To what extent do we let the society affect our actions and decisions? Is absolute nonconformity possible?

04 Jul

How often do we listen to what our heart says? The heart and the mind are always at loggerheads. What people around us want us to do and think of us often comes in the way of what we actually want. How does one deal with this dilemma? 

Responses 6

  • Aishwarya K
    Aishwarya K   Jul 08, 2017 04:00 AM

    I don’t think we can deny the fact that there are various factors which influence our decisions, behaviors, thoughts and ideas. Oftentimes we make decisions based on what those around us think even if it is not something that we agree with. We need to break that practice because it is important that our decisions, thoughts, behaviors and ideas are congruent with who we are as people. We need to consciously make decisions and think twice to make sure that it is what we really want to do.

    You need to stop playing by the rules and get out of your comfort zone, only then will you be able to truly be who you are. Being stuck in the same surroundings can often lead you to think in the same way each time. You need to explore more, meet new people and understand different cultures. That makes you more open-minded and allows you to make more well-rounded decisions that are based on your own understanding of what is right and wrong. You should also try listening to your gut and your intuition. This will help you step out from superficiality. 

  • Nihalika Verma
    Nihalika Verma   Jul 05, 2017 12:29 AM

    Hi Sakshi,

    The heart always gives you a clearer picture. :)

    Whenever you face any problem or issue then just listen to the first internal voice you hear. That's your heart. The heart will give you the right answer and also suggest you a direction of the path to be taken.

    Now, use your brain to do what is required. 

    Also, to be more practical, please use the divine combo of the head and the heart. You will never go wrong.

    All the best :)

  • Priya Ratti
    Priya Ratti   Jul 04, 2017 08:23 PM

    I think it really depends according to the situation. While it is better to make decisions with your heart in some situations, doing so in other situations may prove to be detrimental to you. These two entities will always remain at conflict, no matter what you do. The entity that guards our decisions inevitably ends up shaping who we are as people. So if you listen to your heart you're more loving, and caring while if you listen to your mind you're practical and to some people, calculative.

    This dilemma really goes on, and there is nothing that we can do to prevent it. But, we have our discretion. We can choose when we listen to the heart or the mind. Usually your gut will tell you what to do. Listen to the voice in your head.

    Your conscience will come to your rescue whenever you make a wrong decision or are confused as to what to do. So, trust your gut!

  • Shubhanshi Singh
    Shubhanshi Singh   Jul 04, 2017 01:43 PM


    The two very essential parts of our body which provide cues to make decisions contradicting each other is definitely a dilemma that needs to be resolved.

    I wouldn't ask you to not care about what the society thinks because we are social beings. The society has always had an impact on us, be it a positive impact or a negative one. The society helps us grow as much as we help ourselves. It is important to take feedback from everywhere to turn into a better individual.

    Yes, there are times when it's almost impossible to make your mind and heart happy with your decision. Such situation demand you to take sides. One very important factor to make this decision is to understand your situation. What would benefit you? Listening to your heart or what others say? The society is more experienced than you are in certain things, it might help if you let society decide it for you. Certain things hold more value to you and you want to live to your decisions in your way then choose your heart.

    Don't lose yourself listening to the society. There is just one you and you owe it to yourself to live your life in your own terms and conditions.

  • Radhika Goel
    Radhika Goel   Jul 04, 2017 10:16 AM

    Hey, I think this is a dillemma many ponder over and struggle with especially when making lofe changing decisions. I feel there cannot be a black and white answer to this question. You cannot decide to folllow only your brain and make mechanical thought out decisions without having any concern for happiness, if that were to happen people would only become doctors and industrialists who make the most money and we would restrict ourselves to only logical people. That would be a world without passion and thus diversity. So, I believe there is no solution to this dillemma. We have to make a different decision according to situation and what is more important for you.

    At the same time, it is important that your decision be dependent on what's important for you and not your family and the conceptions of the society about your decision. You must learn to factor out the element of 'log kya kehnge' or 'what will society think and day about me/' before making decisions according to your brain or heart.

    Hope this helps :)



  • Sareeta Behera
    Sareeta Behera   Jul 04, 2017 08:23 AM

    We live in a society that is filled with both light and dark shades of perceptions and mindsets. So, no matter any person you encounter, someone or the other would be thursting their own perspectives on you and making you land up in a dilemma. 

    One of the best ways to overcome is to believe and internalize  your own right to  life with dignity. Psychologically, it means to love, respect and accept yourself the way you are. That will impart you immense confidence on yourself and your decisions.

    Secondly, if you are not hurting someone or yourself, then there should be no valid reason for backing off from anything.

    Thirdly, human's consciousnesses is well-equipped to keep him protected from anything deeply wrong, unethical and harmful. So, even after deep thinking, analysis and stuff if the dilemma still persists, then that particular aspect surely needs to be worked on a lfresh from a different positive and meaningful angle.