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How to become strong?

17 Feb
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Hello,
I am 37 years old, divorced 3 years before. This was my husband decision to separate himself. I have custody of my 6 year old daughter, and I live with my mother. My life was earlier very simple, and my family also expected that I will be happily married. Now the situation has changed. My mother feels the guilt of keeping me with her; I think I cannot change society's perspective. But I want to live my life. Want to be strong, throughout life I expected someone to control me, to tell me what to do. Now it’s difficult for me to make decisions on my own. That makes me irritated. Please suggest how to be strong, and take decision myself.

18 Feb
Dr. Ibrahim Abunada

Doctors Answer

Feb 18, 2016 12:53 PM

Dear,

In your case I suggest to have a deep look around you to find out every strong point in your environment, to discover the resources of power in your personality, capabilities and your community. you have to use every strong point to have a convenient solution for every problem you encounter in your life. Try your best to be independent with your daughter  in your daily life mainly the financial aspects. Try to understand the background of your mother guilt feeling and whether you can reach a sort or agreement with her, you can ask help from some people you mother likes aiming to intervene to bridge any gap with your mother. Try to occupy yourself with productive activities, recreational activities, sport, social activities. don’t  be upset or discouraged at any time. Take care.