• 22 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    4 modern signs you feel strongly for them.

    4 modern signs you feel strongly for them


    Loving another human being and feeling the strong connection of love is perhaps the most cherishing aspect of human life. So what do you do when you are not sure whether what you feel is true, long lasting love or just an infatuation?

    There are many common aspects to love and infatuation, which can make the distinction confusing. For example, in both love and infatuation, you think about the person a lot, you want to spend time with them, and you feel strongly for them and so on. However, as the old adage says, the biggest test of love is indeed time.

    Research suggests that since infatuation is based on passion and not long lasting aspects like sense of commitment, infatuations do not last the test of time. Pretty soon, once the novelty of knowing the person and of the relationship is over, you may have no special feelings for the person. So one step you can take to assess whether it is love or infatuation is to give it some time.

    You can also ask yourself a few questions about the relationship, your feelings and your partner. Answers to those questions can also help you decide whether it is love or infatuation. Some of these questions are described below

    Do you see a future with your partner?

    Do you feel that the relationship would last long enough for it to be permanent? Can you imagine living each day with your partner and sharing your joys and sorrows, your good and bad days, your beautiful and ugly days with them? If not, then it is probably infatuation.

    What do you like about your partner?

    When you think about the partner, what comes to mind first? Is it their looks, their personality or other superficial elements, or is the connection you have with them, their honesty and their trustworthiness? If it is superficial elements that come to mind when you think about the person then what you feel for them is probably not love.

    How do you feel when you think about your partner?

    When you think about your partner, or when you are about to meet them, do you think about how you look and whether the person will like the way you look or do you feel that regardless of how I look today, I will have a good time with him/her? If you worry about your appearance too much and don’t think of happiness or commitment when thinking about the partner, then it is probably infatuation.

    Can you trust him or her with your secrets?

    In love, it is required that you are vulnerable to the other person. Can you tell your partner your secrets honestly and believe that they will not break your trust? If you cannot answer this question with a ‘yes’ with full confidence, it is probably not love.

    Relationships always change and develop. What is an infatuation now, may become love later. Let it stand the test of time, and you will get your answer.

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  • 22 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    5 Ingenious Reasons We Should Continue To Use Online Platforms

    5 Ingenious Reasons We Should Continue To Use Online Platforms

    In today’s world, friendships, dates and even marriage partners can be met online.

    Meeting someone online has many disadvantages, like not knowing how they really are, they may get time to lie or to give a response after a great thought, which means that you do not get to see their real instincts. Most of the time, you cannot see or hear the person so you don’t know much about how they look or sound. If a picture is put, it may have filters because of which you can’t see what they really look like. Despite all these disadvantages, why do we continue to use online platforms?


     The biggest asset of any online platform is the anonymity it provides. You can make a profile with any name and any photo, and the computer will be none the wiser that you are lying. You can talk to anyone and everyone and you will not be restricted by real life defaults like presentability, status and so on.


    In many countries, there are strict gender roles as well as economic restrictions which means that young people cannot freely interact with the opposite gender as often or with as many of them. Accessing an online platform gives couples and potential couples a space to explore and talk.


    Apart from an internet pack and good browsing skills, not much is needed. Therefore, online chatting is preferred. In real life if you have to meet someone, you need to get dressed, find a good location etc. Compared to all that, chatting online simply seems much more convenient.


    We can control how we appear online, by the simple click of a button. Smartphones with selfie cameras and millions of filters have made it really easy to project a fake image. A lot of times, people prefer this image of themselves to who they really are, and therefore, cling more and more to online chatting and conversation as this allows them to uphold the fake but dear version of themselves. We can also control what we say and who we speak to, again this adds to the desire to use online platforms more. Further, in dating apps like Tinder, people can be rejected with the swipe of a hand, and that gives the user a strange heady power along with control.

    5 Ingenious Reasons We Should Continue To Use Online Platforms

    5.Peer Pressure

    Lastly, all these so called useful aspects of online chatting and application are only discovered when a person uses them for the first time. We do not have a natural leaning towards online interactions. However, marketing leads to a lot of people using it, and eventually, young people feel peer pressure as compared to their friends and so they start using it themselves as well. Therefore, peer pressure is also a big reason why we start experimenting with online platforms. Youngsters swap stories of their latest conquests, thus making it a vicious cycle of use and report.


    All these benefits come without any repercussions, making us quite likely to be rude and cruel and inconsiderate when using online platforms.

     So, are we headed to a more connected world or a more disconnected one?

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  • 21 Dec
    eWellness Expert

    How to manage menstrual mood swings?


    Periods can be a tough time for many women as they may go through pain and mood swings.

    Although most women feel this to a mild degree and only on the first couple of days, for a number of women, this is a major concern.

    Below are a few tips to help you overcome the emotional hurdles and feel better during your periods.

    If, however, your problems continue, then consult a gynaecologist for further assistance.


    Eat and sleep well

    The body is going through a lot during your periods, and it’s best to make the other processes like digestion and body temperature balance by eating and sleeping well.

    Get into bed early, before midnight if possible, and get 6 to 8 hours of sleep. This will make sure that the body temperature does not go up needlessly.

    Mood disturbance is linked to feelings of discomfort and uneasiness caused by lack of self-care. Eliminate this by eating and sleeping better.

    With regards to food, have food with a lot of fibre, like fruits and vegetables as they help in making digestion smoother.

    Keep away from complex foods, alcohol and aerated drinks and foods with preservatives.


    Drink up

    The body is losing water during periods and as it is, most people do not drink as much water as they should.

    Lack of water in your body can make you feel both dehydrated and constipated.

    When you as it is have a painful abdomen and stomach, lack of water can make it worse.

    In fact, having water can help to reduce stomach bloating and make you feel lighter.

    This can help you feel emotionally better as well since our body and mind are connected.



    This refers to both mental and physical hygiene.

    Take care of your cleanliness and change your sanitary napkins and clothes frequently.

    This will help you feel clean and fresh and not dirty on unclean and that will help you feel emotionally good. Mental hygiene means to rid yourself of negative thoughts.

    People may tell you that you should not pray or go to the kitchen when on your period. These beliefs are unfounded. Do not let the rigidness of other people affect your mental state or be negative.



    Meditation and certain yoga postures are known to relieve stress and pain and to make you feel better.

    However, do not start with poses or breathing exercises which are extremely difficult.

    Meditative breathing involves the use of abdomen and has to be learnt gradually.

    Doing too much of it without practice can hurt the stomach muscles, especially during periods.



    It is important to spend some time doing what you like in order to feel better.

    Watch a movie

    read a book

    meet friends

    or be creative!

    Recreational activities that you enjoy help release dopamine, a brain chemical that can help you to feel better.

    This has a helpful effect on both your pain and the negative emotions.

    Do give these tips a shot!

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  • 21 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    5 ways to be your hubby’s girlfriend

    5 ways to be your hubby’s girlfriend


    It is quite easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of married life. However, if you don’t work on keeping the relationship young, it can deteriorate pretty quickly. So, how do you keep your relationship young at heart, despite the lack of novelty which can occur in marriage? Here are a few tips. It is easy to become your husband’s girlfriend again and bring back the old charm.

     ways to be your hubby’s girlfriend


    To take your husband for granted. When dating, couples make sure to make each other feel special. Sharing the same roof has its own pitfalls.

    You wake up next to a snoring, unkempt man and this may clash with your image of the boyfriend you used to have. This can easily make you overlook his good aspects and think of him as just another family member. Remind yourself that despite you two not being at your ‘Sunday best’ all the time, there is something beautiful in each of you, and that is what you fell in love with.

    After noting down his unique and special aspects, make sure you praise him for these aspects or behaviors. If he helps you out with household tasks or bills or grocery shopping, or intervenes in a fight between you and your mother-in-law to restore calm, make sure to thank him for those and reinforce this by giving a hug or more.


    Although too much independence can make you two distant, some amount of independence in the relationship is healthy and vital. Let him have his boys’ nights and make sure to have fun on your own as well. Indulge in hobbies or meet your friends and relatives. When you spend your time apart and rejuvenate, that helps to come back to each other with a fresher mind.

    Dressing up

    When dating, couples try to look their best for each other. This behavior subsides after marriage as things become routine. However, dress up every now and then just for him, even if there’s no occasion. This will make him feel special. Similarly, you can use this as a precursor to go out on date nights, and hopefully follow it with lovemaking. Assure him that you are still romantically and sexually aroused by him and enjoy yourself with him.


    Nothing is as big a treat in a relationship as a surprise or kind gesture. Take up some of his load or make something special for him or get him a special gift for him without an occasion. One idea is to treat his friends to a dinner at home so that he feels that you really care about him and his relationships.


    Men like to talk more about facts, analysis and actions and women want to vent more and talk about their emotions. Both these talks are important. Tell your husband when you want to vent beforehand, so that he doesn’t start suggesting solutions which may annoy you. This helps to improve communication. Also make an effort to recognize the unique personality of your husband and let him know you love him for what he is.

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  • 21 Dec
    Shiva Raman Pandey

    What makes for a happy Christmas?



    What makes for a happy Christmas?


    Christmas has cultural and religious significance for many people around the world. In India, it is one of the many festivals celebrated, but in the west, the Christmas – New Year holiday is a prominent one and figures a lot in people’s thinking. In a 2002 research paper called ‘What makes a merry Christmas’, researchers found that there are 7 main activities that people undertake as a part of Christmas, which lead to more life satisfaction and make them happy.

    The seven activities are as quoted below:

    1. Spending time with family;
    2. Participating in religious activities;
    3. Maintaining traditions (e.g., decorating a Christmas tree);
    4. Spending money on others via the purchase of gifts;
    5. Receiving gifts from others;
    6. Helping others less fortunate than ourselves; and
    7. Enjoying the sensual aspects of the holiday (e.g., good food, drinking, etc.).

    As we can see, the primary themes here are:

    • Reconnecting with friends and family (via traditions and spending time together)
    • Gifting to people of our circles (and receiving gifts)
    • Giving to the underprivileged
    • Being thankful and looking forward to the coming year

    Relevant psychological insights for the most important aspects is explained herein below.

    The Market of Christmas Gifts

    Emotions are a prime target for marketers. Any festival or family event is a big sales bump, and therefore, Christmas is full of marketing efforts in order to make people buy more. In one experiment, people were made to hear only white noise but they ‘heard’ famous Christmas carols because of their frequent visits to malls and shopping centers where the mood in exploited to full blast to make sales.

    Research suggests that there is more to gifting than meets the eye. It is not always the thought that counts. If someone does not like the gift you give, they may actually start thinking why you gave them such a bad gift, instead of thinking that your gesture matters. Gifting money is also fleshy territory and should be avoided as it can be seen as a mark of status difference. Its best to give someone what they like or something that everyone can use but would not buy for themselves (e.g., personalized pens).

    What makes for a happy Christmas?


    Teaching and Learning Generosity

    Christmas and it’s teachings are a good way of teaching yourself and children about the joy of giving to the underprivileged. Many families make a tradition of it by buying gifts for underprivileged children or by supporting a charity. This imbibes the value of sharing and caring in everyone, and instills optimistic attitude. Whereas gifting and the marketed sort of Christmas harm our psychological well-being, generosity is actually very good for our emotional health.

    Connecting and Hoping

    People take holidays and spend time doing things of cultural and familial importance. This gives them a chance to bond and mull over the crosses of the past year, and hope better for the next. Therefore, the connection and sociability helps to end the year on a good note, adding to the joy and fervor of Christmas.


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    • amit kumar mishra
      amit kumar mishra   Dec 24, 2015 12:37 PM

      telling someone you love. how much you care for them and appreciate them as you wish them a Merry Christmas

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