to tell on the phone that you are not home, as you wanted to avoid the caller, the child feels that you are violating the very code that you are asking him or her to live by. 

    Children’s minds have not reached the intellectual sophistication level of an adult and they find it difficult to understand situational differences. 

    They feel that if their parents do not follow what they say, they are not compelled to either. 

    Therefore, you have to be very careful in what you say and do in front of children. 

    Majority of the children who grow up to be under-confident, have mental health issues, or have problems in their social life, tend to grow up in families that give mixed messages, and the communication is not clear. 

    When children are growing up, they are developing the concepts and understanding of the world that will stay with them. While they are in this developing phase, it is best to make their world as simple as possible, by modeling good behaviour and not giving contradictory messages. 

    Studies in Family Therapy have found out that unclear communication patterns when combined with the biological propensity of it, can even cause disorders like schizophrenia and other psychotic spectrum disorders. 

    Further, children learn the ways of lives from their parents and intuitively feel that the way their parents live is the right way to be. 

    Therefore, how you and your partner behave with each other teaches the child about relationships. 

    If you insult your partner or make them feel bad in front of a bunch of people, it is quite likely that the child will pick this up and turn to bullying behaviour using verbal assaults. 

    In conclusion, the parents are the child’s blue-print for life. 

    The way parents live, eat, sleep, behave with each other, and talk as well as think, are all mirrored by the child. 

    The responsibility also lies with other important adults like teachers who are both close to and influential with children. As adults, we all have to take care of what children observe about us. 

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