Many a times we refer to ATTITUDE. We refer to the positive attitude and negative attitude. We’ve all heard about the power of our attitude and that it is our attitude that determines how much we succeed in life. We even know positive attitude plays an important part in many attributes in our life, whereas a negative attitude shatters our life itself. Usually positive attitude leads to Success and Happiness. A negative attitude can lead to sadness, depression, stress, and giving up on life. So having an uplifting attitude is critical to success and achievement.
How to cultivate habits which leads to positive attitude?
First, let us know what is the attitude.
What is an attitude?
In psychology, "an attitude is an expression of favor or disfavor towards a person, place, thing, or event”. In other words
“attitude is a settled way of thinking or feeling about something”.
Positive attitude is having positive thoughts, feelings and expression.
Negative attitude is having negative thoughts, feelings and expression.
How to have a positive attitude?
Here are some habits which should help you cultivate positive habits.
1. Maintain a gratefulness diary.
Once in a while one single occasion can destroy a whole day and an unpleasant interaction or involvement with night can dominate the enjoyable parts of our day. With this awareness that our mind tends to stick to the negative, we can deliberately concentrate on the great parts of our day to counterbalance this irregularity. Try writing down 5 things that you feel thankful for every day and see how your attitude changes. Science has found that appreciation can fundamentally increase your happiness, and shield you from anxiety, negativity, stress and depression.
2. Reframe your challenges.
There are no deadlocks, just re-directions. Despite the fact that we may attempt, there are not very many things in life that we have complete control over. We ought not to let wild events from the outside turn our inner to mush. What we can control is the effort that we put in and when we give our full effort, there is no reason to regret. Play around with challenges, hold onto them as adventures instead of attempting to resist an experience for growth.
“Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn.” – Robert Kiyosaki
3. Feel good, even though you are rejected.
Rejection is a skill. Understand the failure you went through, because no one gets to slide through life without being rejected. Don’t let it trouble you and never expect the worse to happen. If you wait for bad things to happen, chances are it will. When you worry, something worse may happen, the chances of bad happenings are more. Feel good when you are rejected. So that is alright, I always have next chance.
4. Describe your life using positive words
The words we use are more powerful than we think. You are what you think about yourself. How you talk about your life is how your life will be. Your mind listens to what you say, what you mean and what your brain perceives. If you use the words simple, involved, familiar or lively, you will see your life in a whole different light and find more enjoyment in the way you chose to shape your life. Always be positive with your words. For example, whenever possible say,
“I am perfect, I am happy and I am positive”.
5. Replace “have” with “get”.
I have to do something? We use this sentence many a times in a day. . I have to go to work. I have to go grocery shopping. I have to pay my rent. You need to learn to rephrase. Replace the word ‘’have’’ to ‘’get’’. I get to go to work. I get to go grocery shopping. Even, I get to pay my rent. Your attitude rapidly changes from expecting to satisfy commitments to being appreciative of the things that we get to be usual to have.
6. Try not to give yourself a chance to get dragged into other individuals' complaints.
Your day was going really well and afterward you get the opportunity to work and your colleague can't quit griping about the cool climate. You didn't generally consider it before he/she brought it up and now you wind up concurring and joining in on the complain fest of how tired you are of this cool climate. In a month you'll be maneuvered into protests about how it's excessively hot. Try not to fall into the trap. A study done at the Warsaw School of Social Psychology demonstrates that grumbling prompts lower states of mind and negative feelings, diminished life fulfillment and idealism, and passionate and motivational deficiencies. You may find that your collaborator will whine less without the approval of another person having the same protest.
Our breath is specifically associated with our feelings. Have you seen we hold our breath at times when we are focusing on something? Will you feel your breath change when you are furious or on edge? Our breath changes relying upon how we feel. The great news is that the association goes the other much as well. We can likewise change how we feel utilizing our breath! Take ten deep, shallow breaths whenever you are free.
8. Notice the “right” in times of “wrong”(tragedy).
It's difficult to have a trust and stay positive when scorn and viciousness is everywhere throughout the media. What we don't see as much is that in each example of normal catastrophes, war, traumatic experience, you will discover individuals ascending, connecting with one another and indicating crude empathy and affection. Learn to see the right news, articles, writings, etc. among wrong / bad news.
9. Have solutions when pointing out problems.
Being positive doesn't imply that you must be unaware of the issues. Constructive individuals have useful reactions to enhance conditions. On the off chance that you are going to call attention to issues in individuals or circumstances, put the same amount of exertion into proposing arrangements. Rather than indicating out everything that aren't right, offer ways improve it. Have a solution ready when you point out problems.
10. Make someone else smile.
Who do you consider more often than not? In the event that we addressed truly, a large portion of us would say them. It's great to consider ourselves responsible, assume liability for our life parts, cleanliness, sustenance, and so forth, however set an objective for every day to make another person grin. Consider another person's joy and it will help us to understand our monstrous effect that our mentality and expression has on the general population around us.
Author: Dr KV Anand