How can I bring back my suffering child, to normal life?

30 Sep
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My child had met with an accident when we were on a trip to Shimla via road from Dharamshala; the mountainous road was steep and there was fog, and there was a car accident which could be terrible, but luckily our lives were spared, though each of us injured badly; that was 6 years back. Since then my son is in trauma, he is 11 years now. He is still scaed of getting into cars, in fact, the sound of horns scare him, when I take him to school he often falls blank in the middle of the road; his teachers complain of him bein inattentive in class sometimes, I am afraid he is getting into PTSD. Is it true? What can I do to bring him back to normal life?

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  • Dr. Ibrahim Abunada
    Dr. Ibrahim Abunada   Sep 30, 2016 11:58 AM

    Dear User I think your son has experienced a very difficult traumatic event, I do think that he doesn’t overcome the consequences of that accident.  Therefore, he still suffers from the adverse effects of the accident. As you know the Post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms may start within three months of a traumatic event, but sometimes symptoms may not appear until years after the traumatic event. These symptoms cause significant problems in social or work situations and in relationships. PTSD symptoms are generally grouped into four types: intrusive memories, avoidance, negative changes in thinking and mood, or changes in emotional reactions.

     Intrusive memories

    Symptoms of intrusive memories may include:

    • Recurrent, unwanted distressing memories of the traumatic event
    • Reliving the traumatic event as if it were happening again (flashbacks)
    • Upsetting dreams about the traumatic event
    • Severe emotional distress or physical reactions to something that reminds you of the event


    Symptoms of avoidance may include:

    • Trying to avoid thinking or talking about the traumatic event
    • Avoiding places, activities or people that remind you of the traumatic event

    Negative changes in thinking and mood

    Symptoms of negative changes in thinking and mood may include:

    • Negative feelings about yourself or other people
    • Inability to experience positive emotions
    • Feeling emotionally numb
    • Lack of interest in activities you once enjoyed
    • Hopelessness about the future
    • Memory problems, including not remembering important aspects of the traumatic event
    • Difficulty maintaining close relationships

    Changes in emotional reactions

    Symptoms of changes in emotional reactions (also called arousal symptoms) may include:

    • Irritability, angry outbursts or aggressive behavior
    • Always being on guard for danger
    • Overwhelming guilt or shame
    • Self-destructive behavior, such as drinking too much or driving too fast
    • Trouble concentrating
    • Trouble sleeping
    • Being easily startled or frightened

    In the light of above mentioned information and the symptoms of your son I strongly recommend you to consult an online therapist for further instructions and interventions Take Care