How do I make my son understand?

09 Dec
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I am mother of two boy kids age 8 years and 5 years. Younger one is very aggressive and when both of them play together, and elder one wins over him, he starts throwing tantrum, also whenever we give something to both, and elder one saves that thing for next time, younger one keep asking to him, or else he will cry, misbehave.

I feel very bad because of his behavior. My elder child compromises because of his naughty nature.

How do I make my younger son understand? 

Responses 2

  • Shanmugi B.P
    Shanmugi B.P   Aug 04, 2017 08:46 PM

    Hi!!!

       Hope you are doing well. I can clearly understand about your concern. Being a mother has the important role to shape the life of your children. I can here by suggest you something helpful.

    1. Don’t try to compare your sons. Whatever the good or bad done by both just don’t try to compare in front of one. It will create a inferior complex. Just stay calm and appreciate for the good and give advice for the bad things they have done.
    2. Try to spend more time with your children. When the comes back from school just make them sit and talk with them about their school activities. Also when your elder child do compromises just appreciate them and ask your younger child to learn about the compromises in life by advising him.
    3. The world is full of critics rather than the motivator. When your younger son have some good changes in behavior just motivate him which can rejuvenate him.

               Hope it helps you!!!

    Take Care :)

  • Dr. KV Anand
    Dr. KV Anand   Dec 11, 2015 08:03 PM

    Dear mother, Don't feel bad about the ounger sons behavior. They do this to get attention or to get what they want. This is a behavior pattern. On some aspects you and your elder son should be strict. Strict in the basic sense itself. You should not allow the younger one to get whatever he wants. Let him do whatever he wants or behave in whatever way he wants, just don't heed. It could be worrysome for you, but need to be done for the sake of your younger son. If you practise such a strategy, his tantrums will die down. Slowly he understand he cannot get sympathy every time. Take care.