Recently, a friend of mine said her mom had read some of her chats between her and her friends and boy friend etc from an old phone. Her mom found out about her drinking and being physical with her boy friend. The boy friend is a good guy but her mom fears that she now hates him for everything. The main point is that she feels terribly disappointed with her daughter, but the only reason she lied before and was not too open was that she was scared of how her mom would react to all of this. And even though she felt like she should, somehow she was scared about how she would not understand that times have changed. I have explained to her how her mom must have felt because she feels betrayed, but I somehow think, maybe parents, in general, should now start being more open to this idea, and actually initiate the talks and allow them to be open instead of suppressing them? How should parents start dealing with all of these things, apart from saying they are "disappointed". As saying that they are disappointed is not going to change the reality, and how can they as parents get over something like this?