I think I have a dual personality. Need help.

05 May
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Hi,

I am a 27 yeay old married girl. Everything is good in my life except for my behaviour. I am very peppy, funny, kind, helpful girl but at time I turn into a mean bitch. I have observed that there is lot of anger inside me (I don't know why). When it gets triggered, I forget everything, I shout and my behaviour is out of my control. Once I calm down, I realise my mistake. This has been creating troubles for me as I now have frequent fights with my husband. I become very self-defensive, I feel the other person is trying to curb me or is trying to prove me wrong or I feel some injustice is being done to me. I am completely aware that I behave this way and this is wrong but I do not have any control of it. My memory has become weak. I forget things easily. Even if the other person is trying to tell me something right, I tend to think that I am right and supreme. I cannot be wrong. 
I need help to overcome all this. This nature is spoiling my life. My husband has stopped talking to me. 

I have been reading articles and it said that I can go for a regression session. Is it helpful? Should I go? What should I do?

Responses 2

  • Dr. KV Anand
    Dr. KV Anand   May 05, 2016 08:01 PM

    Dear. Regression sessions and meditation can help you reducinmg your outburst tendency. You do not have any dual personality. This is just another uncontrollable emotional experience which almost happens with everyone. In your case your outburst could be due to the associated stress.

     

    I think you are generaling with your behavior. With how many people you get angry on the apt opportunity? Is your anger that common to say "When it gets triggered, I forget everything, I shout and my behaviour is out of my control"? Do you get angry at everyone who triggers your anger ?

     

    Anger and aggression are emotions. Anger comes when you become irritated. Irritation happens when you don't like something, or when something is repeated. As anger is an emotion, it should be vent out. You should be able to throw anger out instead of controlling it. But more perfect will be, know the frustrating situations and stop being emotional. If practiced properly, you will not get irritated at those circumstances at all. Those techniques are much easier to understand. I suggest anger management therapy. Take care.

  • Shanmugi B.P
    Shanmugi B.P   Jun 20, 2017 05:46 PM

    Hi!!!

      I can understand your situation.First,It's really great to find your problem.so,now it's now clear to find a solution.I suggest you to be calm and control your temper.Angry is just a short word which let'a you to be in danger llike that happens in your that is your husband's break up.when you feel anger try to close your eyes for 5-10 secs and say that,"Be calm,let it be go".

    Three steps for anger management:

    1.Prevent 

       Learn to avoid or negotiate it.Angry will helps you to know about your likes and  hates.

    2.Prepare

        Plenty of positive self-talk like,"I am calm,I can stay calm".

    3.Practise

       Either solve the problem which makes you anger or leave it.Imagine somewhere nice and picture yourself being there.

     

    You can make up the above things else suggest some psycartists for angry management therapies rather than regression session.

    Take care!!! :)

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