How to make someone believe they are loved?

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  • Shanmugi B.P
    Shanmugi B.P   Jul 08, 2017 03:22 PM

    Hi!!

       Hope you are doing well.It's a very common issue that happens in everyone's life.If someone feels depressed and lonely,and someone enters their life and make some happy moments then they will beleive that they are the only one who will never hurt us and can take care us.People will start thinking ,like that.So.they use their depression state.But not everone are like the same.So,to differentiate about love and like,need some better understanding.If you like the most beautiful rose then you pluck it and will watch it,But if you love it then you only watch it from its place.

      Some people may like trespassers but someone are mean to us.We need to differentiate with our cognitive abilities.If you feel protective and cared with someone and also friendly and cared you can feel the difference for the both.so,you should make sure of it.

    Hope you are doing well  :)

  • Shivangi Srivastava
    Shivangi Srivastava   Jul 04, 2017 12:46 AM

    Hi there,

    I hope you’re doing well. It is a very common issue these days. Every now and then people are facing self-love and self-worth problems. To feel that ‘nobody ever has or will ever love them’ is not as unreasonable as it may sound. There is always cause such feelings. It is very necessary for a person to identify that root cause and start working on the issue that they’re facing. There are a lot of ways in which you can help someone facing such an issue. I’ve mentioned few of them below-

    1. Tell them that s/he is loved and will always be taken care of. We sometimes make our own definition of love and when somebody fails to stand up to its mark, we often start feeling that we are not loved, ignoring the one who genuinely does.
    2. Make the person understand that it is not necessary for people to say ‘I love you’ out loudly. One can notice the affection in the little things and gestures people make.
    3. It is essential to start loving yourself. How can others love you if you don’t love yourself first?
    4. Engage yourself in practicing self-love exercises, it improves one’s self-esteem and self- confidence.
    5. One can always seek professional help from a counselor who can effectively help the person in dealing with their self-worth and self-love issues.

    I hope this helped. Please take care, have a happy day! :)

  • Nihalika Verma
    Nihalika Verma   Jul 04, 2017 12:13 AM

    Hi Dear,

    It is very important for your to listen to that fellow without interrupting. Just listen.

    The person definitely has a negative setup in life. The only thing that can help her is to develop a positive outset to life. This initially might be difficult for her. Counting the blessings helps a lot and it helps always.

    Please ask that individual to write ten blessings every day and at least try therapies from this website. They have nominal charges and it will be very helpful.

    Reading good and positive books and also meditating will help.

    Doing what that individual enjoys will also sound exciting to her. Hope this helps. :)

  • Minaish Dhabhar
    Minaish Dhabhar   Jul 03, 2017 10:25 PM

    You have to figure out why they feel this way. There's usually a root cause for feelings like these. 

    Now sometimes, that root cause is short-term. For example, a recent break-up or a family fight. When this happens, temporary self-esteem lowering is normal. In these cases, you've just got to stay supportive of your friend and remind them that you love them and that they possess amazing qualities, which make them loveable and that EVERYONE goes through things like these. 

    In other cases, it may be a long-term cause. Parental neglect as a child, years of bullying. In these cases, the self-esteem on the whole is fairly low (and yes, the above pointers about constant support and positive support still hold true so do that as well) so you have to encourage them to start practicing certain self-esteem building activities, like giving themselves 3 compliments each day in the morning, etc. (You'll find more online - pick one that he or she is more likely to actually do). 

    If this is a more severe case, you can also encourage them to talk to a counsellor and offer to go along with them, so they know you love, support and care about them. 

    Good luck.