Is he behaving normally?

15 Jan
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I am newly married lady. As the time passes, I have come to know some real truth of his life. He is addicted to porn, want me to watch along with him. I am surprised how he can be like this. if I reject his plea he becomes sad and blaming me for this situation. Does he behaves normal? Or is it warning sign for me? I can understand when he was single, he might needed porn, but now when I am with him to satisfy him, why does he still need it? What should I do? 

Responses 2

  • Axel Blaze
    Axel Blaze   Jun 19, 2017 08:24 PM

    Hello there

    I infer that by addict you mean, he has been satisfying his need through porn for a long time regularly. And if that is the case it is wrong of you think that he is addicted to porn. Because there are affects to addiction. The affects include erectile dysfunction, paraphilia disorders and others. So, you either have not observed them or he has none.

    However, because of his prolonged exposure to porn, and in various categories of it, there are chances that he might be developing paraphilic disorders, most likely Voyeurism by your description, it a disorder in which one gets aroused while watching others having intercourse or getting naked. But that is just a possibility.

    From what you have mentioned, your husband has no addictions nor does think that you cannot satisfy him. Many men have fantasies, and they wish to explore them with their spouse. Most likely when he wants you to watch them along with him is because he might have an urge to try any of those with you.

    So, just ask him upfront, why and what does he want you to watch along with him. Later that tell him your opinion on that and sort things out. If it turns out to be a paraphilic disorder, then consult a psychologist and he will suggest you wide variety of solutions.

  • Dr. KV Anand
    Dr. KV Anand   Jan 18, 2016 08:05 PM

    Dear, you are newly married. Every men has fantasies. There is nothing wrong in watching porn by himself or for you with him. This does not mean you or him are addicted to it. These are fantasies. The initial behavior pattern should die down sooner or later. Wait and see. Otherwise, you may consult a psychologist online for advise.

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