• 21 Dec
    eWellness Expert

    How to manage menstrual mood swings?


    Periods can be a tough time for many women as they may go through pain and mood swings.

    Although most women feel this to a mild degree and only on the first couple of days, for a number of women, this is a major concern.

    Below are a few tips to help you overcome the emotional hurdles and feel better during your periods.

    If, however, your problems continue, then consult a gynaecologist for further assistance.


    Eat and sleep well

    The body is going through a lot during your periods, and it’s best to make the other processes like digestion and body temperature balance by eating and sleeping well.

    Get into bed early, before midnight if possible, and get 6 to 8 hours of sleep. This will make sure that the body temperature does not go up needlessly.

    Mood disturbance is linked to feelings of discomfort and uneasiness caused by lack of self-care. Eliminate this by eating and sleeping better.

    With regards to food, have food with a lot of fibre, like fruits and vegetables as they help in making digestion smoother.

    Keep away from complex foods, alcohol and aerated drinks and foods with preservatives.


    Drink up

    The body is losing water during periods and as it is, most people do not drink as much water as they should.

    Lack of water in your body can make you feel both dehydrated and constipated.

    When you as it is have a painful abdomen and stomach, lack of water can make it worse.

    In fact, having water can help to reduce stomach bloating and make you feel lighter.

    This can help you feel emotionally better as well since our body and mind are connected.



    This refers to both mental and physical hygiene.

    Take care of your cleanliness and change your sanitary napkins and clothes frequently.

    This will help you feel clean and fresh and not dirty on unclean and that will help you feel emotionally good. Mental hygiene means to rid yourself of negative thoughts.

    People may tell you that you should not pray or go to the kitchen when on your period. These beliefs are unfounded. Do not let the rigidness of other people affect your mental state or be negative.



    Meditation and certain yoga postures are known to relieve stress and pain and to make you feel better.

    However, do not start with poses or breathing exercises which are extremely difficult.

    Meditative breathing involves the use of abdomen and has to be learnt gradually.

    Doing too much of it without practice can hurt the stomach muscles, especially during periods.



    It is important to spend some time doing what you like in order to feel better.

    Watch a movie

    read a book

    meet friends

    or be creative!

    Recreational activities that you enjoy help release dopamine, a brain chemical that can help you to feel better.

    This has a helpful effect on both your pain and the negative emotions.

    Do give these tips a shot!

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  • 21 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    5 ways to be your hubby’s girlfriend

    5 ways to be your hubby’s girlfriend


    It is quite easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of married life. However, if you don’t work on keeping the relationship young, it can deteriorate pretty quickly. So, how do you keep your relationship young at heart, despite the lack of novelty which can occur in marriage? Here are a few tips. It is easy to become your husband’s girlfriend again and bring back the old charm.

     ways to be your hubby’s girlfriend


    To take your husband for granted. When dating, couples make sure to make each other feel special. Sharing the same roof has its own pitfalls.

    You wake up next to a snoring, unkempt man and this may clash with your image of the boyfriend you used to have. This can easily make you overlook his good aspects and think of him as just another family member. Remind yourself that despite you two not being at your ‘Sunday best’ all the time, there is something beautiful in each of you, and that is what you fell in love with.

    After noting down his unique and special aspects, make sure you praise him for these aspects or behaviors. If he helps you out with household tasks or bills or grocery shopping, or intervenes in a fight between you and your mother-in-law to restore calm, make sure to thank him for those and reinforce this by giving a hug or more.


    Although too much independence can make you two distant, some amount of independence in the relationship is healthy and vital. Let him have his boys’ nights and make sure to have fun on your own as well. Indulge in hobbies or meet your friends and relatives. When you spend your time apart and rejuvenate, that helps to come back to each other with a fresher mind.

    Dressing up

    When dating, couples try to look their best for each other. This behavior subsides after marriage as things become routine. However, dress up every now and then just for him, even if there’s no occasion. This will make him feel special. Similarly, you can use this as a precursor to go out on date nights, and hopefully follow it with lovemaking. Assure him that you are still romantically and sexually aroused by him and enjoy yourself with him.


    Nothing is as big a treat in a relationship as a surprise or kind gesture. Take up some of his load or make something special for him or get him a special gift for him without an occasion. One idea is to treat his friends to a dinner at home so that he feels that you really care about him and his relationships.


    Men like to talk more about facts, analysis and actions and women want to vent more and talk about their emotions. Both these talks are important. Tell your husband when you want to vent beforehand, so that he doesn’t start suggesting solutions which may annoy you. This helps to improve communication. Also make an effort to recognize the unique personality of your husband and let him know you love him for what he is.

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  • 21 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    What makes for a happy Christmas?



    What makes for a happy Christmas?


    Christmas has cultural and religious significance for many people around the world. In India, it is one of the many festivals celebrated, but in the west, the Christmas – New Year holiday is a prominent one and figures a lot in people’s thinking. In a 2002 research paper called ‘What makes a merry Christmas’, researchers found that there are 7 main activities that people undertake as a part of Christmas, which lead to more life satisfaction and make them happy.

    The seven activities are as quoted below:

    1. Spending time with family;
    2. Participating in religious activities;
    3. Maintaining traditions (e.g., decorating a Christmas tree);
    4. Spending money on others via the purchase of gifts;
    5. Receiving gifts from others;
    6. Helping others less fortunate than ourselves; and
    7. Enjoying the sensual aspects of the holiday (e.g., good food, drinking, etc.).

    As we can see, the primary themes here are:

    • Reconnecting with friends and family (via traditions and spending time together)
    • Gifting to people of our circles (and receiving gifts)
    • Giving to the underprivileged
    • Being thankful and looking forward to the coming year

    Relevant psychological insights for the most important aspects is explained herein below.

    The Market of Christmas Gifts

    Emotions are a prime target for marketers. Any festival or family event is a big sales bump, and therefore, Christmas is full of marketing efforts in order to make people buy more. In one experiment, people were made to hear only white noise but they ‘heard’ famous Christmas carols because of their frequent visits to malls and shopping centers where the mood in exploited to full blast to make sales.

    Research suggests that there is more to gifting than meets the eye. It is not always the thought that counts. If someone does not like the gift you give, they may actually start thinking why you gave them such a bad gift, instead of thinking that your gesture matters. Gifting money is also fleshy territory and should be avoided as it can be seen as a mark of status difference. Its best to give someone what they like or something that everyone can use but would not buy for themselves (e.g., personalized pens).

    What makes for a happy Christmas?


    Teaching and Learning Generosity

    Christmas and it’s teachings are a good way of teaching yourself and children about the joy of giving to the underprivileged. Many families make a tradition of it by buying gifts for underprivileged children or by supporting a charity. This imbibes the value of sharing and caring in everyone, and instills optimistic attitude. Whereas gifting and the marketed sort of Christmas harm our psychological well-being, generosity is actually very good for our emotional health.

    Connecting and Hoping

    People take holidays and spend time doing things of cultural and familial importance. This gives them a chance to bond and mull over the crosses of the past year, and hope better for the next. Therefore, the connection and sociability helps to end the year on a good note, adding to the joy and fervor of Christmas.


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    • amit kumar mishra
      amit kumar mishra   Dec 24, 2015 12:37 PM

      telling someone you love. how much you care for them and appreciate them as you wish them a Merry Christmas

  • 13 Dec
    Mandavi Pandey

    Teens => Romance => Pregnancy => Regret


    teenager pregnency


     “I was so scared to lose him and this is one of the reasons, I thought if I didn’t accept his sexual request, I would have lost him. As usual I hid these things from my parents.”



    Handeling your teen


     Teenage pregnancy is a problem that many countries seem to be grappling with, regardless of their level of modernization or development.  In India, there are 62 pregnant teens for every 1000 women, whereas the number is 42 and 24 for the US and the UK respectively.

    Below are certain factors which may explain this rise, or rather constancy of teenage pregnancy rates from 1987 till now.


    • Poverty seems to be one of the biggest contributing factors to teenage pregnancy, be it the US or India.
    • Poverty means that the girl does not get the chance to develop herself and her knowledge of her body as well as the means available to her to prevent unwanted pregnancy.
    • She may also get irresponsible partners and may not have a lot of choice in refusing them.
    • Early marriages are also common in those from low SES and may account for teenage pregnancy.


    • Illiteracy and poverty are tied up together. Illiterate women cannot access material and knowledge which can help them understand their bodies and the ways to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.
    • Illiterate women are also more likely to hold rigid beliefs and not be able to tell if some professional is qualified or a quack and may suffer from a botchy abortion or birth.
    • Illiterate women also seem to have less control on the use of contraception and are found to confirm more with the stereotypical notion that men decide in these matters.
    • They are also less likely to have the confidence to visit a chemist or a doctor for their needs.

    Judgemental attitude/stigma

    • Many teens who are aware of the role of contraception also find it difficult to gain access to it because of the stigmatic attitude of chemists and healthcare professionals.
    • In many countries of the world sanitary napkin packets are still tied in newspapers and delivered in black plastic bags.
    • These countries are yet to come to terms with a process as natural as menstruation, and so, comfort with teenagers using contraception is a far cry.
    • Even qualified doctors have been reported to have judgemental attitudes towards teens seeking advice and medication.

    Inability to confide in family

    Though different countries have different legal system and family values but in many countries the situation is as following:

    • Young girls often cannot confide in their family members about having a boyfriend or being pregnant.
    • A woman under 16 years of age needs to legally have a guardian or parent with her for getting an abortion.
    • These girls cannot confide in their family and hence can’t get abortion legally and this makes them either have the baby, adding to pregnancy rates, or go for unauthorized doctors and procedures that can harm them.

    Fundamentalist religious and cultural beliefs

    • Rigid cultural and religious beliefs don’t seem to be helping, because young people are still experimenting with sex.
    • However, the culture or religion they come from determines whether they use contraception or not.
    • Teens from fundamentalist background beliefs have found to not use contraception and thus get a raw deal.

    What can we do to address this?

    • We have to be a much more understanding society at a larger level, and good parents at a micro-level.
    • Sex education does not teach children to go have sex (it’s a natural curiosity, they are going to go and try it anyway regardless of what you do), but it does teach them to do it safely.
    • We need to provide information, advice and guidance so that they can trust us, and unplanned pregnancies can thus be avoided.

    Best ways to handal your teens


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  • 12 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    8 indicators of a fake relationship:

    fake relationship


    Although relationships are an important part of human life, some people may be caught in fake and entangled relationships just for the tag of ‘being with someone’ and to not be single. Are you in one such relationship? Read on to know the indicators of a fake relationship.

    1 Communication gap

    Are you and your partner unable to communicate without fighting or misunderstanding each other? Then you maybe in a fake relationship. Communication is one of the biggest assets and aspects of a true relationship.

    2 Enjoy yourself alone

    Some sense of individuality should be there in each relationship. But if you seem to enjoy yourself much more than when you are with your partner, this could be an important red flag of a fake relationship.

    3 Easy to be apart

    Is it easy for you to be apart or not speak to your partner for days? True relationships mean yearning for each other’s company and finding it hard to be apart. If it’s too easy for you, you may be in a fake relationship.

    4 Feel like you don’t know your partner

    Do you feel like you do not really know the true self of your partner? Sometimes what they say or do may be so surprising that you feel you do not know the person at all. This can mean a fake relationship.

    5 No growth

    If you feel there is no sense of growth in the relationship in terms of trust, honesty or communication, then it may mean a fake relationship.

    6 Victim-perpetrator roles

    Is it that instead of both partners seeking responsibility for a fight and also both playing a role in getting better, is there a sort of victim-perpetrator dance where someone is always the victim and someone always the instigator? Then you may be in a fake relationship.

    7 Looking for other partners

    If you feel more than just attracted to other people, when you actually wonder what it would be like to be in a relationship with them, that is definitely a red flag that the current relationship is a fake one and your heart is not in it any more.

    8 Lack of trust

    Is there a lack of trust in the relationship? Can you be truthful and honest about your secrets with your partner, without the fear of a lash back or that they may leave you? If no, then you are definitely in a fake relationship as a true one would be built on trust.

    What can you do?

    Depending on how strong your feelings are for the person, you may either want to turn the fake relationship to a more real one, or you may have to be single and leave the relationship. It’s not easy to make a fake relationship real, and you may need counselling and guidance, which you can find at ewellnessexpert.com. However, if you feel the relationship is not worth the effort, it’s better to walk away the soonest and keep yourself busy with other things. It will hurt initially but you will heal with time and will be better off and more satisfied alone.

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