Do women masturbate?

06 Jul
SAKSHI BAJAJ

We all have heard how men masturbate as and when they like. However, i have never heard women talk openly about it because anything related to female sexuality is shunned right away. Masturbation, like porn is deemed to be something only men engage in. Why can't women allow themselves the same pleasures as men? Also, how healthy it is to masturbate? 

Responses 5

  • Ayushi Jolly
    Ayushi Jolly   Jul 20, 2017 11:47 AM

    Hello there!

    Hope you are doing well

    I appreciate that you have raised such a sensitive issues regarding an aspect of gender discrimination.

    I agree that watching porn or engaging in masturbation is,speaking in Indian context, strictly due to gender bias that is still so prevelant.

    I think it not about the porn or anything related to the phsycial process but about the gender bias. Men and the society in general are unable to differentiate the needs and desires of men and women. Women are still,in such modern times,merely expected to stay reserved and limit themselves to boundaries that have been allotted to them by the extremely-biased makers of the society which framed rules centuries ago but we follow such a hard core social system that we fear any kind of change.

    Women are still not allowed to express their desires,publicly. They are still judged by their clothing and social circle. A girl is easily atgged as immoral if she has male friends or wear short clothes or puts up exposive pictures on social media. Even the advertisements regarding monthly cycles and all other things that occur naturally to a woman is shunned right away because the males regard it direspectful.

    It is not about anything else but the stigma attached to and the expectations from the females.

  • Radhika Goel
    Radhika Goel   Jul 16, 2017 02:05 AM

    Hey, hope you are doing well :)

    This is a topic that needs to be discussed at length to break the taboos that surround it and help people be educated about what masturbation is and what are the real consequences of it. Just like people should be educated about using condoms for safe sex in health classes (that do not even happen in India), children both boys and girls should also be educated about masturbation. One extremely important fact that sir shared is the ability of children to talk about masturbation only among friends of their own age group and not adults. According to me, this is one of the problems. If there is healthy conversation among the kids and parents they can explain sexual desires and needs to them and make them aware.

    Ofcourse women can masturbate and the truth as righly said is that many do. At least most have tried and experimented with the act of self-pleasure. The sad reality is that the element of shame attached to masturbation does not allow us to talk about it and hence even conduct surveys where women would answer truthfully and tell us about it.

  • Reshma Venugopal
    Reshma Venugopal   Jul 08, 2017 01:05 PM

    Hey there!

    As you rightly said, it is still quite a taboo for women to be open about masturbation and porn viewing. But surprisingly it is also the same case in the western culture. Of course, it is not as private as it is here in India, and people still talk about it, but you'll notice it is still not as open as we think it is. Many magazines from the western world, like Cosmopolitan and Buzzfeed, often have articles directed towards topics on sex, masturbation, and pornography. So you can tell that it is a talked about topic, but that is only on one forum. You still won't find so many ladies in a party or something talking about how they masturbate. Again, I am not saying this is 100% true, and the media from the western world shows quite a lot of content related to promoting masturbation as a normal thing among men and women alike, but how far can we generalize it to everyone?

    Now going back to your question, why can't women allow themselves the same pleasures as men?

    Well, the truth is, many women do indulge in it, but they just don't speak about it. Because they have never been taught about it. It is almost non-existent for them if they had not stumbled upon the concept on the internet. Parents will never discuss masturbation and tell them the benefits of it. Then again, there is a religious point of view in many places too. It is considered to be a sin to indulge in self-sex and that is why many women either keep it a secret or just don't do it. 

    Masturbation is considered healthy, because of many reasons. Firstly, it allows you to explore your sexuality. Secondly, it is seen to be a way in which an individual learns more about him/herself. Thirdly, this has also been noted as a healthy way to release sexual frustrations. In a biological perspective, masturbation is known to relieve stress as it releases a number of hormones that boost your mood and calms you down at the same time. 

     

    so there you have it. 

    Hope this helps. 

  • Shiva Raman Pandey
    Shiva Raman Pandey   Jul 07, 2017 04:11 PM

    I appreciate the courage of both of you Sakshi and Shubhanshi that you didn't go anonymous and asked a question which mostly everyone might have got some time.

    I would like to correct Shubhanshi that even men don't talk about it with father, mother, brother or other relatives. Only close friends of same age group might talk about it, but then all of them are misinformed. We never have courage to ask about this with elders or teachers. Most of roadside literatures and quacks tell that the masturbation causes hell lot of problems - like curvature of penis, impotency, blindness, weak memory, hair on palms, physical weakness, Dhaturog, blah blah. 99.9% of all these claims are wrong. Some religious literatures are strongly against wasting semen as 1 drop of semen is made of 100 drops of blood. They say people who masturbate becomes very weak physically. All this is unscientific and unproven. Masturbation is considered healthy. Here is a link that bursts many of such myths. You go to any metro city in India, you will find some small clinic in tent on roadside claiming to treat all sexual problems and according to them all this is problem and unfortunately Govt also doesn't ban them. You can't imagine how harmful these clinics are. They give banned drugs in the name of Ayruvedic medicines.

    Quacks treating sexual problems

     

  • Shubhanshi Singh
    Shubhanshi Singh   Jul 07, 2017 01:29 PM

    Hello there, Sakshi. 

    I am glad that you had the courage to ask this question openly without being embarrassed or worrying about what others might say. 

    I don't agree that women don't talk about it. They do. Most of my female friends masturbate and they talk about it too. The major concern is we don't talk about it as frequently as men do or as openly as them. Can you talk to your mother about it? No, right? I mean, we should be able to talk about it with everyone considering it's natural for humans to be a slave to their needs.

    Deep down we feel guilty of getting involved into masturbation for providing sexual stimulation. We shun these thoughts because we have been brought up in a culture where women have to hide between certain moral conduct of fragility and innocence. Does masturbation take away your innocence? Um, no! What's wrong if I need gratification and pleasure from my genitals? It's not a sin. 

    Excess of anything might harm. If one masturbates frequently, not only does their focus diverts but also they might lose the ability to attain pleasure after sometime. 

    Its not unhealthy if done in control.