My husband always craves for more food. Is there something wrong with him?

09 Jul
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My husband is 40. I have heard, as people grow, they lose some apetite, but here, it is just the opposite. My husband eats in an abnormal fashion; I know I shouldn't say that way, but I am seeking consultation because I am worried that this may affect his biological health. He eats more. On top of that, his craving for food is endless. For e.g. he has just finished a wholesome dinner, immediately after he will want to take 4 glasses of whole milk with nuts. At that moment if someone arrives with some special food like burger, chicken or pizza, he will have a whole portion of that too. He says he bears the apetite and can digest everything. Well, there are no serious stomach upsets, but he has a prolonged issue of improper stool, indigestion and heart burn sometimes, which happens occassionally (not regular) whch goes off with a digene. The factor is that whenever he sees food anywhere, he is willing to take it, despite his stomach being filled. I know many people eat more, have a lot of apetite, but his behaviour is something strange. For e.g. once we were in a party, kids were being served a separate meal of pasta and chocolates. My husband had the full course dinner of 3 kg mutton, 58 rasgullas, a whole plate of pulao, 10 parathas and miscellaneous; and after that, when he viewed that there was a separate section, he collected a plate of pasta and 20 chocolates as well and had them in a hidden place so that noone could see. This attitude goes against the social norms too. He feels if there is even a piece of dry bread in the menu, he will taste that too. If he finds a kid having maggi as evening snack, he asks for that too in relative's home. I have tried to counsel him, but I feel he is unable to change, and now I am worried that this over intake will affect his health in the long run. Is there any psychological problem with him? Or is it just that he likes to eat? How can he be modified?

Responses 2

  • Oyindrila Basu
    Oyindrila Basu   Jul 10, 2016 06:59 AM

    Thanks a lot. It was very helpful.

  • Dr. Ibrahim Abunada
    Dr. Ibrahim Abunada   Jul 09, 2016 11:10 AM

    Dear user, I can understand from your message that your husband does not have the feeling of satisfaction, which consider a problem in itself. The other problem is a psychological one which is called bulimia nervosa, which need a psychological intervention. Bulmia nervosa symptoms is an eating disorder characterized by frequent episodes of binge eating, followed by frantic efforts to avoid gaining weight. It affects men and women of all ages.

    Lack of control over eating – Inability to stop eating. Eating until the point of physical discomfort and pain.

    Secrecy surrounding eating – Going to the kitchen after everyone else has gone to bed. Going out alone on unexpected food runs. Wanting to eat in privacy. Eating unusually large amounts of food with no obvious change in weight. Disappearance of food, numerous empty wrappers or food containers in the garbage, or hidden stashes of junk food. Alternating between overeating and fasting – Rarely eats normal meals. It’s all-or-nothing when

    Bulimia causes and effects

    There is no single cause of bulimia. While low self-esteem and concerns about weight and body image play major roles, there are many other contributing causes. In most cases, people suffering with bulimia—and eating disorders in general—have trouble managing emotions in a healthy way. Eating can be an emotional release so it’s not surprising that people binge and purge when feeling angry, depressed, stressed, or anxious.

    Steps for bulimia recovery

    Admit you have a problem. Up until now, you’ve been invested in the idea that life will be better—that you’ll finally feel good—if you lose more weight and control what you eat. The first step in bulimia recovery is admitting that your relationship to food is distorted and out of control. Talk to someone. It can be hard to talk about what you’re going through, especially if you’ve kept your bulimia a secret for a long time. You may be ashamed, ambivalent, or afraid of what others will think. But it’s important to understand that you’re not alone. Find a good listener—someone who will support you as you try to get better.

    Stay away from people, places, and activities that trigger the temptation to binge or purge.You may need to avoid looking at fashion or fitness magazines, spend less time with friends who constantly diet and talk about losing weight, and stay away from weight loss web sites and "pro-mia" sites that promote bulimia. You may also need to be careful when it comes to meal planning and cooking magazines and shows.

    Seek professional help. The advice and support of trained, eating disorder professionals can help you regain your health, learn to eat normally again, and develop healthier attitudes about food and your body.

    I strongly recommend you to consult an online therapist for further instruction and intervention to overcome this problem which has a lot of adverse effects in the future. Take Care.