Looks vs personality

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  • Shena Shaikh
    Shena Shaikh   Jul 01, 2017 03:03 PM

    Hello! Hope you are doing well.

    Beauty is something that is subjective. What one values as beautiful, may not be valued by another. Much of what is considered beautiful is orchestrated by society. Having said that, appreciation of physical beauty is universal. We are hardwired to recognize certain facial symmetry as attractive –it's in our genes. We are also hardwired to have an inherent bias of “Beautiful is good”. This is what influences the Halo effect –which causes one trait (in this instance, beauty) to drastically impact our overall impression of a person. We attribute beautiful people to be good, smart, interesting, and so forth. The physical attraction stereotype furthers this argument as it describes how an individual’s level of attractiveness can alter perceptions about their character.

    The personality of an individual is shaped by a myriad of factors. The environment in which they grow up is one of the most crucial. Any correlation between a person’s looks and their nature will stem from the emphasis that has been placed on it by themselves or by those around them.

    Due to the influence of our stereotypes, physically attractive and beautiful people are treated more positively than those who are deemed unattractive. Several research studies point to beautiful people getting differential treatment; beginning with the more attractive child being treated better than other siblings to a drastic bias in remembering rude yet attractive individuals to be kind and generous.

    Although it is almost universal to accept that beautiful people receive differential treatment which may turn them arrogant, in order to dissect the relationship between beauty and nature of the person, it is important to understand the extent to which beauty has influenced their self-concept and the importance they give it.

    I suggest you look past the physical attractiveness of an individual. Human beings are so diverse. No two people are alike – even twins for that matter! Beauty fades, but a good heart will stay a good heart.  

  • Satinder kaur
    Satinder kaur   Jun 03, 2017 03:45 PM

    Looks can be deceiving sometimes. It can play with your emotions. Most of us want to be smart and gorgeous. But only few can handle the praise. Some people become egoistic with looks and some are as kind as the angles. It's all about the state of a mind that how the body beauty can make someone think in a different way. People spend lots of money to get the looks and to maintain it. There is no wrong with the choices. But if they are very conscious about it above the threshold level, then it can be reflected in their behavior. They can become irritated, Jealousy of the other looks and non-helping behavior towards other. While other people who are beautiful from inside and out also exit. I am sure everyone thinks that these type of people doesn't exist, but it all comes to the vision. You help someone, you will be beautiful in their eyes. You are some modle and you disrespect someone, you don't look that impreesive in the eyes who witnessed you ruthless behavior. So don't let your proud bacome your pride. If someone says you are beautiful, accept the complement and thats it. Its the behaviour that decides your beauty. 

  • Alveera Sheikh
    Alveera Sheikh   May 30, 2017 10:28 PM

    As a psychology student, I have studied that we tend to correlate physically attractive people with a positive personality. And due to this we behave more favourably towards physically attractive people and this, in turn, elicits a positive response from them. This very phenomenon makes us think that attractive people are good from the inside. A study showed that when looking out for short-term relationships,women generally preferred masculine-looking males. But for long-term, enduring relationships – women generally preferred men whose facial features suggest kindness and trustworthiness. Even men, while considering long-term relationships, preferred personality characteristics over looks.

    Moreover, in the context of relationships, stability is important. This can only be achieved through interacting with the person that will allow you to learn more about the good and bad in them. Attractive people may be good to look at and fantasize about, but when evaluating who will have a good influence in your life, what lies inside is significant.

    What we must always remember is that, no matter what evolutionary processes predispose us to, we must never judge a person by their looks. No matter how attractive and unattractive someone is  – it does not compensate for personality. Interaction and getting to know someone is important before making assumptions, as assumptions have the capacity to turn into prejudices.

  • Sunanda Saha
    Sunanda Saha   May 30, 2017 01:19 AM

    Most people out there won't agree to this but this is just my personal experience. Views will always differ.
    Extraordinary looks is a real bonus. Mind my words "it's a bonus"; it's not the only thing you need to have in order achieve things in life. People who possess it surely know the advantage but will never agree to it. When we meet people for the first time their overall appearance leaves a mark in our subconscious and knowingly or unknowingly we carry that forward with us. Needless to say, pretty/handsome people leave a good impression. That is the reason why we sometimes feel so strongly for random strangers we have seen just once and will probably never see them again in life. There was this famous episode from a sitcom F.R.I.E.N.D.S where two characters look after a really handsome guy while he is in coma. They dreamily weave these endless good traits about his personality but are highly disappointed in him when he wakes up and they actually get to know him.
    Thus that first impression doesn't really stay for a long time. As we come into proximity with the individual what really starts to matter is his personality; that is IF you are a sensible human. If someone's personality is good, if someone understands us, if someone listens to us, if someone treats us well; we are automatically attracted towards them even if they are not conventionally beautiful. At the end of the day its someone we need to share our day's happenings with not to just a pretty face to stare at. Some pretty people can't come to terms with this fact. They think being beautiful is something to be worshipped by other not so pretty people. This creates a sense of superiority in them which, by the way, has no substantial roots. This further makes them cold and ill-mannered. To them, it's as if a boon for the world of ugly that they were born. You start getting just the opposite vibes that you initially got when you met them the first time. But like everything, this too has got exceptions. There are often people who have a beautiful soul and a beautiful face. To them, beauty is just another one of the many qualities that they possess.
    Creating an image of people, at first sight, is not something we have a hold on but deciding whether it's the right one to continue with is definitely our call.

  • Aparna Kanmani
    Aparna Kanmani   May 28, 2017 12:06 PM

     

    Human beings have a tendency to judge by looks. Be it people, things or situations. We tell if we should trust a person or not by looks, judge the quality of a product by looks, or even sense if a scenario is formal or informal by how it looks. There are certain stereotypical right and wrongs in our head that we associate to external appearance. 

    You can commonly notice these in movie characters. Some assume short people to be gentle and soft, fat people to be funny and dumb, well groomed hair to be strict or assertive, etc. But these are not necessarily true. There is no specific correlation between personality and looks. Don't judge a book by its cover. You might be surprised at times when some people break your stereotypes. Looks are just a symbol of identification but personality is character built and nurtured over years. 

    Quick judgements save you time and help you with decisions. Imagine you are trying to get an auto after 11 pm and run the kind of thoughts that go in your head when you see each drivers face. You try to look for someone who seems trustable according to your standards. You will end up choosing someone who you think is less of a rowdy or drunkard to safely drop you home. But there are chances of you being wrong too.

    It is undeniable that looks give the first impression. But personality gives a lasting impression. Let's take the time to know the true self before we judge too soon. 

  • Rachna Lakhanpal
    Rachna Lakhanpal   May 28, 2017 12:38 AM

    There was a study conducted in the 2000s in which the subjects perceived a person they were attracted to as more helping, social, and also considered them to have positive personality traits as compared to those they weren't attracted to. 

    Similarly, in a study conducted by Walster et. al. it was found that the subject's liking of their date was mainly based on the said date's physical attractiveness. 

    Now, this obviously means that physical attractiveness plays a big role in our perception of a person, right? 

    But, what about the personality, then? 

    Krebs et. al. wanted to explore just that in the research they conducted. To study the relationship between the personality, attractiveness as well as social contact with same-sex and opposite-sex peers they took a sample of 60 males and 60 females that were either: 

    a) Accepted by

    b) Rejected by

    c) Unknown to

    their same-sex peers 

    The results that were found were interesting. 

    It showed that the rejected individuals were the most attractive lot, followed by accepted individuals that were moderately attractive, and the unknown individuals were least attractive of the lot.

    Moreover, a positive correlation between dating and attractiveness was found for females, but this wasn't true for males!

    And, finally, speaking of personality the following results were found:

    • Rejected individuals: Independent, ambitious, and achieving
    • Accepted individuals: Affectionate and affiliative 
    • Isolated: Withdrawn, emotionally constricted, and defensive


    Finally, if you see it in terms of how the society thinks of an attractive person, studies clearly show that they're always given a positive light.

    However, there is no significant correlation between a person's looks and their personality as such. Personality depends on a lot of situational and genetic factors, while looks are something that you're born with (or pay for!) 

    And I leave you with this image to ponder upon: 

  • Nandini Ajay Kumar
    Nandini Ajay Kumar   May 27, 2017 07:11 PM

    As human beings, we have a tendency to associate good and positive traits to the good looking people, and bad and negative traits to the not so good looking people. However, there is no necessary correlation between the two. It is just the way we perceive things. Experience and interaction with others have a role to play in this. When we interact more with others, we might find that someone who is not that beautiful, is very kind and helping. And, someone who is very beautiful is very arrogant. So, every individual is unique and the way an individual is from inside depends on his or genes, environment and experiences. Looks are just a part of an individual's personality which might change with his changing experience. For example, if a person looks very dull and shabby when he is preparing for his competitive exams, but looks smart and attentive once he clears the exams and gains a post. The former look was not because he was not intelligent or capable of clearing the exam, but because at that time his only focus was to clear the exam. 

    Therefore, quotes like - "Appearances are deceptive", "Never judge a book by its cover", etc. are very apt in the current world.

  • Arushi Adhikari
    Arushi Adhikari   May 27, 2017 06:20 PM


    We usually gets attracted towards good looks. Most of the time we become judgemental and start judging a person by his looks, we should never do that. Looks cannot  define a persons nature. Looks are a part of our personality, most of the times we say what a strong personality he has along with good looks. Nature and looks has no correlation as nature of a person cannot be defined by his looks. At the end what matters is nature of the person, good looks are important but to a level. If the person has outstanding nature and in looks he is not so good, Then it doesn't mean that he is not worth of being loved, or treated the same way as a good looks person is always treated. Every individual is different with different nature, personalities and looks. We should change our mentality and stop running after good looks, till when we will judge people by good and bad looks ? This is the reason people who are not so good in looks struggle for everything and end up having problems like stress, depression, suicides etc. Our society should stop judging people for their appearance. What if a person have amazing looks but his nature is way too rediculous even then you would like to live with that person? I'm not criticising or favouring people with good or bad looks because some people who are good in looks they are good in nature as well. Basically the point is we cannot 'judge a book by it's cover' what matters at the end is purity and truthfulness of the person

  • Felicia crystal Rajan
    Felicia crystal Rajan   May 27, 2017 12:43 PM

    Hi,

    The problem with us is that we often judge people by their looks and forget about their nature. It may not always be true that good looking people are good. There cannot be a correlation between nature and good looks. People who are not so good looking can also be very kind people. So my advice to you would be don't let the good looks over power you. Let the good nature and behaviour take over. Hope you have found the answer to your question. 

    Thank you,

    Felicia. 

  • vineeta singh
    vineeta singh   May 27, 2017 11:45 AM

    It's human nature we tend to get attract towards beautiful things. For example when we go to the market for shopping what we do choose one of the most beautiful dress because it beauty attracts us but we see the dress carefully we try to examine whether the material of the cloth is good or not and than decide whether to take it or not. Similarly when we find someone beautiful we start finding ways to talk to that person. We are so impressed by their looks that we find them beautiful and try to communicate with them. At the end we are blessed to talk to them and become friends we start finding faults in them. We all have some negtive nd positive points their no realtoon between looks and behavior. People do not behave according to their looks. We can't judge anyone until and unless we know them nicely. We may like their outer personality but when we start knowing them what actually matters is their behavior. You may find someone looks very pretty but what if that person does not behave in a good manner at the end you will just stop talking to that person. We all have heard about the phrase 'Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder'.

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