I am curious what your insight is to people who seek approval or attention of others. I have found I do not know how to simply be friends with men. The moment a friendship has developed my brain crosses the line & thinks, or wants to believe that there is more to the relationship & that the other person is romantically interested. The excitement of feeling liked by someone, or the "game" of figuring out if they actually like me or not is exciting & makes me feel good about myself. Where my confusion comes in is why I struggle with this. I am in a great relationship & love the man I am with, with all of who I am. When I get into places where I am excited to talk to another man I feel horrible, to be clear. The relationship I have with my co-worker is in no way innapropriate, however my motives in the interactions is what the issue is. Why do I not seem capable of being friends with a man without going elsewhere in my head? I do not even think people are attractive & will can get consumed with the "game" of flirting without being obvious that, that is my intention. I in no way want to behave like this, I want to be loyal both in thought & deed to my boyfriend but I have found I struggle greatly with this and am not sure why. I feel like I like who I am to a degree, I know there is growth needed there, but It is not like I feel horrible about myself or anything. I just feel like it must be something deeper & psychological becuase I'm having no luck just simply turning it off.