Having a different sexual preference

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  • Anjali Khurana
    Anjali Khurana   Jul 22, 2017 07:03 PM

    a person's sexuality is just as normal a part of their personality as any. it's shocking how backward we are when it comes to matters relating to the LGBTQ+ community in today's time when we readily classify ourselves as modern and progressive when it comes to anything else. the crass way we tend to behave towards these people is almost inhumane, a trend that is still relatively prominent in India. take, for example, the hijras, who have been around for over 4,000 years and are an officially recognised third gender, but are yet to be treated with the dignity and respect they rightfully deserve. 

    the world makes a person's sexuality seem like the biggest defining factor about them, leading you to judge them from that one spectrum. but it's not. don't see them through that tag. whether they're gay, lesbian, trans, queer or whatever their sexual preference, they are people who want nothing more than for you to treat them normally. it's unfair for us to limit them within one small facet of their being. and most importantly: everyone has the freedom to be who they want and love who they want, without being looked at or treated any differently.

    if someone comes to you and confides in you about their sexuality, be a source of comfort. be there for them and reassure them that this knowledge changes nothing in your perception of them. lend them your support in this already excruciating war they're waging against society's ill treatment of them. and there's nothing greater for them than to have an accepting ally.

  • Aishwarya K
    Aishwarya K   Jul 08, 2017 03:35 AM

    Yes, it is true that being homosexual is a taboo in our society today, but that shouldn't define what you feel about a closed one’s sexuality. The way you respond to that person should depend on what you think about it. If you think it is normal then you should react normally. If you find it a bit surprising then you can react that way, it’s okay. The important part is that your reaction should not be influenced by others and the society!

    However, at the same time, I think it is important that you don’t hurt your close one’s feelings. Your first reaction should be genuine, but after that you need to take the time to understand them. Talk about it with them so you can be more comfortable about the topic and make an effort to normalize yourself with the idea. The viewpoint of homosexuality as a taboo needs to change. This change will only occur when we educate our self on this and bring awareness in society.

  • Nihalika Verma
    Nihalika Verma   Jul 06, 2017 04:55 PM

    Hi Shruti,

    React normally when a person tells you about their deviation in sexuality. Tell them that you accept it, tell them that it is ok, that it is their personal preference and choice, hence all is good.

    Taboo in the dictionary means, "restricted or prohibited by social custom."

    Now, to break a taboo, we need to accept it. So, that it's practice increases and there is no restriction over the same. We being a part of the society, we need to take the first step ahead. As Mahatma Gandhi rightly, "Be the change you want to see in the world." If you want the world to accept certain things and issues, then you please first accept the same.

    Also, please understand, when such a person approaches you as an individual, then the person is trusting you. They believe you, they feel that you will accept them, if not encourage them. It is not very normal to have a sexuality deviation, such people do feel trapped inside themselves. So, just a word of acceptance, will help them to gain their confidence, help them to face that situation and guide them for the next step.

    Chill. Relax. Accept.

    :)

  • Shubhanshi Singh
    Shubhanshi Singh   Jul 06, 2017 01:20 PM

    Hello! 

    We often use the term 'gender' and 'sex' interchangeably without realising the fault. Gender is preference, sex is biological. A person could be born as a male or female but choose to be masculine or feminine. Who are we to ask them to be someone else? 

    Would you let others tell you to be doctor if you want to be a dancer? No, right? Then how can you let others tell you what sexuality to prefer? 

    Haven't been asked to fall in love with soul? How does being a male or female matter? It's the person inside that matters. If you prefer a same gender person then it is an normal as choosing an opposite gender preference. No need to be ashamed of your choices. It's your happiness and your life, nobody can control it. 

    It is important for people to behave normally with transsexual or transgender people. They are humans and they have feelings like we do. Atleast they have the courage to face the truth and come out in the society which is shallow enough to judge them for this. In this growing world, we all should be supportive of such decisions and let a person excercise his freedom and right to expression.