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My child cries everyday in the school. What can be the reason?

24 Jun
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My child is two and half years old. I have admitted him to the pre-school. Already he is a late admission, because he learnt to speak late. Now it has been six months in the school, he is still crying everyday; the nurse ladies complain that he cries almost throughout the day. He doesn't respond to the teachers, doesn't do the classwork, doesn't play with friends, but only cries. This is very unhealthy for him, as well as the other kids. Pricipal madam is recently complaining about him. What can I do to make him love school? Why is he doing like this?

24 Jun
Dr. Ibrahim Abunada

Doctors Answer

Jun 24, 2016 08:08 PM
Dear Madam, as it seems from your short details that your child is just two and half year old. He behaves in consistency with his developmental stage. Therefore, don’t worry so much. As you know there are individual differences among children, some of them behave to normal level some of them behave less. Anyway, some of children when they are away from their caregivers, particularly mothers, they feel insecure and anxious (separation anxiety in toddler), Children go through feelings of separation anxiety for different reasons, but on a basic level, they believe their survival is dependent on having a primary caregiver close by. Toddlers are also still too young to understand the concept of time. Leaving them in a room for a few minutes or with a babysitter or at day care for a few hours feels like the same amount of time for them. So instead of sneaking off, which a toddler can interpret as leaving forever, be sure to say adieu, but keep the parting simple and short. Therefore, to overcome this situation I strongly recommend you to follow these steps. Be sure that the child is not complaining from any medical or physical problems. Try to stay certain time with your child when you send him to school. Try to give him more attention from the school teachers. Instruct the teacher to reward him with some interesting object when he stays calm. The teacher should place the child with same age group children. Be sure that all the basic physical needs of the child are met. Be sure that the child is not exposed to punishments or negligence. Provide the child with appropriate toys to play in a convenient environment. Finally, you might consult a child specialist to have further instructions and techniques. Take Care
27 Jun
Aditi Srivastava

Doctors Answer

Jun 27, 2016 04:35 AM

Dear User,

It sounds that you are under too much pressure and stress while sending your child to school.

Firstly, it is important to understand that every child is different with their temperaments. Temperament can be easy, modrate or difficult. It is possible that your child doesn't like going to that place due to emotional insecurity primarily and secondly due to his temperament issues.

It will be better apply the technique of leaving the child to school in a planned manner.It will be a gradual process.  You may go to school with the child and request staff to remain there for first few hours (2-3 hours), Let child become comfortable and feel secure seeing you. Due to your absence, he is not able to focus on any comics, games or activities that they offer.

You may go to school with the child and request staff to remain there for first few hours (2-3 hours) in reception or lounge area. Let child become comfortable and feel secure seeing you. Due to your absence, he is not able to focus on any academics, games or activities that they offer and keeps crying!

As the child gets to settle in a weak with your presence reduce the time period to 45 minutes or an hour.

Later, stay in school for 15 minutes and as child seen comfortable you leave

Finally, a stage will come when you will pick and drop him and he will enjoy staying there.

Take care that he id not hungry, sleepy, in pain or uncomfortable with clothes. Sometimes colic pains are dreadful

 

Take care!!

 

27 Jun
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Jun 27, 2016 10:14 AM

Thanks to both of you expert.s