Temper tantrums

30 Aug
Sanjna Verma

Hello everyone.

Today, my classmate was talking about her elder sister. She had broken her phone in anger, and she justified her act by saying that her parents treat her wrongly. Her parents apologized for that. I have seen and heard of people having those temper tantrums in which they become violent and break things around them. What can be done to control these tantrums?

 

Responses 5

  • Priya Parwani
    Priya Parwani   Sep 02, 2017 11:34 PM

    Hello.

    Hope you doing well. Most of people behave very bad when they are angry and breaks the things which they find nearby. This is something to be treated because it can harm anyone including the person who is angry. She should initially practice the following things:

    1) Practice meditation. Its the most effective way to control anger.

    2) Leave the situation when in anger.

    3) Just sit down when angry and keep yourself calm as much as she can.

    4) Just write down your feelings when angry, it will surely help to calm down the anger.

    5) Try to solve the situation analytically without being angry.

    If still the problem remains the same then it's better to visit to a counsellor.

  • Name Confidential
    Anonymous   Sep 01, 2017 08:16 PM

    Hey, I hope you are doing well. Every individual has a different way of showing their frustration. Some potray through words, some through actions. A person throws temper tantrums when things does not go according to his or her way and when he or she is frustrated. Your classmate's sister relaeses her frustration by throwing and breaking stuffs in. What exactly is the reason of her anger that she oy knows. But being violent always is not good for her environment as well as her. She might unwillingly hurt herself or anyone in the environment. Instead of throwing things she can release her frustration by other means. For example, she can go in the bathroom and scream and if she does not want others to hear that, she can play music very loudly and then scream. She can scribble on a sheet of paper. She can do colouring or sketching randomly. This is said to release individual and lighten him or her. Any kind of physical activity or outdoor games helps a lot in releasing our anger, stress and frustration. Writing what one feels in a diary or a paper also helps. Meditating everyday in the moring is very effective. 

  • Shubhanshi Singh
    Shubhanshi Singh   Sep 01, 2017 04:51 PM

    Hi there!

    These tantrums shouldn't be avoided. You must carefully attend to all these things. She is just throwing things right now, she might resort to harmful and dangerous actions later.  

    It looks like she has server agreession problems. Enrolling her into aggression management programs would be a good idea. 

    Anger issues degrades her health as well, she might suffer from high blood pressure or stress because of this problem. The more she gets frustrated of little things, the more angry she gets. 

    You need to intervene and tell her that she needs help. These are not small tantrums. This is an issue. Her parents should her her stay calm. 

    She can practice meditation and mindfulness techniques in the morning for piece of mind. 

    She can also try to write down her feelings and express herself. Sometimes we become violent because we have no other way of expressing our frustration. Writing down problems and her feeling is most likely to help her, it's called catharsis. Where you vent out feelings. If she doesn't feel like writing, she can also speak with her friend and talk out her problems and things that are bothering her. It's not good to bottle up feelings. 

  • Ayushi Jolly
    Ayushi Jolly   Aug 31, 2017 03:24 PM

    Hey there! I hope you are doing well.

    Temper tantrums are not something that take birth out of nowhere.Usually they occur when we feel bad or something wrong has happened with us and we are unable to do the rightful in that situation.So we displace our emotions in a safe situation from a dangerous one.This also known as a defense mechanism as stated by Freud. There is hardly anything we can do about it.When the parents have apologised that means that we can  believe that there was something else that went wrong and they reacted wrongly to it so coming to her problem following are the things that can be done to control tantrums-

    1.The person who has become the victim of the tantrums must keep calm and sense that something is wrong.She must not try to aggravate it but should try to figure out what has gone wrong.

    2.The victim must try to calm the person down and see how can she help.

    3.Leave the situation or place,if you think it is going out of control.

    4.Do not ever react to things spoken by an nagry person because they do not know and are not at all sure of what they have said.

  • Shanmugi B.P
    Shanmugi B.P   Aug 30, 2017 08:36 PM

    Hi!!!

       Hope you are doing well. I can clearly understand about your concern.  People will be frustrated and in anger even for small issues. It’s due to the peer pressure in this world. Every one runs for their daily needs, without enjoying the present. Also, parents should shape their children better for the society. To control the temper, your friend can do some yoga and meditations regularly which can really help her better. If it fails, you can suggest your friend to consult some psychiatrist or counselors who can help her to resolve from the anger.

    Nowadays, counselors are also available through online and  My strong recommendation is the eWellness Expert, which is the best platform to resolve all kind of depression, stress, anxiety and relationship issues. Every problem has its solution, we should run for it to solve our problems.

     

    Hope it helps you!!!

    Take Care :)

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