In today’s world, friendships, dates and even marriage partners can be met online.
Meeting someone online has many disadvantages, like not knowing how they really are, they may get time to lie or to give a response after a great thought, which means that you do not get to see their real instincts. Most of the time, you cannot see or hear the person so you don’t know much about how they look or sound. If a picture is put, it may have filters because of which you can’t see what they really look like. Despite all these disadvantages, why do we continue to use online platforms?
The biggest asset of any online platform is the anonymity it provides. You can make a profile with any name and any photo, and the computer will be none the wiser that you are lying. You can talk to anyone and everyone and you will not be restricted by real life defaults like presentability, status and so on.
In many countries, there are strict gender roles as well as economic restrictions which means that young people cannot freely interact with the opposite gender as often or with as many of them. Accessing an online platform gives couples and potential couples a space to explore and talk.
Apart from an internet pack and good browsing skills, not much is needed. Therefore, online chatting is preferred. In real life if you have to meet someone, you need to get dressed, find a good location etc. Compared to all that, chatting online simply seems much more convenient.
We can control how we appear online, by the simple click of a button. Smartphones with selfie cameras and millions of filters have made it really easy to project a fake image. A lot of times, people prefer this image of themselves to who they really are, and therefore, cling more and more to online chatting and conversation as this allows them to uphold the fake but dear version of themselves. We can also control what we say and who we speak to, again this adds to the desire to use online platforms more. Further, in dating apps like Tinder, people can be rejected with the swipe of a hand, and that gives the user a strange heady power along with control.
Lastly, all these so called useful aspects of online chatting and application are only discovered when a person uses them for the first time. We do not have a natural leaning towards online interactions. However, marketing leads to a lot of people using it, and eventually, young people feel peer pressure as compared to their friends and so they start using it themselves as well. Therefore, peer pressure is also a big reason why we start experimenting with online platforms. Youngsters swap stories of their latest conquests, thus making it a vicious cycle of use and report.
All these benefits come without any repercussions, making us quite likely to be rude and cruel and inconsiderate when using online platforms.
So, are we headed to a more connected world or a more disconnected one?