sex education and parents

02 Jul
Megha Shah

Sex education is still looked at through eyes of disgust and shame, carrying a heavy load of stigmas around it. The ever increasing rate of teenage pregnancy and the lack of awareness is making the stitutation even worse. These times call for sex education that is becoming compulsory for schools to conduct from grade 8 but parents of students, believe that sex education is going to corrupt the minds of these teenagers and is going to leed to more teenage sexual incounters. However this is not the scenario. So in such a messing stituation, how should a school counsellor conduct this sex ed program? How to deal with parental worries? How to effectlively communicate to children?

Responses 4

  • Rashmi Kalra
    Rashmi Kalra   Jul 02, 2017 04:18 PM

    Subjects like Sex Ed and Mental health have been an area of controversy in our country. They have been the subjects of taboo and the questions regarding them if ever asked, all you can hear from everyone around is "Hawws and oh god, what is she asking!"

    So it's difficult to straight up Monday of parents in our country when from years and years, there never have been workshops or people discussing it out loud so that everyone could b aware about what Sex is.

    It'll happen, for sure but parents have to broaden their mind set when it comes to sex. Their child after a certain age, needs to understand the concept of puberty, changes taking place in his/her body etcetra etcetra. The moment parents understand the importance of children being aware, all the taboo obvioisly will vanish. So before conducting workshops for children, counselors should hold a seminar for parents in schools about the importance of this subject.

    Now coming to next aspect as to how to conduct a workshop for kids these days, I would say it should start by making them understand the concept of Puberty and what it is, what happens due to puberty both on hormonal and physical level. It's an uncomfortable topic for kids, since it's never been discussed at our homes so it has to be in a way that they understand the need for awareness than laugh about it and then get into mal practices.

     

  • Melissa D'souza
    Melissa D'souza   Jul 02, 2017 10:10 AM

      Sex is another need like food,clothing and shelter.In Maslow's heirarchy of needs this lies at the base of the pyramid grouped under pysioloigcal needs. The stigma surrounding the topic is distressing. 

      While sex education should be openly discussed and homes,parents take comfort in the fact that it is not an important topic or as a parent would generally say "chup bhet,yeh sab janne ki zharurat nahi hai",this further ellevates the childs curiosity in this highly stigmatised topic and as a result of whic the child seeks knowledge from illegitimate or unwarranted sources which is dangerous.

      Schools should be the fore fronters when its comes to this issues but sadly that isn't the state.

      Sex education should be included in the curriculum to break the stigma and encourage to kids to be open and considerate to questions and concerns about their body. Girls need to be explained concepts like menstruation and snanitation.At the tender age of 1,girls believe its dirty or rather evil to bleed and thus leads to a enormous taboo which women,I repeat women are a great contributors too. Schools should take innitiative to empower girls of these topics as well as the care they need to take.

      Safe sex should be disussed in the same way one would discuss healthy eating habits. 

      As a school counselor,rather than having this topic discussed separately for Boys and girls,have it together.The 'shees' and 'yucks' would definitely be heard but its at this point where it should be highlighted that 'this is nothing to be ashamed or embarrased of and it is a part of our body which one should be well aware of'. 

      It should be mentioned to parents well in advance that these topics will be spoken about at some point and rather than stigmatising it they should be supportive if they need to erradicate teen pregnancies and other such issues. Also Pregnancy is not only the girls fault.

     Use of cartoons,animation comes handy.

      Sex education the more shunned to be spoken about the more would be the complications.

       

  • Shubhanshi Singh
    Shubhanshi Singh   Jul 02, 2017 09:09 AM

    You concern is valid, given the stigmas that surround sex.

    It is important for parents to enroll themselves into a sex education parental counselling where they learn how to deal with this situation and talk to their children. They are humans, they need guiding too. Next step would be to communicate with the child. Now a young mind is a curious mind, make the child feel comfortable so that he/she is able to ask his questions regarding this topic without any nervousness.

    In the school, individual counselling might help. Infact, even an online portal where children can seek help without facing anyone or keeping their identity anonymous might also help.

    The sexual education children receive and the sexual acts they perform are completely different and have a huge gap. It is understood that children go looking for information online and learn inappropriate things. The first step, as a parent and counsellor, would be to regulate what the child browses on the net. Don't ruin his space but just keep checking once or twice. Tell him about the negative impacts of internet.

    Homosexual kids suffer the most. They are not taught about their sexuality in school counsellings because it is assumed that they are homosexuals. They also rely on internet for information, which does more harm than good. I suggest, involving homosexual perspective to sex education in school will help these kids.

    Spreading information about how intercourse is supposed to happen and preventive actions is not enough. The child must know how it should feel, especially women. If women are not aware of the pleasure seeking, they might be assaulted and never realise.

  • SAKSHI BAJAJ
    SAKSHI BAJAJ   Jul 02, 2017 08:25 AM

    Hi, 

    You have raised a very important and relevant question, in this age and time. The first and foremost change we need is to alter our perceptions of sexual intercourse or intimcay. It is downright hypocritical of the people of this country to shun sex every chance they get, while being the second most populated nation in the world. How absurd is that? Till people understand that sex doesn't equal an obnoxious act and is normalised, we can't teach our kids or for that matter anyone about intimacy and sex. We have never been made feel comfortable and proud of our bodies and their sexual functions. Teenagers are not confident of their sexuality and have no one to guide and support them in case they want to explore this side of their personalities. Our parents never talked to us about sex, because it is presumed that we are not to engage in it till were married off to someone. It's something that everybody does but no one wants to talk about it. We belong to the land of kamasutra and we have trouble talking the how mankind reproduces? Even if schools try and come up with sex education, there is so much awkwardness and stigma around it that they fail to impart any real knowledge to the kids. The government needs to take the required measures and mandate sex eduaction in every school  so that the hype goes away. We need awareness that sex education is not a bad thing, in fact it can improve one's sexual and mental health. The number of rapes that are happening right now in this country would go down significantly if there weren't so many sexually frustrated human beings around who don't know what to do with their urges. It all boils down to education and awareness.  

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