Psychologist view on famous lovers Heer-Ranjha, Laila-Majanu

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  • Nandini Ajay Kumar
    Nandini Ajay Kumar   May 28, 2017 12:39 AM

    This varies from psychologist to psychologist and depends on the way we perceive them. Even though these legendary characters do not fit into any criteria of the DSM - 5 and there is no concrete basis on which we can say that they had some mental disorder. However, their obsession in love can be seen as a mental sickness. As they say - "Excess of anything is bad." Same is true for love as well. If we are only occupied with the thoughts of our loved ones and about love in general, it is not possible to function normally or efficiently. Love is not the only thing in life and there are other important things to do as well and other responsibilities too. From this perspective, these legendary characters can be seen as having some mental disorders. However, another perspective on this can be that everybody has their own priorities and they function according to that. So it entirely depends on how we see and perceive them.

  • Arushi Adhikari
    Arushi Adhikari   May 24, 2017 08:30 AM
    Love is a beautiful feeling and a strong desire, everything seems so perfect, peaceful and joyful. Lovers like laila/majnu, romeo/juliet, heer ranjha weren't mentally sick as per psychologists, it was just for them it was something else while for those lovers it might be something else everyone has it's own perception for different things in this world, where comes a word 'love' it may be a sick sought off thing for one and might be a strong feeling for the other. Only that person knows it who is actually in love or who is going through that period or state, it's not wrong to be in love with someone, it's not wrong to love or being loved.
     
    If it gives you happiness if it is a feeling which you feel for only one person then why not? go and do whatever you feel like, fall in love, live life be happy smile psychologist considered them sick for some aspects that loving each other doesn't make sense for dying each other as these legend lovers who died for each other and sacrificed their life, except of dying and sacrificing they would have fighted, learn to live as life is a precious gift we can't just let it go so easily. Except of giving up we all should learn to live , learn to be happy and ofcourse learn to love smile
  • Yachika Chugh
    Yachika Chugh   May 24, 2017 08:20 AM
    I would like to answer this question bu Taking the legendary love story of romeo and juilet written by William Shakespeare.
     
    William Shakespeare uses an ample pattern of light imagery to symbolize desire and infatuation, and dark imagery to symbolize obsession and insanity. This is executed in order to manifest an impression of bipolar actions and emotions, along with other characteristics of mental illness. Family members and friends catch on to Romeo’s strange change in behaviour and use dark and light imagery to describe his bipolar manners.
     
    Montague, Romeo's father describes Romeo’s behaviour as hiding away from the light and illustrates Romeo’s desire to remain in dark places in a despairing state.
    The morning signifies death and darkness for Romeo as he realizes that the light forces the couple to stay apart, as they cannot be seen together during the daytime. However, dark imagery prevails in his hatred for the light and displays his insanity with will triumph if he is apart from Juliet at all. This furthermore displays Romeo’s addiction of constantly needing to be with a woman even though in short time he will see Juliet at night time again. Romeo’s over emotional mental state is illustrated in his vast mood wings between his obsession of Rosaline and new fixation of Juliet, and his dependency of always needing her close by. Juliet does not show signs of mental illness, however her frail and adolescent personality allows her to be manipulated and satisfied in believing that Romeo is her one true love, as he is the first choice in men she has ever had the opportunity to have. 
     
    By this it is right to say that Romeo has some serious mental issues as per psychologists.
  • Swayamprava Pati
    Swayamprava Pati   May 23, 2017 10:24 PM

    In a healthy love relationship infatuation occurs in the early months of the relationship. It may involve persistent thoughts of the loved one and wanting to spend every moment with that person. A healthy love relationship usually evolves over time such that it no longer infatuation and desperate need to be together. Healthy love tends to mature over the years to include commitment, friendship, and respect for the other person as an individual and of their needs. Healthy relationships allow both people to feel loved, cared for, and respected and allow for each person's individuality and pursuit of their own professional lives, recreational activities, and friendships outside of the love relationship.

    Unfortunately, obsessive love has been romanticized in literature for centuries, as well as by the media, once the media came into existence. From the mutual suicides of Romeo and Juliet to even many of the most recent romantic movies, being obsessed with the object of one's love is often held up as something to aspire to rather than having the potentially devastating aftermath of the behavior.

    The difference between healthy and obsessive love is that with the later, those feelings of infatuation become extreme, expanding to the point of becoming obsessions. Obsessive love and jealousy that is delusional is a symptom of mental-health problems.

    Although not categorized specifically under any specific mental diagnosis by the DSM-5,  obsessive love of  legend lovers like Laila/Majanu, Romeo/Juliet, Heer/Ranjha etc can be considered to be a mental illness similar to attachment disorder, borderline personality disorder, and erotomania. Obsessive lovers may feel entirely unable to restrain themselves from extreme behaviors such as acts of violence toward themselves. They may be entirely convinced that their feelings are love, and may reject the idea that their severe obsession is not love.

     

  • Aparna Kanmani
    Aparna Kanmani   May 23, 2017 10:08 PM

    Literature has always dramatized expressions and emotions. 'Love is an illusion', 'love is madness', 'love is blind' are verses you grew up hearing.

    The most celebrated couples of all times have met a tragic end. The concept of romance opposed by the family and death uniting lovers has been a common sight since time immemorial.

    The peak of love is often a state of fragile dependency where one can't stand the thought a losing the other. In such an indulged position the person tends to lose the ability to think rationally.

    The tragic end of Romeo and Juliet was an illusion where each died grieving at the loss of the other (which wasn't true in the first place). But the fact that Romeo was threatening to suicide even before he met Juliet is undeniable.

    Some theories also suggest that both Romeo and Juliet were impulsive and borderline in nature. 

    While Shakespeare portrayed his characters strongly, authors of other romantic icons focused on the concept of grief and sacrifice towards the separated love.

    Majnun (which means mad man in Arabic) was commonly called so for his obsession towards Lilah. Even when Heer was separated from Ranja and married to another man, she stayed strong and true to their love. But considering the time and age where family and society held atmost value, we can't blame them for hoping death would unite their love. 

    Psychologists believe love has the power to heal and destroy a person. Just because our legendary lovers met a tragic end doesn't mean that they were mentally ill.

    The course of love has been the same till date. Obsession, dependency, intimacy, preoccupied thoughts, longingness, sleepless nights, fear of losing the other etc. were a part of every love story. Anyone at the peak of love would be fragile and vulnerable and thus bound to make hasty decisions during crisis.

    Depending on the level of self-control, understanding in partner and reality of expectations in each other a smooth relationship can last longer than legends claim.

  • vineeta singh
    vineeta singh   May 23, 2017 09:52 PM

    There is no such evidence where psychologists considered all these lovers as mentally sick. Although you must have heard about the beautiful Sufi legend of majnu and laila.

    It is not an ordinary love story. According to Sufism-The word majnu means mad, mad for god, and laila is the symbol for god. Sufism thinks of god as the beloved; laila means the beloved. Everybody is majanu and god is the beloved, and one has to open ones heart, the eye of the heart.