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Fantasy is something, which is not true, something, which is knitted out of our wool of imagination and creativity to give us pleasure, like the fairy tales of #Cinderella.
Sexual fantasy or #Erotic fantasy, according to Wikipedia, is also a mental image or thought process created by the mind to give us pleasure and make us more comfortable and adjusted to sex situations.
Oh! That was boring?
Well let’s put it this way, that just like the magic wand of the #FairyGodMother, our sexual fantasies bring forth the deep hidden secrets of our mind and help us achieve what we cannot do in actuality.
Sexual fantasy is more like cooking up a story with the best elements of creativity, which is absolutely private, and can give us pleasure or an escape from the reality.
It is different from a dream in the sense, that it is a voluntary process and does not signify anything, but adds to your pleasure, which consequentially means mental wellness.
Fantasies are common in most people, irrespective of males and females.
Fantasy of a naïve teenager, being romanced by Shahrukh Khan is an example of sexual fantasy.
Why only the young, even adults, fantasizing themselves dancing on the beach to “Kaho Na Pyar Hai", with their favourite hero or heroine, is a sexual fantasy that probes them to feel that they are powerful enough to grab the attention of such a powerful and good-looking person.
Freud claimed that sexual fantasies signify some dysfunction, or unsatisfied sexual desires, but later studies and case analyses have proven that sexual desires can, not only improve bodily response to sexual activities, but also bring about healthy functioning of the body and mind.
These fantasies are often initiated by our desires and are meant for surpassing the daily mundane boredom of regular life.
For women, sexual fantasies
- Can develop strong self-confidence- a woman who does not feel herself fitting to the social standards of a perfect woman figure, or that of a #SexyLady, tends to indulge in sexual fantasies with their dream partner wearing the dream dress, and that gives the potency mental enthusiasm to engage in sex with their actual partners with confidence and forwardness. It makes them feel more attractive and capable of sexual energy.
- Can quicken orgasm- for better sexual abilities and fulfilment of desire, orgasm plays a very important role. Sexual fantasies can quicken the process, and bring about the orgasmic effect in actuality, which means greater fulfillment of desires.
- Fantasies can, many a times cover up the physical or emotional shortcomings of a person, which can be a barrier in the way of their reaching the desired satisfaction, as far sexuality is concerned. Fantasies give them the required empowerment, the freedom, the spirit of achievement so that they can pursue it in their real life.
- It also increases bodily stamina to perform during a sexual activity.
Sexual fantasies in women always have more emotional connection, while in men, it is more about some physical images of body parts or the like.
But fantasies can often mitigate the anxiety or conflict within a person about sexuality, which makes them cope with the subject more normally, and prevent any psychic disorders.
Often a disturbing situation occurs, when a person fantasizes about rape. It has been observed, that 25-40% of women indulge in certain thoughts of the kind. There is nothing wrong in that.
Rape involves violence and trauma, but sex is involved in the roots of it, so when a woman or man takes on such fantasy, it could be that he/she wants satisfaction in the process of being taken, or being empowered.
Sexual fantasies are more beyond just #SunnyLeone posters.
Often fantasizing about something exciting, like a joy ride, or a city tour, or plane hijack, during sexual activities, can bring about adrenaline gush in the body, which develops slowly and reaches its sudden burst of joy and excitement. This kind of imagery can help stimulate the hormones to react actively, so that you derive the best pleasure out of your sexual activity with your partner.
Good sex is always healthy; it keeps the body and mind in synchronization. It keeps away common cold, blood pressure problems, fatigue, and many more irritating disorders, and fantasies contribute to this well-being.
So you don’t need to feel shy or ashamed anymore, because you fantasize something or someone. You are not absurd or pervert, as many may try to make you believe.
It signifies that you have a healthy, sexually active body and a fit mind, and you are self-sufficient in gaining your own pleasure out of your own creativity.