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I am afraid of getting married.

03 Jul
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User's Question

I am 32. I work in an MNC, I am self-dependent, however, I am afraid to settle down in any conjugal relationship. I do not know the excat reason, but there are several things that go on in my mind. I feel a commitment will bind me into a life from which there is no escape if it doesn't suit me. I am also scared of the normal conjugal physical relations which should take place, I feel it can cause much pain, and it can also affect my biological health. What can I do to remove my fears? How can I accomodate better in a conjugal life, if I choose to enter one?

03 Jul
Dr. Ibrahim Abunada

Doctors Answer

Jul 03, 2016 11:06 AM

Dear User, from your message, it seems that you have low- self confidence, you afraid of something in the future might not happen at all. You know that this conjugal life is very substantial for every human kind, you surely want to experience this event. I don’t see any place for your scar  (I am also scared of the normal conjugal physical relations which should take place, I feel it can cause much pain, and it can also affect my biological health.) it is not logic fears and it is just thoughts coming from your head and not existed in reality. There are millions of people entire the world are married and have a conjugal life they are not expending their life in hospitals as a result of physical relationship or pain with their partners. Therefore, I strongly recommend you the following things. Try your best to work and modify your thought about conjugal life. Try to find a suitable partner to be suitable for you physically and emotionally. Try to talk with succeeded trustworthy people hear from them about their life experience in conjugal life. Lastly, consult an online therapist for further instructions. Take Care.

05 Jul
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Jul 05, 2016 09:25 PM

Thank you for your suggestions. Will try that way.