Marriage

27 Aug
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So i have this bf whom i really love and i am very serious about him. I met him this year So there is another guy X who is my boyfriend old friend. They dont talk now So when 3 years ago when i went to amritsar I talked to my bf friend's the guy X for a week and i used to like him.So my bf and him used to stay together alot. So when i picture anything of that area. I remember Guy x as well, not that i dont think of my bf I dont want to remember him even as a memory. Somethings remind me of him Tho i talked to him for a week only, Sometimes some little thinngs remind me of him, And when i deliberately think about it, Then i think more. otherwise i dont and And i start panicking .I really love my bf and feel guilty. Is it something wring to feel guilty about? And also i have always had interest to show off in front of guy X but nothing in that way. Does that mean i dont love my bf? Do i need to be sad and feel guilty? I really love my bf please help me otherwise i will die of guilty.

Responses 4

  • Udani Kariyawasam
    Udani Kariyawasam   Jun 14, 2017 04:19 AM

    Hi!

    As a girl it is normal to have a crush over someone and fancy that person. It is not a big deal. Even if you have liked that guy for a very short period now that phase is over. It is quite normal to have memories of your past relationships. But if you have let go of the person completely then those memories won't bother you at any cost. As the way he comes to your mind even through little things it shows that your inner mind has a great impression about him. The way you needed to show off yourself infront of him doesn't mean you don't love your current partner. You must have really needed that guy's attention over you as you liked him. If you can't let go of the memories of the person you like even while being with your current partner then you have to think twice whether you really love your boyfriend, whether you get the care and attention you need from him. You don't need to feel guilty over this issue as you need to let go of the memories. But it's better if you can make up your mind to let go of this person you used to like before settling down with your partner. It's very important in a relationship to give undivided love, feelings, and care along with honesty to your partner. So it's better if you can let go of past connections and try to work out well in your current relationship. I suggest you you to meet up with a counselor for further help. Good Luck for the future.

  • Dr. Ibrahim Abunada
    Dr. Ibrahim Abunada   Aug 28, 2016 02:32 PM

    Dear User I think to answer your questions clearly I have to have more details from you to gain good understanding of your case. Therefore, it is recommended to consult an online therapist for further instructions and interventions.

    Take Care

  • Arshiya Sehgal
    Arshiya Sehgal   Aug 28, 2016 01:36 PM
    Doctore please answer the small questions i have asked in bw. They dont talk now So when 3 years ago when i went to amritsar I talked to my bf friend's the guy X for a week and i used to like him.So my bf and him used to stay together alot. So when i picture anything of that area. I remember Guy x as well, not that i dont think of my bf I dont want to remember him even as a memory. Somethings remind me of him Tho i talked to him for a week only, Sometimes some little thinngs remind me of him, And when i deliberately think about it, Then i think more. otherwise i dont and And i start panicking .I really love my bf and feel guilty. Is it something wring to feel guilty about? And also i have always had interest to show off in front of guy X but nothing in that way. Like to see how pretty pretty i am? Does that mean i dont love my bf? Do i need to be sad and feel guilty? I am gonna die of guilty.. We are about to get married. I have done nothing wrong. And i will never do anything wrong. But even remembering about it makes me panic. As fuck I dont wanna even think about him. I really love him. Sometimes like i said i had pictures myself alot when i liked him for a week. Its not a big deal but when i put my bf in my place even i cant bear him to think or remember about any other women even if its not that way. Thats why maybe my thinking is restricted when i think of that area . As my bf also lives in the same area.
  • Dr. Ibrahim Abunada
    Dr. Ibrahim Abunada   Aug 27, 2016 10:35 PM

    Dear User, if I understand you well that you love your BF so much and you are going to get married in the coming future. As, you mentioned that you did not do any mistake, so why to feel guilt and to punish yourself for nothing you did. I can instruct you to be honest with yourself in answering these questions. Do you love him seriously and convinced that this person is your future dream guy? Do you convince to link your future with him? Does he love you also? And exchange the feelings of love with you. These questions are substantial to answer frankly without any ambiguity. Therefore, I strongly recommend to forget about any other relationships with persons you meet in your daily life. Focus your amicable relationship with one person you are arranging to be his future wife. Take wise decision.