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Husband thinks that he is the only person to take care of our child.

24 Feb
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I am a mother of 2.5 year old son. Before my son everything was fine. We used to spend quality time together.

Now things have changed totally. My son is whole life for my husband.

I am working for a multinational firm, and I suggested him that if he is not convenient, I will leave my job, but he assured me that no need, thing will be ok.

So I called my mom to be with me for my childcare. Starting a few months everything was ok, but then my husband starts complaining for each and every fault done by me or my mother.

He thinks that he is the only person to take care of our child. Now he does not allow me to decide anything for our child.

My problem is if he does not give me freedom, then how he can expect thing to be done at the correct time.

My hubby pampers my son, whatever thing asked by him, he never refuses to give, and I know that this is not good for him.

This cause big fight between both of us. As per him I am neither a good wife, nor a good mother.

Kindly suggest how to deal with this situation.

24 Feb
Dr. Ibrahim Abunada

Doctors Answer

Feb 24, 2016 11:41 PM

Dear, it seems that you pass confused circumstances at your marital life with your husband. Actually, the mother should take care for her child mainly. in the early years which has many attachment relations between child and his mother. The presence of your mother with you and husband might cause some tension for him or restrict his freedom to behave freely at home, if that the case, what is the possibility to take your child to kindergarten during your absent in your work. Whatever the case, your husband must understand that you have to take care of your son and provide him with the emotional, physical and psychological basic needs to help him grow up normally. Do not compromise on this crucial objective. Therefore, try to choose the proper time and environment to talk with your husband to discuss quietly with him what is going on his mind such as fears, desires, and thoughts about his refusing you to take care of your child with him, try to diminish the confrontations and dispute with him particularly, in front of the child. Take care