Why are we scared to try?

08 Jul
Ravsharan Kaur

We are often afraid of trying something new, or get into something out of our routine. I've known for some time the real reason I resist trying new things and prefer routine is fear (what else?)—fear of the unknown. Our mind is clouded by "what ifs" and this is a serious impediment to self progress. We are worried about the response people might have about it and how we'll be judged for the same. There is a constant fear of being made fun of, if we happen to fail. How does one cope up with this situation?

Responses 7

  • shivani sinha
    shivani sinha   Jul 22, 2017 05:06 PM

                        Fear is important as same as the dare to do things.

    Yes, always we get a common suggestion that we should not fear; but i think fear always makes us to do right things. Person with rational thinking can do anything. When we try out new things, it is obvious to get afraid. We generally fear of the failure, as  we think that what might happen if things don't get right and what if we went wrong in our decisions. There is nothing that you can run away from this frightful feeling, but, you need to ask yourself that, whatever you are trying to do is right or not; and if it is a new thing that you are trying then it happens. One thing keep in mind that you cannot make everyone happy, our society is such that they get jealous by our work, so do not take load let them think what they think of you. You should focus on making yourself happy and your parents proud, rest world rarely matters. everybody try to pull you down and criticise you when you start something new, so just have confidence in yourself and trust your instinct and you will recover from that fear. If you want all things to fall good then you can take some advice from the peson who have done that same thing earlier. 

    So, don't think too much and keep patience everything will  be alright.

    Good luck.

  • Ayushi Jolly
    Ayushi Jolly   Jul 20, 2017 12:20 PM

    Hey there!

    I can totally relate to your question pretty well.

    Often we do not do things that just because we fear losing because that brings our morale down and self esteem gets low. However, I always go by the principle of " Better an oops rather than a what if". If we try and fail, at least at the end we get sure that we have tried and not experience anxiety that what if we would have tried and hoping to have succeeded.

    The moment we stop thinking about what people will say is where self-growth begins. Man is a social animal and we hate to admit that most of actions result after thinking of social outcomes. This is how the human life works.

    We are afraid of moving out of our comfort zones and the shell we have created around us because we do not have the confidence to achieve soemthing new and impossible. The man who has,goes against all odds.

    People have become so judgemental about others that they do it very often and these are the people who have not achieved anything in life themselves,for those who have are busy in the self.

    We should not worry about the people's response but about the outcome of our activity for that is the ultimate fruit we get.

    Hope this helps!

  • Shanmugi B.P
    Shanmugi B.P   Jul 11, 2017 08:45 PM

    Hi!!!

      Hope you are doing well.I can clearly understand your bitterness and plight situation.First of all,whenever you start your work don't ever think of the negative results.Hardwork is important more than your results."Beginning your work in the mood of negative results will always demotivates you when you work for it.So,it makes you to think"What if anyone thinks of it?,what will happen if it fails?".Whatever may happens at any time and at anywhere so always Be positive to face the consequences.

      Once you have been starting your work with great energy you can watch the great positive results in your progressing work and finally you acheive it.Often the people who criticize you are usually the people who don't know the price you paid to get where you are today.Don't surround yourself with pessimistic people.They often stand as a obstacle in all our works.Suround yourself with optimistic people who can motivates you in your work in all way.

    Be optimistic!!!  :)

  • Shubhanshi Singh
    Shubhanshi Singh   Jul 11, 2017 01:36 PM

    Hi there! 

    A mature person fears fear the most. Be bold for yourself, be confident, have faith in yourself. Don't let fear stop you. 

    I understand that what ifs give us cold feet, but who said what ifs have to be thought of negatively? What if what you are aiming for turns out better than you expected? What if you were brilliant? 

    Don't underestimate yourself, you are enough for everything. You can do everything you set your heart on. Something might take time, something might take a lot of practice. You must be patient with yourself instead of being too critical. 

    Dont let the society impact your own image of self. Society will always be an obstacle to those who want to fly. But doesn't that give you a reason to prove yourself? Don't you want to stand on your feet after learning from mistakes? Won't that make you feel proud of youself? 

    If you fear consequences then why not pre plan things? Make your mind to face challenges and downfalls before you take cross your barrier of what ifs. Think of the possible back ups and next steps so negative turn outs don't deter you. 

     

  • SAKSHI BAJAJ
    SAKSHI BAJAJ   Jul 10, 2017 10:40 PM

    Hi Ravsharan,

    As you already have mentioned, the biggest obstacle that stops us from diving into the unknown is the fear of how it might turn out. As human beings, fear is a primal instinct when something new or unknown is happening with us. Sometimes that fear takes the shape of excitement but sometimes it turns into anxiety. That is when it turns into a debilitating form. It forces us into becoming a cautious individual who is afraid to try new things. Now, the truth is , no matter how safe or comfortable a routine might feel, we don’t grow as people if we don’t try new things. That is the essence of living. It is a part of who we are. People will judge, no matter what. That is what they do. We cannot let them dictate how we live our lives. A person who is immune to these judgements and ridicule that society throws at us, is someone who has grown and is truly living. Till the time you keep thinking what others think of you, you can never really be happy. I know it is easier said than done. But it is important for us to keep trying till we are satisfied with the kind of person we want to become. Embrace life and be happy. Take care.

  • Priya Ratti
    Priya Ratti   Jul 09, 2017 06:01 PM

    Hey!

    Life is full of opportunites, and our everyday decisions, however small, impact the kind of life that we live. Yes, a lot of people are dearly attched to routine, and cannot help but do certain things at a certain time, everyday. Then there is another category of people: they experiment, try new things and let life surprise them.

    We all have a fear of the unknown, this uncertainity of what the future "might" bring us. It inevitably leads to a lot of anxiety. But we need to realize that life is short, and this moment, right now will never come back. This view brings a lot of things into perspective, and makes us realize how important it is live in the moment. When we start living in the moment, we learn to love our lives and everything we do. The future no longer scares us.

    People are going to judge you, no matter what. So isn't it better that you do what you love? Try new things, have new experiences, and do what you love. If you live in the fear of being judged, then you're limiting yourself from doing absolutely everything. Judgement will come, and so will criticism. So accept the ones that foster your growth, and overlook the ones that bring negativity. Be a filter, not a sponge. 

    Yes, quitting your routine and your comfort zone is hard, but that is where everything you have ever wanted lies- out of your comfort zone. You'll only be able to achieve all your dreams, all your ambitions if you step out of it.

    So experiment, redefine yourself. You have one life!

  • Sareeta Behera
    Sareeta Behera   Jul 09, 2017 02:36 PM

    Once we start believing in our potentialities and build our self-concept....this fear can gradually fade off. Change can be a challenge for some, but it opens a threshold to manifold opportunities and promises. Shutting down oneself can lead to stagnation and decay. Try taking baby steps ahead in embracing change and one day you will see life from a newer n better perspective....